Definition of a One-Night Stand

0 Posted by - October 21, 2008 - Relationships, Love & Marriage

Building off my “How Many Partners Have you Had?” post week before last and my “Can Sex Ruin a Friendship?” post last week, I wanted to explore the subject of one-night stands. Writing about the above topics caused me to reflect on my own list of sexual partners. In doing so, I realized that there have been a few times where the episode only went down once. So I began to wonder; does that make it a one-night stand?

Now let me clarify that query a bit more before people start getting the wrong idea, but if you’ve been reading this blog for a while, it’s probably too late for that. LOL.

For the record, I’ve never just met a random woman on the street or in a club and hit it the same night only to never see or hear from her again. Besides the fact that my game ain’t that strong to hit a homerun my first at bat, that’s not even my style. Now that doesn’t mean that some situations didn’t turn sexual quicker that others, because there have been times in the past where I met a female and we got down after knowing each other for a short while. Still, there was always some line of communication between us afterwards. We talked, texted, something. It’s just that for whatever the reason we never had sex again or just lost touch over time (click here for example). But do either of those scenarios constitute as a one-night stand?

I mean, it’s not like I ever got with a woman for the sole purpose of hitting it and had no interest in her as a person whatsoever. Wait, let me take that back, there was this one time, but I was drunk and that’s a story for another blog. But even in that scenario, that person and I still communicate to this day. So again I ask, does that constitute as a one-night stand?

No matter if an episode was wack or dope, I’m not the kinda person to change up after the act on some, “I’ll call you” and just don’t. At least I don’t think so. But if two people have sex one time and realized that they had less in common than they thought and chose to go their separate ways does that make it a one-night stand? What if an actual friendship developed after a one-time sex romp (click here for example)? Is that still considered a one-night stand?

I know I threw a few different scenarios out there, but, personally, I don’t feel any of the above situations count as one-night stands. So I’m curious, how do you guys/gals define a one-night stand? Or does having sex once and becoming friends not count as a one-night stand? Is anyone willing to admit to having had one? If so, why was it only one time and did you speak to the person ever again?

Speak your piece…

CLASSIC ONE-NIGHT STAND MOVE HERE

  • http://nwso.net Naked With Socks On

    LOL at “whore-ibble”

  • deka

    I say a one night stand is when you
    meet someone out of no where and sex within the first 24 hrs. regardless if you call them back or not. funny how women will use the “oh yeah, we still stayed in touch, so it wasn’t a one night stand” LMAO

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/03831501030214758302 PhlyyGirl

    I agree with Deka. If you hit within 24 hours, that’s pretty much a one night stand ESPECIALLY if you never hit it again.
    Now IF, and that’s a very big IF, you can build something out of that, then you just had a whore-ibble beginning that you’re working around.

  • Deka

    “WHORE-IBBLE” wow that’s going on the record as a new slang term lol. hahahah wow

    yeah, that’s another blog. the night after lol

  • anonymous

    hmmm. i’d like to know how you maintain communication with someone you had no interest in as a person. ouch!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07797849664590160921 Jackpot aka H.D. aka Desckabaisses

    Man! I miss old Eddy. I’m bout to go watch Boomerang right now.

  • anonymous

    Ok. A one-night stand is not based on the time or relationship a pair may share. It has nothing to do with how one person may feel about the other or with what may happen after having sex one time. In fact a one-night stand is exactly what it claims to be; something of one night. It only accrues once in a relationship between two people, rather it be friends, co-works or complete strangers. As long as the couple do not repeat any sexually, it is a one nigh stand. Take it from LIl’ Jon and Usher as one of their collaborations asks for a one-night stand with a person thought to be a close friend.
    respond by dec 19 o8 / 9:49pm
    Ashley Dorvelus

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/02471165185648892973 ashes_boo

    Ok. A one-night stand is not based on the time or relationship a pair may share. It has nothing to do with how one person may feel about the other or with what may happen after having sex one time. In fact a one-night stand is exactly what it claims to be; something of one night. It only accrues once in a relationship between two people, rather it be friends, co-works or complete strangers. As long as the couple do not repeat any sexually acts, it is a one nigh stand. Take it from LIl’ Jon and Usher as one of their collaborations asks for a one-night stand with a person thought to be a close friend.
    respond by dec 19 o8 / 9:49pm
    Ashley Dorvelus

  • queen_vette

    The breakdown is as follows:

    If I tell you to get up and leave its a one noght stand.

    If i sneak out of your house before you wake up it was a “overnight” stand.

    If it was bad sex, it doesnt count as a one night stand.

    If I know your name, first and last and not just because i saw your drivers license at the club it doesn’t qualify for one night stand action, cuz technically we are like friends with benefits.

    If I passed out and dont remember it doesnt count as anything.

    If you use all of the condoms in the box then technically it is a “multiples” in one night stand.

    If I have to take you back to your car or you have to take me back to mine, its a date.

    If it is outside my current state of residence, then its classifed as “vacay” sex and doesnt count against your one night stand numbers.

    So to sum that up I myself have only particpated in 1 “one” night stand, which to me is the true definition of the phrase…LMAO

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    Queen Vette,

    You a mess for that list. lol