I was having a convo with my homegirl Rachel the other day and she made a random comment about her butt getting too big. While she likes what her mama gave her, she expressed the fact that she has limits on how big she wants her rear to get. Being the avid ass man that I am, I had no problems with Rachael’s posterior or its potential for mass production so I asked, “What’s wrong with having a fat ass?”
“Men don’t respect women with fat asses,” she retorted.
Floored by her statement, I inquired, “What do you mean by that?”
“Just like I said men don’t respect women with fat asses.”
I thought to myself for a moment, could Rachel’s assessment be true? Do I, or any of my male counterparts, have less respect for a woman based on the size of her ass? I mean, I can definitely see the argument that a badunkadunk can be a gift and a curse. While curvy women are often viewed as physically attractive (by men of color at least), they also attract more unwanted attention from men. Some of my male peers tend to act a fool when they spot a applebottom and make some sort of snide remark. But does that mean guys have less respect for women with fat asses?
Based on my own actions, thoughts and beliefs, I’d say no. But when it comes to the average guy, they may not display the same amount of self-control and respect to a woman, fat ass or not, that they’d want for their own mother or sister. So perhaps Rachel was correct in her assumption. Maybe guys subconsciously view curvy women as mere sexual objects and don’t treat them with the same respect as their small-waisted counterparts. Maybe all the big booty video vixens have something to do with it, too.
Perhaps that’s why so many shapely women dread walking outside. They wrap sweaters around their waists in the middle of summer just to cover up the junk in their trunk in attempts to deter unwanted catcalls. But don’t guys do that to pretty much any girl that walks by? Or is this barbaric practice amplified for full-bodied women and proof that men have less respect for them? I don’t know, it seems like too much of a sweeping statement and overgeneralization to take a specific stance.
What do you guys think? Are men less respectful to women with booty? Or is it an even playing field and it doesn’t matter if a woman has booty or not? Any bottom heavy women out there feel like they get disrespected more by men because of the junk in their trunk? Any guy willing to admit that he views women with fat asses differently? Not to beat a dead horse, but do rap videos play a role in this debate as well?
Speak your piece…