Over the course of the past few years I’ve heard some women say that kissing is more intimate than sex. Their argument typically is that being face-to-face and tongue wrestling with someone is way more personal than inserting your penis in them. No matter how many times I’ve heard it, that statement always perplexes me. Maybe it’s because I have a penis, but I don’t get how smooching holds more weight than intercourse. I mean, isn’t kissing the traditional precursor to sex and not the other way around? Maybe I’m naive but I never heard of a first kiss happening after two people bumped uglies.
For me, the basic laws of courtship follow the standard baseball analogy that denotes that lip locking is first base and sex is a home run. (I always forget what second and third base are). So unless someone changed the rules of the game, I don’t see how one gets to any of the subsequent bases without tagging first base first. You’re not supposed to be able to score without rounding all the bases, otherwise folks would be hitting home runs every at bat and that sounds a bit boring to me.
Honestly, I need kissing to have proper sex. Sure I can do it without swapping spit; but where’s the fun in that? I’m about passion and kissing is an important part of expressing that to a partner. So having sex without kissing is like doing it with my hands tied behind my back—take smooching out the equation and you’re just messing up my groove.
I remember this one time in college me and this girl Tina were messing around and about to get down when I went to kiss her. She stopped me and said she only kissed guys she was in a relationship with because it was “too intimate.” Mind you this was right before we were about to do the deed, so that just threw me for a loop. We wound up having sex but it just didn’t feel right without kissing. Out of instinct and natural desire, I kissed her during the act and Tina obliged me briefly but I could tell she definitely wasn’t into kissing. That was definitely a turnoff. It’s like if you ain’t gonna kiss me, then don’t bother doing me. We hooked one more time but I couldn’t deal with the no kissing thing and the last time was our last time.
No offense to Tina or any woman like her, but that no kissing thing sounded a lot like some prostitute shit to me. What I mean by that is I’ve seen documentaries and heard stories where hookers say they’ll do any and every thing with their Johns but the golden rule is always no kissing. That’s the one thing they save for their personal life/relationships. I’m sorry, but if you’re willing to take it in the ass in an alley and slob on random penises for a living, kissing you is the last thing on my to-do list. Just to reiterate, I’m not knocking any woman for wanting to kiss who they want when they want, but to put it on a higher plateau then intercourse? Someone’s gonna have to explain that one to me.
So what gives with no kissing, ladies? What’s your rationale behind the belief that kissing is more intimate? Do women that view kissing as the ultimate form of intimacy only sleep with men they kiss? Or do they sleep with guys they don’t even like and just kiss the ones they do? Or were the women that’ve told me they don’t kiss just not that into me? Fellas, any of y’all ever heard the same thing from a woman? What was your response? Can you have sex without kissing? Do any guys have a similar rule where they won’t kiss chicks they’re not into but will still sleep with them?
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