Morning Monologue: Would You Let Your Wife Strip?

Every time I listen to Prince's "Ripopgodazippa," I imagine myself in a sexy lacy getup and putting on a show, for the man in my life. He's the only one I would ever strip for. And I would never like my guy to be out there showing all his goodies to other women. So, no, I would never approve of him taking a job as a stripper--whether he be boyfriend, husband, jump-off, whatever. No matter how hard times are.

My friend's cousin actually met her fiance at a strip club at which he was one of the main acts. After they got engaged, she used to hand out flyers to women to come watch him strip. Bold girl, I could never date a stripper, let alone promote his stuff. I guess I'm still stuck in the 20th century.

Not sure many will agree but i dated and exotic male dance for almost a year. The money was crazy good, I was laced he was laced, we were living good. Until all the little flunkies started to put the bug in his ear, telling him they can pay his car note and all that. Im like dude this is what you are happiest doing and I will not compete with chicks offering to pay car notes, So the saying "what you won't do the next chick will do" All i have to say is she can, because I wont. We ended as friends and I still go see him shake it every now and then. He has not had a girlfriend since me. Well at least one that he claimed as so. He sais that no one else can handle his lifestyle. I told him, that I could not even handle it. its not the show, its what's goes on after and inbetween shows. its takes a bad muthaphucka to hold a stripper down, male or female.
Now if it was my husband it probably would have ended differently. Meaning he would never be a stripper. I guess I know from experience what goes down behind the scenes, and alot of feelings will get hurt, especially the significant other, cause those hounds and bytches don't give two shytts about you, when your man or woman is shaking like a salt shaker for tips. Whoever has the biggest stack of ones, WINS. So to answer your question, no my man could not go strip to make ends meet. I'd rather he go to Wal-Mart or McDonalds. And he has already told me, that he wish he would catch me dropping it like its hot...so I'm quite sure he and I are in agreeance on this subject.

no. next question

I could let my girlfriend strip. That's like putting all her stuff on advertisement for other men. I understand that it is a recession, but there are other ways to make money. If she was my wife, she better have better sense than to start stripping. I married you and no other man is to see what you have.

*rolls up sleeves, prepares to wade through all the misogyny*

LET?!!! You know you just said that because you knew it would make my backbone slip. Since heated discussion makes for good traffic on the interwebs, here goes.

I would like to think if things got so crazy with the finances that my husband was considering sex work, he would talk to me about it before doing it. I would have a much different reaction to him putting it on the table for discussion than I would find out he was working on the sneak tip at the Hot Pony Revue.

Let's be real, we're in desperate times and sex, death,war and illness are the only things that are recession proof. Stripping might be a last resort for some or a way up for others. I saw a news story a month ago about the legal brothels in Nevada getting an upswing in applications. Not. surprised.
It's about to get real.

You know how NWSO said he was too talented to be broke, some folks aren't talented, but they're too sexy to be broke. They get in where they fit in. People who can capitalize off their stunning good looks don't see much of a leap sometimes when it comes to entering sex work.

I've dated a guy who was a stripper. He was an actor and did it because it gave him loot and time to audition. In his eyes, it was easier and less demeaning than waiting tables. His act consisted of dancing around in a speedo and grinding on middle aged women and drunk bachlorettes. Far more ridiculous than scandalous. Jealousy wasn't an issue because he drew a clear line between stripping and the rest of his life. He also had rules about what he'd do when he was dancing. Dude made it clear it wasn't for sale.

Strippers are people too and I find some of the generalizations some of the guys who have commented have made not only telling, but disturbing.

Strippers are people too, worthy of your respect just like the person working at McDonald's. They're working hard for that money too. If they weren't, you'd have no one to ogle when you're out drunk with your boys.

YOo, that mad nervous!
Kathleen, that was mad funny. lol

I think people knock it because of insecurity reasons. Stripping isnt for everyone. We all know times are hard..we all know that instead of stripping the alternative can be McDonald's or Wal-Mart, but if those places arent paying enough to cover your necessities, then do what you have to do.
Men dont want their wives or wifey to strip because their minds wander to the things they have/do when they are in the strip club with their homeboys and it boils their blood to think about another man doing the same to the woman he loves.
Women dont want their men to strip because they, too, know that women are just as aggressive as men when they see something they want and know its "forbidden" or "taboo". Women also know that other females will stop at nothing to get the "tighten up", regardless if ole boy has ties or not. And women know that other women will resort to bribes if need be (Hence the story above : The women paying the male stripper's car note...etc)
If you've been out there applyin for jobs left and right, with no luck..and you think you can do da damn thang, then go for it. If your partner is concerned about it, then have them come to see you work and add for extra security (Warning: This suggestion only works if you have a mate who's temper can be kept in check. Cant have ole man or wifey ready to slap the bills outta somebody's hand.."Dont beat him no mo',Full Clip!! That's the light bill money, remember, baby?!?").
I've had friends or co-workers who have taken on stripping as a profession at some point in their lives..and I feel like its all dependant upon the person. If you know you're dating someone who may get tempted or turned out by the lifestyle that comes with the sex industry, then you may need to coddle them and tell them that aint the business for them. But if you have a steady relationship and its built on solid trust, then do what you have to do to take care of your own.
I wouldnt feel too comfortable about my partner stripping, but that would primarily weigh on my level of trust with that person. If I didnt feel they could handle that kind of job..then flat out we're gonna have to come together and opt for another hustle. If I felt they could handle it..then we'd have ALOT of talking to do about it..

In the mid 1990s, we were short of money and with two small kids, and I went to work for about 9 months as a stripper. The money is "good" on the low end of "good money" -- but it's not SERIOUS good money -- plus there are no benefits. However, the danger is that you get addicted to that fast buck, and quitting is hard. Beyond that, strip clubs are rougher places than most people admit -- EVEN the nice clubs (I was in a VERY nice club.) Many of the strippers I worked with were drugged out or alcoholic, some were also call girls, a couple of the "girls" were actually very defensive transexuals who were a little bit hard to deal with as co-workers. The work is VERY strenuous and physically demanding - long shifts in impossibly high heels. If you work at the same place for a while, certain repeat customers get crushes on you and this becomes a weird burden - if not a danger. You may stop getting turned on by the thought of sex because the environment in a strip club is so bizarrely sexually oriented. You can't tell people where you work because if you do, they'll either judge you or size you up. You'll be tempted to "fix" your already good body by getting breast implant surgery or some other procedure. LAST - but certainly not least - the bad experiences (and everyone has a few because a strip club is a den of thieves, liars, and social misfits) come back to you later - even years later. If you are an intelligent, thinking person, being a stripper is more traumatic and stressful than you realize at the time. MY ADVICE -- DON'T DO IT!

i'm a stripper and i see nothing wrong with stripping now dose that mean i advertise it, um no. i work and hour away from my house because i don't really want every one to know. i make $500 an hour for privet dances and all i do is swing on a pole, act sexy and show my boobs. i have morals and vales, hobbies and friends. you have to put up with total assholes some times but thats just part of the job when your making as much as i do, who cares what any one else thinks. if a guy dose not want to date me because i dance whatever my job dose not define who i am, it's just simply a very good living.

I have a friend who works in a health profession to encourage good nutrition in children. One day a 4 year old kept falling down in preschool. She went to the apartment of the parent who is a 27 year old stripper living with another 27 year old stripper with another 4 year old child. No father or husband was in the picture. The child was falling down because he had not been fed in 2 days. Yes, stripping is very glamorous and very lucrative. Right!! Strippers don't make the kind of money even they think They have a good night and think they make the same every night. They are always broke, borrowing money which they try not to repay, end up in civil court with friends trying to get back money loaned to them, or with fast credit companies trying to get back their money. It is a bad lifestyle and can make a good person a bad person very shortly. I'm sure there are exceptions, but those exceptions are extremely rare.