It’s come to my attention that some people are a bit confused as to what exactly classifies someone as a jump-off. Over the past few days I’ve continually found myself embroiled in conversations with women about this topic. While there may be jump-offish tendencies in the scenarios they described in their arguments, I think to label it as such would be erroneous.
Case in point, there was this girl Natasha that I dated for a minute. Sex, conversation and everything was great, even still we realized that we wanted different things out of the relationship and decided to part ways amicably. Since we had such a good rapport, Natasha and I felt that just because we didn’t date anymore that mean we couldn’t be cool. So every so often we’d bump into each other at an event or get up for dinner or a movie. As is the case when exes cavort, sometimes, old sparks get rekindled and we’d wind up sleeping together. During one particular stretch of time the intimacy became kind of consistent and Tasha felt the need to have a “talk” with me. Fellas, you know a “talk” is never good for us. LOL.
“Look, Ans, what is this,” she asked.
“What do you mean?”
“Am I your little jump-off or something?”
“Huh? What are you talking about? You are not a jump-off.”
“Well, I don’t just want to be sleeping with you whenever you want.”
“We both decided to sleep together. I didn’t just call you up and say, ‘Hey, let’s fuck.’ We went to the movies, ate, chilled and just so happened to end up in bed. I didn’t hang out with you just to get in your pants, I hung out to hang out with you because I like your company.”
“Okay, well, I just don’t want to be nobody’s jump-off because I don’t get down like that.”
“You’re buggin’. A jump-off is some person you call in the middle of the night and all you do is fuck and then bounce or kick them out. That’s not what we do. We don’t even have sex every time we get up it just happens whenever. You’re my friend—maybe with occasional benefits—but my friend nonetheless. So, no, you’re not my jump-off.”
“Okay, I just wanted to make sure but you clarified yourself. So can we do it again? (Laughs).”
I think a lot of women think like Natasha and have things twisted when it comes to defining a jump-off. Just because two consenting adults have sex with no commitment doesn’t mean you’re J.O. status. That just means you had sex. Point blank. Now if that’s all you ever do and you never go out, don’t have actual conversations (sex talk don’t count), and only communicate in the wee hours of the night then you might be a jump-off. Aside from that, you’re an adult engaging in adult activities. If you’re unsure, you can always do what Natasha did and just ask.
So how do you define a jump-off? Do guys and girls have different definitions? Have you ever fallen into jump-off status and didn’t even realize it? Can an ex or friend with benefits be classified as a jump-off? Is anyone willing to admit that they’re a jump-off and proud of it? Are there benefits to being a J.O.? Has any females ever flipped the script and made a guy their jump-off? Whose decision was that? Can a jump-off ever be about more than just sex?
Speak your piece…