Definition of a Jump-Off

The only conversations that should go on between you and your jump off should be about sex that's it. I think the definition is a general one. Like you said Ans, late night text or phone call, come through or I come through, handle the B.I and be out. But in some J.O situations spending the night or at last getting in a quick power nap is ok. It can make things complicated but I can see why people would do it. Like I live in BK and I don't have a car anymore. If I'm coming to get hit some skins (I'm so 90's, you gotta love it) at 11:30pm. I might go to sleep after because we in a recession and $40 cab ride one way is enough for me.

wow...yea def was in a booty call type situation with one gentleman. It was just easier for me at the time because I really just wanted to be single and didnt want to mess around with anyone new. I had known him for a few years and he was a cool guy but it never really clicked outside the bedroom. But in that bedroom we made some magic and it was toO damn hard to go from having mind blowing sex to...none. lol. So we basically had a cut and dry convo that if ever either one of us was in "need" we knew who to ring up. If either one of us met someone then it was a wrap and safe sex was a MUST!!!! lets just say it lasted only a short while... it became akward to say the least

Jump~offs, booty calls, Friends with benefits.....just too many dayum labels...WTH!....bottom line if you need to define yourself then define yourself in your actions and voice it.....if there is more to the relationship than sex then your friends who have sex, if you just have sex and nothing else then you're 2 consenting adults having sex! Plain and simple Someone said these labels are made as to soften the reality of whats going on and I agree somewhat. Labels can serve as a way to clarify relationships but it has only confused so many people because there are no clear definitions set to these labels. So to difuse the confusion communicate people ....use your words! LOL I love labels and will label a person in a minute but I also love honesty and dont believe in sugar coating.....so if you're a jump~off(someone I have sex~day or night~ with and general convo, no dates or talks of any future plans together other than sex) to me I will let you know be we get down!

I can't believe that folks are still unclear about what a JO is and isn't.

I'm so over this whole deal that at the top of the year I laid it to rest.

I suggest other folks do the same...

"During the last few weeks of 2008, I couldn’t seem to escape two words. I would hear them at the dinner table with friends, holiday parties with co-workers and on dates with men who really showed their cards. After being inundated with these seven letters I welcome you to the…
Memorial Service
for the Words/Phrase/Mentality of
“Jump Off”...http://parlourmagazine.com/?p=6582

"My Jump off doesn't run off at the mouth as much"

"My Jump off doesn't get in the way/She doesn't want anything on Valentine's Day!"

-Joe Budden "Pump it Up"

Gotta love it!

I'm confused as to what is the confusion about a "Jump Off" It is how is sounds, you jump on the person and then you jump off!

When I call during the night, Have your boxers off when I come through the door!

Straight sex, no movies, no dinner, not much conversation unless it is during sex, and you won't get anything much from me!!!!!

This just seem like a case were people needs 2 grow up and be adults. The question isnt what somebody think of you and your relationship. The question is how do you feel about the sitiuation. As long as your honest with yourself 1st and real with the other person who cares with label it fits into? If being somebodies J.O. is what works for you then whats wrong with that? If you are secure with yourself it doesnt matter how you "get yours" ,but if the arrangement makes you uncomfrontable then dont do it.

I dont feel like she should have ask you Ans. It should've have matter 2 her how you think of her cause dudes lie all the time(not that im saying you were). I just think her decision 2 sleep with you should be base solely on how she felt about it. In other words if she felt like a J.O. then she was ,but if she was happy how everything was going then you guys continue 2 1 of you change. I mean if you would have said "Yeah your my lil J.O." would it have made all the hanging out ya'll non-in-void?

I have a hard time believing a "jump off" ever fits the definition defined by whoever came up with the term. And since Anslem tends to know a lot about the women he has slept with...How did you come by that info if you didn't actually converse with the gal??

i think fuck buddy would fit 99.9% of what y'all think it is/was...and one night stand fits the .01%.

@Seriously No Seriously

I am mature enuff 2 handle my connection with a sex bubby! The reason why they dont become my girlfriends is because theres something about them that isnt GF material(4 whatever reason). But that doesnt mean i cant kick it with her. Know what you want from that relationship and get it. I cant be responsible if people who cant keep there emotions in check. Maybe males do a better job of checking there feelings. But 4 me(and only me) I cant carry out sexing a chick that i dont like more than a handful of times without getting bored. But I have not been in a J.O. sitiuation in years so maybe im different now but im speaking on my past experiences so 2 each there own!

Are there benefits to being a J.O.? Hell yes! Sex with NSO, my friend. Who wouldn't want that??? (Well, I don't anymore, but when I was a young chick I sure as hell did)

Has any females ever flipped the script and made a guy their jump-off? And yes sir! I used to do it all the time. I had a number of jump-offs, depending on what kind of mood I was in, I could call whomever I pleased. Didn't mean they couldn't call me for the same reason, but I'd usually shoot them down.

Can a jump-off ever be about more than just sex? No, then you've broken the sacred JO rules.

@Sathany

It doesnt bother a real man(LIKE ME) but or you and your girls coming out and saying this from the start or do ya'll play games? Call when ya'll want it but when he calls ya'll say no. I dont think theres anything wrong with initiating the J.O. but it is wrong 2 play games.

I think when somebodies not being 100 thats when things get wrong ,or when 1 person only cool with it @ there convenience thats when i think its weird

NWSO,

There's a couple ways to determine J.O. status.

1) Let's start with the first and worst version of the word J.O.:

If you ARE a J.O. then that is the worst thing you could be. From a man's POV if another dude say, "shorty is a J.O." that means that any dude or groups of dudes have been up in there. If you show shorty a lil bit of attention then you gonna pop. That is the lowest of low. In other words you are a whore, slut or slore, J.O. just sounds a lil bit better.

2) The next one is not so bad:

If you say shorty is MY Jump Off that means that she lets you and only you slide up in there whenever without having to think about the relationship dynamic.

3) This one "...is not so bad" UNTIL:

You find our the girl you're seeing was someone else's J.O. That leads you to say to yourself, "WTF this nigga right here got the panties that easy and I'm over here buying dinner" And then you start rethinking shorty's worth in your mind and you either drop her or start treating her like a J.O. or just except that these chicks out here aint shit anyway.

Now what I would say is that NWSO is experiencing a more mature J.O. situation, lets call is J.O.2.0. The whole calling you after 2pm for booty is jumping off for the 25 and under crowd. With J.O.2.0 you can actually do things with the person and even be seen with them in daylight maybe even like the person, BUT the amount of time spent with this person is always limited so there is no commitment.

So yes I would have to say that the situation with Natasha was a J.O.2.0 experience.

@ DiffNames
I'm laughing hysterically at the JO 2.0 breakdown!

Well.... If both parties are Jump Offs it could be ok. It just is not good when a jump off is really one sided. I have been a jump off and a jump offer. Does that make sense?

This is what one of my buddies once shared with me and now I will share it with yall to see what you think:

"THE Relationship Hierarchy for Black Folks by Terrance L.

WIFE – This is the top spot. What we all strive to have and maintain. There are no pretenses here. A bond that has been cemented before God, Family and Country, this is not to be played with. This sister is THE power behind you, your rib, your lover, your friend. Screw up and she makes you life difficult. Do right and you get bodied like she was Beyonce jesus.

FIANCE – The penultimate step before ascension. If marriage is the championship, then this is the finals. The only thing standing in her way to the throne is a damn good plan and a nice summer day.

WIFEY- The sister you have been in a committed relationship with for sometime and have come to love, trust and respect. There is no fairy tale at this stage. You know the ends and out and in all probability yall already shaking. Your SSN? She knows it. Your atm code? She knows it too. Guess what she’s ready your nonsense on BP too. Just be warned. The only thing keeping her from the fiancé spot is a nice piece of jewelry and your lack of courage. Consider this the conference championships.

WOMAN – Welcome to the playoffs. The beginning of the “real” run. This happens when a) pressure is applied by the right hand to make her official thereby matching her pay to the work she doing or b) pressure from your mama to stop playing around. At any rate the commitment is official. While small time, things start to heat up at this stage and you are one weekend visit from having a wifey. Like the playoffs is really win or go home.

RIGHT HAND – C’mon fellaz we know who this sista is. She’s the one always on our arm, handling our day to day. She’s at all the barbecue’s. You hitting it raw. She can use your phone. I mean she’s the workhorse. Only problem is yall aint never made it official, so you (and she) can still do what you want to the ire of the other person. (It’s usually when one of the parties will then try to lock the contract down). This stage is critical because during this time you will decide is she will make the playoffs or get to rebuild her team next year under a different GM. BTW: Remember that threesome she DIDN’T give you? Didn’t that factor in your discussion to promote her?

JUMP OFF- Similar to the Right hand, this sister is usually by your side for only the fun shiet. The serious stuff in your life is not her concern. But when the drinks is flowing, when the parties jumping she will be there. However, due to the lack of balance there is little or no chance of yall being serious. The up side is that she’ll probably give you that threesome with her girl. At this point, yall just having a good time until the right hand or woman ends this dynamic. This is like being the Atlanta Braves. Damn good during the season but rarely gets it done.

MAIN – For those of you dating multiple folks, this is the one that keeps rising to the top. This stage is trickey because she can either go to the dead end zone of jump off or become the more maneuverable right hand. This all depends on how you guys interact. Yup this is the second half of the regular season.

BETTIES, CHICKS, “OLE GIRL” – This is the first half of the regular season. The sister you just meet and got a lil going for herself. It is during this stage you will decide if she’s going to have a strong second half and make the run for the post season or by midseason she’ll be trade for a draft pick, some cash and a minor league player to be named later.

BUST DOWNS AND CHICKEN HEADS – These are teams that just want to fill the stadiums without improving the teams. (Think Cubs before this season). Good for only good sex with you and your boys, you know for a fact they’ll be out of the running three weeks into the season.

ROOKIES – Welcome to the game younging. These are the sisters who are 18-22, just leaving for college and entering the league. How we treat them at this stage, coupled with their home training will determine where they land. Fellaz do your rookies right. (Take that however you want to.)"

@ Elle.......Terrance is a special man in his own right that and will give u real talk whether u want it or notl his hierarchy can be disputed and has in other blog groups......but i stilll have love 4 him!

Yeah ... Ive been a jump off and Ive had them. I think that its ok as long as both people in it realize what the deal is. I mean if its one sided and you always the one gettin the 3 am after club call and never making it then maybe you should re-evaluate, but then again if you like it I love it. Im not saying tramp around, but on the same token ... a good jump off can be priceless!!!

I personally wouldnt try to get into anything serious with a jump off simply bc once that line is drawn its really hard to re-establish. But thats just me ... good people got basic needs and sometimes they just want them fulfilled. If somebody is using you against your will, get out ... otherwise JUST DO IT!!!

I always thought that a J.O. was like a friend with benefits. In my book, NWSO, your homegirl is a jump off.

I know that you guys may converse and feel friendly toward one another, but if you guys tend to end almost every rendezvous with sex, she is in the jump off area.

If I created a Venn Diagram and had friendly attributes in one circle and hoe attributes in the other, the jump off would be somewhere in the middle...yeah.

There isnt anything wrong with having or being a jump-off, I mean we're all adults we can have casual sex if we want to, it's just important to KNOW when you are jumping off. Coz if you get it twisted and think you might be somebody's somebody, it could be trouble.

I have had a relationship with someone for over five years. We have done dinners, movies, parties, car wash, oilchanges, even some holidays together. Yet, we are just friends. We have amazing sex...but no relationship. I have to stop myself from seeing him too frequently because I begin to have those emotional ties. So its confusing for me and hard to date other men because I always do a comparison...

DONT EVER BE A JUMP OFF CAUSE 10 TIMES OUT OF 10 THAT NI**A DICK IS DIRTY!!! DIRTY BITCH