Did You Cum? (The Pleasure Principle)
Okay, ladies, I know you've heard this question before, "Did you cum?" It's usually from the gentleman on top of you (or behind you) after he's just reached the point of sexual eruption. Depending on his showing, you're either nodding in breathless glee or shaking your head in utter disgust. Most guys probably wouldn't know the difference either way.
When it comes to sex and satisfaction, guys pretty much have to ask or just assume a girl climaxed—unless she's a squirter and there's visible evidence all over your sheets. I know some cocky son-of-a-gun is probably saying to himself, "I don't gotta ask, ’cause I know I did the damn thing. Shorty was calling out my name and blah, blah." Yeah, moans and screams are usually clear indicators of a girl getting her rocks off, but some woman have been known to fake it. Old school readers will recall that even men fake orgasms, too. (NOTE: Just because a guy ejaculates doesn't mean he had an orgasm). Climax or not, though, if a man busts a nut that usually means the episode is over and there'll be no more action until he and his lil solder can regroup. Sorry, we're just not wired like y'all where we can get back-to-back-to-back nuts. We need a breather in between.
In fact, females' ability to score multiple orgasms in one episode is part of the reason why some of us ask, "Did you cum?" I know I've been with some greedy chicks that actually lied about not cumming just so she could sneak in a few more orgasms before I got mine. Because nine times out of ten if a guy asks, "Did you cum yet," while you're still going at it he's about to bust. But if you reply no, he'll put the mental delay on his dick to make sure you get yours before he blasts off. Well, that’s if he's not a selfish lover. Otherwise the roles will change and it’ll be the chick is asking, "Did you cum?" Trust me, fellas, that's the last thing you want to hear because that usually means that you got yours way before the she got hers and that's never a good look.
Like I said, most guys ask, “Did you cum,” because they just don’t know, but there is a bright side. The longer you're with someone, the better your physical connection tends to get—if you’re lucky. Eventually you learn how your partner's body reacts when they reach the point of euphoria, but even then the female physiology (and psychology) is still a mystery for many men, especially if it's your first time together. He'll have no idea how your body responds when you orgasm so once again he may just have to ask, "Did you cum?"
Another reason guys ask is ego. I can only speak for myself but I wanna know that I satisfied you and hearing a female verbalize that makes a brother feel good. My philosophy when it comes to sex is that if I'm focused on pleasing you and you're focused on pleasing me, then we should both get what we want out of the episode. If for whatever reason I don't hold up my part of the deal, I want to know so I can rectify the situation. Lying about cumming to spare my feelings is not advised, because I'm gonna want to redeem myself by any means necessary, manually, orally or penis-aly (yeah, I just made that one up). So, ladies, if a guy ever asks you, "Did you cum," keep it 100 because if you spend all your time stroking his ego; how's he ever supposed to learn how to stroke your cat?
Do ladies hate when guys ask if they came or not? If you didn't cum, do you let your lover know or try and stroke his ego? Have you ever lied about cumming so you could sneak in multiple orgasms or just because you wanted it to be over? Anyone women been with a guy that took too long to cum? Fellas, have you ever been with a woman that couldn’t make you cum? Do women take offense if a man doesn't cum?
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