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Pleasure + Pain = Orgasmic Childbirth (Is This For Real?)

Posted by NWSO • March 26, 2009 • Printer-friendly

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Based on dramatic movie and television scenes, childbirth looks like one of the most painful and uncomfortable things in the world. I definitely give props to all the women that go through it and bring forth the gift of life through their wombs. I doubt there are many men that could deal with that kind of pain, even if we were physically capable (Remember The Cosby Show episode where the men gave birth?) In fact, I was recently a fly on the wall during a woman’s conversation about the joys and pains of labor.

The mother of the crew went in specific detail of how painful and exhausting the experience is, especially for a first-time mom who has no idea of what to expect. Throughout her entire pregnancy she said how she was going to have a natural childbirth and scoffed at the idea of epidural, but as soon as them labor pains kicked into high gear she was practically ripping the nurses arm of for that shot. “I don’t think I could have made it through without that shot,” she later confessed.

So what if there was a way to bypass the pain and actually get a little pleasure out of childbirth? Yes, I’m serious. I came across an article on TimesOnline yesterday that spoke on a new childbirth process that works orgasms into the delivery room. You read correctly, people are getting their rocks off while their getting their kid out. In fact, there are two new documentaries specifically covering this orgasmic childbirth. All in all, the women in the article say this method transformed labor pains into the most intense orgasm of their lives.

“As my contractions intensified and I got closer to giving birth, I remember starting to feel the sensations,” said Isobel Patterson, 31, a lawyer had her first baby via orgasmic childbirth last December. “It was the most incredible feeling that began in my pelvis and rippled through my entire lower body. It was wave upon wave of what can only be described as pure pleasure. My pelvis began pushing downwards involuntarily and my legs were trembling as I experienced a prolonged orgasm that lasted what seemed like hours, although during birth your concept of time is very different.”
“I know now that it was probably more like a series of orgasms over an hour. My husband said afterwards that I was shouting, ‘Oh, my God, it’s so beautiful, it’s like making love,’ over and over again. I was trembling and smiling. The doula [professional coaches who offer emotional and practical support during childbirth] said my clitoris was pulsating and I kept closing my eyes in ecstasy with each passing wave as the baby moved downwards. My husband was open-mouthed. He didn’t quite know what to say. He said later that it was obvious what was going on.”

Wow! Based on the article, it doesn’t seem like these women are actually playing with themselves during delivery, it’s just the release of similar hormones as the ones during sex that is bringing these woman to climax. It’s one of those free your mind type deals like the ever-elusive female ejaculation I spoke on about a month ago. Experts in the article say that since child birthing has entered hospitals, where they’re treated like surgery and women are told when to breathe and push, the natural flow of things has been lost. There are just too many distractions to make the experience enjoyable. That and orgasms are pretty private and most women feel embarrassed or ashamed for having one in front of a room full of doctors and nurses so they aren’t even open to the idea of the potential pleasure their body may be trying to experience. If you’re interested in giving it a try there are natural child birthing clinics that are starting to incorporate orgasms into their deliveries. I guess they pass cigars out to the fathers and cigarettes* to the new moms. LOL.

What are your thoughts on this whole orgasmic childbirth idea? Has anyone had one? Would you be willing to try it? Would you be embarrassed to have an orgasm in front of complete strangers? Do you think there’s something morally wrong with having sexual pleasure while your child is being born? How many women are against the idea of drugs in the delivery room and prefer natural childbirth? How many mothers wish they knew about orgasmic childbirth before they had their kids. Would any guys feel awkward if their woman had an orgasm in front of other people in the delivery room?

Speak your piece…

*Smoking is bad

BONUS
You can read the full article HERE
And peep a clip for one of the orgasmic childbirth documentaries HERE (NSFW=not safe for work)

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Tagged as: childbirth, doctor, embarrassed, female ejaculation, mother, orgasm, orgasmic childbirth, pain, pleasure

mzsmith

i sure as hell didnt have an orgasmic childbirth, after reading this it makes me feel like i missed out on something. although it was an experience i will never forget it would have been nice to feel what that lady felt...lol
Litabia

You know I was watching "The Tyra Show" the other day and they were talking about pregnancies and sex. Well, one of the chicks mentioned having a doula and they are basically there to relax you and make the whole child birth experience enjoyable. And then she said it..."I actually had an orgasm during child birth." I have to admit I was first to say bullshit. But the all these other women said that when they asked for a doula to be present during there labor process it was very relaxing and they were like I swear I think I had an orgasm. Now, I fucking jealous because both of my labor experiences were extremely painful (even though they didn't last long, thank God!) I know now to ask for a freaking doula so I can have the best orgasm of my life while giving birth.

To answer the other questions...I have an epidural with my first son and my second son was very natural birth, because I didn't even make it to the hospital. I know now that I can have natural birth but I do not recommend it if you really don't have to. But yeah I want to experience what those lucky heifaz experience. I upset now. I feel like the older women that had to experience 27 hours of back labor pains with no relief because there was no such thing as an epidural. Its one thing to not be able to feel anything at all and another to actually have a freaking orgasm. I will pick that one all day long. Epidurals were a pain in the ass too. You strapped to the blood pressure machine and they giving oxygen, you can't move cause they completely paralyzed from the waist down. But I was sleep a good 15 minutes after they gave it to me so can't and won't complain too much about it.
boogie

LOL @ the picture at the end hahaha ur a fool for that one...unless i just have a dirty mind and am reading too much into it
mine jaz

hell yeah id be down for an orgasm while giving birth.. i hope u can do it naturally becuz my original plan was to give birth naturally high [ and yea i said high and cant nobody tell me im wrong cuz nobody else is gonna be pushing that baby out my vagina!]
http://www.femaleclitoralstimulationtechniques.com Elle

Who am I to call it BS. Everything is possible under this sun. But can I imagine it? Not at all. Maybe it's just me but I can't climax unless everything is right. The tiniest destraction of any kind and it simply will not happen. Trying to push a frigging melon out through my vagina is quite a distraction. Ergo: even if this happens to some women, it will not happen to me.

I don't have any children and to be frank, I'm not exactly keen on having any of my own. If it happens, alright. If not, even better. It is obvious that I am not the "motherly type" who would enjoy the whole process of being pregnant, who would talk about it as a miracle and enjoy every bits and pieces of it. That simply isn't me. I'm more so the "full knock out, cut me open, take the baby out of my belly, give me a lipo while you're in there and only show the baby to me once it has been given a bath"-type. Consequently, the idea that women actually enjoy giving birth is rather bizarre to me.

But hey, whatever is clever. Humans bewilder me.
OH! You're my new favorite blogger fyi
Simone

For both of my children, I did natural child birth. Call me old fashion but if it were to have another (which i doubt) I would do natural all over again providing they are gonna be around the same size. I'll pass on the epi and the doula moula watever. My naturals weren't bad probably because both my children were 5pounds and a few ounces. I don't know what decisions i would of made if they were bigger babies.
http://theyoungmommylife.com Tara

I thought it was crazy too, until I mentioned it to my mom and she admitted she had an orgasm when she was in labor with my sister. Wow. The things you learn if you just ask....
Kelly

BWAHAHAHAHA.

No, seriously.

Being in labor for 18 1/2 hours with my first and 10 hours with my 2nd I can call BULLSHIT on that.

If it were true, I don't think I'd want to be having an orgasm in front of a bunch of nurses, doctors, my parents and other random medical staff who wander in and out of the room. No thanks!
K-Love

Well after 26 hours of labor, I would have loved those contractions to turn into orgasms. That was the worst pain I could have ever endured, then having to have an emergency C-section because I only dialated 6 1/2 centimeters was the worst. Then the day after that being made to walk with stiches and stables in the bottom of my belly..Hell yeah give me an orgasmic delivery every day.
Seriously, No Seriously

Well I had my daughter with the help of induced labor with a dash of demerol and a chaser of epi! I'm sorry I can not stand cramps so b4 the labor pains had a chance to kick in good i got my cocktails! I think that's a great way to have a baby. shoot make me wanna get pregnant just to experience it! LOL but I wouldnt have any hang~ups about having an orgasm in front of 4 or 5 ppl....Hell you already laying there with your legs spread wide open for all to see!
http://www.twitter.com/mbrowntheremix Mike Brown the REMIX

Sounds like fun. But, hypothetically, I don't want my son or daughter to make my woman have an orgasim. I'm selfish.

Don't judge me.
Zayda

I actually had heard of this and thought "Damn! If I only had known about this while I was pregnant!" I had a completely natural birth. No drugs, no nothing! But there were times in the 26 hour labor that I felt euphoric. Almost like it was an out of body experience. So I can see how you can have an orgasm while giving birth. And no I would not be ashamed or embarrassed to have an orgasm in a room full of people. If I delivered my daughter with a Doula, midwife, my daughters' father, my mother and his grandmother all staring at my most private area then an orgasm would be nothing! lol...I'd rather be screaming 'yes, yes, yes' instead of 'oh shhhhiiiitttt!'

Good topic Ans!
moonstarz

I don't know. I've never gotten that far. I was easily laboring without any medication until I became a c-section risk. Then I got the epi. And there won't be a next time around, so...

I wouldn't rule it out though. The body gives off natural hormones during childbirth and I'm sure people react to them differently. Also a lot of people are being induced and I think that is why many people experience so much pain. You can be in labor for hours before the baby is truly ready to come out. If I were to do it again, I would go with a midwife and wait it out.
da ThRONe

Its cool as long as Im the one giving the orgasim!LOL Im down for anything that can make that process easier on the mother of my kids.

If your selfish than you shouldnt be in a relationship period. Let alone being somebody's parent. Because you will suck at both if you are.

@Elle

You probably would be a great mom. If you do get knock up its going hit ya. And your going wonder how you ever lived without your lil bundle of joy. This coming from somebody with no kids!
da ThRONe

As far as embarrassment isnt it common for mothers to go #2 during childbirth? If you can do that during birth busting a nut should be a breeze!LOL
BK

Wow. Just wow. I mean it makes sense. If friction and the stretching feels good normally. why not the most massive stretch imaginable? That combined with the adrenaline and hormones shooting off, i can easily see how those signals could get mixed up for a person in that state.

As the husband though. Id feel so inadequate. Hows a penis ever going to compete with...a whole person! Kick rocks...
da ThRONe

Just read the topic again and have a question. How are these oragasim achieved? Is there touching involved? If so am I the dad doing the touching.

Or is it the "mid-wife" doing the touching that could be hot too if she's hot! LOL
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@ Da Throne

2nd to last paragraph, homie. They're not touching themselves or anyone else, just all hormonal
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@Da Throne

You call also check the documentary trailer link I posted at end of blog to see the process. No there's no graphic crotch shots, just the mothers experiencing the big o and natural birth scenarios
Tracs

I feel cheated.
mz. tellit like itis

I had an orgasm during labor it was one of the best feelings in the world it was better than sex my man said i was moaning in the delivery room!!!
Elle

@ Da Throne

aww .. yea, you might be right. I might be one helluva mom - who knows. As long as I don't end up being one of these soccer moms, I'll be alright.

And um ... what the heck?!@my initial post being modified

LoL@the guys feeling sort of jealous for not being the source of the orgasm
Chanel

Are you a fan of "The Soup?" This was their "Clip of the Week" about a month or so ago, and it's still funny. I mean, it's ridiculous! I have no kids, but I'm an auntie MANY times over and I'm pretty sure none of my sisters experienced any pleasure whatsoever giving birth. Yeah, I call bullshit on this one.
da ThRONe

@NWSO

"Wow! Based on the article, it doesn’t seem like these women are actually playing with themselves during delivery, it’s just the release of similar hormones as the ones during sex that is bringing these woman to climax"

You said it doesn't seem(key word being seems)o I wasnt sure.
da ThRONe

@NWSO

I just watched the video! I think I have a pregnancy fetish now LOL!

You think there's to many unplan pregnancies now! Were gonna have to be like China 1 child per family.
Seriously, No Seriously

LOL@ Da Throne......that's what i'm talking about...gettin prego juss to have an ultimate O! LOL!
http://www.hustlemama.com Hustlemama

What woman wouldn't want an orgasm during labor, given the alternative! It's about demystifying and dehospitalizing childbirth. We are taught to fear it and to view it as a medical procedure. I had a long, hard and painful labor (tried natural homebirth) but ended up in the hospital. The wave of relief finally being able to push my son out after 48 hours in labor was amazing... I could imagine myself had I been in a more comfortable setting and not exhausted having an orgasmic like experience. I think when/if I have my second child I will be able to relax and be more intuitive. I also had a doula by my side and she was a great help... highly recommend to anyone that want's their voice heard and needs met during childbirth. peace.
AllInTheGame

I think I came across an article on this once. Its a small percentage of women it happens to. Wasnt quite sure if it was the kind of thing any woman could replicate, was it something specific or genetic or inherited, or what...
Ameretta

Really???

I'm not a mother yet, but this is giving me some ideas about getting a doula!! I'm one of those females that "squirt" but I just couldn't imagine having the big o while giving birth to my child!!

Good stuff!!!

Just the thought of having an orgasm without touching...is starting to blow my mind....!

Dang!

Can't wait to have a child!
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@Da Throne,

All good, homie. Picky ass... lol

@Elle

The same comment came thru twice, I just deleted the extra one
Robin

Ok...here is what i imagined BEFORE watching the video.........
I pictured me in a delivery or birthing room.... monitors all hooked up to me, an IV, 2 to 3 nurses, a doctor, the baby's father, and probably my MOTHER (all of which were present when my husband and I had our oldest son naturally nearly 17 years ago......it was different with my 14 yr old daughter because I was forced to have a c-section)
I imagined my feet up in stirrups , all my business exposed for everyone in the room to see and cramping that felt as though I was being ripped apart with a chainsaw....with a dull blade I might add.......then I pictured having an "Orgasm" in front of all those people including my MAMA!!!
Awe HELL naw!!
But, after watching the video and seeing how calm and peaceful the rooms were, it was almost like they were delivering at home.....some of them may have been.
If there were minimal people involved and I was able to focus on my man and our child and he was talking to me in a way conducive with love making....without pulling my hair and calling he his nasty little....never mind, different day; different topic........got a little sidetracked there......but you see where i was initially going right?? LOL!!!
Then maybe I could see allowing myself to peak and experience the type of orgasm they talked about.
I'm way past having anymore babies but if I could and I found myself blessed again, maybe I would give it some consideration.
My experiences as they were may have been painful, but they were both unique and I wouldn't have done it any differently knowing what I knew at the time.
So, congrats to all the woman who "got theirs" while they were getting theirs. LOL!!!
Righteous Mama

WoWWWW! My mouth is completely open and it's pretty hard to shock me. Okay, at first thought, something about having an orgasm while I'm giving birth just doesn't sound right. But then again, I totally agree with the sentiment that hospitals make childbirth into a surgery like experience. Thinking about it a little more, I'm like why not? I wouldn't mind my midwife and my husband being there but my mother and extended family watching me have an orgasm? No thanks on that.

Many women feel the same why about breastfeeding and find it difficult to get over the idea that breasts are only for sexual pleasure. The idea of putting their baby on their breasts scared some of them. Some were afraid they might become excited and would feel preverted. But almost never happens. The mind knows how to separate these connections and sensations. I met a brother recently who confessed to that he doesn't like kissing, sucking or playing with his woman's breasts because he feels like that part of the body is for his child. WTF?! Seriously?

If I ever have another baby, I'm trying this for sure!! Excellent post!
http://www.soulculture.co.uk Mars

YEP. I want it like this! This will totally remove my phobia.
DiffNames

Yo this is so ridiculous its funny, they should make a skit based off of this idea, the premise is crazy.

Can you image changing any "labor of love" into a "labor of love plus bustin' a nut." HAHAHA...

Image a commercial with a father figure coaching his son's soccer team on a nice spring day, birds chirping, all that and the narrator says:

"Sure coaching your son and seeing him interact with other kids in a team sport setting is fulfilling. The thrill of victory, the agony of defeat, and picking up all the pieces after its was said and done.

But wait! You have you ever done all of that and BUST A NUT at the same time with 'fill in the blank- product' Well now you can for a minimal price of $39.99 plus S+H"

HAHAHAHA!

Yo is nothing sacred, crazy... of course everything is better if you bust a nut along with it, eating dinner, going to the movies, taking meetings etc... all made better when adding O-faces, hahaha. But that don't mean I'mma go out my way to do it. LMAO...
Neska

The human body is a helluva wonder, when i have children (hoping for a water delivery) i'm definitely gonna try it.
http://goddessesrising.blogspot.com goddessjaz

i don't really think it's fair for ayone to call bullshit on someone's personal birth experience. you can watch the videos and see that the phenomenon of a birth orgasm exists.

i agree with Hustlemama about taking away the fear and horror of birth. i remember watching these childbirth slides in 7th grade health class and being traumatized. but the hospital and medical industries are largely responsible for women's discomfort with epidurals, banning women from eating/drinking during labor, the position of laying on the back (the worst way to deliver birth). anything is possible if a woman in labor is in a comfortable environment.

i'm studying to be a doula and even if you can't deliver at home, or don't want to, there is a movement to get expecting parents information about alternatives. doulas are there to provide comfort and support to the mother often through natural means such as massage, stretches, a hand to hold/listening ear, whatever is needed to facilitate a happy birth. i recommend the documentary "The Business of Being Born" which talks about birth as an industry in the U.S.
reese

I had the epi with my son and i do plan to have more kids after i finsih my degree. I defin want to try the the whole Orgasms with chidlbirth if i was to do it natural. I would be kind of shy but that pain is no joke SO the hell with the people in the room...lol