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Could You Date Me…And My Blog?

Posted by NWSO • April 28, 2009 • Printer-friendly

A few nights ago I met up with my friend Natalie for dinner. I hadn’t been out the bat cave for a minute so it was good choppin’ it up over wine and some amazing grilled chicken. As always, my blog came up. While I have no shame in what I write here or I wouldn’t be writing it, there is a sense of anonymity telling stories from the privacy of my couch and posting fragments of my life and psyche. Still, there's the occasional embarrassment when I find out people I didn’t know read my blog actually read my blog. There’s usually a smirk on the person’s face when they say, “I love your blog” or “I was reading it the other day and....” My first thought is, “Oh, Lord, which freaky tale are they about to bring up?” Over the course of the 10 months that NakedWithSocksOn.com has been up and running, I’ve learned to just take that as part of the job. My life your entertainment.

At some point during the night, the conversation shifted to romance and relationships, which spiraled into a deeper discussion about how my blog may effect my social life—negatively.

A while back, I bumped into my boy Rich who reads my blog posed the following question: “What are you gonna do when you get a girl?”

I didn’t get where he was going, so I asked, “What do you mean?”

“Dude, you can’t have a girlfriend and write about the stuff you blog about.”

“Why not? This is what I do and whoever this future girlfriend is would have known about my blog before we got into a relationship.”

“Okay, you’ll see.”

I’m not sure how or why (too many glasses of wine) but I recounted that story to Natalie and she shared her own thoughts on Rich’s comment. “Yeah, I don’t think my boyfriend could have a blog like yours,” she began. “He would have to change it up or something.”

“But why?”

“Because it’s so public. Honestly, I don’t know how you do it, but I would hate to be sitting with my girls and have them say, ‘Oh, I was reading your man’s blog last night about how he hooked up with this girl or whatever.’ Uh-uh, that's not cute at all.”

“But all my raunchy stories are set in the past. What, I’m not supposed to have a life before my girl?”

“I’m not saying that, I just think it’s disrespectful for my man to put our business out there like that.”

“It’s not her business, it my business. Besides I never write about any current dealings with women in great detail, so it’s not like I’d be writing about our sex life like, ‘Yo, last night my girl was giving me head and it was bad, who wants to help give my girl tips on better brain…’”

“Still, if that’s my man, I don’t want my girls reading about his sexual exploits and then looking at me all sideways. Honestly, I couldn’t even read his blog anymore and I wouldn’t want to hear about it from anybody.”

“I can respect that, but I think people tend to just think about the sex stuff and forget about the messages I put out there. Like there was this post called “Requiem For a One-Night Stand” I did a while back that was a sex story but the point was about me asking this girl’s forgiveness for doing her dirty. I think people always forget stuff like that.”

“True, but for me personally, I couldn’t read it.”

“So what am I supposed to do if I get a girl; expunge all my archives and just write bland posts on love and fairy dust? That’s wack. If you met me doing this, I don’t see what the problem is.”

“You’re right, but I couldn’t date someone with a blog as explicit as yours.”

“It’s not the first time I’ve heard that and it probably won’t be the last, but like my tattoo says, ‘I Write Therefore I Am…’”

Check please.

How would you feel if your mate had a job where he/she wrote about their sex life on a daily basis? Would you be jealous or think that they were fantasizing about ex lovers? Do you think your family or friends would view your mate negatively because of what they wrote? Would you take offense if they wrote about you and your sex life? Could you continue to read their work once you started dating? Would you ask them to edit their content? Would it make a difference if your mate’s job was in the adult entertainment industry and they were actually performing sexual acts? Fellas, could you date a girl that wrote about all her wild sexcapades in graphic detail? Ladies, could you date me…and my blog?

Speak your piece…

BONUS

For those that missed it, I did another piece for Essence.com yesterday where I moderated a battle of the sexes about the 10 Things Men Don't Understand About Women. Be sure to CLICK HERE to read it and drop a few comments over there. Be on the lookout for the raw transcripts later in the week.

UPDATE: Video interview of yours truly along with fellow sexpert Chia of the Gettin' Kinky With Chia radio show talking about this very subject on SocialLicks.com. Enjoy!

Tagged as: blogging, boyfriend, dating, girlfriend, jealousy, Relationships/Sex

Octavia

Its the price you pay with a public figure. If you can't handle it don't get involved because its really not fair to ask or expect someone one to change what made them who they are. I'm sure a man isn't going to intentionally disrespect his girl (you don't seem like that anyways) but that past shouldn't be a factor.Its work/entertainment.
dime_diva_dee26

I applaud you! I can see how it mite make you blush to tell an "ex-story" up front, but at least some how, some way it's out there. Yet, I do see how it can make a girl feel a bit uncomfortable her girls talking about her man sexually AND THEY KNOW HE LOOK GOOD! Lol! When YOU find the 1 her insecurities will be buried in the love she shows/gives to you regardless!
July

I am with your friend Natalie I don't think I could do it coz I really don't think its fair to ask somebody to change just because you are now in a relationship. You have to be willing to take them as the are and the thought of other people knowing the explicit detail of your partners sexual expoilts (past or even worse present) and the inner workings of his mind just takes away something...
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/gettinkinky Gettin Kinky w/ Chia

Great topic! From a female perspective, almost every time I tell a guy I have a sex talk show it becomes all about sex.
When its not though, secretly I hope a guy I date doesn't listen to the show, but if he did, he would get to know me a lot quicker.
I think it would be interesting to date a guy with a sex show or blog, because I think people who feel comfortable talking about sex and other important issues lessen their chances of relationship problems.As long as he talked to me about the issues before he publicised them I would be fine with it.
To be honest,its difficult asking a guy I'm in a fresh relationship with if he minds if I talk about it live every week in front of thousands of people. But most guys who have cared about me didn't mind, because I'm not raunchy with it, and discretion is valued.
I <3 NakedWithSocksOn.com
*kisses
Chia
da ThRONe

I could careless if my girl talk about our relationship as long as I got the heads up(no pun intended). Seriously who cares what other people think I know I dont. I wanna know everything about the girl I choose to be with anyways. Clearly I wouldnt choose to make my personal life public but if thats her job than oh well and I would hope she would be eqaully supportive if the tables where to ever turned around.

When Ans did his blog on "Deal Breakers" it just farther proved that people can manifest some dumb reasons to not find happiness in others and this just sounds like one. If you lucky enough to find somebody who attractive, respectful, unselfish and above all that makes you feel good to be around them dont over think things. "Mr./Ms. Right is only right for Ms./Mr. Right ,but as long as you contiune to behave like Mr./Ms. Wrong even Ms./Mr. Right will always be Mr./Ms. Wrong to you!"
Belle

Belle is ALWAYS a problem with whomever I'm dating... and I don't even write about sex.
Elle

I'm with Throne: Idungivafugg about what others think of me.

There is no shame in what I do, who I am and the like. So if my man wrote about us or me in his blog chances are people who know me would know these things already or - if the story was somewhat private - they would understand the dynamics because they know how I function.

As a matter of fact, if he wrote about our dealings I could gain an insight into his reasoning in a different way than a conversation allows me to. Maybe that way I would be able to understand better where he is coming from. On top of that, I would know other people's opinion which in fact may put things into perspective for me and help me realize that my standpoint was wrong/stubborn/closed minded/etc.

Besides, men with elaborate vocabularies are sooooo sexy to begin with - so all in all, I'd date a blogger and his blog.
distinguishedgentlewoman

Any woman/man worth having loves and appreciates their S.O. for who and what they are. And there's nothing wrong with intelligence and creativity. Not everyone can express themselves the way we do. It's a gift, not a curse. You are a writer, therefore you write. And if you choose to write about aspects of your life, past and present, then that's you. Unless she went into the relationship with a blindfold on and you hid the fact that you have this
blog, she has to respect that or bounce. She came into the relationship knowing that you sometimes shed your layers and enjoy being Naked With Socks On. Why change a good thing?
JuicyLove

I 'm sure I would be alright with it. How can you say I LOVE YOU now CHANGE! I hate that, I also wanted to thank you for writing he's just not feeling you in Essence I had just kicked one to the curb who displayed every thing and I mean everything you talked about I should be more careful next time and don't let take two and a half years to get out back and forth wasting time my time. Keep Up The Great Work,
Tania

I think that if someone met you and this is what you do than that should not matter. Its just like strippers. You cant expect to meet a stripper and because you wife her up expect her to stop. thats how you met an accepted her. So if you can't take what I do then you cant be with me.
Quanea

I think what you do is great. I think if she can see the messages you send and know your motive behind your work i am sure she will be fine. I am okay with it, your not being a pervert. I am also okay with dating exotic dancers. I would have a problem dating escorts though, i do have to draw the line. I don't know would be more uncomfortable sitting at the table with mom and grandma knowing they read your blog or what you write in your blog. I feel as if family and friends are reading it for interest then its okay, since they feel the need to login or google it everyday to see what is next then they can handle it. But if they are not even reading it then what would be the problem.
Trenton

As long as the cards are on the table, everything is up front and in the open at the start of the relationship then there should be no problem with you being who you are and doing what you do. You can't change the game in the 9th inning.
Hipnotiqbrowneyes

This is a great discussion. Personally, I wouldn't mind my boyfriend having a blog about his personal dealings with PAST women. Hell, it actually would spare me the anguish of finding the right time/way to ask him about his past experiences.

I also agree with the comment about you not telling HER business, you are telling YOUR business. When I was in undergrad, a dude that I dated would trip if he found out I was talkin' to my friends about us, "I don't want my business out there like that". Don't flatter yaself pimpin' YOU are not the topic of the conversation (or blog), I am.
Chocopina

it wouldn't bother me at all if my man had a blog that talked about his past experiences. i wouldn't care if my friends read it and disapproved. i'd be happy that my man was comfortable enough in sharing these experiences and find a way to learn from them. to me that would be a sign that communication is a strong suit for him, and i would absolutely love that!

the only thing that would cause me to be upset is if i had to learn some news about my man from the blog. or worse one of my friends read something on there that i didn't already know about and call me with details. yeah that wouldn't be cute.

so as long as whatever he puts in the blog has been discussed between us prior to posting i'd be good. not that he would have to check in with me to see if i approved, but just so that i wouldn't be caught out there if he posted something and i couldn't have his back on it because i didn't know about the situation.
Soulyn

I would def date a blogger. I love it when a man can express himself so freely. That would be a plus for me. Especially if I'm getting to know the guy, it allows me to see different sides of him and delve a little more into his life.

My family would not view my mate negatively based on what they wrote. As long as I'm happy that's all that matters to them.

Dating someone in the adult entertainment industry is another story. I couldn't do it. Just the thought of sleeping with other women for a living turns me off. I don't believe in sharing. Period.
Sweetness

@NWSO Did you mean to say: Would you be jealous or think that they were "fantasizing" about ex lovers?
Sweetness

To answer your question, yes, I could date you and your blog. I think your blog is wonderful. I'm a very private person, but I would deal with it because you are helping so many people by sharing your stories.
http://www.mstrecie.com MsTrecie

If a woman can't accept what her man is doing *legally* then she doesn't need to be present anyways. A strong woman is one who doesn't expect a man to change just because she stepped in the picture. If she can't love you with your blog, she can't love you without it....because that is who you are. Everyone has a past, everyone talks about it...some just in other forms; however, this blog is so much more than that...it isn't a gossip blog or a 'hate' blog, it is a blog that gives people real life situations and real comments and opinions. GET WIT' IT OR MOVE ON!

I am sure you can find a girl that will love you and your blog.
YoungJay

Mary J. Blige said it best....."Take Me As I Am, Or Have Nothing At All"....IMHO either im the right one for you or im not, there is def no fudging the issue.
Simoneis2good4u

To me it would depend on what you are writing about. Meaning, if you were talking about your past that would be fine. If you were talking about a disagreement we had and you wanted opinions that's also fine as i would also like to see or hear different opinions. If you put me on blast in a really negative way- hell naw.
Just-a-black-girl!

I'd date a blogger as long as it was agreed that my/our business did not appear in the blog - I'd need this in writing...LMAO

He would be free to blog about past relationships and wot not but not a blow by blow account of our relationship. She said this readers, she did this readers or situations that were obviously about our current relationship but are badly disguished as otherwise...like a Dear nakedwithoutsocks letter or...my friend's girl did this readers what do you think...state your piece...that would not be cool!!
kathie

I could definitely date you and your blog, why because it makes our lives interesting and i'm the type of person that likes to be in the limelight sort of. I mean I would read it and comment about it if you tweeked things or if I didnt fully agree with what you wrote. I mean whynot, everything is public now because of all these social networking websites, for instance. On facebook, if you break up with your significant other, some people change their status to being in a relationship to single, or they change their status to how they're feeling about that certain someone or they put that persons business on blast if they're pissed off enough. We are all on in the public scope, though blogs are just more out there in your face.
It would be cool until you crossed the line. . . .
paulettebajangal

I had a dream a few weeks back where I went on a date with you and the 1st thing I said to you was "do not write about this on your blog"...lmao.

But on the real...I wrote jokingly about an incident with a former lover on Myspace and he deleted me from his friend's list.He was pissed that I put it out there...even though I didn't use his name.For that reason...I tend not to have anyone I'm dating on my friend's list cause I like to write revealing blogs too so I can get advice from my close friends.

It's a double edged sword.Especially when you don't consult with the person you're gonna be talking about and they read it later.

I don't know if I could date someone that does what you do for a living....I would feel like every encounter would be food for your website.As much as I air my dirty laundry on here and Facebook...I don't expect thousands of strangers to hear my boyfriend/date let the world know exactly what color underwear I wore on Monday and how often I doggie style it.
Nikkki J

First of all, WHERE do you find these pictures? lol

I understand where your girl Natalie is coming from with the "I don't want to be looked at side ways" but I also see your point of "this is what I done did before you so.." but in the end I feel like this:

I wouldn't ask him to delete old posts, that would be silly. But I would have a conversation along the lines of "we are together now and what you do reflects me - vice a versa- and we should be mindful of putting "our" business out there". Either way it's can be a little something extra for EVERYONE to know virtually ALL of your man's business. It kind of takes away some of the "this is my man" feelings when there are other females who read the blog on a daily basis over coffee and know you just as well as and in some cases more than me.

In conclusion, I agree with your boy that you might have to tone it down and/or make slight adaptations if you ever settle down. Not everyone can get a supposedly former sKripper girl like Kayne.. lol

Good luck.
idungiveafugg

As a female, I must say this would definitely bother me. But I'm also a very private person, I do like to keep some things personal. I mean anything we wouldn't do in public, I expect you to keep to yourself.Period
sixfiguresisters

My remedy for this: Code names, code names. Protect the innocent.
almost famous

Okay let me first say..I love that picture...I am going to reenact that picture with my guy Women need to be more secure. I wouldn't care less if my man put his business or even our business on his blog. His blog is his business., his business is putting food on the table then why would I care. I am a good getter so whatever works. If my friends have something to say that means they read the blog which means more hits...which means more ad dollars. I am just saying. Even if his blog was for fun..why not. What is privacy anyway, people talk about you all day long...why not just putting it out there. Life is too short to care about the small things and this is so small in comparison to much bigger issues. Oh yea if my man brings up his past sex relationship, I don't care because I am secure in my bed room skills....my man had a life before he met me and so did I.
angel

I could date your blog, but not you.
paulettebajangal

lmao @ angel.damn...that's cut and dry.
http://nwso.net NWSO

@Elle

I think you say that now. You know once emotions get involved it's a whole different ball game. If you were mad at your mate for some BS, the last thing you'd want is to see the story broken down online 24 hours later to get outside opinions. Maybe when you've calmed down and detached yourself from situation but in heat of the moment i could see someone getting tight. But that would be on the blogger/boyfriend to know better than to dig that ditch

@Sweetness

Thanx, good catch

@sixfiguresister

I always change names unless there's a reason why I need to identify the person, but if people knew who my girl was the code name wouldn't mean much in our immediate circle. And even if it was anonymous, from my experience people always feel a way about seeing something about them on front street.
mine jaz

ID HIT! LMAO! really though i can understand y a women would worry in case they became an ex and therfore ended up in a blog but still aslong as you spoke with me before u wrote the blog that may be putting my bussiness out there [if were still speaking at the time] i wouldnt care this is wat u do so u do it and if the gurl cant hang she cant hang
da ThRONe

I just cant understand why anybody would care. Once again Im not the type of person who like to field personal questions but I know how to shut stuff down. If I dont wanna deal with it a simple "Im not talking about it" kills all that. And then you just dont talk about it. Honestly there arent to many things that I do that I feel is just so personal I cant address them because I dont do many things I cant discuss. That's kinda of my guidelines in life if I find myself doing something I wouldnt be able to discuss theres a real good chance I shouldnt be doing it.
http://www.myspace.com/2twinztrina She-Hulk

In my opinion a blog is a creative outlet for the author, and it is completely up to them what they write in it. I don't believe someone can enter any type of relationship and expect the other to change who they are and what they do EXCEPT maybe to change for the better.

To answer the question, I'm pretty open, so I personally wouldn't be bothered, especially knowing from the jump that's what they do. I would try to make it a point to become a fan! What better way to express your appreciation of your S.O. or friend than to show your support? As far as what other people think, let them think! Only you know what really happened, and best believe it's happened to AT LEAST 6 other people you know. People have been living and doing and learning for a very long time now, so I really don't think there's much that we should be embarassed about anymore.

Now, dating someone that performs sexual acts....I dunno bout all dat. That would be a step by step situation, I think for me...I don't really like sharing....
http://itsjustgoldie.vox.com goldie

@NikkiJ "First of all, WHERE do you find these pictures? lol" Word!
http://itsjustgoldie.vox.com goldie

I said on another topic, 'date me, date my social network.' Blog included.

Long as I'm not blind-sided ("OMG. You wrote about that? You told me it was normal!"), I like to believe I'd be level headed.

I wrote an entry about the moments I realized my X was not good for me and he called me about it some months later. Was an interesting convo. I wondered how that inevitable moment of real life meshing with my neurosis/blog would play out.

And it wasn't bad.

But then again, I told him I'd been writing for a minute so he wasn't blind-sided. That's key.

I could date you+your blog. Our blogs could make blog babies. Or we could play it safe and wrap it up with firewalls.
http://divateesthoughts.blogspot.com/ Tee aka The Diva’s Thoughts

I would not mind his writing at all. I blog as well so I understand the pull of blogging.

I just would not tell any of my friends about his blog. lol
LL

I might be more concerned about writing about family matters than previous mate matters.

I am not sure I would be comfortable with a mate writing about our sex life........either.

Not everyone should know what goes on in our bedroom......of if he is creative enough do so in way that they couldn't Identify who he was talking about.

However.........I would be interested in how he would feel if I were to write about our sex life.

Or NWSO how would you feel if your mate(should you have one) were to write about your sex life for the world to read about?

There you might find the question answered.
Carla

I would have to conditions. don't use my real name or my picture. Other than that I would not want to stifle his creativity because I would not allow him to do it to me.

But I could care less what my friends think. That is the problem alot people have worrying what some one else is going to think. You are doing something you love and you are honest about it. The right woman will understand and support what you do. Trust me.
knappi

I think that if you have to have certain conditions, you probably shouldn't date someone with a blog.
Dr. BluInBK

If my future mate can deal with me and all my issues, then I can deal with him and his blog. It is like a man/woman with a child(ren). You knew that they had the kid when you met him/her, so it should not be a problem when you actually have to meet the kid or start dating the person. People would be surprised that they are missing out on a great individual just for some BS.
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=47402596659#/home.php?ref=home Jenn Perez

Goldie: You have me LMAO in class right now!! I almost choked on a chuckle!!!

NWSO: i love your blog and although you have quite a bit of sexual topics, you get open in a tasteful and tactful manner. It's usually hard to get a dude to open up, but with you~it's a breeze!! I'm all about being open and honest and throwing it all on the table. That's whats wrong w/ some pple these days ~ lack of or No communcation ~
http://nwso.net NWSO

@ LL

Over the past few years I've learned that I can't look at things from my perspective because my mind works completely different than everyone else's so how I deal with situations is not how most people would. I'm rational to a fault.

People been asking me this all day and I have the same answer, I wouldn't have a problem with a female I was seeing wrote about same stuff I did because I do the same thing. How can I ever be mad or upset at something I do or have done? That's just hypocritical.

The only exception is if my girl was writing about butt plugs and guzzling semen. While I'd enjoy that freaky side in the bedroom, I'd prefer it'd stay there than publicized where my boys/family would look at her crazy. But if I was doing the same thing then there really wouldn't be a problem.
SweetNae

It may take a very special lady who is totally secure with herself to be able to understand her place in your life in comparison to you blogging. No person can enter a relationship with hopes of changing you or what you do. Many women may not be ok with it. Those women should be honest with you and themself about the blog being a distraction prior to forming a commited relationship.

Personally if I had a connection with you then I would not have a problem with it.
Marley

Well honestly everyone has a past and almost everyone I know is doing some type of blogging its 2009. As far as dating someone who is blogging about our "sex life" or their own what's the big deal. No one has to know its me their doing it with. And if my man does it for a living how can I be upset about it when I met him while he was doing it. @ NWSO I could date you and your blog you speak your mind and tell it like it is. How can anyone be mad at that? Mad respect to you...I can't understand why sex is still such a taboo among adults its ok being honest what's wrong with that. I haven't been folowing your blog for to long, but time that I have I haven't had any problems with the things you say. And anyone who does shouldn't be on it. Your woman should be comfortable about everything about you including your job no matter how good or bad it is, as long as your up front with her about. If your future lady can't accept this part of you then maybe she isn't worthy.

*peace and love*

Marley
Me me Me

Dang a guy with a blog could be nice, as long as every detail about us isnt posted, and he let me know if he was going 2 put something up that could possibly jeopardize our relationship,...dating a guy with a blog could be fun... HMMMMM as long as he's not like the guy in the picture, I want quailty booty time and he's 2 busy writing while I need to get tha business... IDK... write ur blog and the right woman will come that will be able to handle u and your blog....
PeachesNPuddin (formerly NuB)

NSWO

love the blog ...
love the imagery even more.
keep doing your ''thizzle'' lol

peace n salutations
Ru-Sel

I'd date you and your blog. I also blog. Writing and expressing myself through words are a must and an attractive quality in others (to me, anyway). I guess in a scenario where a blog was too personal, I would say so and try to keep it movin. A lot of my blogs/poems are very personal but I post them for strangers to gander. Blogging is what you do, I can dig it!

Thas my peace
Elle

@NWSO

Although I see where you are coming from, I disagree.

In my life there really are no "heat of the moment" type arguments. I simply do not function like that. Problems or issues are being approached in a very rational way. Actually, I was once compared to Spock or Data which is not that off if I am being honest. The same way some people explode in an argument and do things they normally wouldn't do, I am the kind of person who "implodes" so to speak and starts analyzing and rationalizing while blocking all emotions out.
Ergo: A blog would be a great way for me to analyze situations from different angles.

So yea ... you made me spill my beans and made me save money I would have otherwise probably have to spend for therapy one day.
Geoforie

I'm not concerned about what others think. If my man had a blog and our relationship came up in the discussion, so be it. It's his life too. I am NOT ashamed of what I do. Wouldn't want to be a celebrity... but, if I read something about he and I, it might be HOT!!!!!!!!
The_RYL

Personally, I love a man who thinks . . . and can actually have a discussion about those thoughts . . . PRICELESS!

To converse on all types of topics, to be able to see what one is like for real, not just the surface props, would be a wonderful treat for me.

If he were a blogger, I wouldn't have a problem with that; his imagination is always flowing and he will have a pipeline to new/different ideas and views. I'd just ask for discretion where our exploits are concerned. But, you never know, to air out situations for all to see, may just add spice to your life!
bogart4017

Seems like i've seen this one before...
http://nwso.net NWSO

@bogart

Seen, what the main flick? I used it before back in January, but as for the actual post I just wrote the other day so impossible, unless someone wrote about the same thing.
LL

I getcha
da ThRONe

@Elle

The more you type the more I love you baby! The Data and Spock reference was beautiful. And Im the same way as far as being almost computer like in my thinking process.
Cchery

First off, where the hell do you find these pictures? As you know Ans, I do a little blogging myself from time to time. I actually stopped writing about particular episodes with women because I felt it was unfair, even if it's anonymous. You can still figure it out, you know? God knows I'd be pissed if I found out some chick blogged about me. I don't think I'd like it if my girl blogged about all the dudes she's been with in the past. I don't know, Ans. Good luck with that one.
http://www.nubiamag.com Cari

My girls and I have a blog called Nubiamag.com, focused on fashion, beauty and lifestyle. But in my opinion the best posts are those that have a personal experience attached. So I agree with you, writing is who you are and it gets the message across. I have learned a few things from your posts about men and what men think of women. I honestly don't see anything wrong with it. I mean the sex posts are real and it's life. So Kudos to you and any woman that gets with you should know that you come with your blog .
DragonFly

I'm a very private person (I don't have a myspace or facebook cause either you're in my life or you're not) and anything that I do online is always anonymous or under an indecipherable screen name...so, yeah...probably wouldn't be feeling it. I'm too much of a recluse.
yoly

i personally do not have a problem with it...i think the problem comes from being insecure...this is your blog so for me to date you that is our business...you dont have to put my name if you decide to talk about our relationship....and the only way people will be so into my business is if i start stuntin like im the one writing the blog..lol...and your past makes you and has absolutly nothing to do with any future relationships...and who wouldnt want to be with a guy who knows how to express himself which eliminates the guessing games...it all boils down to how secure you are as a person and if you weigh your life choices on what people will think you will drive yourself crazy....just think atleast with you its no secret...and yea i would continue to read...that would be ignorant and set yourself up for the ya man did or said such and such mean while you have no idea what they are talking about
single23

As a woman who likes to write, I would so date you. I like the insights that you give through your stories and the introspect you cause with your questions. honestly, I wouldn't change your blog, you could definitely write whatever you like, even if its about us. Some people may say that's airing dirty laundry, but I feel this is you. I don't want you filtered, so keep doing it. I wouldn't really care about a heads up or not, it would be nice, but for whatever reason inspiration hits at times where I may not be reachable (I have a life as well). The reason I wouldn't say don't write about us, is because someone could benefit from the knowledge that comes from our situation, so write about us if you want. I just hope if its about a negative thing, I would get a heads up. Seeing how that whenever I am upset with a person they get a letter (I find it hard to verbalize what I am thinking and feeling, so I need it written down to make sense of it all), so I wouldn't care about it being posted without my knowing. Just know that the conversation is coming whether you want it or not. lol

There are some people that say they wouldn't read it and I kind of understand that too. Its short of like reading your diary. But I would keep reading it, because my mother said things written are meant to be read, so if you didn't want me to know about it, you definitely wouldn't have written it, much less posted it.
Ms. Phat Booty

I don't think I could date you and your blog. I've learned the hard way, the best way to make a relationship work is to keep what's going on in the relationship between the two people in the relationship. You revealing what makes you tick; turn ons and turn offs on your blog in my opinion is like living in the hood and leaving your keys in your front door. Plus there are too many women getting open from your writing (known and unknown to you --> the internet can be a scary thing sometimes); I would hate to be attacked by a crazy chick like Ms. "Hello Futuuurrrrre" while out with you. I've dated a few C list celebrities and I did not enjoy the shade from the women and the constant interruptions while out.

I really enjoy your writing however you would definitely be one of my cool male friends that I can shoot the shit with about everythang and anythang.