Comments on: Should Women Ask Men Out? (Fear of Rejection) http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/ The award-winning blog covering relationships and hot button issues from an honest perspective Thu, 17 May 2012 13:49:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Bill Wakeham http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-37659 Bill Wakeham Fri, 06 May 2011 18:38:47 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-37659 Yes they are obviously. Thats why they dont ask blokes out. They just give excuses to get out of it, like "oh its not our job". The fact is, they want an equal world, apart from........................... Yes they are obviously. Thats why they dont ask blokes out. They just give excuses to get out of it, like "oh its not our job". The fact is, they want an equal world, apart from...........................

]]> By: dave http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-32811 dave Sun, 06 Feb 2011 21:24:02 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-32811 Ms. Lolita baby- Many women, like yourself, so enjoy that double standard.Gee, that's fair! Ms. Lolita baby- Many women, like yourself, so enjoy that double
standard.Gee, that's fair!

]]> By: dave http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-32810 dave Sun, 06 Feb 2011 21:22:11 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-32810 Hey single 23 - You seem to enjoy double standards.Gee, that's fair! Hey single 23 - You seem to enjoy double standards.Gee, that's fair!

]]> By: dave http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-32809 dave Sun, 06 Feb 2011 21:20:35 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-32809 Ms. Anonymous - I KNOW that you are not as ugly as I am, as I am a 40 year old guy without ever kissing a girl, but at least you admit to some of the discomfort of having to make the first move.Usually, women will never admit that. Take care. Ms. Anonymous - I KNOW that you are not as ugly as I am, as I am a
40 year old guy without ever kissing a girl, but at least you admit to some of the discomfort of having to make the first move.Usually,
women will never admit that. Take care.

]]> By: dave http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-32808 dave Sun, 06 Feb 2011 21:15:04 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-32808 Ms. Keke - Great article on your dating experiences! I, as a guy, never got "used to rejection" and got out of the game, but at least you seem to appreciate the hassle. Best wishes! Ms. Keke - Great article on your dating experiences! I, as a guy, never got "used to rejection" and got out of the game, but at least
you seem to appreciate the hassle. Best wishes!

]]> By: dave http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-32807 dave Sun, 06 Feb 2011 21:06:13 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-32807 Ms Just a Black Girl - .After all of these "civil" rejections, I am a guy and I will not be approaching any more women in this lifetime either.Nice to have the advantage, isnt it? Ms Just a Black Girl - .After all of these "civil" rejections, I am a guy and I will not be approaching any more women in this lifetime either.Nice to have the advantage, isnt it?

]]> By: dave http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-32806 dave Sun, 06 Feb 2011 21:02:44 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-32806 Distinguishedgentlewoman - Welcome to the world of having your "ego" smashed by rejection.At least you are one woman honest enough (oxymoron?) to admit it. Thank you for that! Distinguishedgentlewoman - Welcome to the world of having your "ego" smashed by rejection.At least you are one woman honest enough (oxymoron?) to admit it. Thank you for that!

]]> By: Ana http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6885 Ana Mon, 26 Apr 2010 22:38:06 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6885 Initially women have more power when it comes to dating, but an insanely handsome muscular man has WAY more power than a beautiful women, because he can have sex with 10 girls a night. Women do not generally pursue sex with multiple men. So a really hot stud jock guy has a much higher social standing than a hot chick. Initially women have more power when it comes to dating, but an insanely handsome muscular man has WAY more power than a beautiful women, because he can have sex with 10 girls a night. Women do not generally pursue sex with multiple men. So a really hot stud jock guy has a much higher social standing than a hot chick.

]]> By: Do Aggressive Women Get More Dates? (She Asked Him Out) « What Idiot Thought of That? http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6884 Do Aggressive Women Get More Dates? (She Asked Him Out) « What Idiot Thought of That? Fri, 26 Feb 2010 16:14:44 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6884 [...] Do Aggressive Women Get More Dates? (She Asked Him Out) A lot of women often complain about not being able to find a good man or only being approached by jerks. A while back I suggested that the ladies just flip the script and actually do the do the man’s job. For the most part, female readers balked at the idea because they were just SCARED OF REJECTION. [...] [...] Do Aggressive Women Get More Dates? (She Asked Him Out) A lot of women often complain about not being able to find a good man or only being approached by jerks. A while back I suggested that the ladies just flip the script and actually do the do the man’s job. For the most part, female readers balked at the idea because they were just SCARED OF REJECTION. [...]

]]> By: To Attract Girls http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6883 To Attract Girls Mon, 25 Jan 2010 15:42:56 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6883 Absofreakinglutely. Just the act of approaching a guy at all disarms him and you usually get to see the real guy and not the one who has to build himself up just to get the courage to approach a girl. Absofreakinglutely.
Just the act of approaching a guy at all disarms him and you usually get to see the real guy and not the one who has to build himself up just to get the courage to approach a girl.

]]> By: Rules of Engagement: How To Approach a Man | FreshXpress.:.The PULSE of Young Black America http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6882 Rules of Engagement: How To Approach a Man | FreshXpress.:.The PULSE of Young Black America Thu, 19 Nov 2009 10:10:41 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6882 [...] in April, I wrote a post called “Should Women Ask Men Out? (Fear of Rejection).” For those that missed it, the basic premise was that when it comes to courtship all the [...] [...] in April, I wrote a post called “Should Women Ask Men Out? (Fear of Rejection).” For those that missed it, the basic premise was that when it comes to courtship all the [...]

]]> By: neo the one http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6881 neo the one Fri, 28 Aug 2009 02:01:34 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6881 good post.... as a guy you do have to put yourself out there a whoe lot and face rejection... I know of some females when i was in college that got a kick out of rejecting guys. Did not matter approach, style.... even if they were attracted... they just liked that hard to get approach... I found out the hard way..... shorte turned me down and in a nut shell i turned it into a joke which infuriated her (I forgot what I said)..... weeks later i ran into her and we eventually became friends.... well I had to find out why she didnt like me and she told me the story above.... I love when a woman approaches me..... its such a high...... even if im not interested I still am polite and engage in conversation while reassuring her that she should try that approach again.. To be honest... woman have a higher success rate at approaching 1st over men so they should do it more: I'm tired of hearing women talking about the wrong men approaching them or attracting the wrong ones... step your game up and approach someone!! good post.... as a guy you do have to put yourself out there a whoe lot and face rejection... I know of some females when i was in college that got a kick out of rejecting guys. Did not matter approach, style.... even if they were attracted... they just liked that hard to get approach... I found out the hard way..... shorte turned me down and in a nut shell i turned it into a joke which infuriated her (I forgot what I said)..... weeks later i ran into her and we eventually became friends.... well I had to find out why she didnt like me and she told me the story above....

I love when a woman approaches me..... its such a high...... even if im not interested I still am polite and engage in conversation while reassuring her that she should try that approach again..

To be honest... woman have a higher success rate at approaching 1st over men so they should do it more: I'm tired of hearing women talking about the wrong men approaching them or attracting the wrong ones... step your game up and approach someone!!

]]> By: Moni http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6880 Moni Fri, 08 May 2009 02:52:28 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6880 I did it, twice. I was stoop up both times. I think men are afraid of it.Some say it's intimidating. Men say women don't make the first move & when we do, they get scared. I did it, twice. I was stoop up both times. I think men are afraid of it.Some say it's intimidating. Men say women don't make the first move & when we do, they get scared.

]]> By: jjgirl http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6879 jjgirl Thu, 07 May 2009 00:04:01 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6879 I'm very shy and introverted, and I would never ask a guy out, no matter how much I liked him. My crippling fear of rejection causes me to use the method of 'never-let-him-know-you-like-him-ever-and-hide-in-the-corner-and-eventually-try-to-forget-about-him' which I know is a ridiculous way to go about it but at least that way I don't have to face rejection! Also I tend to find that men act like asses when they find out someone likes them - I was shot down cruelly and humiliatingly the last time anyone found out lol. However I must face that this is what keeps me single. However I do think it's very admirable when a woman can ask a man out, and I think men are pretty brave to ask women out on a regular basis. I couldn't! I'm very shy and introverted, and I would never ask a guy out, no matter how much I liked him. My crippling fear of rejection causes me to use the method of 'never-let-him-know-you-like-him-ever-and-hide-in-the-corner-and-eventually-try-to-forget-about-him'
which I know is a ridiculous way to go about it but at least that way I don't have to face rejection! Also I tend to find that men act like asses when they find out someone likes them - I was shot down cruelly and humiliatingly the last time anyone found out lol. However I must face that this is what keeps me single.

However I do think it's very admirable when a woman can ask a man out, and I think men are pretty brave to ask women out on a regular basis. I couldn't!

]]> By: seemthedream http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6878 seemthedream Sun, 03 May 2009 21:47:06 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6878 Personally, I really do think it is a numbers game! Actually, my mother gave me that advice. The more you get out there.... one of these days it will pan out. Can a woman ask a man out? Of course. With that said... I have never asked a man out. Personally, I really do think it is a numbers game! Actually, my mother gave me that advice. The more you get out there.... one of these days it will pan out.

Can a woman ask a man out? Of course.

With that said... I have never asked a man out.

]]> By: 100K http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6877 100K Sat, 02 May 2009 05:53:42 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6877 Women definitely have the upper hand for the most part. With that comes more responsibility about sexual activity. We men dont choose to have sex with women; they choose to have sex with us. In that case, women do have a right to be selective. Unless a dude is totally charismatic and can recognize that he can go past rejection, he'll never have the upper hand. Me personally, I dont even give a damn anymore. I've had females approach me and it's a bit of an experience...but when you live in NYC, nothing really throws you for a loop. I'm 22 and I was more of the cerebral type throughout my life so I've had my share of "no". Another thing is chasing women. I dont believe in that. If we kick it we kick it. f I have to run through volcanos, i aint with it. Esp if the grand prize is wack. Women definitely have the upper hand for the most part. With that comes more responsibility about sexual activity. We men dont choose to have sex with women; they choose to have sex with us. In that case, women do have a right to be selective.

Unless a dude is totally charismatic and can recognize that he can go past rejection, he'll never have the upper hand.

Me personally, I dont even give a damn anymore. I've had females approach me and it's a bit of an experience...but when you live in NYC, nothing really throws you for a loop. I'm 22 and I was more of the cerebral type throughout my life so I've had my share of "no".

Another thing is chasing women. I dont believe in that. If we kick it we kick it. f I have to run through volcanos, i aint with it. Esp if the grand prize is wack.

]]> By: LolitaBaby http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6876 LolitaBaby Sat, 02 May 2009 05:42:42 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6876 I already that know the type of man that I would want is someone who isn't afraid to take the challenge of just gathering his balls and just asking me what's good. But if I felt like homie wasn't really sure if I was feeling him or not, I'ma just put it out there. The worst either of us could say is no. I already that know the type of man that I would want is someone who isn't afraid to take the challenge of just gathering his balls and just asking me what's good. But if I felt like homie wasn't really sure if I was feeling him or not, I'ma just put it out there. The worst either of us could say is no.

]]> By: Cchery http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6875 Cchery Sat, 02 May 2009 04:30:26 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6875 I love being approached by women. It is sexy. From experience, they're always so much slicker and more original than men in their approach. Women definitely hold more power. They may not always approach, but for the most part, they'll give you little hints when they're interested, at which point it's on you to step to the plate. But you're right, we don't always read the signs. God knows I tend to be illiterate. I love being approached by women. It is sexy. From experience, they're always so much slicker and more original than men in their approach. Women definitely hold more power. They may not always approach, but for the most part, they'll give you little hints when they're interested, at which point it's on you to step to the plate. But you're right, we don't always read the signs. God knows I tend to be illiterate.

]]> By: Ru-Sel http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6874 Ru-Sel Fri, 01 May 2009 23:14:42 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6874 I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman asking a man out. I have, and been rejected just like men have been. There are a couple of guys I would like to ask out right now but I am a little apprehensive because one is a co-worker, the other is a known poet who I super dig. I am afraid to take any further action with the poet for fear that he will not reciprocate it...and yes, I did stop him in the parking lot one night and asked for his number. The co-worker seems really shy so I introduced myself to him. Not sure if anything will come of that though. My male friend says that in "general" men do not want to be asked out by women and I am turning them off by asking. I don't know, I consider myself to be an open-minded woman which is why I don't see any problem with asking someone to take a chance and get to know you better in a different environment if there is obvious and mutual flirting/interest/communication. That's my peace I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman asking a man out. I have, and been rejected just like men have been. There are a couple of guys I would like to ask out right now but I am a little apprehensive because one is a co-worker, the other is a known poet who I super dig. I am afraid to take any further action with the poet for fear that he will not reciprocate it...and yes, I did stop him in the parking lot one night and asked for his number. The co-worker seems really shy so I introduced myself to him. Not sure if anything will come of that though. My male friend says that in "general" men do not want to be asked out by women and I am turning them off by asking. I don't know, I consider myself to be an open-minded woman which is why I don't see any problem with asking someone to take a chance and get to know you better in a different environment if there is obvious and mutual flirting/interest/communication.

That's my peace

]]> By: bogart4017 http://nwso.net/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/#comment-6873 bogart4017 Fri, 01 May 2009 19:49:31 +0000 http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/?p=1791#comment-6873 A woman approaching a man is fine---we're all adults, right. Fear of rejection is so high school. Keep moving. I'm sure i've been rejected more than twice in my life but i only remember those two (one was new to this country and didn't know what a date was and the other was a muslim who didn't go to dances. High School--what're ya gonna do?). The next one comes along and you're off to the races! A woman approaching a man is fine---we're all adults, right. Fear of rejection is so high school. Keep moving. I'm sure i've been rejected more than twice in my life but i only remember those two (one was new to this country and didn't know what a date was and the other was a muslim who didn't go to dances. High School--what're ya gonna do?). The next one comes along and you're off to the races!

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