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How Sexy Can Cooking Be? (Turning Up the Heat)

Posted by NWSO • June 4, 2009 • Printer-friendly

They say that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. While that might not be completely true (you gotta stimulate the mind, body and soul), a woman that can work her way around a stove can be sexist sexy as hell. Over the years, I’ve discovered that the same holds true for a man that knows how to get his Chef Homeboy R Gee on, too. Ladies seem to love a brother that can cook.

Now, I’m not one to toot my own horn, but I’ve been known to chef up a dish or two in my time (I get it from my mama). I’m far from being the next Emeril Lagasse, but I’m not the average guy claiming he can “cook” only to bust out with some Ramen noodles, Hot Pockets or microwaveable pizza. Nah, I put my pots and pans to work on the regular—especially since we’re in a recession and a home cooked meal saves major funds.

While curry chicken/shrimp, tuna casserole, Italian turkey sausages remain in regular rotation on my at home menu, my increased stove time has forced me to mix it up and try a few different things in the kitchen besides THIS. A few weeks back, I saw that the local supermarket had “manicotti” on sale. To be completely honest, I had no idea what the hell manicotti was (CLICK HERE), I just figured it was some big ass pasta and at 79 cents a box I could give it a try. I skimmed the recipe on the box and bought the extra ingredients I didn’t already have on stash (i.e. ricotta cheese). A few days later I pulled off a pretty tasty dish, IMHO. Unfortunately, I can’t say the same for my stab at making fried calamari a few weeks later. Hey, they had squid on sale. It’s not that it didn’t turn out that bad, but it’s not something I’d serve to a guest just yet—frying just isn’t my strong point.

The other day, my homegirl Trisha and I got into a discussion about cooking when she asked what my signature dish was. I guess I’d have to say that’d have to be lasagna. In fact, one of my exes once told me that my lasagna was so good that’s why she slept with me for the first time. True story. We had been dating for about a month or so and she called me on the fly one night, asking what I was doing. “Making lasagna,” I said. Doubting that I, a mere man, could make such a “complex” dish, she invited herself over for dinner. She got a taste of my secret sauce and by the end of the night I was taking off Vickie’s Secrets.

On the flipside, I’ve come across a few women that have impressed me with their culinary skills as well. There was this one sister that could make damn near anything. I remember this time she came through with a bag of groceries when I wasn’t feeling too well and whipped up a slammin’ feast like it was nothing. This girl woman made some steamed crab and pasta medley with homemade salad and garlic bread—all from scratch. She definitely earned major brownie points with me for that performance—inside and outside the kitchen.

Now don’t get it twisted, a woman (or a man) shouldn’t have to prepare gourmet meal just to make a good impression. A sister could make spaghetti and turkey meatballs (I don’t eat beef or pork) for all I care, as long as it’s from her heart, tastes good and there’s good conversation, we can rock. It’s not like I go all out in the kitchen every night, either, I can just as easily make a simple pot of chili or one of my “ghetto meals” from my childhood like mac-n-cheese, baked beans and fish sticks (no-Kanye). Hey, don’t knock it ’til you try it, it’s an acquired taste. But all this talking about food is making me horny hungry; I might make lasagna tonight; who wants some?

Do you think it’s sexy when someone can cook? Have you ever cooked for someone before? What’s your signature dish? Do you have any cooking horror stories? Have you ever been over at someone’s house and their cooking was substandard? Did you let them know or just held your tongue and ate up? Ladies, have you ever had a man compare your cooking to his mama’s? If so, how did that make you feel? Do you hate when I man knows you can cook and automatically assumes you’re going to make him a meal? How long does it take before you offer to cook for someone? Fellas, would you date a woman that couldn’t cook? Do you expect your wife to know how to cook? Who taught you how to cook? What happens if neither one of you can’t cook?

Speak your piece…

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Tagged as: chef, cooking, dinner, home cooking, lasagna, sexy

Lonias

It's the sexiest to cook together. Scrumptous...

A side-note of sorts: I usually get a reaction of surprise from men when I tell them I can cook. They always want to verify what that means. I guess it's a fair question given our "drive thru" world...
http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

Ofcourse cooking skills are both useful and sexy. I always cook for my ladies. *Shay your plate is waiting for you* LOL

I dont really have a special dish. I need to learn how to cook gumbo. Down here in the N.O. we tear it down in the kitchen.
Toy

When I first came to college I didn't know how to make diddly squat. My first dish was spaghetti and it tasted like shxt. lol. I was fine with having no skills in the kitchen until my male friends let me know that it wasn't what's up. They expected ME (yes they singled me out) to know how to cook especially since I was from the Caribbean. I hit up my mom quicktime. I didn't learn how to cook specifically for them. I refused to let my mom's Caribbean recipes go to waste.

Now I'm always in the kitchen making some tasty concoction. Over the years I've learned that anything pasta dish is probably the easiest to cook, people always appreciated well-seasoned meat, and men love it when you make things they've never heard of.

I've had plenty of guys think that just because I can cook I'll cook for them. It doesn't work that way at all. A part of me feels submissive when I'm in the kitchen cooking and he's watching TV or surfing the web or whatever he's doing (if he's not in the kitchen with me). I definitely don't put out meals for everyone, just like I don't put out the other type of goods for everyone.

I'm still young so my signature dish isn't anything grand. Just pineapple barbecue chicken with veggie rice. I've also been told that my shrimp chow mein (the caribbean style, not Chinese) tastes really good. These are things that I don't cook for a man unless I'm trying to lock him in. lol.

As far as my beau, he knows how to cook [and I secretly thank his mama for teaching him], but it's not necessary mainly because he's so appreciative when I do it that I like to be the one cooking for him.

That is all.
http://twitter.com/deeny Deeny

Call me old fashioned but I think that as a woman, you should know how to cook a decent meal. Even if it's not gourmet quality like NWSO said, as long as it's edible and made with TLC it would be a turn on for most men. It's only natural for us as women to be nuturing and with that comes feeding your loves one, be it your man, kids, or both. Who said you can't be a new school independent lady who can still buss it down in the kitchen? And ladies, since it's a rare commodity now a days (damn shame isn't it), I suggest you step your game up if want to be a few steps ahead.

Now FELLAS----just cause I just stressed the importance of women being able to cook, that doesn't mean that it doesn't apply to you either. Yes, society will let a man who can't cook slide b4 a woman who can't, it's not only a turn on to us women but almost imperative in these times. No one wants a man that can't take care of himself and do for himself, in a non-lazy way. A man who takes pride in the fact that he can produce a meal for himself that is tasty and nutritious is a sign of an excellent and capable PROVIDER. And trust, nothin makes a woman twitch down there more than a man that can truly provide for his loved ones. I'm just sayin......
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http://myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

LMAO...ROTMFF @ da ThRONe

I don't necessarily think it's sexy for a man to cook for me nor do I expect him to know how to cook. However, I do appreciate the effort.

Last year for my birthday (da ThRONe close your eyes) the guy that I was seeing/dating/fucking at the time, cooked me breakfast lunch and dinner. I thought it was cute that he wanted to pamper me for my special day, but I really didn't care about the food, I wanted to get back to the bed, sofa, kitchen sink and bath tub (singing "Birthday Sex" by Jeremih).

I was training for the marathon at the time, so my diet was really strict. At my request, he prepared egg whites, turkey sausage and whole wheat toast for breakfast. As I watched him, I began thinking "Oh goodness, I bet he doesn't even know how to separate the yolk." To my surprise, he knew exactly what he was doing.

Then there was lunch, lol...I guess this is an acquired taste, but he made ummm...grilled cheese with bananas. I declined his offer to make me one of those gross things and I used the marathon as an excuse not to eat the fried cheese and bread. That didn't work because this guy really doesn't take no for an answer. He made me take a bite and it wasn't as horrible as I thought it would be, but still...grilled cheese and bananas?

As far as me knowing how to cook...
I attended culinary school for a year and helped my mother cook every night while growing up, so I can do a little something in the kitchen. I don't have a signature dish per se, but I do enjoy making soups and stews.

Most men that I meet automatically assume that I can't cook because I look high-maintenance (so I have been told). So, I am almost immediately challenged to cook something (and I am up to it)... I don't know if this is a crisis all over, but most women in Los Angeles do not know how to cook. They are too busy trying to look cute and star in music videos.
Elle

Do you think it’s sexy when someone can cook?
Absolutely. There is (almost) nothing sexier than a man who knows what he is doing in the kitchen and actually likes cooking.

Have you ever cooked for someone before?
A million times - boyfriends, friends, family.

What’s your signature dish?
Back in the day it was Lasagna, now it's probably my fav. pasta dish. My fiancé loves my special egg sandwiches - although they dont require much cooking.

Do you hate when a man knows you can cook and automatically assumes you’re going to make him a meal?
LoL... back in the day, when I was 18, my ex wanted to force me to cook for him. WTH? Back then my saying was "I dont cook, I eat out". Needless to say, that didnt happen. I cook when I choose to, not when somebody tells me to. Especially not LIVER!

How long does it take before you offer to cook for someone?
Hm, not sure. For as long as it takes until I either feel comfortable enough or the situation calls for it.
distinguishedgentlewoman

I must confess: I'm not a very good cook. Don't get me wrong, I can prepare a halfway decent meal for myself---emphasis on the words "halfway decent." I eat a lot of fruits, veggies, chicken, and fish, which are all pretty easy to make---no red meat, no swine---so meals are basic. But when it comes to getting down in the kitchen and feeling confident enough to cook for my S.O., I've never had to. Both my exes cooked for me.

And a man in the kitchen is so very sexy to me. There's something attractive about them standing in front of a stove holding a pot spoon. And the way they chop veggies; men make chopping onions sexy. And the look on their faces when you enjoy what they have prepared: Simply priceless.
Dc Man with a Plan

Personally, i think it's critical for a man to know how to cook, at least well enuff not to "need" a woman to get a home cooked meal or live solely off of take-out menu's. I am working to ensure my son's know how to burn and I helped ensure my daughter has skillz too. The days when a man can sit on his azz while his woman does all the cooking, house-work and child rearing are WAYYY OVA. There are too many things going on for a couple not to work as a "team" though many men will still try to see if they can get away with doing as little as possible. the point is, a man who can't cook...is a needy MO-Fo......kinda on the sorry-azz side if you ask me.
Back in the day, dudes would say: summer time is when I get my shine on...cuz I'm the grill master....yeah, well, U gotta eat ALL year round, homie, so that ain't working on the east coast. I feel liberated and a definite asset to my partner when I can say: yo shorty, U had a rough day. sit your azz down in my favorite chair while I whip up a hot home cooked meal.....DUDE, U think YOU gettin azz? Pleez....let your woman sit at your table a few times and end up lickin her fingers and SEE what happens!! U gonna get more "YES daddy this is your azz" than a million dollar baller with 10 dollar hookers! As for a woman...Since I'm over 40...THAT's a turn off for me bcuz U gotta be on the high maint side (but I'll still hit it)....lol... It's okay if you can't cook, as long as you're willing to START learning. Somethings you're never too old to learn...but on the real: If you're FIIINE as hell...lmao...in my eyes, at least....then yeah, there are exceptions to every rule....lol
artsyheartsy

I can cook. And when I am in love with a brother I tend to go all creative Goddess-y and cooking is part of that for me. I can whip up a big healthy feast pretty easily and when I am feeling good I usually want to. I can cook in a few different styles and have definitely had men who loved how I cooked foods that were comforting to them in special ways and met their special needs, whether that meant vegan curries or West African Peanut stews or chocolate chip cookies. As I have gotten older I have learned to kind of keep this gift under raps because dudes often think thoughtful women are up to something more sinister than being loving when we take special care.
Dc Man with a Plan

laughing @ shay...You gotta be REAL fiine, bcuz you had a dude cook for you AND you got specific shyt he had to cook too? WTF? Id'a been like, yo-shortee, hold the F*ck up. This ain't the Olive Garden where you make orders and shyt....Naw, u pretty much gettin what I make and it's gonna have to be AFTER the marathon since you got so many restrictions...lol..but then again...as I said earlier, FIIINE women can get that "exception" clause...Yeah baby, for you, U can damn sho HAVE IT YOUR WAY!!!
Trenton

I think its easier to get sex from some women than it is to get them to cook for you. One woman I'm close to said she won't cook for me because I would be like a stray cat and would never leave. Four months later, I'm still trying to get a meal.
artsyheartsy

Trenton,

Sex is definitely in the mix before mixing bowls with me... If I feed you, it means I deeply feel you in way that is way past lust.
Soulyn

Growing up watching my grandmother get up every morning at 4/5 am to cook breakfast and dinner everyday, kinda made me a lil scared to want to cook anything. Granny chose to do that and though I watched her everyday while she cooked, I decided my life wouldn't turn out that way.

Fast forward to the present...well my thinking is alot different now. I won't slave in the kitchen, but I have to eat. Over the years I've gradually learned how to cook. I'm still learning and trying to perfect west indian foods. I don't cook often and would prefer to cook with my mate. Actually the dude I'm currently dating loves watching me in the kitchen. Hmmm when is he gonna step it up and cook..Also, I'm not one to jump and cook for just any ole body.

Don't have a signature dish yet, but its in the works.
Sugabear

I think its sexy when someone can cook... Because I'm a chef!! A pastry chef but I know how to cook too because my mom is a caterer. In my mind i'm thinkin when I get my own shoppe and I'm married, I'm not going to want to come home and make dinner every night. Especially after a bad day, after slaving all day on some bratty kid's cake or a bridezilla. When I get a husband, he better step up!! lol
Signature dish: I make the best cheesecake(everybody tells me its better than cheesecake factory) and my mom and I have an online pound cake shoppe that sells 14 flavors of gourmet pound cake. Regular food: I can make anything!
And yes 75% of the time I'm pretending to like someones food or dessert! I also find it annoying that every man thinks i'm going to cook for them or bake them a cake.... for free! Overused pick up line: "You make cheesecake?? I'd love to taste your cheesecake. "(insert goofy smile here) And if they do actually taste some of my dessert (insert goofy smile) if they're single, they propose, or if they're not they tell me i'm going to make someone really happy!
But whoever I marry is going to hit the jackpot because I have so many recipes that i can't wait to try, I just don't have the time yet! Another thing I wonder about: When i first wanted to become a chef, a lot of people told me you're too pretty to be a chef! hmmmmm I never got what that meant... Oh well.
KillaHills

hm...I think cooking is key, especially in this economy, I mean if you can't throwdown, you're wasting your money. honestly, 38 bones at the grocery store last three days vs. one meal, with 'overs you probably don't trust after a day. That said, I recently got into cooking more since I've been freelancing and I agree that it's harder to do if you have a job that actually makes you leave the house. I love it because, like exercising, cooking as an act about the immediate moment vs. whatever else is going on that day. The economy has nothing to do with my risotto that I'm making. It's a chance to shut down. Plus, I think it's made my current relationship a bit more interesting. I've never really cooked like this before and my boyfriend actually asks me what's for dinner. And to my surprise, as an "independent woman, blah blah blah", I enjoy telling him and get salty if he's not there to eat it while it's still warm.

Silly right?
Ice

Do you think it’s sexy when someone can cook?
It is a pleasant surprise when a man 1.) offers to cook for me and 2.) his cookin is slammin. It's impressive and def earns some cool points.

Have you ever cooked for someone before?
I cook for folks aaallll the time. I love to cook and i enjoy even more when I do it for other people bc who doesnt like to see others enjoy the fruits of their labor. I also love love love (damn near on verge of obsession) food so I must be able to get down and create...

What’s your signature dish?
I have a few...my boys love what they call the "West African Cabbage" but let me cook you anytype of mexican dish and I'll have you speaking spanish

Ladies, have you ever had a man compare your cooking to his mama’s?
Nah, and I aint tryna trump mama. Guys usually are really surprised that I can cook. I used to think the majority of women did cook, I mean you have to atleast cook for yourself right and I'm only eating good food so I make good food...come to find out women who cook is more rare than I thought..

Do you hate when a man knows you can cook and automatically assumes you’re going to make him a meal?
Ummm yeah, like i told you Ans...this aint 3rd Grade and lets not get to playin house. I will cook for you, won't expect us to always be out dinning and spending money HOWEVER I will not be up in the kitchen slicing and dicing all the time either. Don't take the skill for granted fellas and don't come to expect it.

How long does it take before you offer to cook for someone?
I've up'd my time frame for this a bit cuz once i put it on em they're craving for more...lol..j/k. It all depends, case by case basis. Chances are if you're spending the night, you're getting breakfast in the morning so I'll leave it at that.
July

"One woman I’m close to said she won’t cook for me because I would be like a stray cat and would never leave."

Couldn't have said it better! I refuse to cook for random dudes. I really enjoy cooking and being creative in the kitchen and can safely say that when it comes to cooking, that is one skill I have mastered (Thanks to my mom) but to feed guys is sometimes just asking for trouble. Most times I just lie and say I dont really know how to cook just to keep those expectant eyes off me.

If I cook for anybody other than myself I just prefer to cook for those that I really love like my family and close friends. My bff loves being my guinea pig for new recipes but guys? Nope not gonna happen unless hes something extra special and still havent come across that yet.
Trenton

Damn, I guess I'm not as important as I thought. I never knew if a woman would cook for you was important in determining how interested she was in you. From now on I'm not having sex with women until they cook for me. Lol!
YoungJay

@ Shay

Guess whose in LA...And you wouldnt believe what for...E3 Video Game conference (just another strike against my name huh?)...lol
DiffNames

Great topic... I was getting a little worried about NWSO, for a minute you was looking like the Fabolous of the blog circuit (making joints only for the ladies)
DiffNames

A woman that throws down in the kitchen is almost as good as great head, I mean its pretty damn close. Beyond the pleasure of both acts, there's a certain "wow, damn you did all this for me" feeling.

One time this girl I was dealing with just simply made a sandwich for me and that shit was sexy as hell, I mean from the attention to detail in preparation to the "what do want to drink with that" ahhh man, serve me ma, serve me!

If a chick refuses to cook its saying a lot about them. I mean even if you can't initially and you give the effort its well appreciated. Pancakes in the morning, thats what's up. I cook a little something myself so I'm even willing to teach if need be.

But for real if I could find a half way decent woman that can cook her ass off I would be married already, that's how real it is.
sweetsexxybrown

I believe cooking is very sexxy. It wasn't until about 5yrs ago that I fully understood why men love a woman who can cook. I had a friend staying with me because he fell on some hard times. I didn't charge him anything 2 stay as I didn't think he'd be there very long. He'd do random nice things 4 me during his stay. One night I came home and when I opened the door, I could immediately smell that there was something cookin' in the kitchen. To my suprise he had cleaned the apartment and he told me to sit down because dinner was almost ready. He poured me a glass of wine and set the table for us. A few minutes later we were chowin down! He could cook his ass off. (I knew this already-and had his food plenty of times). After, I enjoyed the very tasty meal and another few glasses of wine,I looked at him and couldn't believe how good I felt. (Just from some food and wine)m. I told him, "Negroe, if you weren't gay, we would've been fu@kin' 2nite." I think maybe the reason cookin' is so sexxy is because its a way that you are showing you care. Its nurturing. Its very intimate. Its something you are sharing with others. This is one of the reasons I don't cook 4 men all willy nilly. Only if you're my man or we are progressing towards something.

Iluv 2 cook-probably because I luv 2 entertain. I get the most pleasure from cooking for more than one person. Just cooking 4 myself is a bit boring unless I have a specific taste for something.

@Da Throne
Very true...yall can cook up paper and it taste good! My father is from Baton Rouge and he was a beast in the kitchen (better than my momma). He could make a mean gumbo!

@Shay
Lmao! "From the bed, sofa, kitchen sink, bath tub!"-Thats what I'm talkin' about. Get it gyrl!
Chanel

I cook for friends all the time, so I don't really see it as a relationship milestone. To me, it's just a gesture of friendship. In fact, I used to cook for my male roomies twice a week just because they were my buds and it was my pleasure to do so. (Then again, it might have been because I couldn't bear to see them eating Crown Fried Chicken every night!) These days, I'm dog tired after work -- my bf takes over the cooking duties and I'm very grateful. I just don't feel like cooking sometimes, not as much as I used to.

I appreciate a man that can throw down in the kitchen, sure, but does that mean the panties are flying off? Not necessarily -- the conversation we have over dinner would probably determine that ...
http://www.myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

@ DC Man

Didn't you read the part about it being my birthday, lol? He asked me what I wanted for breakfast and I asked what do you have? Then he asked again, "what do YOU want?" I thought my request was fairly simple (eggs, sausage and toast) when actually, I was thinking egg white omelet with spinach, sun-dried tomatoes and feta cheese...and yes I do look good, lol!

On another note, I really don't understand women who put restrictions on who they cook for. Eating is a basic necessity, so if I am cooking dinner and dude rolls through, I am going to feed him just because there is food on my stove. Best believe that I will feed a man food before I feed him my pussy. That's ass backwards in my opinion. Cooking is natural for me, so it's not like a weapon that I keep in my back pocket to reel a man in.

@ Young Jay
Hahahaha - I told you, I'm over my video game hang up. I am now a "Guitar Hero." Are you trying to call me out?

@ Sweetsexxybrown
It was the BEST birthday every!
DopeAlicious

as i am reading this, my hubby is in the kitchen right now cooking up a storm for me! if we hadn't just had a romp a few hours ago, he'd be gettin it lol

but i have always cooked for guys i was really into. they were always so shocked because they said many girls in atlanta don't cook. they just want to go out and eat. but i was born in new orleans so the cooking is just an added bonus to being with me!!
Dc Man with a Plan

@ Shay...yeah, I read the part about it being your birthday, And your point is? .....I was mostly teasing...lol..But you did seem a bit demanding! Dude decided on his own to cook 3 meals? WTF? I guess I'm just not that ambitious, bcuz one of them woulda had to be from somebody elses kitchen....But, then again, I guess that's one way to keep you in the house.......I dig what you said about cooking NOT being a weapon...and you'd give a man a hot plate b4 you give him some azz....THAT's some FUNNY shyt, but it's so true and full of common sense and logic.....YOU might JUST be high maint, (since dudes seem to assume that about you) ...but I got a feeling YOU'RE worth it...all ova the house working that body...Hell yeah, U can have some egg whites, sausage and toast, served in my chef HAT with nuttin else on.....lol
older & wiser

I am from New Orleans (shout out to Da ThRONe) and love to cook! I ususally share my culinary skills with a man when I am definitiely interested in locking him in b/c once I go there it's a wrap : ) hahaha. My close friends and family know how well I can cook and are welcomed to sit at my table anyday b/c they know that I cook on the regular (it's threapeutic for me). We have a running joke in our family that I can even make a shoe taste good!!

I have recently expanded my menu selection from Tex-Mex and New Orleans fare to include Meditteranian, Carribbean, and Spain. After my visits to these destinations and eating their foods I developed a taste for it and had to have it (without the travel).

BTW, I have been told that I have a huge advantage over other women b/c I can cook and love to do it, but it is something that you get to know about me as you get to know me - I don't advertise my skills! ; )
Sunset

Sadly, I can't cook. And it's a shame. But, I have to co-sign everyone who encouraged men to cook more often. I guess my punishment for not being able to cook is the fact that I have NEVER had a guy cook for me. Karma.
http://www.myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

@ DC Man

Hahaha...my point is...I was willing to except anything that he had readily available in his refrigerator. HE took it upon himself to ask me for special request. I wasn't expecting him to prepare three meals (even though grilled cheese doesn't quite qualify as cooking a meal); I just wanted to spend my birthday with him as my sex-slave, lol. I figured we would just order take-out in between sessions.

It was VERY thoughtful of him: he made breakfast and Mimosas, lunch and Mojitos and dinner (steak) and Merlot. I was extremely pleases and I showed him multiple times just how much I appreciated his kind gestures
ChiChi

I don't claim to be a master chef by any means, but I can make lasagna. I thought that was simple as shit.
CNN

I was reading Belle's blog a little while ago and she asked the question, Which do you appreciate more? A good home cooked meal or good head. Based on her finding most men appreciated and wanted both but when talking about marriage an settling down all appreciated the meal more.

Personally I have to agree with dc man with a plan, I think everyone should be able to make something if not for the sake of feeding self. I can cook my butt off and there's not anything I do not have at least a concept of how to make. I have cooked for only one bf in the past and i think it was harder to get him to leave when it was over because of it. I have had men cook for me and very much appreciated it. It's a rare, But I have had some homeboys who cook as a way to get ass which I find sad but to each his own lol
http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

@Shay

Grilled Cheese does count! I do make a mean scramble eggs too.

@Young Jay *side note*

What does Madden look like this year?
http://www.myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

@ da ThRONe

I like my eggs over hard...
And, didn't I ask you not to read that part, lol.
Queen Franklin

I enjoy when a man cooks for me. We sit and talk while he work his magic. Its becoming so common as the years go on. Tradition has been women did the cooking and cleaning(homemakers). Now that women are becoming more INDEPENDENT, men are being raised to fend for themselves so cooking has become the NORM.
While my cooking hasn't snagged a man, the idea that I can cook seems to be all that matters. Actually all the men I have dated in the last few years have insisted on doing the cooking. I get to pay for the movie!!!!!
http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

@Shay

I read the last comment you wrote to DC Man about grilled cheese. What is your favorite dish? I fell in love with that Foreman Grill. That grill stepped everybody cooking game up.
http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

@CNN

Im taking the head hands down(no pun intended) LOL
http://www.myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

@ Tron

I really don't have a favorite when it comes to food. I am a "foodie," so I enjoy just about everything if it's made correctly. My favorite cuisine, however, is Mexican, Central American and South American. Yummy for my tummy. My friends often joke that I am a fat girl trapped in a skinny girl's body, lol.
Latsyrc41

I'm just starting to get into cooking working on my signature dish.

I've never really cooked a meal for a man. Maybe breakfast, but only because I was hungry and he was there and I didn't want to be rude.

I haven't found anyone that I'm willing to throw down in the kitchen for...LOL.

I HAVE baked birthday cakes and cookies and other desserts. Most of the time tho, it was a form of foreplay for me.

Now, on the selfish side...I LOVE a man that knows his way around the kitchen and wants to feed me.

BTW @NWSO glad to see "Wet Wednesdays" is official!
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@Shay

Oh were on a real name basis now? LOL

Yeah I love to eat! I eat like a offenses lineman! I dont get why cooking seems so personal? I will cook for anybody. Im no chef but I like cooking and I like pleasing. Somebody even said they'll give up the draws before they would hand out a plate. I dont get that.
http://www.myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

Yes WE are! I correspond with you almost five days a week and I have seen your abs; you are Tron from now on, lol.

As far as cooking being personal, I don't get either??? Reminds me of an old blog NWSO wrote a while back about women who don't kiss, but are willing to fuck, go figure!
http://www.myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

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Yeah Im surprized Im in such great shape I eat like a pig and dont workout go figure! So thats why I love a chick that can cook. But its funny "non-cooking Barbie" isnt a turn-off though. I would gladly cook ever meal if I could find an attractive female that doesnt make me wanna strangle her.
litrisha

Well I can't cook......LOL But I practice, and it was one time when I made some Spaghetti and I guess I overcooked the pasta and it started to look all soggy and my friend came over and I was SO EMBARASSED!!!!! I could tell he didn't like the spaghetti because he told me not only was the pasta overcooked but HE HAD TO TELL ME to add some BASIL-OMG, that had to be the most embassing thing in my life. Needless to say that he ate the hell out of my fried chicken wings......LOL At least he ate something, and my sex is good so he's getting SOMETHING GOOD......LOL
http://www.myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

Well, good luck with that. It seems as if you want to strangle ALL women, lol.

GO LAKERS!
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God I hate the Lakers!

@litrisha

Yeah if you cant cook you better be good in the bedroom! LOL Its the thought that count sort of. If you cant cook I would rather you say so and I'll stop at Mc Donalds or something.
Ms P

Oh yes, I can cook! Some of my specialties are my greens with smoked turkey, turkey meatloaf, candied yams, & my smothered pork chops w/onions. I am getting hungry right now. Oh yeah people love my baked beans too. I can even make yeast rolls from scratch but I only do those for my family once a year. I had a grandma who was a beast in the kitchen & she taught me well. I only cook for a man if I am in a relationship with him. Otherwise like someone said earlier they would be like a stray cat. I would never get rid of them!!

I appreciate a man who can cook, although I would rather that they be a handyman or a mechanic!! LOL. That's what I really need. However, my last boyfriend would make smothered chicken & rice for me & I just wanted to roll across the floor it was so good!!! Damn, I miss his chicken!!
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@Ms P.

Damn you didnt have to get specific you made me hungry!

Ok you brought up a good point though. This is an important question when were talking about cooking are we talking about stuff from scratch?
http://twitter.com/amakacamille Amaka

without reading all the comments, this is an interesting topic for me. I can cook and I will cook for people, but it pisses me off when its EXPECTED....i don't know how many times guys that I'm not even in a relationship with, but may be casually talking to, or even just friends are like, "so when you gonna cook for me?"----ummm NO. that will never get a meal out of me...i don't mind cooking for people, but i absolutely hate it when it is expected...if i feel moved to, if you are special, i will cook for you...but just any old anyone---nah
http://www.myspace.com/diva_attorney KD

Thank God I have a jamaican family that made sure I was taught how to cook. My Jamaican/Island dishes are a killer.... My American dishes are good too, with a jamaican spin that always have my friends (girls and guys), in a frenzy!
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@Amaka

I think you can say that about people expectation about anything(ie Its the mans job to pay for the 1st date)! But I dont ask you to cook for me. Na I ask when are you cooking and then I show up and get me some(food that is).LOL
litrisha

@da Throne

Yeah I know because I've been reading Steve Harvey's Book and he specifically said women can make up when they can't cook with their good looks and sex.......that's a damn shame though. If I really wanted to I could PROBABLY whip something up, all I have to do is practice. Do I have any volunteers that I could test my cooking on? LMAO
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@litrisha

Go to the local kettle! Na good sex is not a make up for bad food. Good sex is a prerequisite! If thats wack good food dont make up for it. If im getting some head she can come back with Burger King for all I care.
Deshair Foskey

I am so late to this... such a bachelor, Foreman Grilling and Grill Cheesing... but the first time I really got down a cooked for my lady friend, that night was explosive. Little did she know that the Lasagna was already prepared (by my cousin) and all I had to do was pop it into the oven. She came over the next day and we had leftovers. And once the leftovers ran out, she ran out. Damn
Anonymous

LOL @Deshair Foskey
http://twitter.com/amakacamille Amaka

@da ThRONe
thats true...but i at least reach for my wallet to split the bill on first dates, rarely has the guy let me actually do that---some have even got offended

i wouldnt mind so much if someone came over, and i had already been cooking or had already cooked but i hate it when people expect for me to cook meals for them--i am not anyones personal cook or maid
CNN

@Da Throne
LOL. I think it depends on what you're looking for in a woman. When speaking with older male friends who were ready to settle down they were talking about someone who could feed their children cause they defiantly can't give the kids head lol. Do I agree? Hey to each his own. I'd appreciate the head and the meal but I personally think the meal takes more effort.
http://www.newmoneymachinko.blogspot.com New Money Machink

I recently discovered my love for cooking. Growing up, I consciously moved away from all things considered "domestic".. i was "artistic", "creative", etc. i would NOT be labeled like all these other chicks. LOL.

.. once, I made dinner for a male friend. My bestie/ roommate saw me cooking, walked up to him and said "wooooow.. she must REALLY like you.. she's COOKING! what are your intentions for my friend?!" LOL

in the last few months, tho, i've been taking great joy in cookbooks and food network programs.. i think I've come to see the 'art' in the cooking.

(that has nuttin 2do w/ any of ur questions.. sorry)
http://fashionstyleblackorchid.blogpsot.com arlene

Do you think it’s sexy when someone can cook?
I love a man who can cook and who does so willingly.

Have you ever cooked for someone before?
always. i'm currently on cooking hiatus, but i can cook.

What’s your signature dish?
stew chicken

Do you hate when a man knows you can cook and automatically assumes you’re going to make him a meal?
kinda yes, kinda no. i don't mind cooking if he buys the groceries. if i'm already cooking, oh well.

How long does it take before you offer to cook for someone?
depends. i used to cook for my family twice a week when i was growing up, so i'm used to shopping and cooking a lot of food. i can't help it! I've tried to buy for just me, but i don't honestly know how to! so folk are used to me offering up the extra food i've cooked.
Jenn Perez

I can definitely cook~~ REALLY very very very good if I may toot my own Chicken bone.. I make some banging sauteed chicken w/ onions, peppers and yellow rice with corn that has a bit of sliced ham inside.. Great black beans with chorizo and some Roasted Pork... Fried tilapia with just a little bit of red onions, peppers sauteed with a bit of olive oil and just a dash of lemon juice which is OFF the hook!! I eat like I cook and Since I LOVE to eat I love to cook!! My soon to be ex hub cooks his azz off too ~ i can honestly say that I still miss coming home to dinner already there! I make really good lasagne and juicy chicken parm.. You have to mix it up when you have kids so I have to experiment sometimes!!
Its very important when someone can cook. There's nothing nicer than sitting at home having a nice meal, nice convo and str8 boning the night away LOL!! My sister in law is a white girl and she has all these recipes but i have YET to actually taste some GOOD food from her ~ other than cheesecake. I dont know if its just cuz she is not good in the kitchen or what but her skills get two thumbs DOWN. both my parents can cook ~ my mom can whip something out of nothing in record time and my dad makes the best "Ralph's Pie" in the planet!! Instead of mash for shepherds pie, he does it with the sweet plantains and slices tomatoes, onions and peppers in the ground beef so when its baking, the flavor just jumps out of the food!!
Damn.. now Im hungry !!
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This works for me!!!!
cali sunshine

I love to cook... But nothin says im feelin you ma like a dude makin a GOOD meal for me... I love that... Now dont get me wrong i been cookin since my mom went back to work full time (5th grade) so yeah I gets down...

If I can say 1 thing about cookin together is its so special and very sexxi and usually ends in very good sex... lol

As for my special dishes... my friends call them better than sex enchiladas... lol and yes i do make the whole meal to go wit it... refried beans, spanish rice, salad, and home made salsa.... i gets so down... lol
englishrose

i do catering as a side hustle so i can say i cook really well. people are shocked that i'm good at it as i don't fit the 'look' which annoys me, but each to his own. what i don't do though is cook for all and sundry as don't want to feel like i am being taken advantage of will usually start to cook and make it a point that it's a joint effort when i'm seeing someone who has intent and plan for me to be in his life for a lil longer rather than a fly-by
Cali

Cooking is very SEXY!

I met a guy a couple of weeks ago, and he really seems to be a nice guy. I decided to switch my game up (cause really and truly I don't cook for people I'm just dating) So he got off work the other day and I know he was tired because he stays on the road driving trucks all day. I told him to stop by for a brief second. So he came over on his way home from work and found a hot cooked meal waiting for him. He was outdone and I damn sure outdid myself. But I felt that brotha derserved it. I aim to please especially when you are a hardworking, strong, good MAN! And then he appreciated it all too. Showed me his appreciation by putting the food away, washing the dishes, and cleaning up my kitchen while I sat on the couch with my feet up. I thank him for that and if he keeps up the good work he might can get a cooked meal BUCKED NAKED! But that's with time.
Righteous Mama

I've never had a guy cook for me. I mean REALLY cook.

I'd love for a guy to do it like I do it. Spend some time planning the meal, preparing a grocery list, hitting up a few different markets and special spots to get just the right ingredients and selecting the perfect desert, wine and music to accompany it all while making it look like it was no big deal.

I've heard though if you put it down proper in the bedroom your mate won't care what the hell you cook. I think that's true. I prefer to make up for my shortcomings there. I simply don't have time to cook like I want to.
Neska

I've recently taken a serious note on cooking cause when you eat healthy u get real particular about your food. If nothing else made me want to learn to cook for myself the following scenario did:
Senior yr in HS this girl was sittin behind me braggin about movin in with her man, when one of her friends asked "girl you can cook?", shorty quickly replied, "it's called delivery service".
Thinkin wtf, i made sure when i got home i paid attention to when my grandmother was cooking. these days my hands are almost as sweet as hers and you gotta be someone special in order for the cook for u
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Hm,I like cooking for women. They appreciate me much more because of that!I really do not know why most men do not understand this, and with how little effort can they achieve so much if they only try!