Do You Have Big Girl Tendencies? (The Fat Factor)

0 Posted by - June 30, 2009 - News & Current Events, Real Life, Real Talk

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Before I even dig into this one, let me toss out a little disclaimer. The views expressed in this blog post are all in good clean fun. My intentions are not to offend or upset anyone, just to speak the truth as I see it. Still, I feel this one might ruffle a few feathers, so I apologize in advance if this peek into how some men think rubs you the wrong way. Now that’s out of the way, leave your sensitivity at the door and read on.

There’s a common belief among most people that if you want to know how gracefully someone is going to age, just take a look at his or her parents. Although not a fool-proof guideline, it’s a rule that’s served me well over the years. The same goes for a philosophy my boys and I came up with a while ago to determine a woman’s girth growth potential. What we affectionately refer to as Big Girl Tendencies.

PLEASE NOTE: These traits can also be found in men and is known as BBT (Big Belly Tendencies) or big bellyitis.

You’re probably asking yourself, what exactly are “Big Girl Tendencies?” Well, let me break it down for you. Basically, Big Girl Tendencies, or BGT for short, are when a petite or average woman displays a probable propensity for becoming a “big girl.” I don’t mean big as in adult, but Roseanne Barr big.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with a “big girl,” because NWSO got love for the plus-sized sisters. In case you missed it, I actually did a whole “Ode to the Big Girl” a while back that you can read HERE. As far as BGT, though, I’m just keeping it real sexist.

We’ve long established that men are visual creatures. Because of this flaw, my species has been known to pass up on a good woman who’s a size 16 in favor of a skinny bitch broad that’s a size 3. But fellas let me warn you, just because that girl on your arm can hula hoop with a Cheerio today doesn’t mean she can do the same 10 years from now. That’s why you should always make sure you’re settling down with substance not style, because today’s skinny Minnie could be tomorrow’s big Bertha. No offense to anyone named Bertha, but hopefully you get my point that not everyone is as open-minded as they should about shifting dress sizes.

As vain as it may be, some men do think about women’s weight. Maybe not now, but at some point. While your male companion might not call it BGT, he’s probably using a similar future weight assessment to size you up. The sad part is, many women don’t even know they suffer from BGT. Don’t worry, your boy NWSO has got you covered.

Below are a few key signs of BGT that both men and women need to look out for. If you answer yes to one or more of these questions, you may in fact have Big Girl Tendencies. Answering yes, however, doesn’t mean you’ll definitely become a “big girl” it just suggests that you may be carrying the BGT gene. My years of personal bullshit research has shown that slow metabolism and lack of physical activity play large roles in the development of full-blown big girlism. Now on to the warning signs.

1) Do you eat a lot of fast food, like Mickey Dees, Taco Bell, etc. two or more times a week?
Then you may have BGT.

2) Do you tend to order large portions of fatty food when you go out to eat, like an appetizer, steak & ribs combo with fries, dessert and a milkshake?
Then you may have BGT.

3) Do you tend eat heavy meals or junk food late at night, like past 1am on a consistent basis?
Then you may have BGT.

4) Do you sit around the house often and sleep most of your weekends away, and the most strenuous thing you do is your nails?
Then you may have BGT.

5) Do you constantly talk about food and have the numbers for your local Dominos and Chinese spot memorized?
Then you may have BGT.

This has been a PSA brought to you by NWSO in conjunction with the BGSG (Big Girl Support Group). For more info, go to your local gym and work it on out.

Do you think it’s possible to tell someone’s future weight based on his or her eating habits? Do you think our society puts unnecessary pressure on women to lose weight? Do you feel that men get a free pass when it comes to weight, while women get scrutinized? Do the official size charts, which were made generations ago, reflect the realities of people today? Have you ever come across someone who was overweight but biased against other heavy people? How important is weight to you in terms of dating? Do you think you have or know someone that has BGT or BBT?

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  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    I dont do big gals!

  • http://slangrap.wordpress.com Aqua

    There should be a “Too Fat So She Can’t Get Half” clause that annuls marriages on the basis of obscene “widening.” Why penalize the salad eating party for the others love of extra value meals? Just saying.

  • Spinster

    I’ve always said that there is a 300 pound girl inside of me waiting to burst out. I LOVE food. However, I’m kinda careful for health reasons so there but for the grace…..

  • Preachy P

    This topic is SO FUNNY to me, because I recently became re-acquainted with some old High School girlfriends, that were the attention hogging Skinny Girls THEN and have now become nothing less than fat, lazy SLOBS :( However, my story is just the opposite. I was heavy & discouraged as a youth, from being overfed and underactive. I became disgusted after graduation & more concious of my weight and have kept my “chunk” under control ever since (10 years now). I must’ve made them feel really bad because now they want to “talk Gym” whenever we socialize….(Yeah Right….Uh Huh). It’s sad and also funny at the same time.

  • Manhattan Chic

    @ da throne…. big girls probably don’t do you.

    every big girl is not sloppy and nasty as some people perceive… just like smaller women, some are tall, ugly, pretty, mean, nice etc. judgemental people annoy me because you all have types but i’m sure you have met someone that took your breath away that isn’t your type. i happen to know a lot of big sisters that can put the smaller ones to shame so don’t sleep on us.

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    rotfl…funny post.There is such a huge difference between Africa and America when it comes to attraction to “chubby” women.I saw Femi Kuti perform the other night and ALL of his back-up dancers had chubby stomachs…no 6 pack abs …and they had way more energy than I do.And they had no problems with displaying their “rolls” on stage.And I bet a million buck every dude in there was wishing he could get a piece of that African ass..I mean tummy.

    But like everything else…once you hit the sack..unless the chick is borderline obese…a man just wants the pussy.And some fellows probably don’t care about the obesity either.He knows she’s gonna be home when he wants some.

    Do you think it’s possible to tell someone’s future weight based on his or her eating habits?
    nope…I go through a McDs phase and then I go through a salad phase.I’m 15lbs over my normal weight but I fluctuate back and forth.Can’t date the pot belly dude though…no thanks.

    Do you think our society puts unnecessary pressure on women to lose weight?
    not any more…if you look past the magazines and tv shows most women aren’t skinny.I do not wanna look like I’m starving.A little fat is alright in my book.

    Do you feel that men get a free pass when it comes to weight, while women get scrutinized?
    Men do get a free pass.Cause I see some brothers that I’m like “are you fucking serious?And they have mad swagger with their beer bellies.Not sexy at all.But they don’t have to worry too much about finding a woman.Plenty women desperate to be with somebody…anybody.

    Do the official size charts, which were made generations ago, reflect the realities of people today?
    Nope.

    Have you ever come across someone who was overweight but biased against other heavy people?
    Nope.Only have a few heavyset friends and an overweight cousin…but she’s been that way her entire life…from a child.She has very little self-confidence but she avoids using the word “fat”.

    How important is weight to you in terms of dating?
    I need a man that can fuck me 3 rounds without going into convulsions and coughing spasms.I like a man that’s fit.Not ridonkeylously muscular…just fit and active.

    Do you think you have or know someone that has BGT or BBT?
    I think I might settle into a chubby body later on in life and still be sexy.Keep in mind because the person is “chubby” doesn’t mean they aren’t sexy.I’ve seen some plus sized ladies that would draw attention away from me.lol.When you hit a certain age…like the 40s…it’s less of an issue to try to be skinny.

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    @Manhattan Chic

    Its a personal choice(even though Jill Scott could get get). Im not saying I would never date a “plus size girl” ,but Im just not sexually attracted to them. If I meet a girl with BGT’s and she blows up Im not just going bail. At the same time if the sexually attraction is gone the relationship does change and to act like it doesnt is being naive!

    If I dont turn somebody on for whatever reason I respect there wishes and move on.

  • Litabia

    I guess I have BGT because I do all the things that you listed and what’s the bigger shock…I can’t gain weight to save my life. Everybody tell me to wait until I get older and my metabolism slows down. These are the same people that told me to wait until I have kids and it’s hard to shed the pounds. I eat everything in sight, some things are not necessarily nutritional, and still skin and effin bones…I love bigger/fat guys and all my friends are fat. This lady told me that I’m attracted to fat people because of my inability to gain weight. I don’t know but I think if the woman is comfortable with her size or the thought that one day she will bigger than she is in her 20’s because her mom is humongous than the man should love his wife no matter what and visa versa. Just don’t get sloppy with it.

  • Tiq

    I like a girl with some meat on her. But some women look unhealthy. Some look like they’re really stuffed into their clothes. I can’t rock with that.

  • eleeaune

    Funny Post, lol.

    If you can get past the physical ( not completely or what is the point) health should be the question. The mate could be a stick but still pass away before their time. If you’re thinking of being with the person, you’ll probably stay plus/minus a few pounds as long as it doesnt spiral out of control. 10 lbs in 10 days is a problem…10 lbs over the course of time you’ve known them…talk it out and hit the gym together.
    *shrugs*

    But generally speaking “to each his own” tends to sum it all up.

  • EmotionalFunk

    @Manhattan Chic that was too funny, lol.

    But I don’t date out of shape men at all. Before I get called shallow let me say I’m not fat I’ve always been slim but I’m in my dirty thirties now and I’m fit as hell so if your not trying to be fit for life like me so you can live better I’m not signing up to push your wheelchair. Oh the BMI doesn’t reflect me I don’t know if they are out dated but I’m tall, slim and weigh more that it says I should. It just doesn’t account for people who are fit and have more muscle mass than fat, I wish it did though. I dated a guy with BBT once he was always buggin saying sideways stuff about my need to fatten up and going to the gym. He’s gone now.

    I think men do get a bit of a pass when it come to weight (not from me though) it seems that a chubby guy or fat guy is considered cuddly, but a woman is just fat. Anyways I do think you can tell what a person weight is going to be like if you look at their lifestyle and eating habits. I know I can and also yes I have so seen over weight biased against skinny/slender/fit whatever you want to call it girls. I’ve experienced many times. I call it “fatitude”, it usually rears it ugly head in the workplace when the big girls decide to be mean and evil just because you don’t want to partake in devouring everything in site with them. I hate fatitude, lol.

  • Peajez

    Im a bbw and I just recently felt this need to start working out and yeah I’ve lost weight but I did it because of my health. Im a vain bbw, Ive never been small, Im from the south where eveything is fried… I have friends of all shapes and sizes and colors and I sometimes shock them when i pull the finest guy in the room. I have to say its really not about size, it’s about confidence and how you carry yourself. Ive always been told im pretty, my father always told me I was pretty so to be honest I never thought otherwise. I love the post because I have a friend who’s about 110 and she actually gross me out when she eats, she def has big girls tendencies but thin as a toothpick. Sometimes people are just blessed with great genes, but nevertheless, great post! And nah, Im not upset with the post at all, everyone can have their own opinions =)

  • Elle

    Do you think it’s possible to tell someone’s future weight based on his or her eating habits?
    – Not at all. I found that more than eating habits genetics play a role in people’s current and future weight. My best friend is a tall, skinny chick who eats like a 7-headed, pregnant rhino and doesn’t gain one pound. Why? Skinny mom, skinny dad, skinny grandma, skinny grandpa … you see where I’m going with this.

    Do you think our society puts unnecessary pressure on women to lose weight?
    – Oftentimes, yes. Obesity is a problem and a threat to people’s health. But expecting everybody to be a size 0 when you can be just as healthy (if not more) as a size 10 is taking it way too far. Weight in general is a very innaccurate measurement of health. Instead, they should look at everyone’s lab results and overall health status (joints etc.)

    Do you feel that men get a free pass when it comes to weight, while women get scrutinized?
    – Absolutely. There are tons (no pun intended, or did I?) of overweight male entertainers while there is only a handful of female ones. Go figure.

    Do the official size charts, which were made generations ago, reflect the realities of people today?
    – Not at all. Not just weightwise. Also as far as height is concerned. And don’t let me get started on shoe sizes.

    Have you ever come across someone who was overweight but biased against other heavy people?
    – Not that I can think of, but I know they exist. Makes no sense … but I guess I don’t have to understand everything.

    How important is weight to you in terms of dating?
    – So far it hasn’t been important to me. I have dated “everything” between Snoop-skinny and B.I.G-fat and it never made a difference. What weighs in more when dating, is a person’s lifestyle. I prefer to date people I have as many things in common with as possible – and that includes eating habits, work out style etc. Extremes are not for me. I wouldn’t want to sit at the dinner table with a health nut who eats nothing but egg whites and drinks wheat juice. However, a man who deep fries everything isn’t for me either. Moderation is key. I love food, good food and drink. I refuse to starve myself to fit into a mold society thinks everybody should fit into. Yet and still, I am very health conscious which means I work out regularly and put a lot of emphasize on a healthy diet. Somebody who is d’accord with that is who I want to date. Weight has nothing to do with that.

    Do you think you have or know someone that has BGT or BBT?
    – LoL I am a size 12, so that makes me a big girl. And if I look at my ancestors I figure this will never change. Instead of wanting to be “light” I much rather be healthy. I’ll never be slim or athletic. But I can make sure I remain toned and firm. I’ll never be able to solely survive off water and salad. But I can make sure to eat lots of veggies, fruits, organic products and so on.

    It’s all good. There is a place in this world for each and every one of us.

  • http://www.keepingevahappy.blogspot.com Eva

    Oh wow

    My name is Eva and I have Big Girl Tendencies!

    “Hi Eva”

    *hugs all around*

    Thanks for the heads up Socks, the first step is acknowledging that you have a problem, I have to nip this in the bud double quick time!

    However, judging by my parents I have youthful, slim genes, (lucky me!) so I’m not too worried

    (first time poster – but yours is the first blog I read when my vaio boots up – love it!)

  • slimdog millionaire

    Offended? Upset? I’m offended by all the fat, nasty cellulite laden belly & leg rolls I have to see every day! The nausea begins at plump; no such thing as pleasant, just ask the heart and lungs.

    Yuck…fat, nastry greedy. Put the honey BBQ chicken wings down and have some pride and consideration for the poor chairs under ass.

    And “big” is not a euphemism for fat.

  • Soulyn

    Yes, I have BGT. That’s why I works it on out. Every now and then the big girl inside wants to free herself. I let her loose for a few days…she always wants the same thing…(Gloria’s- Trini spot in BK). I know my limits, though. And will not hesitate to hit the gym.

    How important is weight to you in terms of dating?

    Very important. If I’m working out and you’re not, something is wrong. I can’t do the pot belly. And health is very important. I plan on being around for as long as I can help it. So if my SO wants to live as long as I plan, then he better get it together.

  • meazyneezy

    why am i getting this feeling that people are running out of things to write about big girl tendencies come on before this was techno cheating wtf smh

  • moonstarz

    I talk about food a lot b/c I’m a foodie. I love good gourmet and various types of cuisine.

    I dropped all the weight within a year after I gave birth so I have it covered.

    @Soulyn Gloria’s on Nostrand?

  • cherishb

    I do think that society in america puts more on women about their weight then men. I also think you can’t look at someone and go damn their gonna be fat in ten years because circumstances can change a persons eating habit. I am a big girl who actually is biased to some big people and it is because I went from being a real high weight to a not so high weight and they way some big people breath that shit annoys me like wtf man get your ass on a treadmill and walk that shit out.Just to hear that heavy breathing is nasty to me. Weight did factor when I was dating when I was younger because I liked line me football size so they had to be somewhat healthy and chunky.

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    Size, up to a reasonable point, and reasonable will differ for each of us, isn’t as important IMO as being HEALTHY at whatever size you are. There are legions of men who LOVE 44-DDs and there are numerous women who can make 220 lbs look sexy as hell! Queen Latifah has ALWAYS been sexy to me, and Monique is a cutie who wears her shyt real sexy like…..And I think big gurls try harder, so they can definitely get there freak on..
    Men do tend to get a pass and part of it is male ego and confidence. Men with a belly still think they’re entitled to get the sexy azz chick and since we’re socialized to be confident….it carries over, even as our bellies hang-ova….lol…..Just as some women have said they can’t be with a big belly guy….there are men who will not give a heavy woman any play either, but fortunately, there are OTHERS……so no matter your size, Do you, strive to be healthy and don’t put up with B/s from ppl who don’t find you their type……

  • Soulyn

    @moonstarz

    Yep!! off da hook. I crave their buss up.

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    @ Elle…..Hell yeah baby, there is a place for everyone and You sound like you need to be at MY place…….go on, with your badd self. Size 12 is just what I’m talkin about…….but I like what you said and the way you stated it….Extremes aren’t good for me either, whether it be one who is a REAL Vegan (how come so many vegetarians are heavier than you would expect of persons who eat sea-food and poultry, but no meat?) or someone who eats fried snicker bars and ice cream (WTF is THAT about)…Off topic, but: what is it about shoe sizes, Elle, that ruffles your feathers? U one of them Big footed heifers? lmao…..Are there any cool things associated with women who have big feet–as is the case for men? I wear size 12’s baby…got big hands too! <——smiling………

  • Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

    BALANCE…. moderation eating healthier meals more often and exercise consistently including weight/resistance training are the keys to avoiding Big girl or boy tendencies………fitness is for life

  • http://www.brandonsaintrandy.wordpress.com Brandon St. Randy

    You can kinda tell. Even back in college, there were a lot of cute girls with a lot of T&A who everyone knew were “one donut away.” That donut has since made its presence known. A lot of the thick brick house chicks in their 20’s turn into McMansions into their 30’s and damn near warehouses in their 40’s, but a lot of that is just a function of their activity level. My mom’s 60 and still very slim because she walks every day and plays tennis. All my Aunties are bigger because they’re much more sedentary. I know a lot of girls don’t work out because dudes like their “thickness” now, but gravity’s a-comin.

    Admittedly, I’m mad fatist. I just can’t do bellies. I know some cute skinny girls with a little pot and that shit doesn’t work for me. To each their own, but

    “Fat ass turn to flab, titties turn to teardrops”
    -Big Boi-

    Also, it’s perfectly fine for a man to get good and fat. It’s a sign of prosperity and good living. Yes, it’s a double standard. Throw it in the bucket with all the other double standards.

  • TaiTai

    Ohhhboy…NWSO you don’ went and did it!!

    I concur with most of what Elle and Paulette said. Its about moderation and confort wtih self. And I’m no size 0 (12-16, depending on what I’m wearing…damn these Southern-fed breasts, hips and thighs! LOL) but I’ll be damned if I date a man with moobies cause I’m not Scarlett Johanssen! (I HATE that shit. Just cause I’m thick don’t mean I want a sloppy mofo; get thy azz to the gym, mister!)

    I’m like half foodie, half workout nut…LOL. I love to eat different kinds of food and try different wines, but I know that with my family history, I gotta stay on Kanye’s Workout Plan. I got BGT, but you keep it under countrol. I work out at least 4x a week…Yoga, Pilates (gotta stay flexible in my old age, LOL) Kickboxing and weights are all in the routine.

    What kills me tho–and you sorta addressd it in this post–is this society’s obsession with weight and some of the stereotypes that come with it. Like, I get on a scale and my doctor (a skinny short Jewish lady) tells me I’m supposed to weight 156?!?! WTF?!? Nevermind that I don’t have diabetes, high blood pressure, and my waist is only half and inch over what they say is healthy (doing desk crunches as we SPEAK). Meanwhile, this skinchy ho over here got all kinda health issues and eats like a trash compactor! Shame on it all!

    And I also feel that society’s really hard on black folks. (Now, I realize so many black people like to use the “I’m not fat, I’m thick” approach, and that is trully a hot mess…boocake when you WADDLE, you are no longer thick, okay?!?!)
    We have a higher propensity for diet related illneseses, so we have the most work to do to get down to a “healthy” size. My issue is, there’s no way you can tell me that what healthy for Becky at her height and age is the same for me. Like, Becky doesn’t have the Black Woman’s Physiology. Breast, hips, thighs, butt…it may shrink, but its not going away completely. And if you can tell someone’s ethnicity from their bones, doesn’t it stand to reason that we should have differnt charts for the differnt ethnic makeups??

    Society also isn’t consistent…look at the tabloids! They talked bad about Nicole Richie when she was thick, and Lindsay Lohan had to have fake boobs cause she had some body; now they are hollering cause they are too thin! And I don’t see anyone telling Beyonce or Serena that they are too “bootylicious”; you can’t tell me those to are their “recommended wieght”!
    I guess in the end, if it looks good, it works; if it don’t, fix it!!
    *steppin off soapbox*

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    @DC Man…deep fried Oreo cookies.Avoided them for years cause it just sounded real nasty….tried it last summer…ORGASMIC!!!!

  • boomsilent

    sorry…no big girls for me…i am pretty sexually repulsed by them…i like em short and figured, or tall skinny with a little rump rump.

    some years back there was an oprah show with dudes who were repulsed by their fat wives to the point where they were verbally abusive. the wives were supposedly so “sad” they started eating everything in sight. Dr. Phil was like, “yall full of shit, stop eating”.

    I can understand where the dudes are coming from without agreeing with their methods. I could not imagine being in such a situation, and you have to walk the streets day in and out with all these similac child’s and beautiful grown women around the place. That’s just brutal.

    im actually scared to death about my (potential) wifey turning big…i am so unattracted to big-ums that i would have to end the relationship.

    To each is certainly its own.

  • Optical_Illusion

    The smallest I’ve ever been is a size 8. The largest, a size 24. Now a size 12 and keeping it.

    I stopped worrying if a man was satisfied with me and got satisfied with myself. I love food and cooking, but don’t overindulge. I’m just one those people that look at a piece of cheesecake and gain five pounds. I came out of my mother large, so that’s just kind of who I am. We’re always ready to accept someone is naturally skinny and can’t gain a pound, but refuse to believe some of us are born with that THICK gene that turns salads into fat.

    Men definitely get a pass when it comes to their weight, but they shouldn’t. Ultimately it’s about what’s going on in the heart and mind, but personally I am not attracted to man boobs or a nukka with hips bigger than mine. The big belly beer syndrome is not a good look either. Wrestling with a nukka does not produce orgasms, so I stay away from the ones I have to get a running start in order to straddle. However, there are times you fall for who you fall for. Some of my Kings look DELICIOUS BIG-N-TALL. Rick Ross is one sexy ass fat mofo.

    You can’t knock a person for liking what they like. There were men that loved me large and there were some that thought it was disgusting. And that’s cool because there were some that couldn’t get the time of day from me. Do people treat me differently smaller? No. Because I don’t treat myself any differently. I’m comfortable in my skin and can’t imagine me any other way. No matter how small I get, I’m still a big girl in my heart.

    @Manhattan Chic

    I know that’s right!!!!!!

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    lmao….It still sounds real nasty….But now you have me wondering…..I might have to taste one on a sneak tip! But I’m glad you can vouch that it ain’t nasty…I trust your opinion cuz you kinda smooth like that…..:)

  • http://www.myspace.com/jigeenakjigeen Nana Ataa

    As a registered dietitian who is also a big girl, this is is a topic of conversation that comes up for me all of the time. It used to bother me that I wasn’t as tiny like 98% of most dietitians/nutritionists that you see in the media (white women), until my clients and patients started telling me that they trust and follow my nutrition counseling and information more because I’m not skinny, I’m out there working just as hard as they are to keep my weight in check, and I look good/healthy doing it.

    Personal preference is so subjective, and it will always be…to each his/her own. It takes a strong person to like and be attracted to a body type that is not ‘ideal’ by American standards.

    There are plenty of celebs who have Big Girl Tendencies…Beyonce, Janet, Tyra, Alicia Keyes – to name a few. Halle, because she has Type I diabetes, will probably never be a big girl, no matter how many kids she has, or what she does. It’s the nature of her chronic disease.

    But in terms of physiological evidence, the following is true of most humans, like it or not:
    1. Everyone’s metabolism decreases as we age. If you don’t eat less and exercise more as you get older – Welcome to the Big Girl Club!
    2. As you get older, you lose muscle mass. Even if you weigh the same at 50 yrs of age, as you did at 30, more than likely you will look heavier and may have to wear a larger size, because you aren’t as muscular (i.e. you have less lean body mass).
    3. While genetics can be an unchangeable factor, enivornmental factors like food selection, eating, lifestyle and exercise behaviors are usually a greater indicator of whether or not a person with BGT will actually get big or not. And all of these behaviors start during childhood.

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    @ Tai-tai…you make some good and solid points, ….but now you need to calm the F*ck down….You act like this blog subject is about YOU! Anyways, you’re right, Becky and keisha should have different standards bcuz they sho have different bodies, though a lot of Becky’s are starting to get a little rump, some kinda way……..and I agree with optical Ill….Man boobs are definetly a sign you ova due for a gym membership!

  • jenda

    Hahaha!

    I answered yes to all your questions*, and basically every woman in my family is either obese, overweight, or has been at least a healthy dose of overweight in their adult life.

    *all except the fast food, that’s about once a month. I do eat a lot of “bad for you” foods, tuscan bread I bake myself, cheeses and olives and wine and curries.

    Am I fat? Eh, I’m a little chubby these days, but that’s environmental (severe injury preventing exercise and I’m still eating). Soon as I’m healed I know the weight will come off as I have an awesome metabolism and I love to move.

    Before that however… I was no size 3, but my perfect hourglass size 10 self never got any complaints. Where I come from, size 10 is pretty small and people tell me I’m tiny all the time. You know why? Because it is tiny. I could still sit in a child sized armchair and share some clothes with my then 7 year old son as a size 10. In a pinch I can still wear my son’s tee shirts and hoodies. Nobody can front like a person who can sit in a child’s chair and wear a little kid’s clothes without stretching them out is nasty-big.

    As for the comments about bodies changing as a woman ages… So does a man! Should we insist on a prenup based on whether he goes bald? We get it all if your balls get too wrinkled. You grow a pot, you don’t get a lot. ;) See, we can play that too.

  • Latsyrc41

    Full Figure Potential

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    Dang, Nana…Now you showin why I like nurses…soundin all official and fact filled…..U talk like that in bed? … Knowledge is ALWAYS sexy…worki it out, mama….let me find out U workin with a lil somethin-somethin…..See, though you said you’re a big gurl, U sound sexy……Confidence and knowledge presented with some smoothness……..that shyt is SEXY!

  • http://www.myspace.com/jigeenakjigeen Nana Ataa

    @ DC – thank you for the compliment…I just love what I do, I speak on what I know, and I’m always willing to learn more…It’s a good look that has always worked!

  • Optical_Illusion

    @NWSO

    Am I the only one on the face of the planet, NOT registered with FaceBook?

    Not registered and don’t want to be, am I still invited??? And if so, how do I Répondez, S’il Vous Plaît?

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @ Optical

    Yeah, everyone is invited that can make it. I just did on FB because it was easier to send emails to folks that way. If you not on FB it’s cool, just show up the rsvp just helps with the head count is all

  • http://www.ajhayes.com A. Jarrell

    Funny post. At first I didn’t take it seriously. I’ve never sat down and marked off the items on the list, but they do go through my mind when I’m dating someone. I find myself subconsciously studying her eating habits and making mental notes.

    But, I could never figure this one out: she orders a lot of food, like appetizer, entree, dessert, but doesn’t finish it all at the restaurant. Does this girl have BGT, NWSO?

  • TaiTai

    @Dc Man with a Plan
    My bad if I appear overzealous; its not about me personally…however, as long as I’m a size with 2 digits and can’t get jeans from Rainbow over my butt, there are some people that will throw me in the fat catagory. While I think that’s silly, its cool if that’s how they feel. I just don’t think that some of the ways we measure big, thick or fat are accurate.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @ A. Jarrell

    Very good question. My research has shown that a subject that exhibits such behavior (male or female) is a carrier for BGT. It’s a weaker strain that causes her (or him) to surround themselves with food, but there is a inner anti-BGT gene at work here, which rejects the impulse to consume. BUT this is a slippery slope of temptation and rejection. As a carrier, she/he may pass on full blown BGT on to your offspring.

  • http://www.ajhayes.com A. Jarrell

    @ NWSO

    ROTFL! Thanks for the answer. I like how you get all scientific with it. “Inner anti-BGT gene” — smh.

    You really should make a Punnet Square with the different combination of genes to determine the likelihood of your offspring having BGT or just being a carrier, with the BGT gene in the recessive gene role.

  • Aishah

    I answered no to all your questions, but I still call myself a big girl on the low lol I’m pretty slender, but curvy, and I like to eat. I think anyone with a healthy love of food coupled with a strong aversion to the gym/working out (like myself at times) has BGT, but it’s also genetics, I’m not shaped like my mother, but she always tells me I’m shaped like my grandmother, who basically weighed less than 150 pounds throughout her life even after having 9 kids, so I’m banking on that fact lol but yes I would say not only to look at the mother, but the grandmother if possible to get a read on how your boo may possibly look in the future!

  • MsVenus

    You are silly, Ans. Very Silly. And I have BGT…I’ve been there, but have recently returned to my ideal size. I have a habit now, however, of feeding people…I like to watch them eat and feel satiated as though I’ve eaten and enjoyed immensely what I’ve watched them eat. It’s kind of like giving head…I’m not getting physical pleasure from giving it, but it excites me all the same to watch pleasure being delivered. I’m strange.
    Can’t wait til tomorrow’s post! Whoop whoop!

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    lmao @ Tai-tai….All I know is I wanna always be on your GOOd side, cuz when you do go off…that’s gotta be real ugly…….but you get madd cool points bcuz you are eloquent in a LOUD sorta way…lol……I bet you were smackin the hell outta them keys as you typed….I’m just kidding, don’t get your stockings all frizzled……@ Nana…Ohhh, Nana, ohh Nana! dang, baby. It’s ALWAYS worked? gurl, you need to stop…Dude just spoke on cyber flirtin yesterday…what you tryn to do? we might have to go off-line in a minute!

  • Diffnames

    Personally I like a girl who is borderline but holds it together really well. Ain’t nothing wrong with that, I like thick. Fat is different, big is a no go, but thick is a winner, juicy and thick is even better. I got love for the slim & trim too, don’t get it twisted.

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    If you just let yourself go and your happy and ok with losing attractiveness and the health risk fine. But dont make everybody else try to feel bad because you rather be lazy! When dieting and working out a lil bit goes a long way for most. There is no reason why you cant change your eatting habits and take an 30-45mins a day to keeping yourself sexy and healthy!

  • http://twitter.com/deeny Deeny

    Do you think it’s possible to tell someone’s future weight based on his or her eating habits?

    Absolutely! Just because their eaiting habits are not affecting their appearance NOW, don’t mean it won’t later when they’re metabolism slows and they are less active due to age. Ppl can improve their habits as time goes on, but u have to see if they have that type of discipline to change when they need to.

    Do you think our society puts unnecessary pressure on women to lose weight?

    That’s a given….But I also think men are a lot more forgiving than we give them credit for. They might like to look at and have someone who is “small” enough in society’s eyes, but at the end of the day they just want to be attracted to you.

    Do you feel that men get a free pass when it comes to weight, while women get scrutinized?

    Yes an No. Men don’t get scruntinized as much as we do, but women are less forgiving about weight. You can walk down the street and see plenty of slim men with big girls on their arm than u see “Big Boys” w/ slim women. (It’s really more about men being sex-crazed mammals that just need a “crease” (c) chris rock lol)

    Do the official size charts, which were made generations ago, reflect the realities of people today?

    I think it’s pretty much the same. At one point in history, the “bigger” woman was more desired than the slimmer one. Right now, it’s the other way. Things change, people change, sexuality changes.

    Have you ever come across someone who was overweight but biased against other heavy people?

    Yes, see my comment above bout slim women and heavy men. Not that common. But I don’t know if I can say it’s wrong. I am a plus sized woman and I can honestly say that I am MOST attracted to average – athletic – stocky builds over heavier builds. Not that I can’t be attracted to them, but it is not my first choice. I think it has a lot to do with women having feminine features that can still stand out as being desirable and shapely/sexy to a man.

    How important is weight to you in terms of dating?

    It’s important that the person is HEALTHY and not breathing like Biggie (RIP). Don’t wanna rush you to the hospital and want u to be able to run and catch the kids before they run into the street. I’m jus sayin……

    Do you think you have or know someone that has BGT or BBT?

    Of course! One of my besties is as SLIM as ever and she eats like I don’t know what! But she is also active but is getting lazier as the years go by…..so we’ll see lol.

  • Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

    Pudgy dudes are a turn off to me as well, alot of women will overlook a SOFT body dude, not moi tho, so if I work to keep it tight as a woman, dude has to do the same – by nature its easier for a man to not be fat and overweight…so men gets NO pass in my world!!!

  • knappi

    Rick Ross could get it.

    On my momma’s kitchen table.

    With my Grandma watching.

    That’s all I have to say about that.

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    @knappi

    The real Rick Ross or the Fake Rick Ross? LMAO!

  • EmotionalFunk

    @ Knappi

    Rick Ross eww, lol. You gonna get lost rollin in that ocean of fat.

  • Zayda Rivera

    Hey I have an aunt named Bertha! lol…j/k. I answered no to all questions but you never factored in giving birth. That takes a toll on any woman’s body. It’s fixable but you may be a “big girl” for a little while. :) So what does the man do then?

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Zayda

    Babies are a pass—especially if he loves you and your child. We’ve all heard stories of women never being the same shape-wise following birth. I’m sure there are some guys that won’t take that into consideration, but I’d like to believe when i fall so deep in love that I’m married my wife will always be beautiful to me no matter what. That’s my hope at least… lol

  • MZJON3S

    This topic is funny, i have bgt!! wow, didnt know there was a term for it, i’ve always been chubby but had a life or death surgery and i think it boosted my metabolism. i suddenly lost weight and now im the same size i was in high school.

    dating seems to be a prob to me cause for some reason here in the south men dont want thick women. they like them skinnies, which is fine by me. they would rather date a size 4 idiot than all of this educated brown sugar.

    Im a foodie: 1-because im a caterer, and 2-cause i grew up with southern fried hospitality foods.

    how do you measure someones fatness?, i wear a 2 digit size , but my waist is a 36 my top is a 44DD and my hips are a 48, but im considered fat?
    whatever!!, just member this, summertime is almost over and when the winter gets here, u gonna want some thickness to keep u warm..other than that ur gonna be shivering beside that stick u laying with.lol

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    Why do women insult the next woman?

    “He rather have her ____ over me and my ____”

    It makes you seem real bitter and isnt a good look at all! LOL

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    I think I would have to wear blindfolds to sleep with Rick Ross…plus how long could he really hold all that weight up on top of little ole me…I might walk away hurt and bruised…lmao.

  • MZJON3S

    this is a blog, just like u state your opinion, i state mine, and if u think that was an insult than you must be softer than those hands u steady puttin to work.im not bitter at all about it, its the men that want the skinny women..not me, i see it as your loss not mine.

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    And its a man’s opinion to want women that are in shape! Why does anybody have to lose?

  • EmotionalFunk

    Wow I guess I’m and idiot because I’m 4 now, lol. Hmm omg looks like the true feelings are coming out about us slim girls.

  • mamacotten

    this is so funny I know I have BGT, I have several children, my mom is over weight and even though i sit up late with a bowl of ice cream and cookies I am still classifired pettiet w/ hips. WOW i said it all te wieght has sunk into my hips. Last year my job required alot of activity ( Nurse Aid in a reahb Facility) so I ate what ever when ever and actually lost 20 lbs down to a nice size 7, Well fate has it i got sick and changed jobs. I now work for the cable company where I sit all day and in Six months i have gained 15lbs of that back… I hate it.. My man on the other hand loves it. ( go figure) Of course the wieght went all to my hips… But I want to lose that wieght guess i need to put down the Ice cream and walk it out….

  • Optical_ Illusion

    Shhhiiittt!!!! Rick wouldn’t have to do shit but lay on his fat ass back and enjoy ME!

    I’d sit on his face and ride dat big muthafucka til we both exploded! And I’d bring him a plate of buffallo wings afterwards!

    Working up a sweat thinking about it now…

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    I think the bigger question is Why would anyone be happy to be obese??…I’m uncomfortable when I gain 15lbs…I feel heavy…can’t imagine walking around with even 25lbs more than I should be.

    I see an obese man and I usually think…this dude is buying all that food and happily eating it.Cause fat still has to come from food.When you choose to eat 5000 calories a day…yikes.

    And stores are catering …making bigger and bigger clothes.I refuse to buy bigger clothes…size 8 and under.I keep my ish in check.

  • http://www.brandonsaintrandy.wordpress.com Brandon St. Randy

    Optical:

    Dog. TMI, homey.

  • sixfiguresister

    Hilarious.

    Thank goodness I don’t have BGT…

    Or kids.

  • EmotionalFunk

    @Optical_ Illusion
    you go get you officer Ricky them that had me on the floor lol.

    @ NWSO
    why does having a baby get a pass. There is no excuse you can get your shape back if you want to. I did and know several more ladies who did because they wanted to. Don’t you fall for that!

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @EmoFunk

    gets a pass in that it was weight gain for a reason. Apparently I knocked her up and she got baby fat. lol. Not everyone bounces back. Some it does take effort though and others just snap back

  • EmotionalFunk

    @NWSO true true but still what about if they are trying to claim baby fat 2,3,4 years later for a normal gain of 25 to 30 pounds. That’s not baby fat anymore but let me stop before I get jumped on in here, lol. I know its hard for some but …

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @EmoFunk

    I have no idea, I’m a long away from that stage in my life. But like I said earlier I hope that I’d be so in love that none of that would even matter—outside of health reasons of course.

  • Nicole

    dang! so many good responses i wanna give everyone props. i’m glad people didn’t take it too far and kept the comments pretty wholesome.

    It’s so interesting to me how being “big” is such a big issue on alot of blogs. These tend to be the blogs where everybody and their mom has to respond. I personally beleive some people can’t choose being a little oversized, while others choose it and there aint nothing you can do about it. All you can do is worry about you.

    @NWSO- i respect you even more!!! i knew you were wholesome. big women should be respected too, their just as human as everyone else. it takes a respectable man or woman to look on the interior and not just the exterior.

    @Manhattan chic- I love you and I don’t even know you! You remind me of one of my friends, and I’m really wondering if that is you… LOL! She would’ve said the same thing you did!

    @Nana. I like that you added the facts with what you beleive. I’m definitely on the same page as you.

    All-in-all, it’s not all about the weight, but the health risks that are accompanying it. Just graduating from nursing school, I have become so paranoid with not only the “fat” topic, but also other issues as well. IF ANY ONE IS READING THIS AND SMOKES: PLEASE STOP DOING IT!!!! THERE’S TOO MANY HEALTH RISKS INVOLVED!

    That’s my PSA. LOL!
    Peace.

  • litrisha

    Ok so I’m like 5″0 and weigh 115 and I think about food all the time so maybe I have the BGT…….I can’t help it, I will eat any and every thing, that’s just the way that it is-SORRY!!!! I will admit this though, that if I catch myself getting too out of hand with my eating and I see the weight creeping up then I will put a halt to it….LOL
    I feel that guys have it so easy because they don’t have to worry about anything!!!! They don’t have to worry about their weight, make-up, outfits, pregnancy……..NOTHING, so it kinda kills me what we ladies have to go through with our weight being out biggest problem, it’s not fair.

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    @litrisha

    Why guys dont have to worry about there weight? I mean yeah I lucked up and landed in this totally awesome body. But other dude still have to keep a eye on there weight! LMAO

  • ~sWeEtnEsS~

    yea… i def kno that i have big girl tendencies… i like to eat… i am not a skinny chic – i do have some meat on my bones; but as far as feeling some type of way about it, i don’t think i’m more subconscious of my body than the average female… cuz i kno i can compete with the best of them (‘skinny girls’)… i am guilty of slight discrimination though… i did this blind date thing one time and ole boy looked “chubby” in his pic; in real life it was a whole different story; he def had strong big boi tendencies… i couldn’t do it despite my being a lil thick around the edges…. great post, good laughs and a memory – keep it up NWSO

  • sweet shani

    PSA…….really? wow!

    BGSG……r u serious, unneccessary

    BGT…….smh

    Roseann Barr big…….damn smh x2

    ok now there were some funny lines in this blog ie: “personal bullshit research”. HOWEVER, this blog topic is mainly for the vain and shallow. There are plenty of men who enjoy and prefer a big girl.

    Is it really necessary to write/create a blog about big girls? Is there going to be a blog about people with big/small noses? Or dark/light skinned? Or tall/short? How about next time the blog topic could shit on people with nappy ass hair and praise those who look like “they have Indian in their family”….sarcasm

    Come on degrading, bashing, and singling out big girls will not make the matter any better. This blog is right in line with the media, Hollywood, and magazines etc by instilling that the size 8 or less is better than the size 12 or more.

    If a girl is size 18/20 or more, should she try to be HEALTHIER…..absolutely. Should she lose weight so she can be more eye appealling for a man???? HELL NO

    I won the “plus size sexiest” award at my Senior banquet in high school and I am damn proud to represent with Monique, Oprah, Jill Scott, Angie Stone etc. Most of which have men that love them fat or skinny cuz its not all about whats on the outside…..

    I think I said enough and hopefully got my point across….I am done, good night.

  • sweet shani

    Also, I can’t forget my girl Jennifer Hudson who if I am not mistaken is engaged to a wonderful MAN inside and out. Oh and might I add, she may also be pregnant with his baby. Now, I wonder if he is wondering about BGT??????? doubt it!!! *still smh*

  • sweet shani

    :O)

  • Jazzy

    Do you think it’s possible to tell someone’s future weight based on his or her eating habits?

    Yes

    Do you think our society puts unnecessary pressure on women to lose weight?

    Yes

    Do you feel that men get a free pass when it comes to weight, while women get scrutinized?

    Yes

    Do the official size charts, which were made generations ago, reflect the realities of people today?
    No

    Have you ever come across someone who was overweight but biased against other heavy people?

    Yes, chunky dudes.

    How important is weight to you in terms of dating?

    Very.

    Do you think you have or know someone that has BGT or BBT?

    Yep. BGT. Definitely.

  • http://www.randomrhymereason.blogspot.com Jazzy

    Btw, I think a lot of BGT and BBT has to do with what kind of food you start out eating as a youngster. I was fed healthy food ever since I was a baby. Fast food was VERY rare. Parents enrolled me in everything from basketball to gymnastics to tennis to swimming to soccer. So now I’m not as active as I was as a kid but I don’t gain weight – maybe 5 lbs if I’m really lazy that year. But as soon as I go back to my normal daily routine or do any kind of exercise (e.g. take stairs instead of escalator), I lose whatever I gained. Always been that way. *knock on wood* I don’t like to workout at a gym. It’s boring. Would much rather do something fun that doesn’t seem like exercising like skating or hiking or kayaking or whatever. Yoga’s great for increasing flexibility and strengthening without a lot of wear-and-tear.

    Fast metabolisms on my mom’s side. Big-bonedness on dad’s side. Many on dad’s side start out slim b/c they’re athletes but then blow up b/c they also like to eat! My brother is 6’4, 190 NOW but the way he eats? He could blow up as soon as he stops playin ball. Like Charles Barkley.

  • sweetsexxybrown

    Funny post. I don’t really think I have BGT based on your questions. Based on genetics, no as well. I am 5’9′ and 165 lbs. No one ever believes the weight and its because of my height. I wear an 8 or 10 (depends on cut). But I have recently become obssessed with my lil pot belly. I’ve joined the gym 2 help w/it and am trying 2 make healthier food choices as well. But the one thing that bothers me is losing too much weight. I was ALWAYS the skinny minny throughout school and college and was made fun of because it. I’ve gotten over that somewhat, and have since realized its more about being healthy, but a part of me loves how my ‘now’ body fills out my clothes.

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    @ Sweet Shani…like I said on Facebook…the comments on here are actually being nice to BBW.

    Should a man pat you on the back for being lazy and thinking its cute to rock 50lbs more than you need to be?And further more envision you about to give birth with 50 more extra lbs on top of what he met you with?

    I know you’re offended by the blog but shouldn’t you be more upset with yourself for “letting yourself go”?

    I am not fat…because it doesn’t feel good and I don’t wanna shop at Lane Bryant…no matter how cute that purple top looks.Maybe you might outlive me but I won’t be on “high alert” every time I go on the street or to the doctor.

    Just like I use condoms to protect my sexual health…I eat within 2000 calories a day to protect my overall health.

    I think the bigger question is…Why would anyone be happy being overweight or obese?

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Sweet Shani

    We’ve already been discussing this outside the ring, glad you brought it in now.

    Yes, you’re absolutely right it’s for the vain and shallow. We all have a bit of that in us. I’m sure there’s some trait in the opposite sex that irks you-small penis, crooked teeth, bad breath, SOMETHING that is more surface level than viewing the actual human being before you.

    Technically the post was about skinny girls (that may or may not become “big” girls).

    Actually I have blogged about people with big lips and how teasing as a kid can effect your self esteem. Check it out here:
    http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/03/23/are-big-lips-ugly-as-cruel-as-school-children/

    And true story, I plan to cover height issues as well. You been rockin for a minute, so you know I cover a wide range of topics from would you date an amputee to interracial dating to dating an atheist to would you date a midget. Today’s (yesterday’s) post struck a nerve with you, tomorrow’s will strike a nerve with someone else. I gotta bring the good with the bad and the shallow and the vain.

    And I don’t think I bashed anybody here. (Okay, may my Tweets were a little too engaging). This si real ish that people talk about in private, I just decided to put it out there. Even still, when we got to the topic questions I think the “funny” post set up the broader scope of discussion.

    My 2 cents…

    PS

    When I do the Skinny Chicks Should Die post, you better be the first one to comment.

    :P

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    Alright, Paulette….I like your style and tone @ Shani, bcuz I too felt Shani musta been reading another blog or assuming things about the posts this one reflects. There very well may have been several persons who made light of the female weight issue, but MORE ppl represented good, positive thoughts and views on men and women that have a pudge factor. I don’t know who got her grannies all knotted up, but hopefully she’s taking something for that…or gettin a lil somethin-somethin to restore her balance. NWSO blogs about REAL life shyt. U think ppl don’t recognize and speak about WEIGHT daily? U mentioned Oprah…how many times has SHE dealt with this topic and been the one who initiated the conversation? Are U kidding me? Considering ALL the posts for this topic and you come away with THAT interpretation? Talk about selective reading…..Get real. BUT, you too are entitled to your views and opinions…and you are even entitled to mis-represent what the posts in this blog reflect…but don’t think someone like me and Paulette aren’t gonna call you on it. but I still got respect for you, bun-bun…..

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @DCMan

    In Shani’s defense. Since she and I (with a little Paulette) were discussing this outside the ring, Shani was more perturbed by my Tweets throughout the day in promo of the entry. They’re just quick sensationalized one-liners that I write to draw interest. I’ll admit I was a little less PC there, but I gotta use tasty bait.

  • http://www.twitter.com/jazzzyone Jazzy

    Back in college, a (slim male) friend of mine used to comment on females that he swore “would blow up during pregnancy” (aka has BGT). Among the celebs he mentioned was Tisha Campbell. At the time, I was all offended on behalf of slim women who may/may not have BGT. Also at the time, Tisha C was VERY slim so I was like “you’re crazy”. Well, 10+ years later when Tisha C got pregnant, she BLEW UP..like 60+ lbs kinda BGT…She has lost most of it since then but it took awhile. And all I could think when I saw her was “damn, homie was right”. And he definitely texted me with a pic of her to say “I told u so”.

    I should show him this post. He’s King of spotting BGT (b/c he’s quite shallow :-P)

  • sweet shani

    thank u again Ans for speaking up in my defense. I never asked for anyone’s pat on the back nor did i ask for any of ur insights and opinions (still respected) Ans knows where I was coming from. Also, the 1st comment paulette submitted, i was going 2 say i liked but coming at me in a manner as if u knew me is whole other ball game…..let myself go????? im sorry who r u? u dont know me and i dont know u. u can do u and i will do me. i was simply speaking up on how IIIIII interpreted. I gained more info and insight from Ans (the mediator) :) i gave my opinion and it is what it is. whatever attitude or tone DC and paulette want 2 have…….i suggest let it go cuz its not that serious actually……..

    u guys seem a bit over the top, u must be hungry so go eat and talk later LMAO!!!!!!

    and Ans/NWSO i know u were joking about the whole “skinny chicks must die” blog but just in case i wouldnt feel comfortable about that either. I dont know if i explained myself well enough but i am just more about treating everyone equal cuz regardless of looks, brains etc at the end of the day we all have feelings, bleed, smile, cry and laugh the same

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    @sweet shani

    If you are a big girl you have accepted your faith. You cant compare height or skin color to weight. You have a chance to do something about your weight. Is it easy not for everybody but it is possible. A person cant change there height or skin color or hair grain or nose(minus doing surgery).

    If you are comfrontable with you size more power to you. But dont compare a person to lazy to change themselves with somebody who are stuck the way they are!

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    I ate…a healthy low fat meal.

    I am not over-weight because I don’t live to eat..I eat to live.

    My great-grandmother died from complications of obesity recently and it’s not something I would advise anyone to be proud of.The last years of her life was spent stuck to her bed…literally. None of my family took the time to scold her and set her on the right path to health.And since we lived in different countries I couldn’t throw that fat filled junk in the garbage.

    Uhm…I’m not over the top..my top fits just fine.

    Nothing attractive about a person that’s content with staying unhealthy.Especially when you envision a future relationship…they might not be around to celebrate the 10th Anniversary…or the 20th…or the 30th.

    You don’t have to be skinny…I have meat on my bones but it’s just enough to pinch.I have a daughter and I want to live to see her grow up.Real talk.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @ Paulette

    The thing is the automatic assumption that overweight = unhealthy. When it’s really obesity = unhealthy. Like we’ve already said skinny people could be unhealthy. I know some unhealthy ass vegetarians. Shoot, Michael jackson was skinny as all hell and died from a heart attack. There are professional athletes (Sumo wrestlers, football players, etc.) that have quite some girth to them but are they unhealthy?

    I just think this miscommunication is due to word usage and assumptions. Just cause Sha anyone else
    happy with who they are, big or not, doesn’t mean they’re unhealthy. Based on American stereotypes is Queen Latifah unhealthy? Mo’nique? Roseanne Barr? I have no idea, I’m not their doctor or nutritionist. But are they “fat?” Quite possibly. Obese? Don’t think so, IMO. So can’t just throw a fat/thick/chubby = unhealthy blanket over everything.

    Shoot what about the flipside? You got anorexic men and women that are far from healthy

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    @ NWSO…still doesn’t make sense to choose to eat 2-3 days worth of calories in one.Noone gains weight from thoughts.It’s from food.

    And we all know carrying an extra 50-100lbs is not healthy.No matter how you dress it.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @ Paulette

    You’re always making this huge leaps. Who said anything about eating 2-3 days worth of food? I read all the comments, no one on here said they did that.

    If you’re talking about someone you know, seen or is standing next to you, then cool, but you make it seem like you know the back stories on people commenting. SMH.

    Again obesity and fat are two different things.

    You’re a cyber bully :P

  • Latsyrc41

    I don’t think that anyone who’s fat, overweight or obese is unaware of the health risks associated with an unhealthy diet and sedentary lifestyle.

    It’s like when people see a smoker and say “smoking is bad for you”. Really?!?!? OMG why didn’t somebody tell me!

    What I don’t understand the need to badger someone about it or be overly judgemental, critical and abusive about a body and a life that isn’t yours. If it’s a loved one, do what you have to do, but why is what I choose do with my body, big or small, anyone’s business but my own.

    You don’t like the way it looks…ok, move on.

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    @ Latsyrc…OUCH…….But for real, is it REALLY that easy, that simple to be WAY different? To find ppl don’t invite you places, that you have a lot of folks avoiding you or over looking you? I have several fat women in my fam so I TRY to repsect ppl for what they bring bcuz I know I love me some ppl that happen to be fat. BUT it damn sure ain’t easy socializing when you’re big. I would be lying if I said I neva laugh at things I REALLY don’t agree with being said….jokes about black ppl, white ppl, skinny ppl, fat ppl, the elderly, the lame and crazy. Funny is funny. Thus this topic, for good and bad, represents things that are thought and heard throughout the land……but for the record: I like your body….lol

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    AND I agree with your assessment, Latsyrc, that it is not productive or beneficial to badger ppl or talk down to them……So kick rocks, Paulette! lmao…NOW I gotta hear HER mouth again…and we was JUST gettn to be cool for this week….

  • Latsyrc41

    @Dc Man with a Plan

    This is comical and a little sad.

    “WAY different”? Are people being avoided and being overlooked (by whom?), not getting invited to places because they’re fat? Why is it hard to socialize?

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    When you can’t see your toes when you look down…a hyper-active blog on the internet is the least of your worries.

  • http://www.twitter.com/jazzzyone Jazzy

    I’m relatively new to this blog…but it seems like the comments sections of the most recent posts are turning into hostile free-for-alls. Wasn’t like that at first…

    NWSO, that means you are digging deep into the psyche and touching some nerves with your posts. Job well done, sir.

    Just to go back to original topic…I’ll write on another BGT situation. My best friend and I have known each other since we were 4 years old. Back then, we weighed about the same..maybe 5 lbs diff (yes we used to weigh ourselves at 10). She was always slightly bigger but I wanted to be bigger just so I could “win” the weight contest. When we were 8, my dad commented that she was gonna be “big” when she grows up. At the time, we weighed between 75-80 lbs. And I remember thinking “he’s crazy” (just like my weight-conscious male friend)…well, over the years, she began picking up weight. Now she’s definitely a bigger-sized woman. The differences between us? We both attended a school that served healthy, vegetarian snacks. But at home was a different story. At 10, she cooked 5-course meals for her family. Meanwhile, I was getting by on lean chicken, veggies, etc that my mom cooked for us. Our food tastes are so different. She bakes for a living. And I can’t bake without a recipe in front of me. So who do u think is eating all of the time? Not me. So growing up, we exercised the same (recess, summer camps, playing, etc), but developed different eating habits.

    Genetics? Well, thyroidism runs in her family just like it runs in mine..and that can make you gain weight – regardless of your exercise/eating habits. But her family is generally slim…I suspect she has gained weight b/c of a glandular problem caused by soy consumption (that’s a whole other topic).

    @Paulette
    My (long-typed) point is that before you judge people as being unhealthy, lazy, or whatever because of their weight, get to know their background. I can be a critical person at times, and I have found that criticizing rarely motivates people to change their ways. Live by example. Love them. Lend your support when they come to you for advice/help.

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    I find it interesting I’m being made the bag guy here.

    I motivate myself to stay at a healthy weight for my height.For someone to celebrate being way over what is necessary is foreign to me.Personally…I am uncomfortable at a certain point…and I cut out the excess calories that’s the cause of my weight gain.

    I’m 5’2’…without any of y’all telling me so it would be quite insane for me to be 175lbs.And I don’t need a chart to tell me that.It would feel like I’m carrying my daughter 24-7.

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal
  • Dc Man with a Plan

    Okay, lets do this by the numbers..FROM my personal knowledge..my younger sista is a big gurl (she actually just had the bypass surgery–which to me, indicates the extremes some ppl are willing to go to, to get to a more ‘acceptable’ posture”)..my sis carries herself well, is positive and elegant and dresses professionally BUT also knows how to get her swag on, wearing shyt that makes me forget she’s a grown azz woman at times. lol….IMO, she does NOT lack confidence in herself …….She’s a lawyer and a smart one, but going to the club–she often felt dissed……going to get something to eat–why ppl gotta look at her as if she’s not supposed to eat anything but wheat-germ and tofu……Why dudes who approach her gotta be thinkin she’s a suga-momma or desperate…SHE got TIRED of settin mofo str8….tired of plus size shopping bcuz truth be told, there is an abundance of fly gear for ‘regular’ sizes, but big gurls have SOME, but far less…..My cousin, she had gastric bypass two years ago..I was the ONLY one in the fam that supported her, told her to go for it if that’s what she thought she needed to do…She told me she was TIRED of being the fat gurl in the bunch…My cousin had an incident and was rushed to the hospital over that gastric bypass B/S…BUT, those are the risks you assume, when you have surgical procedures. She still has complications, still has some flesh that is wayy too loose, but she’s happier, all the same. ME, I don’t personally treat ppl different until you do something that puts you in a different category. U wanna be an azz..ok, in my eyes, you’re an AZZ, but you don’t start out as one. I don’t care if you’re fat, skinny, whateva. U might not be for me, but somewhere there’s someone for everyone. But when ppl are willing to go through with surgical procedures that ALWAYS carry risks, and when the numbers of persons getting those procedures increase exponentially, and when some of the cost is not covered by your health plan–but you do it anyways….THAT to me is an indication of how difficult life can be, as a person ppl consider fat. My mom was fat when I was in grade sch and H.S….I had several fights bcuz dudes was tryin to be funny cracking on my moms…and I wasn’t having it. Thankfully, for her own benefit, she lost some weight over time, but not everyone can do that, though they try HARD as hell. My sista DID workout, walked, ate pretty well, but she did not loose weight…..It was hurtful knowing she was taken for granted, and maybe it’s not that ppl didn’t invite her places…but she felt left out, which means you just don’t go…Nob one usually has to tell you you’re not welcomed…You just know. How many skinny or average size ppl you think are getting operations for gastric bypass? knowing their eating ability will dramatically change forever? Not a fun thing to do. Not a thing to do without grave considerations for other options…….so you tell me how ‘welcoming’ our society is, when this and other surgical operations are becoming common place?

  • Dc Man with a Plan

    MY last comment for this TOPIC: come on, Jazzy. I’m speaking for myself, Paulette, Latsyrc and anyone else whose comments made YOU think there is hostility, when I say: At the end of the day…NONE of y’all matter a snots worth of monkey azz to any one of us……..LMBAO…how’s that for releasing tension and returning to a cool equilibrium?

  • Latsyrc41

    @paulette-BAJAN-gal

    It’s the condescension in your tone.

    You’re not alone tho.

  • Jazzy

    @DC Man with a Plan

    What a lovely personality you have there.

    I think we ought to be teaching REAL nutrition classes in elementary, junior high, high school. Even some doctors I know recommend bad foods…especially in the South. Whatever eating habits you start your kid off with – e.g., Mickey D’s – that’s probably what they’ll end up wanting/eating as they grow into adults.

    My little brother used to HATE meat/cheese as a toddler. Would scrape it off and only eat fruit+veggies. But enough Mickey D trips and he learned the way to eat in the South: fast food first. fatty, greasy soul food second. Even when you’re not hungry. You eat enough of that unhealthy food and your body’s ability to metabolize food at a normal rate will breakdown. So once you get fat, you have to work extra hard to burn 5lbs – more than a slimmer person has to work…So don’t judge fat people as lazy. Sometimes it’s not as easy as taking a walk or picking up a dumbbell.

    http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_Orni9qDxahM/SNBKbOUoW-I/AAAAAAAAABE/mAUMdsJ6iD8/s400/fatty+mickey+d%27s.jpg

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    @ Latsyrc41…I didn’t make anyone fat.And frankly don’t use me as a cop out for why people choose not to manage their weight within a window that they know is healthy.

    I posted a link….I think Anslem’s spambot caught it…it’s saying what I said…”without the condescending tone”..whatever that is.

  • Latsyrc41

    @paulette-BAJAN-gal
    I guess I just don’t understand the hostility towards other people who don’t eat what YOU eat and work out like YOU do or the superiority you seem to feel because of the lifestyle that you’ve CHOSEN to adopt. No one is blaming you for anything or accusing you of anything (certainly not me, for you wield no power over here). You just seem to be mad at people for being fat, or at the very least perplexed by why they are fat and unable to see beyond your own personal view of the world.

    But whatever.

    ____________________

    People have various reasons for being fat. And people who think it’s just about food and lack of self control are…uninformed. From my perspective and experience (and I have been the yo-yo), laziness and lack of motivation is rarely is one of them. If you’ve not been fat and tried to lose weight, you shouldn’t speak on what it takes to get it done.

    Do I eat “right?” Most of the time. Do I exercise? Sometimes (cuz if I’m sweating, I better be having orgasmic amounts of fun). Am I overweight? Yeah, even with the 50+ pounds I’ve lost in the last year. Am I healthy? Yes. I have no conditions that require any sort of medication or any doctor’s attention or supervision. I didn’t have any conditions before the weight loss and the desire to NOT need a doctor for any weight-related reason was the inspiration for dropping some pounds.

    I never have been, nor will I ever be a skinny girl. One, because I’m not built to be and two, I wouldn’t want to be.

    I am a woman and I have a wonderful woman’s body that I love. I even turn myself on sometimes. I’m not lacking any sort of attention and I don’t settle for anything less that what I want and/or need.

    I am neither proud nor ashamed of ANYTHING about myself. I simply love me in my entirety and whatever form I take and whatever asinine choices I make.

    No one gets to tell me who I am or who I should be or how I should look. NO ONE. No one else on this planet is more or less special than I am. You’re all equally human and I don’t give a fuck what any of you think about me.

    This body belongs to me and I can use and/or abuse it however I choose. If I want to ride it hard like I stole it then I will.

    ____________________

    @DC Man with a Plan
    Most of us are susceptible to the demands and intrusions of society on our individual psyches. In my fatness of experience, you can have as much confidence and swagger as you want, but the moment you allow just one person’s opinion of what you are or what you should be to invade your personal reality, it’s all over. The seed is planted.

    I say that to say that even though your sister is successful and confident, etc., somewhere along the way she allowed a seed to take root and make her feel like she was the pariah amongst her friends (and in the world) and that she was less than.

    I understand it all.

    I’m sorry she had to go the GB surgery route, and I hope that she’s ok. I hope that she gets what she wanted/needed from the surgery.

    @ Jazzy
    You’re absolutely right about children and nutrition. They should teach it and the school lunch programs need to be completely overhauled and all the vending machines need to go.

    The FDA is useless.

  • Latsyrc41

    @NWSO

    Do yo have a character limit on comments? :-D

  • Latsyrc41

    @paulette-BAJAN-gal
    I guess I just don’t understand the hostility towards other people who don’t eat how YOU eat and work out like YOU do or the superiority you seem to feel because of the lifestyle that you’ve CHOSEN to adopt. No one is blaming you for anything or accusing you of anything (certainly not me, you wield no power over here). You just seem to be mad at people for being fat, or at the very least perplexed and extremely disturbed by why they are fat and unable to see beyond your own personal view of the world.

    But, whatever.

  • Latsyrc41

    @General

    People have various reasons for being fat. And people who think it’s just about food and lack of self control are…uninformed. From my perspective and experience (and I have been the yo-yo), laziness and lack of motivation are rarely the reasons. If you’ve not been fat and tried to lose weight, you shouldn’t speak on what it takes to get it done.

    Do I eat “right?” Most of the time. Do I exercise? Sometimes (cuz if I’m sweating, I better be having an orgasmic amount of fun). Am I overweight? Yeah, even with the 50+ pounds I’ve lost in the last year. Am I healthy? Yes. I have no conditions that require any sort of medication or any doctor’s attention or supervision. I didn’t have any conditions before the weight loss and the desire to NOT need a doctor for any weight-related reason was the inspiration for dropping some pounds.

    I never have been, nor will I ever be a skinny girl. One, because I’m not built to be and two, I wouldn’t want to be.

    I am a woman and I have a wonderful woman’s body that I love. I even turn myself on sometimes. I’m not lacking any sort of attention and I don’t settle for anything less that what I want and/or need.

    I am neither proud nor ashamed of ANYTHING about myself. I simply love me in my entirety and whatever form I take and whatever asinine choices I make along the way.

    No one gets to tell me who I am or who I should be or how I should look. NO ONE. No one else is more or less special than I am. You’re all equally human and I don’t give a fuck what any of you think about me. Your problems with me are exactly that….YOUR problems.

    This body belongs to me and I can use and/or abuse it however I choose. If I want to ride it hard like I stole it then I will.

  • Latsyrc41

    @DC Man with a Plan
    Most of us are susceptible to the demands and intrusions of society on our individual psyches. In my fatness of experience, you can have as much confidence and swagger as you want, but the moment you allow just one person’s opinion of what you are or what you should be to invade your personal reality, it’s all over. The seed is planted.

    I say that to say that even though your sister is successful and confident, etc., somewhere along the way she allowed a seed to take root and make her feel like she was the pariah amongst her friends (and in the world) and that she was less than.

    I understand it all, believe me.

    I’m sorry she had to go the GB surgery route, and I hope that she’s ok. I hope that she gets what she wanted/needed from the surgery.

  • Latsyrc41

    @ Jazzy
    You’re absolutely right about children and nutrition. They need to teach it and the school lunch programs need to be completely overhauled and all the vending machines need to go!

    The FDA is useless.

    And sorry about all the posts y’all.

  • paulette-BAJAN-gal

    @ Latsyrc41

    How do you say that I’m angry and hostile when the link I posted is urging black women to be more conscious of their weight??

    I am not vegetarian nor am I a size 0.I eat McD’s and pizza and fried chicken and all the good sh*t…but I eat it in moderation.

    I send my daughter’s school lunch…I feed her a healthy breakfast at home and she gets to eat McDonald’s once or twice a week.Compared to her classmates she’s skinny but her doctor said her BMI is where she wished more kids were.She gets so many overweight 7 year olds it’s alarming.

    In my experience…quote me now…I gain weight when I over-eat and slack off on exercising.And as far as I know most of the folk I know that have extra lbs say the same thing.

    Yeah…I had 2 cupcakes today…home made with strawberry icing on top.But I won’t be chasing it down with ice-cream.Maybe a piece of watermelon.I watch what I eat…and it works for me.

    One day I tracked my calories and was alarmed to see I was eating 1500 calories by 3pm…nipped that in the bud.What works for me..works for me.If someone is comfortable at 250lbs…it works for them.

    You all are right.Let an over-weight and obese person exist in their own state of mind.Who am I to wish them a healthier lifestyle.

  • Latsyrc41

    @paulette-BAJAN-gal

    Didn’t see your link, but thanks for the info anyway.

    You may be wishing people a healthier lifestyle, but you’re writing it on a note attached to a brick and throwing it at their heads.

  • Latsyrc41

    @NWSO

    Any chance I can see the article Paulette is referring to or you can email me the link? Would appreciate it.

  • Caribeza

    rofl i had to comment.

    Paulette-Bajan-Gal said “When you can’t see your toes when you look down…a hyper-active blog on the internet is the least of your worries.”

    Lol I’m a 36GG cup, so uhmm I can’t see my toes when I look down, roflmao and its not because I consume 2k – 5k calories per day.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Latsyrc41

    Her link is above in an earlier comment. got flagged as spam because she posted a link. you too because of all those @s

    lol

  • Latsyrc41

    @NWSO

    Sorry about that. :-(

    Thanks!

  • Latsyrc41

    @paulette-BAJAN-gal

    Thanks for the article.

  • http://www.twitter.com/jazzzyone Jazzy

    @Paulette

    Also, calorie intake really doesn’t matter b/c it’s relative. The formula for gaining weight is: calories intake > calories burned. Some people burn calories more easily than others for various reasons (I already described two above). I can sit here and eat cakes all day and gain 2 lbs in a month (and then lose it as soon as I return to my normal eating patterns w/out any extra exercising required), while my friend can eat the same cakes and gain 20 lbs in a month (and have a harder time working it off). It’s partly b/c of genetics and, I believe, partly b/c of our eating habits in early childhood.

    Awhile ago, I read that our body develops the # of fat cells it’s gonna have for life within the first 3 years. Those fat cells either grow or shrink based on how much we store in there, but the # is fixed after 3 years old. In other words, what you feed your child in the first 3 years sets the pattern for adulthood. My mom told me she kept my diet pretty basic with lean meats/veggies. I never had fast food until I was 10 or so. And even then, it was Subway type stuff. To this day, I can’t even eat too many rich foods b/c they don’t agree with my palette.

    I have another friend who I’ve known since we were 5. She was raised on a very strict, vegetarian diet (which I wouldn’t recommend for growing kids either). She can eat whatever she wants (which usually includes lots of cheese) and she doesn’t gain weight. Does that mean she’s healthy? Not necessarily. Her organs could be malfunctioning. Who knows? But she “looks” fit.

    Oftentimes, we correlate extra weight with bad health and vice versa when that’s not always the case. A chunky person who exercises is probably (internally) healthier than a slimmer couch potato. Some people’s bodies just aren’t meant to be slim.

    Also, soy is EVIL. It’s a thyroid inhibitor, which can slow down your metabolism. Soy lobbyists successfully got the BushAdmin’s FDA to include soy in most products in the grocery store, including non-food items, and fast food restaurants. It’s no wonder that our kids our getting fatter sooner. And if u were a previously-slim person who all of a sudden started gaining weight, go get your thyroid checked – MANY times b/c soy causes FLUCTUATIONS in your thyroid functioning. Makes it harder for doctors to catch the problem.

  • chicken all the time

    as monique told us that big girls are beautiful too thats why they have plus size models yes plus size models are in france too so cut it out, if your personal opinion thats you dont like big people keep it too yourself i see people as human ,and the rest of the world isnt complaining about plus size models in fact they like them just as much as the skinny models

  • Beth

    First of all, you got how women gain weight all wrong. Let me set you straight fool! Women gain weight for several other reasons than what you addressed in your blog.
    1) Age – when women get older (usually around 30) their metabolism slows down and they gain weight.
    2) Pregnancy – after women have kids it’s difficult to lose the weight they gained. They don’t have the time or energy to exercise or take care of their bodies the same as they used to.
    3) Emotional Eating – Some women eat when they are experiencing excessive stress or other emotional hardships to comfort them. It is more than eating healthily, it is a physcological issue.
    4) Physical Issues – One example is a thyroid problem, which causes women to gain a lot of weight and nearly impossible to lose weight.
    Next time you write a blog, you should make sure you cover all your bases instead of just one angle.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @ Beth

    Clearly you missed the lighthearted and fun nature of the actual post Sheesh.

    Of course I know that there are tons of reasons why women (and men and people in general gain wait) but that wasn’t the point of this post. I never addressed causes for weight gain, wasn’t the point of this fun and lighthearted piece.

    The point was to bring to light the thought process of SOME guys an dhow they view women. So if I or anyone else notices someone’s eating habits or even body structure and think, oh, she/he might gain weight or have BGT so be it. Is it a scientific fact or some magical way you can look at someone and tell if he or she will be “big?” HELL NO! If there was someone would be rich.

    And for the record, if you check the comments, I actually DEFENDED women who gain weight after child birth when someone else said “that’s no excuse”. I think it was a female too.

    Despite the argumentative nature of our blog exchanges, I appreciate your input, Beth, even when you misconstrue me.

    :P

  • Lions and Butterflies

    Great post NWSO! I’m a big girl and not offended in the least bit. It’s unfortunate that so many men can be so shallow to judge a woman by the size of her waistline and not the size of her heart.

    I’ve dated slim dudes who didn’t have a problem with my size (no I’m not so overweight that I breathe heavily just sitting watching tv) but ironically the brother’s I’ve dated with the big bellies seemed to be the most critical! WTF!!!

    In my opinion, I don’t discriminate too much on size but have found that the bigger the belly on a man…the smaller the “you know what”! That doesn’t equal a night of passionate rolling around in the hay. So I prefer a physically fit man in that sense and hell, I consider a good roll around in the hay a good workout. I tackle that as my exercise for the day: cadio, muscle toning…etc. One actually enjoyed the fact that I considered it a workout and he didn’t have to do much…

    My biggest problem with men who date big girls is that they seem to think we’re an easy lay and get offended when I look at’em cock-eyed when they’re trying to get some nana after a lousy dinner and think they’ve did something. Oh well, the way of the world!

  • Carmalle

    When I was a kid I was thin and muscular. Took ballet for 12 years. I have a pretty face. When I reached puberty, every damn asshole in the whole world wanted to have sex with me. It grossed me out. i knew about the “no fat chicks” thing, so I purposely gained 40 pounds. On purpose. It worked well at keeping hoard of men away. I still had men bothering me, because they thought I would be easy.

    I never had any problems getting a boyfriend, in my life. My weight goes up and down. I don’t eat very much. People assume that if you are fat that you pig out all the time. Bullshit. My skinny friends eat more and crappier food than I do. I have had stupid women calling me a fat ass. Men never do. You don’t like it –don’t look at it –you ugly shallow piece of dung.

  • http://? Charity

    We all have to maintain a balance….when it comes to our eating/exercise. I know that’s easier said than done. While some can seem to eat anything and never gain a pound….others can appear to look at food and gain five pounds seemingly. LOL!

    The general rule is as we get older, our metabolism (the rate at which your body burns calories) slows down.

    I was skinny most of my life, and when I got in my thirties, I begin to fill out. I realized though, I had to exercise to maintain my weight and figure.

    I want to look good for me….not for a man, for me. Not to mention being overall healthy/eating right, etc. etc.

    While sometimes you may not feel like exercising, just a little 30 minutes a day, if no more than 3 times a week does wonders. You’ll be surprised…the more you do, the easier it becomes & before you know it, it will become a normal part of your lifestyle. That’s what you want to incorporate is a healthy lifestyle.

    No disrespect to anyone….but who wants someone who doesn’t care about themselves???
    Can you really say you love you???? I don’t think so. Let me be very clear…..there’s a big difference if there’s something medically wrong with a person, that they struggle to lose weight or are limited in their ability to exercise. Outside of that….take care of you.

    As crazy as it may sound, even skinny people can have some health issues that need to be addressed, as well. Because their bodies are physically, proportioned….and they don’t look like they have any health problems/issues / a need to exercise..they too, need to keep things in balance.

    It’s crazy how we change over the years….when I was in my twenties, I loved a tall skinny man…was just attracted to them. Now, that I’m a little older, LOL. I’m more attracted to a man between 195- 225 lb. BRING IT ON BABY….give me something to hold onto! LOL! Oh, at least 6’0 feet…I’m just saying. Okay, I know, I got a little carried away, thinking out loud! LOL!

    All jokes aside, take care of yourself….you want to live to be around the people that put a smile on your face, and add to your happiness.

    It’s called preventive maintenance! PEACE!

  • Renae Feilds

    I have always had BGT now I am working effortlessly to become lighter. And this fat will make me famous, Because I have a live film of being reduced without diet, surgery, pills, or exercise.

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  • likeumbig

    250 plus is what i need

  • Nate

    Don’t really find big women attractive, no matter how pretty the face or how great a personality.

    I prefer woman on the thin/fit side. Just a personal preference. Heaviest I ever dated was around 160 (just guessing since I didn’t dare ask).

  • rohan

    i love big girl

  • LIL.D

    I like Girls but, i think it should not matter if thier are fat or skinny some guyes like big girls and some guyes like skinny girls… it all depends on your choice, I prefer both..

    LIL.D the music producer

  • Daniel

    I want a fat girl… they’re so sexy… I’m picky though…

  • SweetPea31

    LOL!!! This blog is hilarious!! For men like “da THRONe” what are you going to do if your girl that has the “pinup doll shape” gets pregnant and blows up? Are you going to leave her hanging? I hate ignorant men, they make me nauseated. Now, as far as the list, if you fall into the category, then deal with it. However, a woman’s weight tends to fluctuate a lot for a variety of reasons. I have been fluctuated from a size 6 to a size 24 and it wasn’t because I was stuffing my face from fast-food or sitting on the couch in pajamas watching soap opera’s all day. I have always been very active either working 2-3 jobs or working and going to school. Some heavy women don’t care about their appearance and some do. Not every woman that is heavy, wants to stay that way. On another note, it is imperative to take care of your body and watch your weight. The heavier you are, the more health conditions you are at risk for…….and personally, I get tired of straining my body taking care of patients that are 3-4 times my size and then want to talk to me crazy because they can’t move!! Well HELL, IT AIN’T my FAULT; PUT THE FOOD DOWN!! Women have to be comfortable with themselves, and don’t change or try to “improve” yourself for some man’s attention, he has to want and accept you for who you are!!!

  • Supergirl

    I have bgts but it’s for none of the reason listed above….lol. I usually claim my big girl moments when I tend to over eat and when I have huge sweet tooth. I don’t care what people think I’m a big girl and look damn good if I do say so my self and I’m gonna keep having my BGM (moments)BIG girls rule as long as you love yourself and can be happy when u look in the mirror :) funny article thou

  • Lovelybliss

    I am sure that this has been mentioned already, esp to Miss Paulette.
    I do not disagree that all people regardless of size should make better life choices when it comes to being healthy. As an over weight woman who was once very athletic and slim. I know the meaning of healthy.
    Although today, I am 215 lbs and only 5’3″. I walk 5 miles, 4 days a week, Never eat fast food. Never eat past 10pm. Rarely eat fried foods. Shop at local farmers markets, and cook for myself at home. Haven’t used real butter, white sugar, white rice or bread in over 20 years. And yet, I am still very much over weight.
    Why??? Because during my athletic and seemingly healthy years where I was 130 lbs and super cute, I developed a heart condition that put me out for 2 years. At one point I had to be carried to the bathroom because I couldn’t walk 10 ft. I gained 60 lbs during that time, and I rarely ate. I was too weak. My body was storing any and all fat it could to keep my organs from shutting down.

    Years later I am better (had surgery), but im still limited, and recently found that I have PCOS, a hormonal imbalance that also causes weight gain no matter what you do, and makes it that much more difficult to lose weight, much like Thyroid condition. However, I’m still “Healthy”, for with a stronger heart and hormone issues, I get out and move. I eat right, but by consequence of circumstances not in my control, I am Fat. I cant get those 40 -60 poinds off that I so desperately want off. But Im going to keep trying.

    I took my very slim, seemingly fit friend to the park the other week to walk and work out with me. She needed to rest after 1 mile. And couldn’t do more than 10 stomach crunches. I didn’t break a sweat until mile 4, and 30 crunches. Afterwards at lunch, she order Fish and chips (fried), I ordered a garden salad with grilled chicken and balsamic dressing.

    Still, in the eyes of all around us, I am the Fat, unhealthy, and unattractive one.

    Before you judge others, know that everyone has a story. Some good, some bad. But we are all human, and if someone needs help, don’t be a bitch about it…. teach them, show them, be productive, not prejudice.