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The Morning After (Baby, Can We Just Cuddle?)

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It was the morning after…
I ravaged her body. She had let me do any and every thing I wanted. My only mission was to please her so “any and every thing I wanted” was all that she desired. All that she needed.

It was the morning after…
Our mutually fulfilling endeavor had catapulted our erogenous zones to complete and utter bliss. Our bodies were blank canvases until we joined forces and created art in the dark with only a dimly lit candle to guide each stroke.

We.

Slept.

Together.

It was the morning after…
Her head lying in that familiar space on my chest, she found comfort in my embrace. My heartbeat was her lullaby carrying away all her worries. I found solace in the fact that she felt secure in her position.

Here.

Now.

With me.

It was the morning after…
When I awoke to find that during the course of our slumber, she had turned on to her side with her back now facing me. As the beams of sunlight protruded through the blinds and brushed up against my eyelids, I slowly emerged from the catatonic state her lovemaking had left me in.

It was the morning after…
When my eyes landed on the silhouette of her frame lying next to me completely naked. I was amazed by the beauty of this wondrous terrain before me that I traveled often but rarely took the time out to admire.

Forgotten.

Memories.

Return.

It was the morning after…
That I decided to re-familiarize myself. The sexy swoop of her spine was like a sunny valley. I wanted to take root in her abyss and run my fingers through her foliage. The inviting hook of her hipbone was like a peak. I wanted to climb to its apex and sing her praises for all to hear.

It was the morning after…
That I looked at her as if it were for the first time. Her cocoa complexion was like a sweet confection I wanted to consume whole. The downward slope of her bottom was complimented by this sublime split down its center that led to secret caverns I wished to explore once more.

Curiosity.

Possessed.

Me.

It was the morning after…
All I could do was cherish the moment. Here, in the quiet time between post-coital cuddling and pre-dawn dreams. When her hair blankets her shoulders like early morning snowfall and her steady intake of air is the only sound worth listening to.

It was the morning after…
When nothing else existed but us and she seemed most beautiful to me. Serene was the scene. Her warm body lay next to me in perfect stillness. I drew her closer and she instinctually fell back into that comfortable nook my lean frame created for her.

Familiar.

Welcome.

Home.

It was the morning after…
She drifted in and out of sleep. My embrace created an anchor for her and her presence gave me purpose. My hands grazed her side and found a rhythmic peace in the texture of her skin. I cupped her breasts. She arched her back. Our legs became interlocked.

It was the morning after…
I ravaged her body. Normally this would be the spark that lit last night’s blaze afire once again, but today and the new light it brings was not about that. This moment we shared was about so much more than instinct could explain. I simply tilted her head towards me and put everything in its proper perspective.

I.

Love.

You.

Can cuddling sometimes be better than sex? Or are you someone that hates to cuddle? Have you ever stared at your lover while he/she is sleeping? What runs through your mind in those quiet moments of reflection? Do you sleep in the nude after sex or one of those people that rushes to put your clothes on? Have you ever woken up next to someone in your bed you wish wasn’t? Is there anything better than spooning with someone on a lazy day?

Speak your piece…

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  • l0v32bm3

    cuddling is one of those things that just makes being with another a more than perfect ordeal...being wrapped in the arms of a person that gave your body stimulating pleasure or even your mind a good stimulation as well...cuddling is...

    satisfying..

  • *blushing*

    First, I have to say that this was beautifully written...oh my goodness, I was so engrossed. Cuddling is so sacred to me. Not everyone gets it, and as I get older - I only really want to be with someone who I can share moments like you've described in this piece. I used to be very "love 'em and leave 'em...sorta expressing my "manhood" if you will so as not to get caught out there. But this connection, like you describe here, is priceless. It feels good to be appreciated and celebrated by a man you care for. Well done. Another blow out Wednesday. *wink* (btw excuse typos, I'm on my cell)

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    I guess I can comment on today blog!LOL

    I love to cuddle but better than sex? Come on man!

    I am a hopeless romantic I just love women I like touching them in all capacities and looking at them(however rare it is).

    Cuddling is something you have to get use to. Especially spooning a chick with a lot of hair.

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    @NWSO

    Is that Stacy Dash? Shes hot either way!

  • karate kidd kafui

    that was really cute nwso. i love wet wed.

    ooooh the morning after a great night. i'll leave the cuddling sessions & " i love you" to the couples & romantics. but as a single chick, the morning scene deals a lot more with tactic than trying to settle in a nook. you can take the "put your panties in your purse and quietly dip out" scenario or the "im fitt'n to make you remember this pussy for a long time" plan of action. haha, ladies you know what im saying.

    if you don't, i can explain. alright option 1: dipp'n out. ladies as soon as you wake up, take a min to pause and rewind to the events of the night before. yeah girl, remember the blood rushing to your head when ol' boy had you on all fours & hitt'n your spots? had you riding that dick all night like you were in hoola hoop match off? yeah that was crazy good huh? *snap out of it!!!* before you get dickmatized. what you need to think about is the last place your boyshorts landed in the middle of all that nasty deed. eye your purse and keys before you get up. slowly creep outta the covers, gather your stuff & fix your self up in the other room. i dont care if you have to use a rubber band to tie your tossed up weave or looking like a hot mess 'cause your contacts& fake eye lashes actn up. it's a battle wound, every war has it's casualties. and the explosions the two of you set off last night counts. so munch on them altoids or tic tacs in your purse and keep it moving. once you're out in broad daylight, maybe you see little kids catching the school bus, grown folks looking at you like you're the Jezebel off the corner, dont make the mistake amateurs fall prey to. DO NOT at any cost bow your head down & falter to the walk of shame. uhuh, strut in your skinny jeans and heels. put them earrings back on and smack that lipgloss on.... and what? keep it moving… to your car parked on the side street, or bus or train station. take that walk with pride cause you had a fantastic night, and nobody can tell you otherwise. *oh snap!. lol. after you get home & all cleaned up, let your girls know you've got a story to tell. then send a little sexy message to 'ol boy that you got home safe and sound.

    ....so i creep, yeah [ r.i.p left eye]

    but sometimes, a single chick needs a few more rounds in the morning, so enter option 2, aka "you gonna remember this pussy right here." but let's keep it 100, its really for the no holds bar kitty kats & freaky divas [side note: this option is my home base]. the way i see it, if i didnt get around to everything i like last night, damn if imma go home without breaking one off this morning. haha. so when you open your eyes, look at brotha man over there caught in a deep slumber. he has no idea what hes about face in a minute. girl arch that back, stretch those limbs, take pointers from the athletes. matter fact, crack that kink in your neck if need be. roll those shoulders back a couple of times, cause fuckn is your sport chick. now thats all taken of, get in tune with that freaky shit going on in your head. take a peep at your new best friend under the covers. that dick deserves its props. get reacquainted with that thang. if that means you need to take a long close up view or a mouthful, go ahead with your bad self. obviously ladies, we all have different likes and talents. so if you prefer the lollipop approach, lick it you mean it. haha. if you're a ride or die chick, wake that thang up with a warm hand before you slid down on it. but if you're a chick like me you prefer a more dramatic affect. so why dont you just yank those cover off 'ol boy. let him feel that morning breeze. toss your pillows off the bed, lay back, relax and spread eagle. take all that energy into your own hands, please yourself, start yourself off right. a few moans and sighs will have 'ol boy up and trying to join in. [this is not for the shy chicks. like wayne said, damn dont you hate a shy bitch?] haha. after all, you let bortha man tap it, smack it, flip it, roll it all night. so this is your morning diva, honestly theres nothing better in the morning than laying on your back and guide your man's head down. that's when you got the right to say to yourself, "yeah thats right, im that bitch!". matter fact, grab the back of his neck and grind on his face. bet you he's gonna try to pop his head up and ask you that dumb question. "tell me, is this pussy all mine?" *eye roll* Ladies DO NOT get caught up in the heat of the moment, saying shit like "yours daddy, only you baby." uhuh, dont give in to that mess or get all dried up cause his ass wants to claim your goods. Just avert the question. ALL YOU HAVE TO SAY is, "beat it up for me daddy!" Ladies, wrap your legs & arms around him. Take control and slow motion against him. I bet you 'ol boy is gonna more focused on trying to watch himself going in deep than your answer. Keep him going till you reach that peak you woke up craving. Get your nut! let that dick know the pussy is still in control. You can carry on all morning. I don’t care if cnn’s tj holmes has breaking news of the year. Get your nut. hell take it into the shower too. And right before head out the door, rock those hips to the left & right real well. He’s all swelled up in the head thinking you're doing it for his pleasure. Nope! The only reason you have the extra kick in your step, cause that dick will flop a little to the left the next time he hears somebody call your name. Amateurs get dickmatize for that effect, but not you. Oh! he fittn to remember that pussy.

    ....best HE ever had...single chick slaying dicks left and right.

    * of course don’t get stupid, always use protection.

  • chinadahl

    Cuddling rocks! My partner and I leg lock and kiss, rub noses and kiss. Then, we hold hands while sleeping b/c we naturally lay in opposite directions. So holding hands is a way to stay connected.

    But cuddling, stroking, squeezing, leg-locking, kissing, sucking, licking... all the things that lead up to sex, to me are sexier than sex. The sex is simply the exclamation point at the end of the paragraph.

    ...then, you can begin a new paragraph all over again, cuddling, stroking, squeezing, kissing..

  • Elle

    You so beautifully captured a moment with words that I wanna cry cause it reminds me of what being love feels like. Ugh, I miss that.

    Bleh ... :(

  • sweetsexxybrown

    Niice and cuddly post Ans for a Wet Wed. I absolutely love to cuddle! Sometimes after sex, but definitely all other times. Which usually leads 2 sex because I love the way a hard one feels on my ass. (U know what that's spooning actually) I'm not that female who wants to cuddle right away after sex because I'm usually goin right to sleep, or I'm too wet and icky and wanna wash off if I don't fall right out.

    I have looked at my lover in the morning while he was sleep. He always looked so peaceful and then I'd wake him to get my morning delight. There were various things that I reflected on at that moment, but mainly how much I loved him.

    I think spooning on a lazy afternoon is great but cuddling better than sex-NEVER,lol. But I will say that I can't cuddle with everyone. The cuddling is only for my man. I agree with
    Blushing, its sacred. There's emotions connected to cuddling.

    I sleep naked so I would never rush to put any clothes on. I love that warm body 2 body feeling after I'm dry.

    @karate kidd kafui: u r crazy girl and I know most women can relate!

  • grownandsexy83

    Can cuddling sometimes be better than sex?

    Yes sometimes cuddling can be better than sex especially if you just want to show some love to your baby!

    Or are you someone that hates to cuddle?

    Nope I love it!

    Have you ever stared at your lover while he/she is sleeping?

    Nope I am usually sleep, and that seems kinda stalkerish to me!

    What runs through your mind in those quiet moments of reflection?

    A replay of the past events and do I want seconds, thirds, forths, or fifths!!! If it was bad, then I am thinking about an exit stratergy!!!

    Do you sleep in the nude after sex or one of those people that rushes to put your clothes on?

    overnight stay-nude, quickie-gotta go, an afternoon delight-sleep for 5 min then gotta go. just depends on the situation

    Have you ever woken up next to someone in your bed you wish wasn’t?

    Yep and whoever hasn't is lying to themselves!

    Is there anything better than spooning with someone on a lazy day?

    Can't think of anything else better!

    Good Wet Wednesday!

  • Latsyrc41

    Great post NWSO. Very sensual and evocative.

  • sexychoc

    @karate kidd kafui: You betta preach girl, lol. I know that's right.

    I must say I enjoy cuddling but it's not something you can do with everybody. Cuddling is the thing that separates sex and intimacy.

  • ChiChi

    I'm in a LDR and sometimes that's what I miss the most. The intimacy. *Le Sigh*

  • myangel352

    Cuddling...so intimate yet so often done...the intertwining of two souls in an embrace...sweet. Got to love it. Well written.

  • neo the one

    it was tight..... very poetic..... but i prefer cuddling over spooning.... spooing is just 2 positions... you in front or her in-front.... cuddling i guess may encompass spooning but leaves other positions for relaxation as well........ oh and whats better than spooning on a lazy day? spooning/cuddling on a lazy rainy thunderstorming day or a nice cold snowy winter day........ the memories!!

  • TaiTai

    Ahhh cuddling.
    Cuddling is awesome. Damn, I miss stuff like that. *sigh*
    Great post NWSO!

  • Elle

    *hands tissues to ChiChi and TaiTai and sighs with them*

    *sigh*

  • Geoforie

    My man and I love to cuddle. Spooning with a semi-hard or hard dick on my ass is the shit. All men aren't into cuddling and that's too bad. Cuddling is a must in my relationships!

  • July

    I am not much of a cuddler, its just way too hot over here for all that lol. I especially dont want to cuddle/sleep, a mans arm can be heavy and to have that weighing me down all night is just not my idea of a good nights sleep and my pillow is more comfortable than a rock hard chest.

    @ karate kidd kafui
    Wow...LOL

  • Anonymous

    Cuddling

  • Anonymous

    I love when I'm all hot and sweaty after great fucking sex , sex as if we havent seen each other for months, sex that leaves you feeling weak afterwards, and then I fall asleep on him....oh memories. So no, I don't rush to put cloths on after sex. I always sleep naked.

    Cuddling is a must with certain people. If I just want to fuck, no, I don't want you huggin' up on me. I'll feel suffocated and you breathing on me will annoy the shit out of me. but if I like you we'll cuddle. if i love you, we're bathing in each others sweat and I'll stare at you while you are sleeping...so peaceful looking. Why does this man love me so much? How did I get so lucky!

    Foreplay and sex is better than just cuddling but remember, cuddling is part of foreplay sometimes.

    This poem made memories come back. I want my boo boo back!

  • Special T

    Ohhh WET Wednesday for sure. Cuddling is one of the of the best things about being in a relationship. And the morning after? Ohh hot damn!

  • Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

    Can cuddling sometimes be better than sex?
    --HECK NO!

    Or are you someone that hates to cuddle?
    ---That would be me :)

    Have you ever stared at your lover while he/she is sleeping?
    --CAN WE SAY PSYCHO?

    Do you sleep in the nude after sex or one of those people that rushes to put your clothes on?
    --NO CLOTHES

    Have you ever woken up next to someone in your bed you wish wasn’t?
    --I DON'T ALLOW SLEEPOVERS

    Is there anything better than spooning with someone on a lazy day?
    --BEN & JERRY'S ICE CREAM

  • LondonChick

    @ Shay from L.A - damn girl you're cold! Psycho!? That's not nice. LOL!!!

  • Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

    @ LondonChick

    I don't want anyone studying me while I am asleep. That's scarry, lol.

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    Some chick are so beautiful you just find yourself staring when they're sleep. I am guilty of this and Im not psycho!

    Besides your sleep what difference does it make to you. Lazy bastard! LOL

  • Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

    It does make a difference "FREAKY JASON." There is nothing more alarming than waking up to someone staring at you.

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    This is coming from "Pam Paranoid"! You have intimacy issues. So you think something that is sweet and normal is a sign of psycho behavior. :P

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @grownandsexy83
    @Shay

    Y'all must have missed the point of the post and question then, it wasn't about no scary leering while you're sleeping. But the waking up first and just taking your lover in "stare" that this post described... the peaks and the valleys metaphor, etc. If that's "stalkerish" then I gotta change the whole title of this post and cancel today's Wet Wednesday and it'll be all y'all's faults.

    LOL

  • Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

    @NWSO
    I didn't miss your point. I just feel uncomfortable with people looking at me sleeping or awake.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Shay

    Well, if you stay your ass asleep instead of being nosy you won't know anyone is looking at you and admiring your beauty.

    LOL

  • http://myspace.com/nexus_da_underdawg da ThRONe

    @NWSO

    Shay is trippin beautiful people should be the most confrontable with being looked at! I know I am all good with it. :D

  • http://www.twitter.com/jazzzyone Jazzy

    Can cuddling sometimes be better than sex? Depends on the lover. Good cuddling usually leads to good sex tho.

    Have you ever stared at your lover while he/she is sleeping? Yes, while I decide whether or not to take a picture to blackmail them...j/k

    What runs through your mind in those quiet moments of reflection?
    My true feelings about them - good or bad.

    Do you sleep in the nude after sex or one of those people that rushes to put your clothes on?
    ??

    Have you ever woken up next to someone in your bed you wish wasn’t?
    Yep..and then I left.

    Is there anything better than spooning with someone on a lazy day?
    With the right someone? Nope

  • Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

    I feel like if you stare long enough, then you will find flaws. So only take glances so I can remain flawless, lmao...

  • litrisha

    Good job Ans.....

    I love to cuddle after sex but the problem is some guys do not, they'd rather just turn over and snore...LOL I'm the type to just wake up completely naked so I could remind "whoever" I'm with of the night before and nine chances out of ten they would want to start all over again. I've watched guys sleep and it's cute in the beginning but when they start snoring.......IT'S A WRAP, and that's when I have to shove their ass to stop the snoring.....LOL I think it's beautiful to wake up all spooned up with someone...it's bliss.
    Like if a guy is sleep and I'm up it's like "ok what do I do now?" "should I go to the bathroom, or wait until he gets up?" "I wonder was it good to him last night?" I think of so much stuff during that quiet time.....it's funny though because I'm always the first one to get up.
    I love cuddling after sex because to me that tells me that the guy is really taking everything in, otherwise I'm offended unless he can come up with a logical explanation....LOL

  • http://www.sociallicks.com Sociallicker

    This reminds me of the "Where Are My Panties?" interlude on Andre's Love Below cd. Great Wet Wednesday. And I have to give props to @karate kidd kafui. Her response deserved its own blog post. Seriously.

    I love cuddling, but it's more of an appetizer or dessert. I would prefer it not be the main meal.

  • http://www.gangstarrgirl.com Gangstarr Girl

    Wow. How very sweet. I think this was your best Wet Wednesday so far...

    I'm a cuddle girl.

  • Mz. Ashley

    i just love the way you write. Where is the book at? lol.

    I LOVE to cuddle. Even if it is me holding my man while we sleep...that is when everything is so peaceful and for some reason you can just feel the love. I love to look at my man and see the comfort in his face when he is sleeping in my arms...never seen anything like it be4....it just makes me secure in our relationship every morning.

    i know i am late, but i was off yesturday. lol

  • Ms. Phat Booty

    Can cuddling sometimes be better than sex?
    I would not say that, however I love the fact that my man loves to cuddle every night whither he have sex or not.

    Or are you someone that hates to cuddle?
    I love to cuddle

    Have you ever stared at your lover while he/she is sleeping?
    Not really, I may glance at them while they slept.

    What runs through your mind in those quiet moments of reflection?
    Lately, this snoring has got to stop!

    Do you sleep in the nude after sex or one of those people that rushes to put your clothes on?
    I stay naked

    Have you ever woken up next to someone in your bed you wish wasn’t?
    Never, thank God!

    Is there anything better than spooning with someone on a lazy day?
    Spending the day in bed eating and watching movies all day

  • Righteous Mama

    LMAO at Karate Kidd!!!! Hilarious!

    I haven't cuddled in ages. Better than sex? No.

    But spooning on a lazy, preferably rainy day sounds realllllllly nice.

  • Ms. Royalty

    Can cuddling sometimes be better than sex?
    –Yes, but not too often

    Or are you someone that hates to cuddle?
    —Nope, I love it

    Have you ever stared at your lover while he/she is sleeping?
    –Yes, I think about how much I love him, how much he means to me, I plant light kisses and tell him those feelings when he wakes up.

    Do you sleep in the nude after sex or one of those people that rushes to put your clothes on?
    –Always no clothes.

    Have you ever woken up next to someone in your bed you wish wasn’t?
    –Unfortunately yes, but those days are over. I have no problem telling someone it is time to go.

    Is there anything better than spooning with someone on a lazy day?
    –No, but definitely some close seconds.

  • janiesweets

    This nwso dude has got the best lines ive ever read. Damn.. I thought I was a good writer but....oh mehn...you got me ..u got me there. I miss being in an intimate relationship with someone that actuallly loves me .One day ..one day ..

  • Duane a guy who loves to cuddle!

    I am a man...
    30 years to be exact...
    I love to cuddle...
    I love sex...
    what do I love more???
    this make come to a surprise...
    I think personality has alot to do...
    with if what you love more...
    I am a very bubbly sweet loving guy...
    I have a high sex drive...
    sometimes I like sex to be soft and romantic...
    sometimes hard and rough...but always kissing...
    and not too rough...not so rough...bruising etc...
    anyway...
    I rather make love more often sweet and
    affectionate...with hard thrusting...
    but what do I love more...
    I know the answer to that question will shock...
    I love cuddling more...
    You can have sex but so much...
    eventually you will sore out...
    I could cuddle day and night...
    I love to cuddle...
    I crave cuddling...
    I love to cuddle after sex...
    cuddled up all warm in a woman's arms...
    my arms wrapped around her body...
    and hers around mine...
    sweet smiles and looking each other in the eyes...
    pure romance...
    love after passion...
    and when the act is done...
    cuddle watching movies together...
    cuddle going out to eat...
    hold hands and wrapping my arm around waist...
    I love to cuddle...
    Yes...
    even more than the act of sex itself...
    which being a man...
    I love...
    and can go quite a few times a night...
    without tiring...
    but without cuddling I would be unhappy...
    I love to cuddle after sex so much...
    cuddle all day long...
    I am a cuddleaholic...
    I crave to hold and be held...
    all the time and everywhere...
    I think it is sweet and loving...
    and shows a woman you care about her...
    and of course since I crave that so much...
    I want a woman to reach and love me as well...
    mutual love...
    I just need to find a woman in my life who loves
    this...
    I want someone so bad who loves to cuddle...
    the women I have talked to dont like that much
    cuddling...and so I am single and lonely...
    if there is a girl out there who is single and
    wants a man who is somewhat attractive and
    loves to cuddle...write me at:
    duanescottwalker@yahoo.com
    been out of a relationship for 7 months...
    time to find a woman who loves affection...
    and to share my life with...

  • Goldyn

    wow...loved this piece...."what a helluva way to got-damn wake up".....i have actually NEVER cuddled after sex...yeah, might have some intimacy issues of my own, huh?....

    ps: that chick's ass is ashy as hell....

  • thekitschsidekick

    that was a truly wonderful piece of writing.
    ive been with my boyfriend for just a few weeks and have yet to make love, but in the meantime we LOVE to cuddle.
    we can kiss and stroke and hug and touch and we both get so much from simply lying there face to face or front to back, listening to the quiet and being with each other. its bliss. its perfection. its love.