#49 The Warmest Winter (How Quickly Does Love Fade?)

Posted by NWSO • September 15, 2009 • Printer-friendly

On our first night together
It snowed
So she told me that every time fluffy white fell from the heavens
She would think of me/we/us

As the cold days of winter progressed
So did our connection
Blustery days were blessings
Frigid forecasts were fulfilling
Eventually the flowers began to bloom
And that spelled doom for me/we/us

As the days grew longer
So did her distance
In retrospect,
I guess I have to respect her honesty
Because in the absence of snow
There were no thoughts of me/we/us

As months like June, July and August faded into the calendar
I found myself consumed by false hope
I looked forward to the season's first snowfall
I assumed it would be reason to rejoice
A resurrection of me/we/us

Sadly, it hasn’t snowed in ages
And to my dismay, forecasters predict nothing but sunny skies,
Balmy weather and humidity
Lovely conditions for a vacation
But it sucks for me/we/us

The coldest winter is now nothing more than a book
A few dead trees
Cut, processed and scribbled on
Much like my heart,
Which has been cut out, processed and scribbled on
Return to sender

Have you ever had a relationship that only lasted a season? What led to the end of the relationship? Was it merely a summer/winter fling or something much deeper? Do you think that people tend to pair up as it gets colder so they can have a snuggle buddy for those cold nights? Are you on the hunt for a fall fling now? Do you prefer being single in the spring/summer or it doesn’t matter to you as long as you’re in love? What was your shortest relationship? Do you think it’s possible to fall in and out of love quickly?

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lavonya

I think that love for a season is real. It may have something to do with the fact that in the winter months a companion is needed to prevent us from sitting in the house, (mostly due to the weather) alone, Me being a woman I know this feeling, not saying men dont feel alone. but I think that being alone has a greater effect on woman then it does on men. At the break of spring new life starts to emerge and attention is more easily found everyone is not locked away, theres more to do and to be seen, so a companion is not needed and even sometimes not wanted. Love has nothing to do with these types of relationships,at least in my world.
Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

Love isn't seasonal its eternal, even if the relationship doesn't last, love does but real love is rare....... some folk do "fillers" in the meantime and "the any ol warn body thing", I cannot .
sometimes I wish I could tho,
the nights can be very long at times.
nik1908

I think that real love lasts but its the relationship that is seasonal. That was beautiful though. Got me over here thinking. Making me miss having someone there through ALL the seasons!
Mz. Ashley

When i was younger, seasonal boyfriends was my thing! I use to always make sure i was single for the summer, but when winter came along, i always wanted to be a in a relationship, guess cuz you cant really do anything in the winter but snuggle up! Now i am in love...true love, and i want him to be with me all the seasons of my life.

Da Throne has been missing lately...had a bday on us Ans, and burnt out! lol
Angeleyes

I had a summer fling. We were coworkers so we saw a lot of each other. We'd get together after work and walk thru the city (DC). Made random passionate love in random places. And then I got a new job. We talked from time to time, but no more walking thru the city, and no more loving. It's a great story to tell in my later years though.
LaLa

I've had a seasonal love. It was an instant click on so many levels it was eerie. We both admitted to loving eachother. The love is still there, we still speak frequently, we just don't do what lovers do anymore.

Reason, season, lifetime. It looks like we will be friends for a lifetime. We were never in love anyway, but we still love eachother dearly, now the lines are clearly defined.
Elle

When I love, I love hard. So "seasonal" does not exist in my vocabulary.

The shortest, yet the best relationship lasted almost 2 years. The longest 6.

I guess it's apparent that I do not fall in or out of love quickly. Sometimes I wish I could though.

Oh well.
da ThRONe

No disrepect Ans but you are butchering the word Love! You dont just fall in and out of love like a Alicia Keys song. In and out of Lust yes but Love (real love) just doesnt work like that.
Elle

*hugs ThRONe*

Thank you.
Transparent

There's no falling in love here just falling in lust; women do it too. I like hot steamy, passionate love during the summer there's excitement and fun then. During the cold winter months go your way I've got heat and my comforter to keep me warm...ha ha ha
http://nwso.net NWSO

@Da Throne

No disrespect taken, but how am i butchering the word love. The piece wasn't about love but the question was. And if people think it's possible to fall in and out of love in a matter of months. Was just a question loosely related to the piece but never said the Warmest Winter example was a case of love.
da ThRONe

@NWSO

Im just saying call it what it is. If you can fall out of it of an emotion in a season it's not love!
Soulyn

I call them " in the mean time" relationships. Ones where there's a lesson to be learned and deep down I inside I know this is just temporary.
I too love hard.
Tacha

That was really beautiful.

I think love can be seasonal (as in short term). Personally I feel like many the few parterships that I've had is a reflection of who I was at the time. I don't I could go back and love the person in the same way.
Patrick

I would say that one can fall in and out of love quickly. Just because on person doesn't experience it a certain way that another person does, it's unfair to say what someone can or can't.

Me personally, I tend to run from love. It could be because it scares me to a certain extent. Love is great, but when it's over, sometimes its bitter and anger. That's not a way I want to feel.

I think that love can be seasonal. I'm not sure how healthy that is. I would think that both people need to see it from that perspective. Even though you're in it for a season, what's to say that you're not going to fall for that person and when the change of season comes around, you're still in love and the other person is out of love. A lot of things should be taken in consideration.
AMANDA

I DON'T BELIEVE IN SUMMER,WINTER,SPRING,OR FALL LOVE I BELIEVE IN "REAL LOVE",THAT LAST ALL THOSE SEASONS.PPL GET CONFUSED BY LOVE COUNTING ON SEASONS TO MAK IT THROUGH OR MAKE IT LAST.I AM A TRUE FIRM BELIEVER OF ACTUAL LOVE.
Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

Alot of folk don;t know what love is, you know you see it everyday out here in the real world and reflected in some of these comments, but hopefully before they depart this life, they'll be fortunate enough to know and experience it, if only once.
da ThRONe

Yeah if its real then its stays with you forever. A part of me will always love "That Bitch". But I think thats the beauty of love or the part that so many people fear.
Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

ITA on most of that Da throne LOL
GV1584

OK, firstly I love the half melted heart shaped ice cube pic. However, I normally read your posts on my iphone i.e a small screen and when I saw that picture right at the top of this page I have to admit for a second I thought your fast had finished and this was a bonus WW post or something! LOL. Sorry! I am not normally known for my mind being in the gutter.

Anywho...that was a really nice, well written piece and it reminded me of an e-mail forward I received a few years ago about how people come into your life for a season, reason or a lifetime and then Usher went and made song about it on his last album. lol.

Unfortunately, despite the beauty of the poem I can't really relate to this. It takes a lot for me to both fall in love and fall out of love. In fact I think I'm yet to experience the latter and have only experienced the former once. I cosign with Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7 and daThRONe because although relationships can end, if it was true love, the love does tend to stay with you forever. I really wish it didn't though!

However, leaving love out of the picture, can I get into a relationship just for a season? No. When I scope out a potential mate I never think 'can I just hang out with him for a bit?' but rather 'is this person serious long term material?'. That probably makes me sound like most guys' nightmare girl and it's not that I want to put them on lockdown or anything but I just don't see the point in jumping into a relationship which I know isn't going to last from the outset. Plus I think I'm beyond the stage of my life when I just want to 'have fun'.
Lonias

Ever think about recording as you read aloud?
This one would be great to hear...

Love your prose...
Elle

@GV1584

co-sign everything you said!

I wish I wasn't a "dater with a purpose". It would make life much easier.
sameer

Its a human tendency to "get bored " with the things which u valued once . Even if i did get a ferrai i would be over it over the years .
what matters is the magic u keep up during the years .. for me its the ' emotional connect " with my partner over the 6 years we have been seein each other which brings me back to her for every thing in my life .
love eventually fades away but its the emotional thing which re connects you to love .
its all about small to small things which happen in everydays life which creates romance . I dont need a snow fall to get inside the bed with her ..
neo the one

Have you ever had a relationship that only lasted a season?

Several... sometimes you fall into a relationship that was only supposed to be a fling so it ends....

What led to the end of the relationship?

wrong time; wrong place; just abotu everything you can think of....

Was it merely a summer/winter fling or something much deeper?

You know when its cold people tend to stay in more often.... so i liken that to the colder months... but in the summer time people tend to shed thier relationships in search for the next hot thing.....

Do you think that people tend to pair up as it gets colder so they can have a snuggle buddy for those cold nights?
Yep

Are you on the hunt for a fall fling now?

nope

Do you prefer being single in the spring/summer or it doesn’t matter to you as long as you’re in love?

in love for men in my opinion is different than in love for women it think and i beleieve that most would agree

good idea for a future blog: DO MEN AND WOMEN LOVE THE SAME?

What was your shortest relationship?

a day

Do you think it’s possible to fall in and out of love quickly?

falling in and out of love quickly is not a reality.... i think love is something that is built up.... like they say " rome was not built in a day" it wasn't destroyed in a day either.... something can happen and you fall out of love but it doesn't fade quickly....
http://www.redbubble.com/people/rvrfnx Rex

As Winter sets in for the long haul here in Australia I, for the first time in my 21 years, see the way it changes people. I see how people are searching for nurture and comfort and snuggles and cuddles. As the cold creeps up people want to hug and be hugged, they want to share tea and read books together under a warm blanket. Winter keeps people indoors, keeps them close, it literally brings hearts closer together. And bonds are made, relationships begin... And many of these bonds and relationships stay strong for a long time... However, quite a few melt under the heat of Summer as it takes back the prime-time from Winter. The lascivious sexy Summer frivolity begins again.

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