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Is Alicia Keys the New Super Head? (Mashonda Speaks Out)

Posted by NWSO • September 28, 2009 • Printer-friendly

I mentioned this issue in passing the other day but due to recent developments I felt it necessary to really take a hard look at this whole Swizz Beatz/Alicia Keys/Mashonda love lust triangle. I’m really beginning to wonder why no one is calling out Alicia on some Karrine “Super Head” Steffans type stuff for her role in breaking up a marriage.

In case you don’t know, Swizz is (still) married to singer Mashonda but apparently involved in an intimate relationship with Alicia. The rumors had been circulating for a while, but in recent months the couple have gone public with their affair—getting photographed together and tweeting I love yous back and forth online.

Through it all, Mashonda has remained relatively quiet and cordial. In fact, a few weeks ago she showed up at Swizz’s birthday party, where she graciously shook Alicia’s hand. Well, I was reading Necole Bitchie’s blog over the weekend and Mrs. Beatz has finally had enough and decided to speak out about the affair.

Following yet another series of Alicia’s tweets on love, Mashonda felt the need to address the mistress musician for what she felt was blatant and public disrespect to her failing marriage and child.

Unable to get a response directly from Alicia, Mashonda sent the following elongated tweet:

After having a great evening with my son and enjoying some fun twit chat, I decided to sign off and get some work done. However, a few hours later I was advised that I should check @aliciakeys twit page. I’ve never reached out to her on twitter before. I feel our issues are a lot more serious than a website conversation. Not to mention that I’ve reached out to her many times in the beginning of this whole thing, as any wife would do. Unfortunately, I never succeeded in getting a response. The 1st time I meet AK, my husband introduced us to each other at an event. (I have no choice but to call him my husband, until he is not anymore) In the messages that I sent to her (AK), I made it very clear that on the contrary of what she might be hearing, I am still married to my husband, living with him and just had a child. Its been two years and I still have not received a response. What I do receive, is constant displays of selfishness and disconcern to me and my son.

I was a fan of AK’s last album, we were both signed to J Records and I always checked up on her projects. I sang her songs and admired her for creating Superwoman and Karma, I would never deny her, her talent. I believed in her until I found out she was possibly sleeping with my husband. The affair was denied by both, until it was finally admitted months later.

Already I can hear some of you saying ” why are u blaming her, You cant make someone leave their wife, You cant break something thats broken”. Well, my marriage was not broken, as far as I knew we were celebrating our sons birth and getting ready to celebrate our 5-year wedding anniversary. Call it blind love, whatever. I call it being a devoted wife.. As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, thats false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.

My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes.

If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.

Im not saying everything was perfect all the time but no relationship is perfect. We made a vow to God and I believe you should have respected that, as a woman. I know you owe me or my son nothing but I just wish you would’ve handled things more carefully. I’m not judging you, I put you and the whole situation in the hands of God, the Higher Power. Just know that as a woman, I expected so much more from you. I never had intentions on reaching out to you this way but after reading your twits tonight, and the constant disregard, you left me no choice. I feel that after 1 and a half years of you hiding this affair and acting like it doesnt exist, that now is the time to confront it, since you talk so openly about it now

This is not a publicity stunt, I dont have a record coming out. I just need to close this chapter in my life and that means confronting our issues. There is a small child involved. His dad loves him to death and he wants to spend more time with him but hes afraid because he knows we don’t have a relationship. This is my main concern. My son NEEDS his dad and I NEED to be comfortable with you. For him!

I know many will see my point and many will not be able to look into what’s real because they only want to see Alicia Keys the celebrity, not the human. This is not for the “people”, this is for you. Like I said I was left no choice but to reach out to you this way. By now, Im sure you want to find a balance in this as well.

I read your tweets tonight and I felt they were very insensitive. You have no idea how much pain I was caused because of this affair. Its baffling to me that you don’t understand what I might have gone through with this situation. I dont consider myself a victim anymore, Ive learned alot from this! I just ask you to try and be a bit more realistic and delicate to the situation, at least until my divorce is final. I felt me attending the party would have been a starting point for us, since you shook my hand after I offered it, but I suppose I was wrong.

If its so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. If you two being together forever is the case, its more of a reason for us to get along, because I’m not going anywhere. Theres a child to be raised.

To answer your tweet, choose smart over spark. Sparks burn everyone, be smart! Its simple actually, just think of the shoe being on the other foot.

Stay blessed and lets work this thing out with respect and dignity.

What are your thoughts on this whole chain events? Do you feel that Alicia is a home wrecker? How come more people haven’t called her out as a mistress or come down on her like they would if this were Super Head breaking up a marriage? Are people giving Alicia a pass because they like her music? Do you think Alicia and Swizz should’ve waited until the divorce was finalized before going public with their affair? Is it disrespectful for Alicia and Swizz to be so public about their affair while he’s still married? What do you think of the way Mashonda has dealt with the situation so far? What are your thoughts on her taking to the Internet to voice her opinion? What would you have done in her shoes?

Speak your piece…

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Tagged as: affair, Alicia Keys, cheating, diviorce, EDA, karrine steffans, Mashonda, super head, Swizz Beatz, twitter

http://mentallyorgasmic.blogspot.com Aaviana

Alicia is a homewrecker. Its not like she didn't know he was married. As the other party you have a choice. He was married no matter what kind of feelings they had for each other. I am not throwing stones cause I have been the girl cheated on and I have played the other position. Alicia is getting a pass because of who she is period. Sleeping with married men has apparently become the new trend. Alicia and Kim from the Real Houswives have made it acceptable for women to pursue or to stay in a relationship with a married man as if it is the norm.
http://slangrap.wordpress.com Alvin

Keys isn't the reason Swizz and Mashonda's marriage was on the rocks. If it wasn't her, Swizz would have probably stepped out with some other woman. But, she was definitely a catalyst. Swizz and Keys are equally wrong. However, Mashonda gets a fail for taking her ish public with that letter, regardless of Keys' and Swizz's public shenanigans. At least Mashonda didn't YouTube her message.
AuthenticQueen

I'm so confused by this whole issue. I think I'm only confused (admittedly) because it's AK. It's perplexing to me that the same woman who sang/sings songs such as Karma and Superwoman is able to do something sooo inconsiderate. I remember hearing the rumors at the start of the year and thinking to myself "Naw, not Alicia. She seems like she has so much sense, dignity and mostly respect for other people especially women"... Boy, was I wrong! This whole deal is unfortunate and now that I'm finally coming to terms with it (lol. I know, redic.) I'm beyond disappointed in AK and applauding Mashonda for the way in which she's handled a very sensitive and embarrassing situation. Damn. AK is indeed a triflin' home wrecker.
July

Why would Mashonda use a public forum to address such a private issue...I am so confused by that. Everything I have read on this has said how she handled it with class but I beg to disagree. The internet...really?
http://twitter.com/ms_m ms.m

anyone who gets involved while the person is attached is scandalous in my opinion.. but i think comparing her (alicia keys) to superhead is a bit ridiculous. Superhead didnt become superhead cuz she slept with one married dude. she screwed a gang of people and bragged about it... wrote a book about her whore exploits. and damn people cant handle their biz in private anymore, must everything happen via social media netwrks??
Slim Jackson

I mean...almost half of marriages end in divorce. Sliding off amongst celebrities seems to be a pretty regular thing. This overall situation isn't too surprising aside from the fact it involves Swizz and Alicia. Maybe that's the point. Alicia shouldn't need to slide off with another woman's husband given all the people that are out there.

It is interesting how social media sites like Twitter and blogs are becoming the preferred spot to address private affairs. I don't know if it's that people are trying to save face in the public eye or what. These folks just need to pick up a phone and make a damn call!
Mz. Ashley

Alicia is def. a home wrecker! I guess she has really good publicist and that is why people do not call her out. I am sure people will do it now, since Mashonda finally came at her. Mashonda sounds really mature in this whole situation. She handled it like a REAL woman. Alicia and Swizz should have waited until the divorces was final. That is very very disrectful of them to bring it out in the public like that. If I was Mashonda I would have to hurt that nig! Mashonda had to reach out to Alicia via internet because she said that she wouldn’t answer her any other way..im sure she still wont get an answer out of her still.
Mz. Ashley

HELLO PEOPLE! THE WOMAN HAD TO REACH OUT ON THE INTERNET BECAUSE ALICIA WOULDNT CONFRONT HER ANSWERS WHENEVER SHE TRIED CALLING AND STUFF>.......READ THE LETTER AGAIN PEOPLE!
http://nwso.net NWSO

@ms.m

Yeah, I'm not saying AK is "whoring" around town but still, before Karrine got to be Super Head she had to start with taht first husband. But really, the point is Super Head gets dragged through the mud (most would say rightfully so) while Alicia just gets no flak at all. Kanye is rude at VMAs and is crucified, Lil Mama gets a little too excited and becomes a laughing stock, Alicia comes in between a marriage before God and no one says nothing. I'm just curious as to why that is
Angeleyes

I think that their situation is not unique, as it happens daily, which is sad. Their situation is heightened because it's in the media...so everywhere Mashonda goes, she has to see pics, read blog posts, or see Swizz and AK's affair in her face as a constant reminder.

I also feel what Mashonda is saying to AK because she writes music that's supposed to empower women, but she does something like that. She wouldn't want someone to do that to her. She sang/wrote the song "Karma" and I hope she believes it because she sang "What goes around, comes around, what goes up, must come down...."
http://www.ajhayes.com A. Jarrell

I like how Alicia became the girlfriend from her song "Girlfriend" -- on her 1st album -- in real life.

So far AK has avoided public scrutiny simply because people love her too much. Also, Swizz Beatz and Mashonda don't carry enough star power on their own to make the affair a public scandal.

People can use their own definition of "home wrecker" to justify their opinions. All I can say is if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, then by-golly it is a duck! If you're asking for my opinion if she's a home wrecker or not, even though I'm a fan of Alicia's music, I have to answer "quack, quack."
Omnifather

If refusing to accept the blame for the cracks in her marriage is mature then for all intents and purposes label Mashonda really grown. However when you have issues and rather than shoulder the responsibility you blame everyone else but yourself?! That's awfully sad. Her husband for whatever reason went on out and got him another woman, in all this we don't know the status of their relationship before Alicia came into the picture. Rather than call the brother out she is looking for some sort of closure with Keys?! People let's be real c'mon! I'm not saying Keys is okay in this, she and Swizz could have handled this a lot better. Actually I feel staying away from comments concerning this issue actually puts her above Mashonda. We are all grown folk and we understand we do things that may not be seen as right to all but seem right for us for a whole lot of reasons. You find someone you wanna be with but that person is in a relationship that he/she is unhappy with and is trying to get out of what should you do? The answer to that is relative as it concerns a lot of factors that surround the situation i.e. the people involved, their status, dependents etc. The tweet that brought this on was a question about doing what feels right in your head or in your heart, for me this shows Keys understands the situation and has feelings concerning it. Mashonda should settle her matter with Swizz and forget about the OTHER WOMAN in this, that in my books is the mature thing to do.
Tracey

What I find so interesting in this situation is Mr. Beatz. You dont hear him saying anything or commenting on this catfight between these two women.

He should have ended things with his wife before getting involved with the next woman. There is a child and they need to co-parent to raise him.

Like so many women, AK is believing what he is telling her and letting him handle his business with his marriage, because it was his marriage.

The wife is hurt. Her marriage failed and the man wants to move on. She needs to accept that. Calling out the next woman isnt gonna make it any easier.
http://www.passionatefriday.com Passionate Friday

Number one AK is no superhead to try and compared the two is beyond ridiculous! Superhead become famous for being the ho who named names.

AK is now the woman is who slept /sleeps with a married man which is wrong. I do not think she is getting a pass, she is getting the same treatment other WELL LIKED celebs get when they fuck up, it is not like she has an history of this behavior. Shit happens that is the spice of life. This is not going to hurt her career one bit believe that ,it may even help it sad as that may be.

As for the wife, she lost favor for whatever reason tragic as it yes but that is how it is. I think people forget in love and war all is fair so if you are not handling your business another woman or man can get your boo!

I am amazed how many people take the side of the wife like she is an angel. It takes two people to break up a marriage, there were problems long before AK showed up on the scene men cheat to feel loved and valued not for sex, guys that cheat for sex hire pros to keep it on the low and go back home to the mrs. The fact that he is public says volumes.
LynseyC

I don't think Alicia is a homewrecker. Mashonda and Swizz were already seperated and living in seperate homes when Swizz and Alicia got together. The marriage was already finished and in termoil before they started dating, so I don't believe Alicia had anything to do with it. Divorces can take years before they are finalized, especially wiith someone like Swizz Beats who has millions of dollars. So my question would be...should Swizz stay single just because his marriage isn't finalized, even though Mashonda and him are not together anymore? Is that fair? Should he wait for a piece of paper to be signed (divorce papers) even though the marriage has been done? Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to stay single until the courts grant your divorce. A relationship is a relationship reguardless of what type it is (marriage), and if it's over with, I feel that the parties can do what they please, like getting into another relationship, if they want to. It's just a piece of paper, and a piece of paper doesn't define your relationship status, married or not, when it's over it's over! I think Mashonda is just really bitter, which she has EVERY right to be, hell, if my multi-million dollar husband and I were divorcing and he got with someone on such a high caliber of celebrity like Alicia Keys, I'd be bitter. I think it's not fair to label Alicia a homewrecker, when the home was already wrecked when they started dating. I find it odd that Mashonda was cool with it, shaking Alicia's hand, showing up at Swizz's Birthday Party, and now all the sudden she's mad and is now speaking on it. Why not come out from the jump and say all that and do interviews as soon as she found out what was going on? Sounds like Mashonda is bitter and jealous of Alicia. She knows for sure 100% that her (Mashonda) and Swizz are finished. I also think money plays a big role in it, if she comes out and says that Swizz was cheating on her while still married, she will make him look bad publicly and in return maybe the courts will grant her a large child support check! Let the battle begin.
http://spinsterstravels.wordpress.com/ Spinster

In full agreement with Mz. Ashley and like-minded others. And here's my answer from the wife blog (written the other day):

"If anything, I’d give Alicia Keys the side eye only because of the contribution that she made to the demise of a marriage. (It wasn’t the ONLY contribution, but a contribution nonetheless.)"
toya

Why are people so quick to attack the woman in the affair? It takes 2 to cheat and Swizz was the married party. Come on people. Why are women held to a higher standard when it comes to infidelity? Is Alicia really supposed to take the blame for a grown married man's behavior?
http://spinsterstravels.wordpress.com/ Spinster

toya - he's a dirtbag in my opinion. And to be honest, they're BOTH dirtbags.
tresjolie

ALicia Keys is a homewrecker. Period. Mashonda and Swizz weren't separated when she got with him and why do peopel think SHE did something wrong for him to be looking somewhere else? Women can be superwoman and all that at home and a dude will still cheat. I mean was ANYONE checking for Swizz? No. SO here comes ALicia Keys-whose stock is alot HIGHER than a Mashonda, and he went in. No different than Angelina Jolie snatching up a thirsty Brad Pitt. Swizz could've handled his business a little better. And my problem with a Alicia is i remember she did an interniew with Sister @ Sister (when she was dating Kerry) and she was talking on and on about how a man needs to repsect her, and treat her, blah blah blah and here she is caught up in a scandal.

Does Alicia owe Mashonda an explanation? Well, maybe. It would be one thing if ALicia didn't know that he was married and got involved. Then she'd be a victim too. But she knew and was still going in.

And like Anslem said- we rake a Superhead and a KIM from RHOA but Alicia is doing the same thing. Superhead had to start with her FIRST husband before she went on in her life of infamy.
boomsilent

It's called being a hypocrite. If it wasn't for the irony of AK's empower yourself music, then this would be less of a shock to many. Y'all can call it what y'all want, but I think it's several things in combination that just make this messed up situation:

• It's pretty disrespectful to be flaunting your love in public, with a very publicly known person, before you have addressed your old one. On the same note, he still has the right to his privacy so...
• He just had a new baby with the wife. That just makes it all "look" devious, even if it not.
• The letter written by Mashonda is exceedingly graceful, and can only make her "look" better in the situation. Hell, I wanted to hug her after reading that....shame.
• Again, it's ironic that Alicia, with her squeaky clean public image and her publicly proposed beliefs, would "do such a thing". Makes you wonder what all those so-called good girls be yammering on about..

At the end of the day, a woman is going to go after what she wants...and for one reason or another, with all the cool talented brothers out there, she decided to get with a dude that was married. As much as I love women, and (sometimes) trust them, even the sweetest ones have the potential to be underhanded, devious, and just plain foul. We all want to see the good girl in the right. But right now, it's AK that "looks" like she's in the wrong. She will eventually have to address her fans, but Swizz doesn't have such a burden- he's a DJ, works in the background, and more than likely doesn't give a what.

But if anything is certain, this marriage is OVER.

Damn AK, why it gotta be like that
reality bites

This is no different than any other affair. People seem to feel the need to protect Alicia and bash the wife, when in any other case, the "other woman" would be getting all of the verbal daggers. Look, Alicia is dead wrong, and for someone who claims to be setting an example for young girls and young kids, she has failed miserably. My pastor recently said we CHOOSE who we love and we do. Love is not the car accident that we make it out to be. Every step of the way, we have a choice. Swizz is also wrong. The public disrespect via photos and messages is public spit to his wife that is not necessary.

I do not know if his wife did anything specific at home, other than ignore the signs. Women do that. Women do not want to believe that they are going to be crushed by someone they love but it happens every day. A sucker is born every minute and a love sucker can be born every marriage. I wish for some healing for the wife and for her to be smart, set a good example for her son and bow out gracefully with dignity. Sometimes losing with dignity is better than winning with strife. She has lost a 5 year emotional investment, but she can heal and reinvest in someone else.

The fact that other women seem to be filled with so much hatred in this issue is because we are raised with simple tenets that seem to reign regardless of education, race, class and social status. Those include the ideal that Alicia promoted in her song: Superwoman. Black women have been trying to outrun that myth that denies us our feelings and ability to make mistakes like everyone else and here she comes re-promoting this concept. Any review of history would reveal this but who has the time to review history when you are busy destroying a marriage? Also, another foul tenet is this idea that the woman at home is destroying the marriage and not the male stepping out. It can be both partners' fault but is often a male's choice to do so. In Hill Harper's book, The Conversation, men admitted many reasons for cheating including BOTH not having what they needed at home AND simply because "they can." We do not know the reasoning for Swizz's actions and cannot make accurate assumptions until other facts are released.

Alicia Keys is dead wrong but I am not surprised as unlike many, I never put her on a petastool and india.arie is more my music style than her so I never really followed her career. Swizz is also wrong and perhaps the wife may have done something wrong too but we do not know. Any defense of Keys' actions is complete hypocrisy but I will not be surprised when it occurs. However, a woman having an affair is not the same as sleeping with any celebrity and writing a memoir about it so I don't think she should be called Superhead.
BlackDreams

I think that AK is definitely wrong, I was flabbergasted when I read the article, I didn't know that he was married, but as I was reading the article, I was listening to the radio and the taylor swift song came on the radio, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mo-2yC_qbyI.. its called you belong with me, but its about stealing someones man, I think that although its just a song we are often influenced by songs and there seems to be more and more songs like this, we are persecuting ms. keys not only because that its wrong but because of the songs that she sings and the types of songs. I think that it is getting generationally worse, because so many marriages are ending in divorce we think that its almost ok. I have personally lost some friends being in AK situation, and its not always easy to just step back from the situation. Regardless of her music we must remember she is only human.
DC Man With a Plan

I have to say mentioning super head was a good reporter/managing editor tactic as a visual eye catcher, but it def was ova the top as others have already stated. AK IS a home wrecker, becuz anytime you dealing with a married man, you're WRONG! And you should realize, LynseyC, that separated, no matter HOW long it takes to get your divorce papers, is just another name for STILL MARRIED! Now if Swizz was a REAL proper type of man, he woulda worked it out with his wife that they were officially divorced, even if not completely legally divorced. This has been handled very sloppily, with little regard for his wife and kid. Dude gets ZERO cool points from me and he further demonstrates how you have to separate peoples actions from the work they do that is worthwhile, regardless of WHO they are. AK is a great singer, but if you expect her life, to be like or about the songs she sings--not gonna happen 90 plus percent of the time. Songs are songs. What makes a good singer is the ability to add the emotion, writers add the words, they make shyt sound REAL, and the best make it so we can relate, but that's where it ends. Respect the art but watch their actions to see if you can respect the person. The two things can't be automatically linked. Everybody in the spot light will NOT be a good or positive role model. Duhhh!
Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

People need to stop putting so much stock into images, they are illusions essentially and Akeys is like alot of other women.....don't mind if a man is still legally married with kids etc before she goes there.... even if they did fall in love etc the respectful thing in the sight of GOD and to the wife would have been to wait til the divorce was final if love is real then there was no need to be so messy......Karma however is REAL tho, and when it comes back it comes harder than what was dished out......everyone reaps what they sow!!!!
Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

I disagree with choosing who you love tho......
you can't really control that, what you can control are your actions and responses to it..embracing or shunning it etc
http://www.gangstarrgirl.com GangStarr Girl

If it's true that Alicia Keys hadn't been responding to Mashonda's previous attempts at reaching out, then that's cowardice and deserves calling out. If you're going to have balls enough to aid in the break up of someone's marriage, then you should be bold enough to face the consequences ie. dealing with an angry spouse.

People can call A Keys a homewrecker, which technically, she is because she manipulated an unstable situation but Swizz is to blame too. It appears as though he lacked logic and reasoning in this situation. He gave up his stable family life ie. 80% for the other 20% that was out there. Ouch.

However, people are human and make mistakes so it's not fair to criticize and call names because no one is near perfection and EVERYONE has done something questionable to another human being. Plus, no matter what anyone thinks, no one knows what really went down in the marriage.

Either way, this situation definitely sucks. I feel for Mashonda but it was written. The best thing she can do right now is take care of herself and her son and move on. Time heals.
http://bpytsspot.blogspot.com/ The78MsJ

You know in this very backwards time we are living in everyone wants to say that marriage is broken and an antiquated practice but marriage never changed people did. People have become more selfish and have an all about me attitude. I don't think people realize that when they go into a marriage then it becomes a shared effort you have to put aside yourself and do what's good for the whole not the self. I don't know anyone that selfless especially not in this day and age.

Furthermore since the break out of this whole public affair with beats and AK I think it is completely disrespectful and for both parties involved I think it is selfish and ugly. You leave your home and turn your back on it and flaunt your new piece everywhere amongst mutual friends and acquaintances like she is the best thing since sliced bread and you leave your legal wife open to speculation and mockery because you figure the 20% is better then the 80% you had.

If beatz and Ak were really classy people then they could have waited until the divorce was finalized but to be blatantly disrespectful to mashonda, her marriage and her child with beatz is so unclassy and uncouth it taints their art and I for one am no longer a fan of either.
da ThRONe

Swizz is the only homewrecker here. I do think it is very classless and almost coward like to be in a person face while sleeping with their mate ,but she owes Mashonda nothing.

I dont know why Mashonda felt the need to air her laundry ,but I do feel her pain.

On a side note since when do artists have to mean what they say in their songs? Artist are entertainers not life coaches.
Belle

separated = married to me. if you're married on paper, you're married, i don't care where you live outside the house or what bed you sleep in and how unhappy your marriage is. i don't entertain that foolishness.

AK and Swizz had to be anticipating this. I mean, drama is what you get when you cheat and you're married or you sleep with married men. Good for em. I hope Mashonda keeps it up. She should not go silently and be tossed aside. Them two want to make a mess, they need to SEE the mess they made.

You're tweeting about your love for a STILL MARRIED MAN?! WTF? Ultimate disrespect.

And really? What woman in her right mind says ok to this? The kid was about ONE year old when the rumors of them started. He was still living with his wife and AK says, "yes" to that offer? AK needs some self-esteem and common sense. And if the man lacks enough loyalty to his FAMILY that he will bounce, WTF do you think he will do to you in the end? AK betta be shook for the next light skinned- long, dark haired chick who pops up on his radar.

The biggest question is why Swizz hasn't arranged a sit-down? What doesn't he want to come out if they get toto talking?

AK should woman up and speak. If you're woman enough to whore with another woman's HUSBAND, then be woman enough to look her in the eye and answer her questions and give her closure.
B st. R

I don't get folks looking down on Mashonda for writing the letter. Y'all citing some "privacy" or discretion bs when Swiizz and AK been throwing it in her face for a year and change. I would love to see how much restraint you would show in the same situation. GTFOHWTBS. I would be getting my bail denied as we speak, and CNN anchors would be condemning the sick brutality of my actions.

as far as Belle's comments about folks still being married when they're separated, you clearly have never been separated. It ain't the same.
http://spinsterstravels.wordpress.com/ Spinster

B St. R - Disagree with your last paragraph, but FULLY agree with your 1st paragraph.
http://www.thesimplecomplication.blogspot.com Miss BB

I don't think Mashonda gave ole Swizzy a pass; it actually seems like they may have discussed it all and MAYBE he owned up to his part in all of this.

I would not call A. Keys a homewrecker only because I believe that for another person to be able to come in and affect change on a marriage, it already had to be somewhat messed up (even if one person had no clue that's how it was). That being said, her actions are ridiculous and disrespectful. He is/was a married man so even if she went out on a date with him and was digging him, her best bet would have been to fall back for a second and let him deal with whatever was going on. People are going to come to her defense because of her reputation as this "strong woman who would NEVER do anything like that" and that's what makes it even worse. She's being held to a higher standard and will likely not have to be held responsible because of who she is. Her album will be coming out soon and it'll be interesting to see how many times the questions about this will be asked and/or ignored. oh and I wonder how many times her camp will tell interviewers not to ask anything about it.

Ultimately, I do think that Swizz holds the majority of the blame because he is the one who made the vow to Mashonda (this is the first time he's cheated on her). But that certainly does not mean that A. Keys cannot have some sort of respect for the union - even if that union is starting to break down some. BTW, I still would have not put this out on Twitter because it just adds to even more problems. this is a mess though and everyone should be held accountable.
AJ ROK

I won’t comment much on the Swizz/ AK situation cause I don’t know all the facts, but will say if it’s true a word of advice to Sistah AK…
If you man cheats on his wife to be with you, you don’t think the same man will cheat on you with anotha… I mean I’m not judging nobody I’m just saying!
Fresh

Belle's entire post is exactly how I feel. Some of you woman are PATHETIC. THERE IS A KID INVOLVED. His father and mother live together, then he sees his father and some WHORE out on a date. What is that teaching him?! AK portrays her lifestyle as loyal and filled with morals, which is far from that. Open your eyes people. Mashonda had no choice but to air her out via Internet. AK isn't woman enough to answer her in fear of ruining her image, what better way to get a answer?
That Guy

A. Keys just lost a fan.. No doubt

As I man, I respected her music, but not just for her lyrics and talent, but because I felt she lived and embodied them, that she was true example. It would be like if we found out everything about Jay-Z was false. No matter how good the lyrics, if the people dont believe you, you will need more people, because this one is over you.

Flat out, simply put she's a hypocrite.. and I'm a fan of many art forms, but that isn't one of them.

I pray for the mother, because it has been out in public, which is wrong on both Swizz and A. Keys.. dudes no matter what, if you have issues with your baby mother, remember no matter how you feel bout her, she's still the mother of your child and will have a huge impact on that life, and being the 1st example in that child's life, people should try to make better decisions, because the child is the one who suffers most in the end..

I.Can't.Stand.Selfish.People

NWSO, unfortunently this is not a new phenom... women attack married men/men in relationships almost harder than they do single men.. its like theres a sign that says he's trying to do the right thing (vs. the single player type), so get him at any cost.. this example is just magnified because of the celebrity status
http://www.femmixx.com Tacchelle Shamash Wilkes

@ Da Throne -- That is the difference. An artist lives, shares and speaks through their experiences, while an entertainer merely entertains. Sad to say -- we have too many entertainers out here and few artists.
HoneyBee

For the folks who don't think AK "owes" M an explanation, I have to question that given the fact that there is a child involved who has a relationship with his father. That being said, if AK is such a big piece of daddy's life, mommy damn sure has a right to sit down woman to woman and discuss things with her son's potential step-mother...
Kwana AKA OrangeStar AKA Phoenix7

an artist is a vessel, an artist intreprets life experiences thru the various forms of art where as an entertainer is mostly image no depth
Keisha Brown

I have been a fan of AK since she came out as a young woman. I respected that she didn't take her clothes off to sell her music and let her voice/talent speak for itself.

I agree with an earlier post - comparing Superhead to AK is like comparing a thief to a Bernie Madoff. As far as we know, AK doesn't have a history of doing this, nor has she gone on record about being proud of said actions. Yes, she is being reckless in how she chooses to emote, but at Superhead and AK is fruits to cheeses (as opposed to apples and oranges).

I also agree that what she has done/is doing is wrong. But unlike many in this thread - I am not going to take sides of people I don't know. The only people that truly know what is going on are AK, SB and Mrs SB. Each party is an adult and needs to take a look at their actions and responsibility for what they've done.

I understand why Mrs. SB felt that she had no other choice, but to reach out to AK via Twitter, but she is connected enough, to be able to find a number or email address via management, publicist or her husband. By doing this in such a public forum, she is inviting people like us to judge and critique her words and actions, when at the end of the day, she is the one that has a son to raise.

This is entertainment to us, but to them, this is real life. There should never be more than 2 people in a relationship. And now there are just too many.
da ThRONe

@Tacchelle Shamash Wilkes

I couldnt disagree with you more. You realise not every artist write their on songs. Your job as a recording artist is to entertain. If you can inspire great but thats not your job.

If I write a movie Im an artist but I didnt have to experience it first hand.
single23

personally I can't wait for this to come back and bite alicia keys in the butt. Didn't she write a song titled "Karma" LOL. As a woman I don't know how she can accept a man who can go back on his word, especially a vow made before God. Any sensible person would see that he isn't a man of his word, therefore he is not to be trusted or entrusted with such valuable things as ones heart. But she made that choice and it does much to show Alicia Key's lack of integrity. This is just too funny. I wonder how this episode with affect her record sells. I just hope her next album isn't talking about how much of a good women she is, unless it's saying, "I'm so good, I will sleep with your man" lol
da ThRONe

@single23

Yet females do it all the time! People cant see pass their own wants and/or desires this has been proven so many times already!
That Guy

I can't believe WOMEN are defending A. Keys...

This is such an issue on so many levels.. Ladies, as Belle said, he's married. Damn the time it takes to resolve/dissolve, there married in the courts and in the eyes of God, no to mention they JUST had a child, so how on the rocks could it have been if they were living together and intimate... If people are stooping this low... I wont even finish that statement....

Swizz is wrong, not that I needed to repeat that, but it should be understood. Cheating with the next chick while your baby moma that your still married too is carrying is below low, like lower than his career currently.

There is no excuse (time, money, emotions etc) for sleeping with married people, PERIOD. Frankly, you women defending him & her are pathetic, and delusional and the reason most men can get away with whatever they want. Be a adult and have standards, first being, married people are off limits.

I'm so over this....
(sending my assistant for a bottle of wine)

signed,
biggest A. Keys "hater" and Swizz Beat "disser"
Doon*

Much respect to Mashonda! She really set the tone in a very ladylike, respectful manner. She couldn't have done it any better
Rastaman

Alicia Keys mayb e more the person she expresses in her music rather than the person she is portraying in this situation. One of the unfortunate side effects of fame and celebrity is often the oversized ego. ala Kanye West. In seeing this from Ms. Keys perspective she feels a connection with this man and even if he is technically married she will not be denied or delayed.

Who knows how this will play out, no one but one thing we are certain is that it is on the way to getting ugly. i personally, do not find these developments as shocking as some others do nor do I feel a need to come down on one side or the other. Just not enough details available. I am quite certain Ms. Keys publicist must be calcualting the many ways this thing could impact her good girl image and how to spin it beneficially if it does get out of control.

I must admit that being the skeptic I am, I so believe these type of marital dramas are nothing new, the new factor has more to do wiith the drama been played out in public over Twitter of all things.

New technology, same old people!!
da ThRONe

@That Guy

Dude are you serious? I dont care what Jay-z, A Keys or Car Keys do in their personal life. If I enjoy your music I will and if I dont I wont. Im not buying an Indie Arie album just because shes a nice person.
Mrs. Wanderingheart

Shucks, Alicia just told Swizz, "If I was your woman, here's what I'd do..." and he fell for it, Mashonda needs to realized that this was just "A Lesson Learned" cuz "Thats the thing about love" sometimes. Its real sad and it was really poor how things went down, but hey, even by reaching out to the other woman, what does she expect to accomplish????? In my mind closure comes from getting rid of the man doin' dirt, as much as she say's he loves his child, I'm sure the other woman won't stop him being there. I don't think she NEEDS any explanation from Alicia, but as women, we tend to dwell on "how cud they do that?", but I'm sure the answer won't make Mashonda feel any better. Hell it might make her even more fired up!
That Guy

@ da ThRONe:

Yeah I'm very serious. I can't/don't relate to liars, no matter how good the beat because after every line, I'ma be like.. "yeah right". Its better to say what you are and be respected for it, misrepresenting yourself is wack in my opinion. People like/love Jay-Z because he's real, or atleast I do. It will be very hard for me to listen to A. Keys in the future knowing that to some degree she's not who she portrays herself to be in her lyrics. If you take men, make songs about it, I can live with that, but lying on wax, well.. that's played to me.

I'm from ATL and a good friend of mine said it best:

If your not living what your rapping (singing in this case) then your worthless - T.I. - Swagger like us
Ms P

Supposedly he had stepped out on Mashonda & their marraige before & has another child. AK is not his first chick on da side. However, she appears to have been the chick to break the weakest link. If that is all true, did mashonda turn her head for the unknowns as long as hubby came home? There are lots of women like that too. The main culprit is Swizz Beatz. He is the one who took the vow with Mashonda NOT AK. Was AK wrong? Of course. However, in this tweet/twit/whatever Mashonda says she & swizz are ok now. WTF?? If you are ok with the man who left you then you should be ok with AK too! I feel for Mashonda. I do. You can see this sista is hurting. It is bad to lose someone you love to someone else but to see it all over the internet has got to be depressing. However, you cannot MAKE someone love you. It cannot be done. You can force someone to live with you because it's cheaper to keep her. However, do you REALLY want to financially blackmail someone to stay with you??

In the end this is sad for all parties. AK looks bad especially because she knew he was married. Bad move. Mashonda 's pain is so evident that you can't help but feel for her. However, this ain't Swizz first time running around the pole. I hope this sista stops holding on & moves on. She deserves better than a bum who has no respect or love for her & their child. he is not worthy of her. And Swizz is just a BUM. He is despicable, pathetic,etc. And he is probably sitting somewhere with his UGLY self enjoying the catfight. SMDH. Mashonda, while you are miserable those 2 clowns are moving on with their life. That's the truth. She should move on because that bum is not her destiny.
Dutch

cosign Belle and The Guy --> Sure we do not know the intricacies of what exactly happened, but if you choose to marry someone it is for better and for worse.

There will be hard times, but that is part of life and thus part of your marriage.

Even if Mash. and Swizz were going through difficulties or were living seperated. They are still married, and Mash. did not even get a chance to sort things out with her husband.

What Alicia did, is dead wrong, but she got what she deserved in the end I guess.

If Swizz takes his marriage so light, that he gets a divorce for the next chick, Mash. shouldnt really be with him anyway, how much it may hurt
sylkiifeather

ALICIA IS A HOE…POINT BLANK PERIOD. YOU ARE A HOE IS YOU KNOWINGLY SLEEP WITH SOMEONE ELSE’S MAN. NO, IM NOT JUDGING HER, BUT A HOE IS A HOE. F*CK THAT LOVE SH*T. THERE ARE TOO MANY MEN IN THIS WORLD TO CLAIM LOVE AS A REASON FOR SLEEPING WITH SOMEBODY ELSE’S MAN. JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE FEELING FOR SOMEBODY DOESNT MEAN YOU HAVE TO BE WITH THEM. LETS BE REAL…OUT OF ALL THOSE CELEBRITY MEN, SHE HAD TO CHOOSE A MARRIED ONE? HOW DID THOSE FEELINGS EVEN DEVELOP IN THE FIRST PLACE WHEN SHE KNEW HE WAS MARRIED? WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND, AND SHE WILL MOST DEFINITELY GET HERS…JUST LIKE ALL YOU OTHER SL*TS WHO ARE SO PATHETIC AS TO KNOWINGLY SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN’S MAN…HOW DESPERATE MUST YOU BE. HAVE SOME D*MN STANDARDS…

AND AS FAR AS SWIZZ GOES...OF COURSE HE IS TO BLAME ALSO FOR THE CHEATING...BUT IF IT WASNT FOR THE SL*TTY A$$ WOMEN IN THIS WORLD WHO ACCEPT BEING THE SIDELINE HOE, THEN MEN WOULDNT BE ABLE TO DO WHAT THEY DO. (IM ONLY SAYING MEN BECAUSE IM REFERRING TO SWIZZ...OF COURSE WOMEN CHEAT TOO).

BUT MY OVERALL MESSAGE IS THAT AK IS A HOE....
da ThRONe

@That Guy

You should quit listening to music then because every artist lies period! Dont watch anymore movies even ones based off of true stories because they're only BASED on the truth.

When I wanted to do music I lied all the time because I was trying to entertain people. Sometimes I told the truth but it wasnt often.

How do you explain people writing songs? I know there are rumors about Ne-yo sexuality but he wrote Beyonce song "Irreplaceable". Are you saying he had to break up with his boyfriend to write that song???????????
Datgyrl4uaz

Alicia,
You can't make yourself happy by bringing sadness and hurt to someone else... It will work for the moment then like Monica said "It was built on lie so its' sure to fall....".

Mashonda stand tall, God will not put you though nothing you can't handle..
Ms P

One last thing, no matter what, AK could never be as pathetic as Superhead. Never. Ever.
MomOf3

Any woman that sleeps with a married man, separeted, unhappy, or whatever is a WHORE... Period!
Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

Who cares?!?!?!?
Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

A person's personal life is just that, PERSONAL. I will still sing her songs and shake my ass to his beats.

Alicia did the correct thing by not responding. Mashonda needs to handle her marriage issues with her husband, not the other woman. Why do women do that anyway? No woman "steals" a man away, he has free will.
http://mypolaropposite.wordpress.com/ T. Lynn Lloyd

Totally agree w/AJ Rok. As my mother used to say, if a dog can bring a bone he can carry away a bone. If Mr. Sweetz was thinking about stepping out, the Mrs is mistaken to accuse AK of breaking up a marriage; it was probably already behind the wrecking ball, just not publicly.

Karinne Stephens blew her way to money, access and fame with a "talent" that anyone can learn. And she's still writing books. Alicia Keys has REAL talent, so I'd never put her in the same category. At least she has an ongoing relationship with Sweetz instead of being "sampled" by his friends. It's sad that she ran behind a married man for years, but it doesn't negate her musicianship or her career.

Both Sweetz and AK are wrong for cheating (both of them are cheaters), but that's between them and their God. Mrs Sweetz doesn't seem as over it as she claims since she's still tweeting about it.

IMHO, all 3 of them should grow up.
Anonymous

Well, for all I know she wrote a song named "Karma".

I wonder what the sequal to that will sound like once she's got bitten in her behind by it.

That's all I can say. We all get what we deserve - maybe not now, maybe not soon, but one day.
http://www.twitter.com/ohsonattral OhSoNattral

Everyone always bashes the woman. She gets labeled a whore while the guy gets another notch on his belt. I'm so sick of the female bashing. They did the same thing to Kelis and Angelina Jole (they sitll crying poor Jen. Brad Pitt was not separated from Jennifer) Swizz took a vow with Mashonda not Alicia. Therefore he is the "homewrecker" not Alicia. He made the decision to ler her into his bed while he was still married. Doesn't the male pursue the female? Not to excuse Alicia Keys' behavior yes she played a role. But I don't agree with all the name calling, bash fests that are talking place on various blogs. No Alicia Keys does not need to woman up. She does not owe Mashsonda an apology...Swizz needs to man up and respect "his" vows!!!!
DC Man With a Plan

@ Ohsonatural...For the record, Single men get notches on their belt--married men are appropriately viewed as trifling when they commit adultery.
While there are several persons that are bashing AK, there are plenty of others that placed significant, critical blame on Swizz. Perhaps you only read those you wanted to see? And for the record, the blog title is: Is AK the new superhead, which is a MAJOR reason for the focus being on her..and Mashounda's twit ALSO brought AK front and center. You upset like this is YOUR life story..oops!
mastery20

Personally, I believe that what goes around, comes around....and it may not necessarily be the same dirt you dished out. All parties involved are adults and with a child in the mix, they should be more cognizant of their actions.

When I was in college, I met a guy who was married at the time, but he was "separated". Even then, "married, although separated" meant he was still married. I told him that he needed to handle his business and if we were meant to be, we would meet up again, after his divorce was final. I didn't care to see that he had filed for a divorce, I needed to see the final divorce decree. Needless to say, our paths crossed and he showed me the divorce decree. I ended up meeting his ex-wive and we spoke, as adults, mainly because she told me she "wanted to meet the woman who would be around her kids" (which has taught me a valuable lesson that I still live by).

Added bonus: There was never any drama between the three of us.
Anonymous

I think that AK is a homewrecker if she straight up lied when she was confronted and asked was she sleeping with swizz. Men aren't the only ones who do it. I think Mashonda if she is really cool with the situation (now) is handling it like a trooper. I think though that she should blalme Swizz too because it's takes two to tangle. Either he or she could've said no. Plus there's a child involved. Dealing with another woman in your child's fathers' life can be difficult but it can be handled with class because as we all know things don't last forever. I think that it's okay to be in love and feel happy and good but to blatantly publicise your feelings about a mans' home that you f-----up and the fact that he's still married with a child is crazy. We can't control what people do but remember we all want to be treated with respect and what you do to others comes back to you!
sylkiifeather

hoe hoe hoe...cannot dispute that...she's a hoe...
Neoshee

It better to be hated for what you are then to be look for what you are not. AK is lame bcuz she lied when she was confronted she knew it was wrong and that she had to hide. To love someone you had to invest time and getting to know each other. So all guy here making excuse of how her marriage was bad and shouldn't have done that and etc.. blah blah I feel like ya probably the same one doing that to people marriage. Yes she do need to have closure with AK so they don't have that baby mama drama and act all ghetto. Their
isn't no excuse nor forgiveness for Adultery not in God eyes. And it a wack excuse for her to do that still call herself respectful or even deserve respect. She is not a superwoman she a superhoe. Superhead did hers for money, for fame, and to keep her above water, AK is worse cuz she have everything education, know moral, so call respect fo herself so she worse then Karrine bcuz superhead don't know better. She didn't have someone to teach that AK is different story which make worse. God proctect babies and fool. AK should know how feel cuz her mom went thru it.
http://www.tanyalouise.net Tanya Louise

It's the both of their fault but still, Alicia knew he was married. I feel sorry for the child because he will have to suffer because some grown folks don't know how to control their libidos. When you are wrong you are wrong.
erica

I think she is a nasty women because lets not forget her other two relationships where married men to . see people don't look at her track record they think star but i always know she was nasty after she went public with the first one . I know people are like Mashonda broke up her own relationship but dam Alica why do you want to be the cause of why their marriage ended i think she is cold harded and nasty. and this comes from the singer who says she dosen't have sex with men before a yr . please swizz was hitting that first day. nasty
ParadiseWishes

I think all this mess is just sad. First and foremost, who gives a damn, Alicia aint the first other woman and wont be the last. Secondly, why oh why is wifey so concerned about this to the point that she wants to go public on twitter? SHE IS SAD, and HURT and thought by doing it in this manner she would make Alicia and Swizz situation embarrassing. Well Mashonda remember when you point one finger at someone else the other 3 are pointing back at you!!! FOCUS on raising your child in a manner so he wont be totally affected by this nonsense the 3 of you PART TIME grown ups have thrown him into. Be the bigger woman and take your losses, pick yourself up, brush yourself off and work on builidng a life that is not built around a man that NO LONGER RESPECTS and LOVES you! Don't be the vicim be the victor, if they did wrong, lfie will catch up with them in its own time.
Kimmie

Alicia you know what goes around comes around.....you sang all about Karma. How would you feel if the shoe were on the other foot? Mashonda should be upset with her husband and not you. The two of them were in a relationship and he strayed, however, you should be ashamed of yourself. In case you didn't know, which I seriously doubt, pay back is a M***** F*****!
K Gopaul

Mashonda seems to be very mature in this situation. Although she has been hurt and disrespected, she still made it clear that she would like to work it out with Alicia, and that's big. It's hard to send your child to spend time with his or hers father and the father's girlfriend (especially a gf that has disrespected you). For these reasons I think Mashonda is mature. I'm disappointed and upset with Alicia. I see her in a different light now. I love her music but i've always thought she was a little low class and hood by her gestures and the way she speaks. I guess now the true "Hood" Alicia has come out and is on the prowl.
PeachesNPudding

Its because they're both light-skinned. The Brown Sugar gets the bottom of the barrel. (sigh) that sucks.
Anonymous

they both denied it for about a year and a half though . .
http://m.itsmy.com oribi

It was jst wrong,n Ak n mr beatz should share d blame..mr beat would hav at least respected mashonda clear d divorce 1st now that would have been noble,bt noble or morals dont exist in our world again..am disappointed in AK cause it was just not seem like what she could do but welcome to the world people anything can happen at anytime
a pissed off wife

I feel she is a homewrecker. There's nuthang to justify that she went with a married man. She came between a vow made to god. If they do last long ill be surprised.
Reed Pfeiffer

Hey Alicia I think that you are so fine and that we belong together where NO ONE can seperate us baby
Gerald Blocklinger

Alicia Keys is my idol. She is gorgeous. I am happy to see her wedding photo and she is just wonderful
Analisa Walls

It is good to read in an news that Alicia Keys and her husband Swizz were seen on a romantic dinner date on one of their favorite place in Manhattan. They really had fun with each other and there seems to be no moment of silence.