When I’m Horny (How Do You Quench Your Carnal Desires?)

1 Posted by - October 21, 2009 - Poetry, Wet Wednesdays [Weekly Erotica Series]

I'm Horny

When I’m horny…

I have difficulty sleeping at night. It feels like all the blood in my veins just rushes to my lower region, engorging me until I’m as hard as a lead pipe.

When I’m horny…

Being alone in my bed becomes the most difficult thing in the world. I toss and turn until I grip my pillow as if it were the woman of my lustful desires and it lulls me to sleep.

When I’m horny…

The tip of my dick becomes super sensitive. The fabric of my boxers brushing ever so gently across my skin is enough to make small droplets of my love ooze out at will.

When I’m horny…

I get real antsy. My hands have a tendency to seek and explore parts of my body that are normally traced by the nimble fingers and agile tongue of a willing woman.

When I’m horny…

I get frustrated easily. Lying on my stomach at night is a torturous endeavor, as my hips have a tendency to thrust involuntarily in my sleep as if I were in the company of my perfect mate.

When I’m horny…

I often awake to this throbbing sensation that beckons my attention. Absentmindedly I sometimes find myself handling the situation before the sound of my alarm clock interrupts.

When I’m horny…

Cold showers are my friends. Something about the cooling fluid flowing over my skin helps to satiate the fire brewing just below the surface of my loins.

When I’m horny…

My senses are alive and every woman that crosses my path becomes an object of desire. I study their gait, the sway of their hips, the fullness of their lips and get lost in their ample bosoms.

When I’m horny…

All I want to do is focus all of this raw, carnal energy on one lucky woman and feel her quiver beneath me and above me. I want her to be the vessel that releases my body from this prison of sexual tension.

When I’m horny…

I think back to all those lustful nights spent with you/her/them and how long it’s been since we’ve shared each others’ bodies. As all these thoughts combine and become one big mental orgy I build up further anticipation for the moment we meet again.

When I’m horny…

I want to taste your love. I want to tear your clothes off and bury my face between your legs.

When I’m horny…

I want to pleasure you. I put it on you like nobody’s business.

When I’m horny…

I want to cuddle. I want to feel your body next to me.

When I’m horny…

I want to fuck. I want to make love.

When I’m horny…

I want to do all of the above and more.

Fin!

How do you deal with an excessive bout of horniness? How hard is it to fall asleep alone when you’re horny? Are you ever tempted to make a call to a local “supplier” or take matters into your own hands? Do you find it harder to go without sex when you’re in a relationship than when you’re single? Does porn or toys help the situation or only make you crave the real thing more? Can you be too old for wet dreams? Do you notice a switch in your mood once you finally get that itch scratched? Are you horny right now?

Speak your piece…

masturbation woman

  • da ThRONe

    Never to old for a wet dream but I hate them though. Dried semen is a pain in the ass to get off the skin.

    As far as porn love it. It allows me to “Take matters into my own hand”. Which goes along way for a person like me.

  • Shay-Shay

    Yes..but I have to wait until Saturday to “release”

  • http://spinsterstravels.wordpress.com/ Spinster

    How do you deal with an excessive bout of horniness?
    – That’s rare for me. If it happens, it’s mind over matter for me.

    How hard is it to fall asleep alone when you’re horny?
    – It’s not for me.

    Are you ever tempted to make a call to a local “supplier” or take matters into your own hands?
    – There’s no local supplier, but it’s probable that if a phone call was made to… I don’t know… just about any non-homosexual man :-| , he’d be more than willing to be a supplier. *shrugs*

    Are you horny right now?
    – No.

    Can’t answer the other questions but maybe this will suffice.

  • da ThRONe

    I wonder how many sexually abuse pillows are out there? Hmmmm?

  • ~sWeeTnEsS~

    Excessive horniness makes me take matters into my own hands… I can rarely sleep when sex is on my mind; I don’t believe in suppliers… If they aren’t already supplying me on the regular, then I trust my own hands to take me there… ;^) and yes, the release does brighten my mood; btw, Ans, i was wondering if you ever blogged about female masturbation and how common it is? … I think I might be an addict…

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Sweetness

    I had a guest blog on female porn addiction/obsession you can peep it here:

    http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/07/10/confessions-of-a-female-porn-addict/

  • Rita

    Sounds like me last night. Couldn’t sleep for shit!

  • Elle

    Not guilty. When I am single my sex drive goes into hibernation mode. I only get horny when I am in a relationship because my desire seems to be linked to that particular guy. I don’t walk around lusting after random dudes on the street or wherever. Mainly because they are all ugly anyways … LoL.

    *shrugs*

    I’m boring. Whatevsssss….

    • Do-u

      Do u want to talk on msn ? X. U seem nice xx

  • Anonymous

    Now that I’m older I can calm myself down. So either I try to get off my mind or I handle it in my dreams. I’m not saying that I don’t like to do it I do it’s just that now being older it’s like if I get it I get it if I don’t I don’t and I’m okay with it. Not saying that I don’t want to buckwild sometimes I went thru alot of trials and tribulations over the years and my sex drive went down a little. Learned that sex is not everything.

  • http://www.twitter.com/_afroditee_ _afroditee_

    Being celibate i realized you’re always horny, i remember there was a day that i had to myself and just…entertained myself with my fingers and toys. This past saturday i handed in my cobweb coochie club card and gave into my desire to be with this man, It was everything i wanted it to be plus, he was responsive the whole time, let’s just say i wont be having any horny nights like that anymore

  • http://www.tanyalouise.net Tanya Louise

    Wow stop eating so much meat!! The hormones are fucking with you!!

  • DC Man With a Plan

    I don’t pair excessive and horniness together but I understand what this post is saying. When I am not in a relationship it SEEMS that I am more conscious of being in the “not getting any club” in specific scenario’s, like at a club, at a concert or in a place where ppl tend to be coupled up and having fun. But bcuz I have a life….lol…and practice self control, it’s all good. I’m at that age where I can admire a big butt and a smile and still keep it moving bcuz I already know: a lot of big butts and smiles come with headaches and drama…lol….I’m tryn to avoid ALL of that, so I’ma go on until I get what I know is good for me and worth my time, effort and commitment….I’m personally not big on self pleasuring, but there are times when it comes in handy…lmao

  • MsJ

    When i’m in need, I have no problem with self- satisfaction! I like to beleive that I am the best in taking care of my own needs.

  • Vie Amoureuse

    being in a long distance relationship makes my “horniness” feels to me ten times worse..just wanting to hold another being and let him do all the thing you dream drives me delirious..yes i have an attitude change when i finally get some lol and of course i have wet dreams considering im tryin my damndest to be faithful..horniness can be a pain sometimes lol

    • Punkchik05

      im in a long distance relationship and get easily anxious and frustrated when i haven’t had my desires fullfilled…i constantly think of my days and night longs sessions…and being far away from my partner its even worse….i do what i can but it only has me longing for the real encounter…how does one cope and stay fulfilled while so far away?

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Tanya Louise

    Sorry, I haven’t eaten red meat in well over a decade so…. What you talkin bout Willis? LOL

    why can’t a poem just be a poem… :P

  • Geoforie

    I take things into my own hands or I pull out some of my toys. I have a man, but if he’s away or if I’m in the mood for some auto-play, I take care of business. Sometimes he discovers me and joins in my fun.

  • Momof3

    My husband is on his 3rd tour in Iraq so Im no stranger to taking things into my own hands… After a while it does get old though. It gets to the point where you need to feel a body next to yours. I’m on month 2 with 10 more to go… Sigh… Some LONG nights ahead…

  • Anonymous

    like it

  • http://pursuitofpleasure.wordpress.com The Lover

    Good post.

    I take matters into my own hands.

    I was up til 4am.

    Ok…there’s the answer :/

  • MissMe83

    hmmmm good post!!! I’m not in a relationship, so the fact that I don’t get it does bother me sometimes…physically I shall say..lol I know of a few local suppliers….and all of them offer a good, but different type of product. One may have that good pipe but lacking in the oral stimulation dept,whereas another may have the BEST oral game in the world, but the pipe not so much. Unfortunately I have taken a hiatus from sex….but there are PLENTY of nights where I want to call my supplier(s) but I always put the phone down right before I hit send. (Thank GOD that I’m not using a land line, cuz as soon as that last number was dialed it would start to make that call)

    No I’m not horny right now, but I do have a vibrator that I use….it used to do the job VERY well…but I think I’ve gotten used to it, so I need to lay off of it for a while…oh well….

    Good post though!

  • Shequita

    …the only call I’m making is to that special one and if he’s not available I can do GOOD all by myself! Granted its not the same but it beats waking up throbbing!

    I actually did have to take matters in my own hands before the alarm went off one morning.

    I’m more likely to want it when I’m interested in someone or in a relationship.. and I will wait on them with reason.

  • da ThRONe

    I have noticed since I started working out my sex drive has started to exceed my normal speed limits! ;)

    Which in my position is an unwanted side effect of trying to stay in shape.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Da ThRONe

    Remember to “work out” your left hand too. LMAO

  • Hersheys

    I know when I’m extremely horny I tried to exercise and focus my energy else where. Sometimes it is difficult to sleep and I often take matters into my own hands. I just try to exert some self control.

  • Missy

    I am very horny right and I keep sending these flirty txts to my man to come by later but he is making this difficult. In which case I have no problem taking care of myself as a momentary relief.

  • da ThRONe

    da ThRONe is feeling like MissMe83 prefect guy! :D

  • http://sweetnectar2480.blogspot.com sweetnectar

    Horny feelings are so intense tears well like a summer rain. Horny has me sitting on my front porch in a negligee and some pumps. Horny has me sucking my dildo and riding my vibrator at the same time.

  • Miss. Joyful Joi

    ive never really been into the whole ” self pleasure” thing…i need a REAL THANG handling me…the WHOLE PACKAGE.. body, voice tones, sweet nothings spoken in my ear, him sayin how it feels…ALL DAT.

    nowwwww, have i fantasized bout it? hell yea…but actually working my self out in the sheets seems a bit…weird lol

    i know its natural and we should know our bodies before anyone else but forreal yall, im lazy….i’ll wait for that good D…. cuz im sure, it’ll be worth it ;-)

  • http://myspace.com/kobe81fan Shay from L.A. (Los Angeles)

    Sigh…

  • http://www.thesinglegirlsguidetomen.com Anonymous

    That was some extremely good shit…it got me a little well…horny…

    • Anonymous

      me 2, almost fingered myself

  • Ran

    I have two options. My rubber boyfriend or my freind who I consider my emegency dick in a glass.

  • Anonymous

    When I am horny I let my woman know, but more often than not she don’t won’t to be botherd. So I have to resort to self-gratification, with a pornstar punany she bought me (third one).

  • older & wiser

    I cosign Miss Joyful Joi.

  • Siante J

    When I’m horny, I let it go. If I don’t take care of it or calm it down, I’ll be the Black male version of Purple Passion on “Bad Black Girls”. Meaning no man or woman would be safe from my exclamation of need/want/

  • christopher/gregory

    when i feel horny ,i feel honoured 2 hold my stiff dick.if i dont fock it off that hard piece of fock stick is gonna be up until next day n a half ! so i guess i have no other choice but to spray it off with my strong masculine hand .

  • sweetsexxybrown

    I don’t like it when I’m horny and single. (As I am both now) I’d rather participate w/someone else in scratching that itch than taking it into my own hands. Don’t get it twisted-I can’t sit there w/that miserable itch for 2 long either so I just self satisfy at that point. I agree w/DC Man that sometimes it can be a bother only when its brought to your attention that you are not gettin any because of your surroundings…but you move on anyway. I’ll tell u a story though-I was away recently…chillin, drinkin, mindin my bizness on my chaise lounge when horniness reared its ugly head. Let’s just say, I handled it right there. (Under the towel though). So there are moments where you have to scratch the ‘itch’ sooner than later.

  • Shelly

    He’s 9 months into a deployment and I’m 5 months pregnant……hells yeah I’m horny!!
    It’s not an issue with taking matters into my own hands but being pregnant I want him to do it. So, unless we can be on web cam, there’s nothing going on ’round these parts :(

  • Wilder

    Well since my beloved (or should I say belusted) toy has a major shortage, so midway to the big O it cut off (worst thing in the world). I’ve settled with my hands. I do not ignore horniness…ever.

    For one I’m cranky and I’m not one for looking for a cut buddy when I’m horny (my pickiness goes out the window). And once I get in with myself then all is well at least until the next time.

    Power to self love.

  • YoungJay

    I remember in High School when no one admitted to handling their own business…Ahh to be Young and Naive!!

    @ Elle

    I actually like that ”boring” persona you put forth…it usually makes for great times when ur actually IN to something/someone! ; )

  • Gemini

    Wow! You are the man of my dreams! I’m a morning person. I would handle that for you in so many positions.

  • no-one

    i do get horny but i always feel i dunno………………dirty after it??……… i try not to but if i dont i have wet dreams and there something you just cant controll…………. i wish i could it would make my life soooo much easier….. :D

  • the full package

    when im horny i just bring old righty out and start beatin my meat pole. and then once im done and my drum stick stops makin beats. i go to sleep non-horny.

  • G3

    When it gets rough I make a phone call and head to her spot its great when your G/f lives in the same city.

  • Elle

    @Jay

    “I actually like that ”boring” persona you put forth…it usually makes for great times when ur actually IN to something/someone! ; )”

    Exactamente! I’m glad we see eye to eye on this ;)

  • mr.freaky

    when am horny (which i am now after reading that) i just go to the bar at night see if anyone wants some fun…but am always careful what i catch

  • BellaNotB

    Damn Straight, I am Horny. Now & forever. My hubby is happy to please me whenever and however I want (unfortunately no oral for me, lucky for him, I enjoy giving out) I should hold out and none for him til I get it too. I am home, working :( and he is home taking a ‘sick’ day. Damn work. Frick, I am Horny.

  • Trenicia

    Ok. So I just found this site! THANKS. I thought I was the only one with some of these issues. But I’d like to address a question I came across. Do Females have the same masterbation “issue” ? YES. Well I do anyway. I am not ashamed of this actually I LOVE it. I have a BF that I live with. When we first started dating we had sex 3-4 times a day just about everday. Now, 6 yrs later, mayber 6-7 time a week. I know some ppl are saying thats a lot. Even though we have sex often and I reach that SPECIAL place everytime. I could still roll over and masturbate until I fall asleep. Im gonna stop now cause its just contributes to the “issue”. Thanks for everyones advice.

  • Maria

    Hey if any of u are horny just tell me (both men and women) and if your wanting to know im a teen (girl) and im bisexual!

    • private

      umm ok….. lol what is your email?

      • private

        but you must be over 18!! lol

    • Chick Magnett

      I’m Horny! whats our email?

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Anonymous

    Please, don’t use screwdrivers and tools to pleasure yourself. That just sounds way too dangerous and Unhygienic. You can cause some serious damage and health risks doing that.

    Use your fingers or get a vibrator or dildo. Worse case put a condom on a cucumber or something. You should have safe sex even with yourself.

    • private

      screwdrivers? lmao….oh my

  • Anonymous

    I havr a question. i am really wet but my nipples are hard am i horny? i like tio play with myself like 5 times a day. i didnt have anything so i used a screw driver. it feel so good pleasuring myself like i am right now, is thar wrong? and i am bi and i could use some help. it feels so good!! and i have wet dreams. please reply asap

  • TMR

    Hey i am 19 and i am living with some guys.actually i hooked up twice with one of my room mates..and we use to have sex when we are drunk..on week-ends,,but tonight (saturday) he is not drinking because he needs to work tomorrow.. i all by myself drinking in my room..I just can’t tell you how i am horny now!! I don’t know how i’m feeling..im drunk and i want to fuck with him.. but i dont have the courage to ask him if he wants to.. it is the worst feeling ever that i have now.. I really want him now.. He is just in the room next to me .. huh..it’s weird! In fact i really love you article..really good!!

  • Anonymous

    can someone reply asap if ur nipples arent hard but ur rly rly wet are u still horny?

  • Anonymous

    if ur nipples arent hard but ur rly rly wet are u still horny?

  • Anonymous

    Ok so i am a girl and my best friend is a girl, and lately i am getting really horny and having wet dreams thinking about her, she doesn’t know that this happens to me, what do i do?

  • and she used to be the sweetest girl ;

    i’m a 17 year old female. so yeah, SEX is on my mind.

    but when i get horny . . . it’s normall @ school and i have to call a boy to pick me up & we normally have sex. i’m not a hoe or anything. it’s someone that i’ve already had sex with.

    • Matthew DiGiano

      Whare do you live? I live in Falmouth, MA on Cape Cod. Sex is on my mind too!!!

  • nyna

    i cna fall asleep at night i get this rush of adrenalyn and my hole body id asking for the real thing wich i have to say im a virgin and i yust want to fuck but i cant dont have some one to fuck, it hard to handel porn is ok some times but it yust makes you want more and more, im to sensative when im horny but i have to say it feels good but still crave more and more lots

  • yomama3

    When I get horny and my mate is lying next to me sleep i start to search for his penis and play with his manhood until it starts to stand and then I place it in my mouth and start to please him in his sleep and then I stop and he awakes and tells me to get undressed so we can have passionate sex

  • Anonymous

    no

  • NameChanged2ProtecttheSatisfied

    when i’m horney i get bitchy until i find satisfaction

  • Anonymous

    when im horny ii call one of ma homeboy
    ova and we staRT FUCKIN

  • Anonymous

    I HANDLE IT MYSELF IF HE CANT

  • Matthew DiGiano

    I wish I was like you!!! Do you have a girl over!!

  • humor_me

    ….. Yup you guessed it horny…. Hubby is asleep… Cant wake him cause he has to work early tomorrow.. Sigh… Well i guess i dont need him up to get it up haha

  • frank

    i get so horny i could just j off but save it as i am in love with a girl that is 30 years younger than me and she is a les but im still hotny for her

  • frank

    i hope im not stu;pided for thinkinking of her all the time

  • Me

    You guys are idiots. I’m 23 with a guy that don’t want me regardless what I offer and I ain’t ugly or fat. It’s a real prob for us, it’s the anti depressants he is on. I’m a size 14 with huge tits and a huge sex drive…. And I’m pretty lol…. It’s nor that that matters :(

  • Me

    It’s funny thar you guys just wanna be ruined…… Me too

  • Me

    Humor me….. I think we have a lot in common… Mostly men that can’t man up!!!

  • Me

    Love lasts longer than lust x

  • kevin

    i love to watch a female masterbate and then step in to please her and then make her cumn as much as possible! I love giving oral and am very good at it!!!

  • http://@Yahoo.com Milly

    If am horny I feel as working naked and having deep oral sex were my clitoris will be licked and fuck with the tongue in 69 position.

  • HornygirlAllthetime

    As my name says thats what I am, what I do is watch porn and hump my pillows LOL

  • No Name

    Currently, I am very very horny my man is in another state and once I am done with school we will be with each other in a few weeks. It’s been almost three weeks since I last scene him, so yeah I have been hard up. I stay true blue to my man. So what do I do in the mean time when I feel this way. First, porn is a great outlet. Find a good website that is free look for a good porn that fits your style, put on your head phones and sink into their moans and such and let your hands explore your body. Another outlet I have is phone sex with my man, we tell each other all the dirty things we want to do to each other when we finally are together. Sometimes we even make-up fake scenarios. But my favorite thing to do is when I take a shower I prop one leg up while standing and take my shower head (removable shower with the massager)and I put the water on pulse or rapid and let the water pound against my clit. Trust me ladies it is amazing without even needing to touch yourself. Good luck all!

  • Curtis93

    This is amazing…well i thought i was the only 1 who ever gets this horny!..well i’m horny i watch porn.then i become more horny thn jus get any girl who will be around!

  • nonami

    It’s been over a year since a man has touched me. It brings me to the bring of insanity at times but my toy box is full and I have gotten very familiar with all of them in the past year If I’m really horny then i like to have my boyfriend watch me on the webcam there is something so sexy and erotic knowing hes getting off on me getting off. If its late and hes not on since we are in different countries thus different time zones i’ll prop my vibrator on a pillow close my eyes and pretend that I’m riding on top of him.

  • Tristan

    How do you guys go to the bar and pick someone up? I’ve tried to get a girlfriend for like 5 years but haven’t gotten anywhere. Get laid like once a year or two. Do you just keep flirting and getting shot down or what?

  • Siante J

    Oh shit. I’m in the same league.

  • Siante J

    I think they meant handle-end

  • http://Manthaby@mig33.com Manthaby

    Wen i gt horny i finger fuck my pussy, en hv cybersex

  • Anthony

    hey hunn you are pretty cute u shuld hit me up either email me @ anthonymvp1415@yahoo.com or facebook me

  • me.

    I honestly hate to play with myself. and i am so sick of being alone. and i donnt know how to deal with the feelings and need for physical desire. well love and cuddling is a whole mind thing and thats a huge big emptiness chapter. i really, really do not know what to do.

  • Jgirl000

    I masturbate when I’m horny…..but that only makes me want it even more. :(

    • Anartistaday

      Ive been single for three years. I haven’t tried to have sex with any girls. I just buy condoms and a bottle of lube. It works pretty well to help me masturbate. I just really miss having a girl in bed. I’m a masochist so masturbation isn’t nearly as good having someone there who will bite me and scratch me

  • Lala

    i am woman

  • Anonymous

    How do you deal with an excessive bout of horniness?
    A: I get my toy as fast as I can and…well, plunge it into me.

    How hard is it to
    fall asleep alone when you’re horny?
    A: Not incredibly hard. I’ve never had anyone cuddle me to sleep before.

    Are you ever tempted to make a call
    to a local “supplier” or take matters into your own hands?
    A: No. I keep telling myself I don’t need a guy to be satisfied.

    Do you find
    it harder to go without sex when you’re in a relationship than when
    you’re single?
    A: Yes.
    Does porn or toys help the situation or only make you
    crave the real thing more?
    50/50. It depends on how I’m feeling.

    Can you be too old for wet dreams?
    A: I don’t get wet dreams, but I occasionally get erotic dreams, and no one’s too old for that ;P

    Do you
    notice a switch in your mood once you finally get that itch scratched?
    A: Yep. I’m usually drained of energy and content.

    Are you horny right now?
    A: While I’m typing this? Almost desperately. I long to feel a hard body pressed against mine and smell male pheromones flooding my brain. But I guess I’ll have to wait until I’m 30…

  • Anonymous

    When I get horny, I start to sweat some serious man musk!

  • Anonymous

    When I get horny, I start sweating some serious man musk. The smell is almost iintoxicating!

  • Redrain_xd

    will I’m 15 idk how long was I doing this … but yeah feels right to cum btw does this make you laugh?

  • kelvin

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  • buffalosoldier

    Horny? Yes I am. Since the last 4 years. No history of getting a kiss or anything. Besides I am a man. It makes me even doubt myself as to what can be it. Is it the fate that makes some people have it and some people dont. At this point I dont need advices all I need is plain simple intimacy.

    • buffalosoldier

      Lady palm and her five sisters have been my only resort but it seems they dont have what It takes now to get me going and getting over this sticky sad situation.

  • buffalosoldier

    This one is a similar form of expression like yours:

    Folks its what I wrote in 5 mins, please dont mind the bad rhyme scheme, loose plot etc:

    The sleepless nights and hapless days, that keeps your life stay on the same damn page.

    The hint of a vain manly cage which lets you down on every single stage.

    When your sex life means mere masturbation

    Which ends up as your biggest frustration,

    & there are always choices all over the place, as unsavory as rotten cake.

    When all the ambitions seem so farfetched, and you transform in a dickhead.

    Its like living in a desert of oasis all over the place but none of them assigned on your name.

    & maybe That’s what some call sexual abstinence

    When the lack of it makes you feel somewhat gay.

    When your sex life fulfillment depends on your poor fate

    Of a sex life that never existed on the first place.