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Archive for October, 2009

Red Light Special (Would You Have Sex On Your Cycle?)

I have a confession to make. I actually felt a little bad about what happened last week when my homegirl “Ms. Inappropriate” threw Maxwell under the bus in my vlog, “What Are Gay Lips?” For those that missed it, she basically ran through this theory that a person’s sexuality can be determined just by looking [...]

Your Place or Mine? (Sex With Home Field Advantage)

When it comes to sex there are a lot of variables that go into an enjoyable experience. Along with size, stroke, swagger, stamina, passion and rhythm, chemistry is ultimately the most important. It doesn’t matter how fat her ass is or how large his package is, it don’t mean a thing if that animal magnetism [...]

VIDEO — What Are Gay Lips? (Leave Maxwell Alone)

Earlier this summer, I attended this big rooftop barbeque in the DUMBO section of Brooklyn and ran into a few familiar faces. There was great music, lots of eye candy and a Manhattan’s beautiful skyline across the river as a backdrop. Aside from witnessing some nasty ass delinquent scoop up not one, not two, but [...]

What It Feels Like to Kiss Me (Are You a Good Kisser?)

She wanted to know why I never kissed her. It wasn’t because I didn’t want to. It wasn’t because I didn’t desire to. It wasn’t because I hadn’t fantasized about our tongues being intertwined in a passionate embrace. It was because I knew she wasn’t ready. The truth is, I am not a good kisser. [...]

Can An Ex Ruin You For Other People? (Moving On)

“I love you, Slim, we coulda been together, think about it/You ruined it now, I hope you can’t sleep and you dream about it.” —Eminem, “Stan” The funny thing about relationships is that they can feel absolutely perfect when you’re in the depths of love. The problem is when the good times come to an [...]

What If I Were Fat (Would You Treat Me the Same?)

Week before last I asked “Why Do Big Girls Get a Bad Wrap?” The post got a lot of good feedback, but, as expected, there were a few, uhm, opinionated individuals with very strong views on people considered “fat.” Looking back on the array of comments, I wondered how those same people would feel if [...]

Loose Threads, Vol. 8—Best of March ’09

Hey, Sock Heads. I was supposed to post this last weekend, but I was too beat from the 30 in 30 Blog Marathon to bother. But I’m fully recharged and it’s time once again for my greatest hits recap. For those that missed the memo, Loose Threads is an end-of-the-month series where I give new [...]

She’s In My Bed But Does She Want Me? (Mixed Signals)

I’ve come to accept the fact that men and women just think differently. Every once in a while, though, a woman’s line of thinking manages to throw me for loop. Such was the case a few weeks back. My homegirl Yandi and I were having a discussion about how it’s easy for a man to [...]