Don’t Trust People in Love (Do Couples Share Everything?)
There's a certain level of trust that comes along with being someone’s friend—in the true sense of the word at least. Generally, when you call someone your BFF they are your confidante; your personal vault; the keeper of all your deepest and darkest secrets.
You tell each other just about everything with the understanding that any embarrassing details will remain in the strictest of confidence. If you've been through a lot together, you won't even have to say, "Don't tell anybody," because it will already be understood.
Your close friends tend to know things about you that would embarrass you if they ever got out. Still, you have no fear about that happening because you’re supposed to trust your friends.
But what happens when your trustworthy friend gets in a relationship?
From my experience, all of those bonds of trust tend to go right out of the window when someone gets boo’d up and he or she gets a serious case of the loose lips. You know, the kind that sink (friend)ships.
I don’t know what it is but when people get boo’d up they tend to get a serious case of blabbermouth. All those personal details that were once under mental lock and key soon become a wide-open book for their mate to peruse at will.
Don’t let it be a live-in couple or, worst yet, a married couple. You can forget about having any parts of your private life separate from your boo’d up friend’s better half, because they now have unrestricted access to whatever it is your buddy knows about you. You can deny it all you want, but couples like to gossip—especially during pillow talk.
With that said, that’s why I don’t trust people in relationships.
If one of my homeboy’s falls head over heels for a chick, I know not tell him too much about what dirt I’m doing because chances are it’s going to trickle back to his wifey. She might have some cute friends or a hot sister I’m trying to holla at down the line so I don’t need her knowing about all my dirt.
If you’ve read this blog for any amount of time you already know that I don’t have anything to hide but I'd like to move at my own pace when introducing any prospective partners to my personal life. So if I believe one of the homies is bitten by the love bug and can’t keep his trap shut, he’s automatically regulated to edited snippets of my business until he returns to his regularly man-law-abiding and trustworthy self.
I know some people might think I’m overreacting, but can you really tell me that you don’t slip up behind closed doors and share personal secrets about other people with the one you love? You’ve never “accidentally” revealed to your boo that one of your friends has some weird fetish or did some thing totally embarrassing?
Under normal circumstances you wouldn’t tell a single soul but once you start thinking like a couple the floodgates start flowing. You finally have someone that you can talk openly about any and everything you’ve had to keep to yourself all this time. It might help make your relationship stronger, but it won’t help me trust you with my secrets anymore. Well, unless I found a girl to spill the beans about your indiscretions.
Do you agree that people in serious relationships tend to share everything? Have you ever thought about your best friend’s mate know your embarrassing secrets? What would you do if you found out someone you trusted was talking about your personal business behind your back? Do you think that couples should share everything? Do you think men like to gossip just as much as women when they’re in a relationship? Do you trust friends that are in relationships as much as your single friends or it doesn’t make a difference? Do you think there are some things that married people should keep from their spouse when it involves other people? Do you think I’m overreacting?
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