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6 Signs Your Relationship is Over (Can You See It Coming?)

Posted by NWSO • November 13, 2009 • Printer-friendly

Whether romantic or platonic, relationships can be very complex. They tend to start off fun and exciting, but if you don’t play your cards right they can quickly spiral towards self-destruction. Sometimes one person is blindsided by the end of the love affair, but the heartbreak can be lessened if they pay attention to the signs that signal the beginning of the end.

Today’s post is actually a guest blog courtesy of author Dewan W. Gibson. Most of you will remember him from that “Dating Tips For Interracial Dating” post from a few weeks ago. For those that missed that one or forgot Gibson’s credentials, he’s the author of The Imperfect Enjoyment, a nonfiction humor book about a secret relationship between a Black college instructor and Arab student, and you can also peep his blog.

Let me know your thoughts on Gibson’s tips. Are they helpful? Have you ever found yourself in a relationship that was going nowhere? Did you see the writing on the wall or did you ignore the signs? Have you ever blind-sided someone with a breakup? Did you feel guilty about it or were you at the end of your rope? Do you think there’s a good way to breakup with someone? Do any of these signs make you question a relationship you’re in now or was before? What are some other signs that your relationship is about to end?

Speak your piece…

“HIT THE ROAD! SIX SIGNS YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS ENDING”
The weeks and months leading up to breakup are often worse than the actual separation itself. Silly arguments become long drawn out fights as you both wait on the other to make the final move. Maybe you lack the courage to leave, fear the potential regret or are simply unsure if the relationship is over. If you are experiencing most, or all of the following, it’s time to cut your losses and move on. —Dewan W. Gibson

1) You Receive Impersonal Gifts for Holidays and Birthdays
I once made the mistake of staying involved in a go-nowhere relationship as Valentine's Day approached. I felt obligated to at least get her a card so I did. Well, I actually got her a thank you card. It sounds terrible, but I guess it was my way of saying thank you for your time and service—now let's move on. If holidays and birthdays with your partner have become monotonous or non-existent without a stated reason, you might want to look for someone else before the next holiday comes around.

2) Your Partner's “Jokes” Start to Feel Harsh
Maybe her jokes carry a slight sting that leaves you thinking, "What the hell did she mean by that?" For example, I'll never forget the time I asked my ex-girlfriend to ride in the back seat of my brother's car since he was driving. She refused, so I jokingly said, "You're not his girlfriend, why do you need to ride up front?" She replied with a joke of her own that had more punch than punch line: "Yeah, but maybe he will be my boyfriend… At least he has a job!" That hurt. Especially considering I was out of work and was using penny rolls to buy Little Debbie snack cakes at the time. I know domestic violence is not the answer, Chris and Ri-Ri affirmed this, but if I could have went upside her head and gotten off with just a 30-day suspended sentence and a few hours of community service, boy, I’d… Just kidding. But remember, your partner might be trying to tell you something through little jokes that appear innocent on the surface. Something like, “It's over!” By the way, I wonder if my brother hit that.

3) You Don’t Get a Straight Answer About Future Plans
I have a test for you. Right now it’s early November. Go try and make summer plans with your boyfriend or girlfriend. If he or she gives you a crazy WTF-you-talkin-bout look your relationship is on life support. Your partner could already be plotting his or her escape. Watch; just give them a few months to get their money together. They’ll be gone once they get those overdraft fees reversed and has enough money to get a studio apartment.

4) What You Once Thought was “Cute” is Now Annoying
Case in point: I dated a girl who thought it was cool to eat a whole dish of flan and then spend the rest of the day farting and giggling. For the first few months I appreciated her ability to be comfortable in my presence. Then I felt grossed out and started checking her underwear for boo-boo stains (with all that farting I'm sure a turtlehead had to sneak out at some point). Finally, I hit a breaking point when she let one rip while sitting on my lap. If what was cute before is now driving you crazy, it might be time to move on.

5) You Become the Invisible Boyfriend or Girlfriend
While the term “girlfriend” and “boyfriend” do not hold as much weight as “husband” and “wife,” it is meaningful. If your partner is only introducing you on a first name basis to new friends, without an appropriate title, then your relationship is on thin ice. Worse yet, if his or her Facebook relationship status has gone from “In a Relationship” to simply blank you might want to make alternate plans for the coming weekend. Come on, you at least deserve an “It’s Complicated” Facebook status!

6) The Mojo is Gone
It’s almost a given that sex decreases as a relationship goes on. However, one of the bonuses of a good buzz is increased libido. So if your partner continually gives you the "I’m too drunk, gonna stay at my friend’s place" excuse after a night out, you might be in a dying relationship. For example: It’s 2am and the club has just closed. Your girl has three drinks in her system and her nipples are poking out of the shirt she used to only wear when you two went out. Basically, she is definitely down for the get-down. You are at home relaxing and expecting to see her after she has fun with the girls. But instead of a drunken call requesting a ride, you get a text that says, "Staying at my girl's place, c u tmrw!" Be careful; someone else might be getting the drunk dial that used to go to you. As for the claim that she’s staying at her "girl's," her "girl" is actually a guy with three long legs who works as a body double for Mr. Marcus. Move on!

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http://www.myspace.com/paulettebajangal paulette-BAJAN-gal

No 5 is CLASSIC...the last guy I was getting serious with NEVER introduced me as his girlfriend and 6 months in he actually told me he needed another 6 months to "define it".I defined it by dating other people and canceling the exclusive clause with him.

I don't think No 1 is that serious because most dudes give wack gifts anyways.lol.A gift card to ANYWHERE should be required giving from a man to a woman...if you don't like her very much give her a $20 gift card to Conways.
BMW2K

I would definitely have to agree with most of these, except number 1. Some people are just not good gift givers. Yeah, I know it is in the eyes of the receiver but it is still very subjective. Some men give incredible gifts, but they had nothing to do with picking them out. Others give horrible gifts, but they put a lot of thought into it.

Take it from a person who has been with someone long enough to get everything from:
- a step stool: because I am only 5ft 3in and still tend to climb on counters
- an automatic tire inflation kit: because I once got a flat and had no idea how to change the tire
- a set of local maps: because I always called him for directions
- gardening gloves: because I hated getting dirt under my nails
- automatic car starter: because I hated getting into a cold car
- reading lamps, sewing machines, etc.

All this before the ring that led to marriage. Each gift a true disappointment to someone used to getting something different.

As a matter of fact, his gifts only got better when our sons were old enough to take with him and tell him what to buy. However, from his perspective the gifts were perfect and kept me safe or solved some problem. On the surface they were not the typical lovey gifts, but the thought behind them showed he cared. JMO
la negrita

@BMW2K,

Your husband was sooo thoughtful! Does he have a brother???
Elle

Quite frankly, those things never occured in any of my relationships. I'm not saying that because I am in denial as I am the type of person to analyze breakups and my role in them. But these - while they may be the norm for most - were never an issue.

That would explain why my breakups always felt like a strong right hook from God that I didn't see coming. As far as other signs are concerned: I'm not sure. Like I said, I never saw the breakups coming.
Example: On Monday he was checking out wedding locations and meeting with the caterer, and on Tuesday I got dumped. So yea

I only ended one relationship in my lifetime and did it pretty boldly. He didn't get the message. Or should I say he flat out ignored it until I had to change locks on him.
http://nwso.net NWSO

@BMW2K

I think what Dewan was trying to point out with No 1 is when they used to be on point with gidts and then fall the f off with wackness. I could be wrong, but that's what I got out of it.

In your case though I think you should read this previous post on "bad gifts" sometimes they aren't as bad as we think. His actually sounded thoughtful, maybe not romantic but they were practical like this>>>>
http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/08/25/bad-gift-good-intentions/
BMW2K

@ Le Negrita

LOL. I needed that. Sometimes I do forget that he is thoughtful. I just think of him as practical.

And yes, he does have a brother - along with a sister-in-law and twin nieces.
http://www.ajhayes.com A. Jarrell

I agree with NWSO's assessment of No. 1. It's the same idea I got from it.

No. 3 is the one that gets me. I'm a poor planner, and I'm much more spontaneous than strategic. I don't know what I'm going to do the next day, let alone the next summer. If a gf asks me about a vacation I'm gonna give her the side eye. Not out of cruelty, just planning isn't my style.
YoungJay

#7: When the goodbye kiss begins to get shorter and shorter!

As soon as my ex and I started having problems goodbye turned from a passionate kiss to a ''Hurry up I gotta go peck''. She didn't see the sign soon enough and when she did I was already too far gone.
Dr. BluInBK

#6 should be #1. All the other stuff happens when your significant other is pissed off at you. Plus, shit gets old fast. As a woman, I know that the #1 way you can tell that she is going to move on is that sex stops...PERIOD! She will tolerate you even if she wants to move on. I have spoken to my male friends and they are happy with their girl. Yeah they argue, but doesn't! But then, they realize that for a couple of weeks or a month or two she stopped having sex with him. Then, she tells him "Oh! I am busy and tired!". Just know that in a matter of time she is about bounce. It is not as simple as a club scenario, but that is the #1 thing.
Momof3

I agree with them all except maybe number 2... My type of humor deals in reality... The more true it is the funnier it is to me, Idk why... I've never been known for tact although when it comes to my husband I try to control what I say around other people... The people who have been around me the longest have just learned to ignore and/or laugh along with the things I say because why get mad if it's true?
Momof3

@ Dr.BluInBK That is sooo true! When I was just upset with my ex we'd still get down in a day or two... But once I knew I was done with him it was excuse after excuse not to lol... He actually stuck around through 6 months of not getting any! I just didn't leave right away because although I had my own money I also had unlimited access to his... Horrible I know, but after all he put me through I felt like I deserved something in return...
DC Man With a Plan

It's kinda funny how the women seem to have LATCHED onto number one....always the gift receiver--and not the gift giver? smh.......It doesn't take long for MOST men to figure out almost anything form Kay jewelers is going to be well received. Women love shiny, sparkling rings, watches, ear rings, bracelets. Many things from Victoria's can help a woman get her sexy on, but you have to be careful with Fredericks of Hollywood; some of their items--may seem more for YOU as her man, than her...lol
Anywho, we sort of touched on this recently with the discussion of how to tell a woman it's over bcuz lord knows MOST women wanna know WHY you're moving on, why it didn't work; blah,blah blah. Instead of reading signs, just say: Yo, it's over! See you next life. Of course, that's not gonna be specific enuff, bcuz she still has to know WHY. This list is cool for efforts to interpret shyt, but it doesn't explain WHY and that's what is really important. U gotta tell her she's NOW too fat, too skinny, no longer sexy, no longer reasonable in demeanor and expectations, no longer making you anxious to see her; no longer rocking your world; too expensive.; too much of a premedonna; too much of a pain in the azz; too much of a princess.....Yeah, U really need to get the WHY part down so she'll leave you the "F" alone...lmao.
skye

No5. is so true, as soon as that status goes from "In a relationship" to blank...u know something is up.

Ona side note- what is up with guys, as soon as they sniff that u about to break up with them they quickly try to beat u to it. SMH! This happened to a friend of mine- she was fed up, but still had some hope about the relationship, and was actually going to suggest they work at it. Ole boy got suspicious that he was about to be dropped and dumped her 1st...on his birthday...while we were all out together 4 his birthday suprise drinks. SMH!

*Dead* @ "her “girl” is actually a guy with three long legs who works as a body double for Mr. Marcus."
Blindsided

This blog came at the perfect time for me. Thing is, I didn't see it coming at all. None of the signs you mention except #5 which I want to touch on. What if the relationship is still in it's building phase and you don't want to put that title pressure on it/on them/on yourself? Or overall are not a title person? What if they say they feel the same? Or is it a sure thing that the relationship is doomed in all cases if one or the other doesn't publicly recognize it?
da ThRONe

#6

All the way when the sex goes it not a good sign.

#4

As well. People are so hyped up that they let things go early on but once that excitement comes down so does their tolerence.
trying to make it work

What great timing, I'm in a relationship standing on its last leg.We love each other dearly yet due to our current issues I am not attracted to him sexually. We our working to fix our relationship but I need help bringing on the sparkle in the bedroom.
BMW2K

@ NWSO - I see your point. I guess guys think alike because I took that totally differently.

I read the post on bad gifts, and LOL! I got a paper shredder one time too!! For V-Day. Talk about disappointing. Then I went to clean out my pocketbook (as I did on a weekly basis) and started tearing up credit card receipts. Light Bulb!! I forgave him.
Michelle D.A.

*Reads No. 4*

*dead*
~C.

#6 was definitely a sign for me that things were going wrong...My (very soon to be ex) husband and I relocated to a new state for his job. His new friends from work liked to party a lot...they were all single and he wanted to be part of the crowd. Slowly but surely he would go out more and more on the weekends, leaving me at home, and then text me at 3 in the morning to say he was drunk and staying at a friends house. I can't tell you how much that hurt.

#5...well I was invisible because I was never seen with him period. He would leave me at home every chance he could or tell me to go hang out with my own friends...it was always "guys night."

#1...I do not care if its supposed to be the thought that counts... he was being lazy! Last year for my birthday he got me some incense sticks, a bag of potpourri, and a DUSTY fake flower arrangement that looked like it came from the thrift store. All of that because he knew I liked things that smelled good...really?!?

I finally got fed up with it all and got the courage to leave. Thankfully I already know how to take care of myself, so it wasn't hard for me to walk out the door.
Cali

I love all of them but I have got to comment on #3 and #6 they are the best & so, so, true.

#3- I was dating a guy recently. I liked him but he was very smothersome. I still stuck it out for awhile, but then he started talking about us taking a trip to Paris n February. Paris sounds nice, but I'm all lke, "Hole-up patna", we not goin b planning trips like that rite now. Knowing that for real my ass didn't plan on dealing with him that long. LMAO!

And #6- The Mojo is Gone!
I see the point in that but what if it's a different kind of mojo. It's like I was n a relationship happy, in love, all the emotions, sex was GENIUS! But when things start turning sour, feelings start changing, and we start growing apart, all that took a tole on our sex life. It wasn't that we stopped doing it, it just wasn't all that anymore. It was like brother use to wear a sista out, then it got 2 the point where we did it, it's over and things just aren't rite anymore, no cuddling, no seconds, no rubbing NOTHING! On both our parts. It was like the fire lost it's flame.
http://www.imperfectenjoyment.com Dewan W. Gibson

@Blindsided: The title dilemma is tough. But if you're not officially the gf or bf, technically anything goes. And those who avoid titles understand that.

I was purposely title-less for four years, meaning I would hang out with a girl until someone "better" or at least different came along. This worked well until a woman did the same to me, which left me depressed and listening to "Maybe I Deserve" by Tank for three straight weeks. I can only vouch for myself and my guy friends, but we generally try to hold "the one" down b4 some Trey Songz looking dude all drenched in baby oil gets her.
Rastaman

1) You Receive Impersonal Gifts for Holidays and Birthdays:

I like to give personal gifts, so even if I am no longer in the relationship I will still give a gift that can be cherished but less expensive.

2) Your Partner’s “Jokes” Start to Feel Harsh
I am told by women that my sense of humor is an acquired taste and thus if we are on the way outs, I doubt they would be aware of that change on my part. I tend to be oblivious to harsh humor and so I would possibly overlook if she did go there

3) You Don’t Get a Straight Answer About Future Plans: that may be a dead give away for anyone involved with me. I already have a hard time committing to anything long term and so if I am hmming and awwwing, you know something is definitely up.

4) What You Once Thought was “Cute” is Now Annoying..Don't that happen in any relationship though. I would subsitute annoying with intolerable. There are afterall many annoying things in a relationship u tolerate but when they rise to the level of untolerable then you know that other person as to go.

5) You Become the Invisible Boyfriend or Girlfriend
I have never been really big on the BF/GF title. Wife or husband yes but all those other one are too fluid especially these days. I do not even know what they mean now. So I try to avoid them even when things are good.

6) The Mojo is Gone

I am not even sure about that one, the last 3 women I broke up with, hot sex was a part of our last interractions. But then sex was never the problem and at the stage of my life I am at I am more interested in relationships long term viability rather than how good or bad that woman may or may not be performing in bed.

It is difficult to categorize why relationships end and I think that the biggest clue is if you stop communicating.
Elle

"It is difficult to categorize why relationships end and I think that the biggest clue is if you stop communicating."

This here I can absolutely co-sign. That's the ultimate clue.
D. K.

thought this was really entertaining and still had a lot of truth to it.

And as it was mentioned earlier communication is key.

i remember i was in a relationship that was coming to an end and when either of us was away from the other ie. she's gone for a couple days to visit the family or I went on trips with my friends we would barely call each other and when we did speak it was just small talk and seemed labored..
Blindsided

@Rastaman- So there can be no signs, passionate sex until the last time but then just cut-off communication with no real reason spoken? Do you think that gives the person or the relationship the respect they/it deserve?
DC Man With a Plan

BMW2K and "C" have dealt with some severely challenged or triflin azz men, bcuz no matter WHAT, nobody should ever get a shredder for V-day and no grown azz man should give his woman incense as a gift. Now, you can get away with something like a shredder as a gift for Christmas if it's one of several gifts, but Valentine’s day? Or your birthday? HELL naw. Sometimes you just have to be man or woman enuff to say, hey: this ain't gettin it. U need a do-ova; take this LIST and run to the store and bring back a REAL gift...lol...the thought, time and effort aren't worth a DAMN if the gift is inappropriate for the occasion. I don't know what type of man Negrita is working with that she wants a dude who will give her maps and a tire inflator (for 2009 cars? I think NOT, they all come with inflated spares..maybe a AAA membership, so you can have someone take the tire off and put on the spare--that's where the effort lies in tire changing). And in 2009 instead of getting maps, make it a GPS and you'll be good to go forever! a step stool..As a what, house warming gift? Negro, are U kidding me? CTF on. lmao
Rastaman

@Blindsided
If am breaking up with you, be damn certain that sex was not the issue plus I take great personal pride in my sex game and I can separate it from the overall relationship. My point however, is that if there are issues and points of contention, the last time we talked would not be the first time you have heard about it.

It would have been the last time I was going to talk about it. Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on ones perspective, I have no qualms about confronting issues. If my woman says "lets talk" be certain I have a lot to say. We may eventually agree to disagree but it won't be because i did not tell you what i thought was happening.
http://www.imperfectenjoyment.com/blog Dewan W. Gibson

Shout out to Rastaman!
"I take great personal pride in my sex game..." I LIKES THAT! I'd like to say it, but I feel like I'd be jinxing myself or setting up an (un)lucky lady up for disappointment lol. On second thought, F-that! It's Friday and I'm gonna borrow your phrase for the weekend. I hear ladies want confidence and u don't get much more confident than that. Peace.
http://nwso.net NWSO

@Blindsided

To your first comment, if you're in the beginning stages I doubt any of this would pertain because there is no real relationship—at least not in general sense of a romantic affair/couple. I figure all this pertains to people you consider you "man" or your "woman" not someone you're just hanging out with or just seeing.

you know. that's jumping the shark to ask for a title in that early stage or non-serious situations
BMW2K

@ DC Man – Severely challenged is right . . .gift challenged.

I don’t mind if it doesn’t come from Kay, but can it come from some place OTHER than Home Depot? In his defense,the shredder was accompanied by my favorite candy, but still . . .
Sugr

#4, hilarious
Miriam

I have been married for over a year. My relationship has been quickly fizzling! I am the sole provider of my household and keep thinking/ hoping that my husband acts a certain way because he is not working. All major advice welcomed and much apreciayed... None of the signs really pertain to me. Maybe sex, buts it's him that doesn't want it. But I know that he is not cheating for a fact.
Monique

i am reading this drinking a cup of white zifindales going through my own problems with my significant other...and i have to say that every single rule applied to my situation. And it is so true..! its just so hard because what are you suppose to do when the person that can make you smile the hardest can also make you cry the hardest. I have been talking to this guy for about 6 months and it feels like things are getting worse. At times things will be good for a week or two then out of no where it feels like he is pushing me away. He has told me that he does care and loves me but that he doesnt show it and that he doesnt deal with emotions well. I try so hard to let whatever he does or i hear he does go over my head but its getting to the point now where i cry more than i smile now. why is it that i can not get my self to leave...I have never been known to let my gaurd down like this before and now i dont know if i should continue and hope things get better or let him go even tho i dont want to.
Elle

@Monique

Your situations sounds like one of the typical scenarios in which as soon as you fall back he will come running.
Just let him be. And I do not mean leave him. I mean let him come to you. Because whatever you do to come closer will only make him push you away further.
At the end of the day, it's a choice between wanting to play petty little games to keep a man around who may not be all that into you and "womaning up" to realize that ol' boy is a waste of your time. A man in love who wants to be committed will move mountains. A man who doesn't just entertains the idea of dating.
da ThRONe

As caring loving humanbeings one of the hardest thing to do is make cold hard decision. But you have to learn to give your all at the same time have your limit of BS your going take from another person. I think we come up with all the excuses in the world to stay when we arent happy. There is no need to just let a relationship deteriorate. The best thing to do when you 1st notice these signs are to express the initial problem to your mate. Make sure you you let then know that you are willing to work with them to help fix these problems yet you wont deal with their shit.

Its been said a billion times. Communication is key. Its that period where you just kinda sit back and hope is usually where the problem grows for reconciliable to irreconciliable. If your S.O. dont responded well to being confronted for the better of you guys relationship then they probably dont have an attitude conducive to compromising anyways.
Inevitable Break-up

Why is the title "... Could have been avoided"?? Seems like breaking up was inevitable in these situations.... and I can relate... my 4year marriage has been a little rocky lately and I just want OUT!!! My husband is playing the attached role "I dont wanna lose my family, I'm not letting my wife go, etc." and I'm so over it! We both work, but I handle the bulk of our expenses (not just mine, OUR) and not by choice but because he just lets them pile up... I can't be living in debt! We have kids and I know it's only natural that they cling to mommy more, but, damn, he never sees the need to give me a break, no matter how I put it to him and when I do ditch them and take time to myself, I later learn that he ditches them on either my mom or his!

After countless petty arguments, name calling and near abuse... and ONE session of counselling I decided that he's not interested in keeping his wife because in my mind "a happy wife/a happy life" and we are NOT happy. I put him out about 3 weeks ago and he's trying to come back, doing a little better with the kids now but still just throwing jeers at me, saying things like "what, I need to buy u back?, or "u think I need to beg to be with u?" Its both insulting and hurtful cuz in no way does he genuinly show that he truly wants ME I just think he still wants that Married title.

Oh and the other night he came here and my cuz had also stopped by, they'd never met, strange enough... but I didnt introduce them and I didnt realize it until my cuz left and my husband started in on me that I didnt even have the decency to introduce them; he came in the door and became the "invisible husband"... I was like, ok, if you'd associate with my family more often there would be no need for introductions at this stage because we have countless family functions that he refuses to attend! But thats a whole other thing.....
That Guy

I agree with everyone..

but will just cite the obvious and say sometimes when it's over, it's just over, no explanation is needed or relevant for that matter. I'm learning to understand that the why's don't matter, just what is. We spend so much time running from the past that we end up wrecking our futures.

Communication is the oxygen in relationships, once thats goes or isn't effective, the relationship dies very shortly after.
Shequita

LMAOOOOOOO Wow this post is dead ON! 5 and 6 has me rollin!! TOO damn TRUE!

@Inevitable Break-up

Some ppl in fact DO just want to be married for the title. no matter how miserable they are they'd rather hold on to something that just isn't working rather than doing the work to change it (if possible because sometimes its not)...when they finally WANT to do the work it's too late.
Shequita

@ Monique
if all those signs are there and its ONLY been 6 months take this as a blessing. It may hurt but imagine wasting 8,10 or 25 years on someone with no regard to how you may be feeling. Some men do just want to be left alone when going through something and then some men just show a lack of interest in you or the relationship..there is a difference.
The Duchess

Monique- Start occupying time with other dudes to get your mind off of him.. If he really loves you, he will come back. He is definitely occupying his time with another female. My current did that to me in the beginning of our relationship & told me that he was dating other women during that time.

Inevitable- Why did you get married? Didn't you know your hubby was like that before you got married?
Inevitable Break-up

@Shequita, we're at that point now, where he's pretending to try and I can see right through it... too little, too late, and The Duchess, matter of fact, he wasn't, we didn't have kids before we were married and the cash was flowing in the beginning of course... I guess he just got too comfortable now...
The Duchess

Inevitable- Oh ok.. His loss
Ms Zoi

ok... so you have some signs that the relationship is ending or are some of these signs that one of you is either a lil too comfortable and feels like they can step on the other without repercussions... sometimes it's not signs of a breakup persay but maybe if you really care about your mate you should communicate better. Many times that's what it is... now if you just "bone each other" then F* it go wit the flow
Fiona

I'm in a relationship standing on it's last legs..I loove my bf soo much but I cant help but be mean 2 him atm and we argue about the smallest things..We have both said that we may just not be right for each other and at the same time think that that cannot be true cos we are made for each other. We broke up before, for 6 months, no contact and are now giving it another go. Things were perfect until 2 weeks ago and in those 2 weeks it all just feels different, he doesn't call like he used to and when we argue we wind each other up soo much. It's gotten 2 the point where i don't even feel 2 talk 2 him sometimes. What should we do?? Is breaking up the option? Or should we try n forget it all n try again AGAIN??
http://www.wellbehaveddontmakehistory.blogspot.com Miss Malorie

Oh, for the title...

I remember being with my ex, and even when we were together, hugged up and laughing and shit, he introduced me to his coworker... or rather, his coworker saw us, and he didn't really introduce me. He said, "This is [[insert my name]]," and the coworker was like, "ohhhh, this is your girl..."

It was cute at the time, and I was all shits and giggles over the fact that he "introduced" me, but I failed to realize that the "oooohhhh, this is so-and-so" greeting can be used for anyone... like "ohhhh, this is that chick who blows up your phone," to "ohhhh, that's the dude who smashed your best friend..."

Plus, should we even get into whether I'm a fan of being called someone's "girl" or not? smh...