On my way to the city the other day, I transferred at 14th Street to catch the R train. Since I was only going a few stops, I posted up by the door and didn’t make the frantic rush for a seat that the other commuters were.
From the corner of my eye, though, I spotted one exceptionally fast individual descend upon a vacant seat to my right and promptly crossed their legs. I thought this chick’s feet must really be tired, but I glanced over and to my disgust surprise, she was actually a he.
It was a tall, pale White dude that looked like he fell out of H.G. Wells’ Time Machine. He was dressed in black skinny jeans that resembled leggings more than anything else (I know they’re in vogue with the kids now); an old school Fonzarelli zippered leather; slicked back hair with a part on the side; and had a clean-cut baby-face. Homie looked like Ponyboy or Soda from The Outsiders.
Although his style was a bit suspect I actually don’t think this James Dean wannabe played for the other team because he didn’t have “gay lips” (click here). However, the way he crossed his leg over like a chick didn’t help his heterosexual case any.
I’m sorry, but when most men cross their legs it’s the heel on knee position not this thigh over thigh move Fonzie was doing. Not to brag or boast or anything, but my nuts hang too low for all that. I know it might save space, but crossing my legs like that is not comfortable—at all. I call it the nutcracker position.
Now I totally understand why women cross their legs like that; they wear skirts and dresses and need to hide the goods from any horny eyes trying to sneak a peak. But a man? With his legs crossed like a girl? Nah, homie, it makes you look like you squat when you pee (not that there’s anything wrong with that).
Not to generalize but it seems like only non-Black and gay men cross their legs like that. I’m not saying that you can tell a man’s race or sexual preferences by how he sits, but back when I wrote about how men of color hate sitting next to each other for fear of looking gay, I hypothesized that spreading your legs out was a way to keep other men out of your personal space.
I think the same would go for the standard male ankle to knee leg cross. Having your foot up like that is a definite bacdafucup sign in tight spaces. The more compact thigh over thigh leg cross, however, would create less distance between the man next to you and thus signal your willingness for man-to-man contact. Okay, maybe not, but sitting with your legs crossed like a girl is still a no-no in most guys’ book.
What do you think of men who cross their legs thigh over thigh? Does it make them look more feminine? What about guys rockin’ skinny jeans; are you into that look or think it’s a bit suspect? Ladies, would you actually prefer men sit with their legs crossed thigh over thigh so there’d be more room when you try to sit down? Do you hate to see a man take up more space than he needs on a public bench? Do you think male sitting habits differ by race? Are non-Black men more likely to sit thigh over thigh? Fellas, have you ever paid attention to how much space you take up when you sit down? Do you hate when another man tries to sit down next you? Would you have the same reaction if it was a woman? How do you cross your legs—thigh over thigh or ankle to knee?
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