I recently came across your blogs and I must say they are amazing!!! You’re an excellent writer and very entertaining—even the one’s that don’t have anything to do with sex! LOL.
My questions is a kinda personal one, but I’m an open gal and not ashamed of anything. I was just wondering if you had any tips for me as far as… **whispering** oral sex! I’m going to Vegas with my BF next week and I’m pretty good at it (or so he says) but I have this crazy fear of… **looks around** swallowing!!!
OMG! For some reason I just can’t do it. Whenever I’m giving, if I feel like he’s about to cum, I’ll get on top and “finish him off” that way, but then I feel bad like I want him to be completely satisfied with my oral. IDK I just freak out at the thought of him cumming in my mouth.
It’s not something that he’s asked me to do or anything like that, I’ve just been thinking about it. Any advice you can give me about this would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance,
A Good Girl Gone Bad
I must say that you’ve posed a very interesting, uhm, question as I’ve never… **looks around** sucked a dick and I’ve never **whispering** swallowed. LOL.
With all seriousness, though, for the type of oral sex tips you’re looking for I’m not well-versed in “how to” aspects but I know a thing or to about “how” good it feels when a woman does it right. I actually did a post a while back on oral sex and how to tell your partner if their head game is on point or not.
It was called “Bad Head (Uhm, It’s Not Working, Boo).” The post got a lot of comments but one in particular stands out. It came from one of my regular readers, PauletteBangalGirl, who schooled the ladies in graphic detail about her oral artistry. You can CLICK HERE to read the post and comments, but here’s an outtake of Paulette’s personal tips:
1. Have a clean dick—make dude take a shower.
2. Learn what makes him hard. Lick his nipples, whisper in his ear how you’re gonna fuck the life out of him; even tell him you wanna have a threesome. Whatever makes him hard—tell him!
3. Lick his dick like it’s a lollipop and make sure you look him in the eyes and moan.
4. Suck the head only and lick the slit where he pees (this is why you need a clean dick). The slit is very sensitive and surprisingly has a wide opening.
5. Put ALL of his dick in your mouth and let the head touch the back of your throat but make sure you’re comfortable or you will gag. While it’s there, squeeze your throat muscles a few times—Dude will lose his mind.
6. I’ve also found the underside of the penis is very sensitive. Lick away. [NWSO INTERJECTS: This is oh so true.]
7. You can also masturbate him with the head in your mouth. Move your tongue around in circles around the tip and use your free hand to stroke his dick up and down.
8. Sorry, I can’t reveal all my goddamn hard-earned techniques. LMAO. I’ve never had a man complain about my techniques. You’ll know you’re doing a great job when you look up and he says, “What the fuck!!!!!”
A lot of female readers commended Paulette on her tips, but one girl who definitely knew what she was doing told me the best advice she ever got on giving a guy head was from asking a gay man. It sounded weird at first, but when she broke it down it really made sense.
A gay man is someone that’s had his dick sucked and has also sucked one as well, so he knows both sides (no pun intended). At the end of the day, though, that’s more of an FYI on technique than an answer to your specific question about swallowing.
Personally, I love when a woman swallows. From my experience it makes for a more enjoyable and intense release. She’s working you to orgasm the entire time with constant lubrication all the way through, as opposed to a woman that’ll just jerk you off when your about to cum (with dry ass hands LOL) or those that jump back as soon as you moan, “I’m about to come, baby.” ThatsABadLook.com (Coming soon).
With an absence of lubrication on the young lady’s part for the final stretch, I wind up with what I like to call a “hollow nut.” That’s when a man cums but because there’s no friction he doesn’t actually orgasm. It’s more like a mini-orgasm.
Boo. Hiss. Hiss.
Here’s the thing, though, when it comes to sex or anything in life for that matter, you should only do what you want to do. Your BF isn’t asking you to swallow so there’s no pressure from him at all. This seems like your own internal conflict. You want to do it yet it kinda grosses you out. I say do what feels right when it feels right.
Like I said early, I’ve never sucked a dick (duh!) but I imagine it’s much like eating pussy and a girl comes in your mouth. It might sound “icky” but if you’re enjoying what you’re doing it won’t really matter. I figure the only way for you to swallow is to work your way up to it. You enjoy giving head then keep sucking your man off and let it do what it do.
Wait, I actually have a question: Have you let him cum in your mouth before and it’s just the act of swallowing that you haven’t been able to do? I’m just curious. If it’s just cumming in the mouth and not swallowing, then that’s perfectly fine with me. LOL. The act of swallowing doesn’t effect my orgasm as much as a woman providing proper lubrication to until my sexual eruption—in her mouth.
I can’t front, though, a woman that actually swallows and shows that she enjoys you that much is a major turn on. If this is something really want to do and experience with your man, it’ll happen when you feel comfortable enough to. Please don’t do it if you really don’t want to or still feel “icky” about it.
If it’s something you’re really interested in doing one day I suggest you take baby step and work your way up to it. Maybe you taste him after he cums next time to see what it’s like. Then, you can muster up the courage to let him cum in your mouth and eventually get to the whole swallowing level. Or maybe you never get comfortable with the idea of swallowing or and both of you are fine with that. You are riding him out to get him off, so I figure he’s satisfied either way.
One thing, though, there’s nothing worse than a woman giving head and letting him cum in her mouth only to open your eyes and see this disgusted look on her face or she immediately dashes to the bathroom to spit your man milk out. It’s like, “Damn, do I disgust you that much?” LOL.
Whatever the case, it really ruins the mood.
Imagine a man eating you out then running away to wash his face 1.5 seconds later. How would you feel? So it all goes back to comfort. Do what feels right for you.
Also, I’ve heard from women that men all taste different, so that may be a huge factor in your tolerance to swallowing. If he has a bad diet it’ll be obvious in his semen. No lie. I’ve had a girl take note of my varying flavors before based on the day. Salty semen after a fish dinner or bitter cum after a night of drinking.
For the most part I’ve been told I taste pretty sweet. I guess that’s all the cranberry juice and water I drink, and trying to eat pretty healthy overall. If your BF is a fast food eater, chances are he might have funky spunk.
All in all I hope that helped answer your question. If not, you can also CLICK HERE to read my boy BlogXilla’s “Ultimate Guide to Making a Guy Blow From a BJ.” Aside from that, I’m sure some of my more experienced female readers will have some more specific tips for you.
Enjoy your trip; I’m sure your lucky bastard BF will. LOL
Are you willing to pleasure the person you’re in a committed relationship with orally? Do you think that there’s still a stigma attached to giving head? What about the act of swallowing? Ladies, are you one of those women that will only do something like that your husband? Or are you completely turned off by the idea of a man cumming in your mouth? Fellas, do you appreciate a woman that swallows? Am I the only one that thinks swallowing amplifies the experience? Are there guys that are actually turned off by swallowing or head in general? Would you have less respect for a woman that swallows too soon? Does anyone else have any tips for Good Girl Gone Bad on her question?
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