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Do You Like It Rough? (Calling Out Names)

Posted by NWSO • December 23, 2009 • Printer-friendly

Last month, I treated you regular Wet Wednesdays readers to a special repost the day before Thanksgiving. It was actually my very first piece of erotic writing, “I Found Love in This Club,” that was published back in 2000 by The Source as part of their then-annual sex package.

In an effort to switch things up, my assignment was to recount how a young man discovered the art of making love since men are typically known for "screwing." To balance things out, there was actually a companion piece written by a talented young writer by the name of Marlee Mickens, who recounted a woman discovering the joys of getting fucked.

Being that Christmas (and my birthday) is at the end of this week and I know how much you guys/gals crave your weekly dose of erotica, I figured I’d share Marlee’s piece with y'all to show the other side of the erotic coin. So without further ado, here’s one woman’s guide to the art of fucking…

I’m in love. Wholly, breathlessly and thoroughly. Couldn’t ask for a more sensitive, intelligent, potential baby-daddy to have in my life. He’s got my back and loves me just as completely. And as emotional, mushy and downright girly as that sounds, don’t get it twisted: if I had to choose between “making love” and “fucking” to describe our sexual relationship, I’d have to say Ishmael and I are undoubtedly fucking.

It’s partly just the cheesy wackness of the expression. Who really says “making love?” It’s the kind of term you hear in love songs and romantic comedies—sounds like something for married couples and virgins. And we are neither.

I must admit, in the beginning—when I still shaved my legs all the way up to my thighs and took long, scented oil baths before I trekked to Ishmael’s crib—we probably made love. That very first time, in the pre-dawn after a late night of clubbing, he turned to me, folded me in his arms, kissed my forehead and…

Well, you know.

I had butterflies in my stomach, my heart was beating maaad fast and I came after like, three strokes.

Actually, when we were still “dating,” (before we started damn near living together), we were always mushy and lovey-dovey. Sex for us included extended foreplay, handholding and lots of eye contact.

And then we rented Fight Club.

I’d had a particularly stressful day at work. And when I collapsed in bed, I didn’t think I’d be awake long enough to kiss Ishmael good night, much less watch some testosterone-filled bloodthirsty flick.

But he insisted.

What, ahem, came afterwards made staying up more than worth it.

It had to be all the hand-to-hand combat. Men beating each other—and even themselves— into a bloody pulp. I usually hate violence in movies, but this time the kicking, shoving and pummeling turned me on.

Fight Club brought out a side of my usually laid-back lover that I had never seen. Usually, Ishmael eats me out slowly, with relish—like I’m a creamy, bite-sized, strawberry-topped cheesecake. This night, there were no gentle kisses on my thighs before going for the main course. He was raw and direct, slurping me up like clams on a half shell.

Any other night, Ishmael licks my nipples so softly that I’ve been known to cry like a baby. This time, he cupped my breasts together with one hand and devoured them.

By the time he entered me, the sheets were flooded, we were covered in sweat. But my baby was just beginning.

Ishmael had nerve to prop my legs up on his shoulders, his hands squeezing my arms tightly, and I could only let my body go and try to keep up. When he pulled out long enough to grab me by my dreadlocks and showed me what he wanted next, I was shocked at his boldness—and more than happy to oblige.

Forget whispering sweet nothings, murmuring I-love-you and nibbling necks. That was making love. This was something else entirely. By the time Ishmael lifted me off the bed, wrapped his arms around my lower back, and effortlessly kept the rhythm going, I was hooked on fucking.

It was furious, intense and explosive. And when I came (for the third time), I did something I’d never done before—I screamed out his name. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been known to moan and whisper a brother’s name in the heat of passion. But I screeched out Ishmael’s name like I was in hard labor with 10-pound triplets.

The next morning, we didn’t really talk about it. But I know he noticed me walking a little funny and I peeped him stretching his back and rolling his neck muscles around. We were spent and worn out but happily so.

We broke up a few weeks later but reconciled within days. Our first few nights back together were all about murmuring “I miss you” and staring into each other’s eyes. But after a week of making love, I realized how much I missed getting’ fucked.

But I couldn’t just say, “Yo, Ishmael, can we fuck tonight?” So instead, I waited until the next time we were scanning the new releases at the local video store.

He glanced over to me and asked, “What do you want to see?”

I looked him dead in his eye and whispered, “I wanna see Fight Club.”

His eyes widened just a little and he smiled, “Oh, word?”

We didn’t even watch the movie. Before the sneak previews were over, he had me on my knees, holding on to the headboard for dear life. needless to say, it was a real blockbuster night.

Even though I love Ishmael to death—we do a lot more fucking than making love these days. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Fin!

Ladies, are you turned on my aggressive men in and out of the bedroom? Does his energy heighten the experience for you? Have you ever called out your lover’s name during sex? Did you mean it or were you merely stroking his ego? Are you someone that believes married couples should only make love and “fucking” should be saved for singles people? Fellas, how turned on are you by a woman that screams your name? Do you prefer a woman that’s aggressive in the bedroom or let’s you take charge? What did you think of Marlee’s piece? How many people want to go out and rent Fight Club now?

Speak your piece…

HOLIDAY MESSAGE
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Tagged as: fucking, making love, Marlee Mickens, Sex, sex package, The Source

MissMe83

Wow am I first?! hmm I particularly LOVE when a guy gets aggressive. It's literally like the best thing EVER. I mean don't get me wrong, the love making thing is good. But when dude overpowers me and takes it how ever he wants it...MANNNN I'm like Marlee, 2 or 3 strokes and I'm already getting mine! I have called out my lover's name before. For one dude to stroke his ego (if he thinks he's doing something, maybe he'll be more aggressive) and then another time cuz dude was putting it DOOWWWWNNNN.

I think fucking is for everybody. I'm not married, but I can only imagine "making love" gets boring. Ravenous sex any and everywhere is the best.
BMW2K

Very Nice post . . . .

I guess I don't really see the difference between the two when you are in a relationship. I always considered fucking to be sex with someone with whom you have no attachment and making love sex with someone for whom you have feelings.

But I feel the author on this one. Depending on my/his mood, either one is equal - but I gotta admit, I love the raw, out of control sex more often.
NotLeavingMyName

Hmm OMG! Again- excellent read... (fanning my self LOL)

Ladies, are you turned on my aggressive men in and out of the bedroom?
~~I think aggression has it's place. In the bedroom from time to time VERY MUCH SO. I met a guy who I N-E-V-E-R thought would have been very aggressive in the bedroom. We flirted for quite some time before our first sexual encounter. It was pretty average... I mean par the course of what I'd expected, but I liked him ya know, so it was all good. I mean I was pleased, I think he was pleased. Time passed and we fell off and back on again. This time OMG- it was the best-est! I had him pegged all wrong I guess! He wasn't big and overly muscular and wasn't what I would have ASSUMED as "strong" and "dominant", but please believe I was VERY pleasantly surprised how he was able to dominate me. How he was able to have my head spinning before the first stroke. MAN oh man.. excellent! I would be 'embarrassed' to say this elsewhere, but in context of the whole Wet Wednesday/Naked with Socks scene, I'll let it fly...the hair pulling and such was/is now a MUST... (blushing). I certainly has the strong silent type read completely wrong...

Does his energy heighten the experience for you?
~~YES IN DEED! I absolutely LOVED his energy. Most of the time it all starts without one spoken word. Before I know it he's flipped/turned me into 'position' and it's all she wrote from there...

Have you ever called out your lover’s name during sex? Did you mean it or were you merely stroking his ego?
~~Have I before? Yes. Stroking the ego before? Yes (and it ruined one ex, but that's a whole different topic...). But the guy I've been referring to... Umm hmm that was 100% heart felt. I wouldn't say I 'screamed' it, but said it...YES IN DEED...over and over again...

Are you someone that believes married couples should only make love and “fucking” should be saved for singles people?
~~ it's for whom ever! I say you do what ever you want to do behind your closed doors. Do what you need to do to keep your marriage/relationship exciting. (By "anything" I mean- anything that is agreeable amongst the two people involved of course.)

Now while I commented about the 'straight to the point 'fucking', the 'softer sex' was just as good... either way, we pretty much ended up all spooned up so it was all good...
Ya Ya

Ladies, are you turned on my aggressive men in and out of the bedroom?
Aggression does have its place....I don't really care for it outside the bedroom....especially since i am so easygoing....but I surely do love it in the bedroom....I just love when a man take over and dominate my body....its a sight to behold
Does his energy heighten the experience for you? Oh most definitely....passionate energy goes a very long way...
Have you ever called out your lover’s name during sex? No I haven't....I moan and curse...yet I haven't got it so good that I was calling out names
Did you mean it or were you merely stroking his ego?N/A
Are you someone that believes married couples should only make love and “fucking” should be saved for singles people? No both has their place....I know when I was married....to keep the excitement up in marriage, we use to role play and fuck for hours....or go fuck in the car like we had no sense....good times lol
MsKaos

"Fucking" def isn't reserved just for single people! If that were the case I'd never have gotten married. Single people seem to live by the myth that us marrieds are having boring sex...boring people have boring sex--married or single. lol. That's all I'll say about that! Good post.

Enjoy your holiday and happy birthday.
Imperfect_Rose

I agree with Ya Ya...I'm not really into the aggression outside the bedroom, well nothing over the top like "calling me woman" or making me walk behind or in front of you..you know things like that..but aggression in the bedroom? Hellz yea..idk maybe becuz I'm single at the moment, but I wouldn't have it any other way..it's just somethin about the rough strokes, crazy positons, and just the overall aggression that leaves "battle scars"..the type that has you remembering specific details about it, days and sometimes weeks later..

- When it comes to calling out names..you have to "make me" if ya catch my drift..

- I don't think that "making love" should be for couples as well as "fucking" should be for single folk..it's all a matter of personal taste for both of them...me personally, when I do get involved in a relationship again, we're gonna be switching it up like a different hairdo and such..
Anywayz...NWSO I wish you a happy birthday and hope you have a happy and safe holiday..I read your blog regularly and I love it..Keep it up !!
irizle

I like it when my patner is agressive and rough.. Its more of a turn on..but then again the slow strokes are more intimate.. So there'll b times I would prefer makin love.

Happy holidays, Ans and everyone!! I hope Santa brings u what u wanted.
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Wow!! That post took me back. Thanks Marlee!

I've got to say, as a Lady of course (LOL) that making love is beautiful, but there's nothing like fuckin! Making love makes it easy for me to zone out on the wonderful emotions & (hopefully) the spiritual connection shared between me & my partner. But fucking gets me involved in a whole other way & allows me to let the beast in me loose w/out having her show up in the wrong environment. "She" doesn't get looked at funny for the wild shit "she" says & does. I prefer when I get to let "her" loose.

Sadly, as I get older (a fresh old 34), cats seem to be coming to the table makin a lot more love than breakin things up. Damn I miss fuckin!!
sofiinea

Only thing I like slow is the head. But when it comes to sex I need that real friction Ass slappin,hair grabbing ,taking control of my body, and beating the pussy up, neck bitting drives me crazy and makes me squirt.
Capricorn

Um.. . . wow.

If he's doing it right, then yes, be aggressive. Pull my hair, order me into position, spank me, all of that.. .

Have I ever called out his name? Yes. Usually followed by "I fucking HATE you."
Winter137

Ok, I steer clear of " passive men" because I'm afraid that they won't be able to f*ck!!! I love dirty talk ( take this d*ck, etc), grabbing the neck while bone crushing, pulling hair and all that good stuff. I also love to make love but relish f*cking ......Vanilla sex is out

I want to create a graveyard for my nails in your back .......yeah *crossing legs* good post
Shequita

lol @ capricorn I guess my firend is not the only one who says "I hate you" during sex...yall are crazy lol

Love rough sex, there's a time to be agressive, time to be submissive, time for foreplay, time for him to lower his pants and you hike up your skirt. Making love, sex, fucking....love it all, depends on the mood I'm in.
~C.

Are you turned on by aggressive men in and out of the bedroom? Aggressive men in the bedroom are great! It is honestly the only time I feel 100% comfortable letting go. Outside of the bedrrom an aggressive man would only piss me off...
***Does his energy heighten the experience for you? It definitely does and it rubs off on me so I get energized as well...hehehe ***Have you ever called out your lovers name? Spend enough time with a man and you have an arsenal of names to call him... yes I have called out his name and then some ***Did you mean it or were you just stroking his ego? Oh I meant it...but he was working his ass off to hear it! LOL *** Do I believe that married couples should "make love" and fucking should be saved for single people? Married or not, people should experience both in their relationship.

****It looks like a lot of women have expressed a liking for aggression in the bedroom....I wonder if the men are surprised by this?****
Geoforie

Yes, Yes Yes..I love it rough. I didn't realize it before I started dating my man. Now he has me hooked.. crazy positions, the intensity is crazy and intoxicating. Mild mannerd men are not for me. I love men to take control in the bedroom. Outside the bedroom, I like to be treated as an equal. Ans have a wonderful birthday and holiday season!!
b.better

Yes Yes YES...I LOVE to f8ck! Don't get me wrong "love making" is cool but sometimes a lady wants to be bent over and banged the hell out. I enjoyed the piece and feel bad that she hadn't discovered it sooner. smh enjoy my sista! LOL

I like my man to be very aggressive in bed...I mean VERY aggressive. I'm not talking about abusing me or anything crazy rough. But I do enjoy my sex pretty rough ass smacking, random positions, poundings, toys, oils....mmmm basically anything thats gonna have me walking funny after a nice session. I love aggressive take charge men in bed, I am SUPER controlling on a say to day basis but when it comes to sex I need a partner who is gonna "run it" and make my pussy purr and trust B.Better goes pound for pound...round for round. As far as screaming his name I normally do that when he's beating it up....oh and I think everyone should f8ck no matter your relationship status.
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Hello and happy holidays to all. Happy birthday and happy holiday to Ans.
Great blog. I really enjoyed reliving some of the experiences I had. lol.
da ThRONe

I love rough sex. You know what I just like sex period. Not into name calling during sex that just kinda corny to me. Than again not much into talking period. One of the few areas I perfer to let my performance do my talking.
Rastaman

I love it when she says afterward you're so "nasty"!!
shor5ty1

I absolutely love me some ruff sex. That shit is AmAzInG! I agree with most the ladies not so much out the bed room, but in it I'm game. I think that in the bedroom I get a chance to be someone that you will not pass on the streets. I can just open my mind and let it go wherever the hell it wants to go, and it does go. I love being fucked and I love throwing it back at his ass. I co-sign with B.Better i don't wanna be walking straight after we finish if I can walk at all.

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
older & wiser

I have learned to appreciate both lovemaking and f*cking! BTW, you can NOT WALK str8 after you finish either one if you both know what you are doing! -_-
qui

i love this piece im always down for fucking anytime n anywhere. but i all so have a sweet side when i just want to be held and caress.

no i dont think marry couples should jus make love, they should explore every possible way there is thats what keeps things excited in the relationship.
DC Man With a Plan

lol @ C...bcuz yeah, I find it suprising MOST of the women commenting are speaking on liking rough sex. It is always difficult to tell when ppl in the "virtual" world are being honest and when they're being truthful, but generally speaking, when too many ppl are in agreement....I'm thinkin copy-cats...lol...Not that it matters. Women need a chance to be women..to be submissive...to let go and have a man not ask, but just do, and DO in such a way and manner that a woman knows if EVER I'ma challenge dude: THIS is not the moment, cuz homie is letting it be known that he's in CHARGE and working the damn thing, right now. Most men need adventure to stay tunded in. Being a lady in the streets and a freak between the sheets has kept many relationships FRESH and continually developing........
ummmmm….no name thank you!

I particularly like aggression in the bedroom for two reasons. 1. the obvious: i'm aroused like shit, 2. i like the idea that my man has strength and power. Now, aggression in the bedroom accounts for several things but in particular having the right aggression is necessary so that you can cum...obviously, I don't like the idea of "not being able to walk" afterward...that's pain and aggression. You're suppose to feel good after sex...more like a sexual release... In my opinion it's not sex AT ALL if you feel weird and painful afterward...that's pounding.

I'm just saying...
Enjoy the holidays everyone.
sofiinea

Man I was hoping you’d come back for more
Because there are many positions we have left to explore
You claim to be a beast, well all I see is a real man
Who’s as good with his mouth as he is with his hands
You say your cream Is extra thick
Like a leaking faucet, I’ll make you drip
Keep you up all night with my tongue tricks
With a body that looks like it was made for this
I love to kiss lick and suck
But not as much as I love to fuck
Before we do u can straddle my chest
Slide your thick rod between my breast
Squeeze them tight, as u pump real slow
When your head pops out in my mouth it’ll go
Big soft breast wrapped around your dick
Head nice and wet cuz I’ve slobed on it
I know it’s feel good to you, because it feels so good to me
Now reach back and play with my pussy
Let your finger slide over the silk like skin
That's dripping with juices as your fingers dive in
From inside my pussy back up to my clit
You’re rubbing, I’m sucking, while ur fucking my tits
You release your nectar and it taste so sweet
You slide down to my pussy ready to eat
Anonymous

That is a HOT poem. Loving all the words.
Deen

When I'm in a regular situation I like to throw in a rough session every so often to mix things up. The slow, gentle, eye contact shit is cool, but it's nice to pin her down or against the wall and give her that Sarah Palin for no reason at all...
Ms V

I must say I'm addicted to fucking! Making love is ok...but I'd just rather fuck. Hair pulling, ass smacking, headboard banging, shit talking...*whew* I love aggressive men in and out of the bedroom. If I do call out that persons name you best believe he worked HARD for it!

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year Everyone!
Happy Birthday Ans!
Missy

My def goes along wit BMW2Ks. U can have both at anytime. I'm such an emotional being; luv makin is my style. But I'm gettn more f**kn in due to- well not bn in luv. My last man always had me calln his name but it was funny. We met at work so I call him "Mr. Lawson". That's just what I call him. So then he wanted to b calld sumthin else at work. The "Mr." Part was turning him on.
Merry B-day!! (How cool is that).
~C.

@ DC MAN WITH A PLAN...I would hope that people who talk about things anonymously can also be more open about their personal lives...otherwise what's the point?
I agree with you 100% that being a lady and a freak (when appropriate) can definitely keep things "FRESH and continually developing..." It isn't a cure for all problems...but hell, it certainly doesn't hurt!
#5

As a woman who is always in control of life and my business there is nothing better than a man who knows how to take control in the bedroom. I like fucking more than making love.There's an intense passion you cant get from the usual hand-holding, soft moaning kind of sex. There is nothing sexier to me than a man who has the ability to make me cry for mercy. Hair pulling, ass smacking, dirty talk. Lordie.
I said it yes I did

I love to fuck and to talk shit while getting fucked. Love for him to put my legs over his shoulders and "beat that pussy up!" I love to be on top and have him pinch my nipples and bite them too! Have your man bite your nipples it will send you to another place! I like to ride that thick dick while asking him who's dick is this? Who's pussy is this. Fucking is what's up! But I like it cause I love him! He is sexy as hell and he makes me know that he wants this pussy and he would fuck me anytime anyplace. We were out to dinner and were sitting close and talking shit to each other getting each other worked up before we knew it we were out of there in the car pulled over in a park in the back seat fucking like crazy! damn that shit was good!
Soulyn

Merry Birthday Ans!!!!

Great post. I'm down for fucking, talking dirty, hair pulling, choking, biting, n e thing goes. I rarely come across aggressive men in bed. I remember one particular ex. His head game was horrid. But he talked so much shit and had good D to back it up. We always fucked and that's why I will never forget him. His aggressiveness was on point. To this day I compare other men to him.
Gemini

Make me take it! Make me run from it! Grab my legs and pull my ass back down into the middle of the bed. Then when its about to pop give me a deep slow grind that comes only from the hip with my hands held over my head.
tough8108

ROUGH, but whatever gets me there. put me n the mood for what u want. but, don't be looking for me to stoke ur ego for NOTHING
BrwnSug

I LOVE this blog! Ok first of all, I prefer to date aggressive men for this very reason. If you're not throwing me up against the wall, grippin my neck, smacking my ass, and really giving me something to remember the next day; we're probably not going to last very long. I should feel like I just did a serious work out at the gym. I should have pulled a muscle or something. I have only one memory of ever reaching my climax by making love. When I'm married, please believe my husband will know how to do both or I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have made it that far lol. For me to say your name out loud tho, you def have to be puttin it on me. And I do say it to stroke his ego, shoot anything to make you grip harder and go deeper, say the word!
Dinesh

I m just seeking a single women who can share my feelings
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@lollypop

Actually, the easiest way is to just say it DURING the act. People are generally very open to instructions during the throes of passion. Just whisper, ohh, pull my hair, spank it daddy, or whatever it is you want and he'll likely oblige, especially when you moan, oh, I like it like that, do it again, harder, give me more, etc.

Think about it: How would you respond if he were to do it that way to you? Would you say no, I won't spank you (or whatever he asked for) even though it was feeling good or would you just go on and do it to please your partner and yourself?

And def feel free to talk about it during pillow talk afterwards, like damn, baby, i really like when you did XYZ

good luck
lollypop

does anyone know how to let him know that i like and want rough sex? for last two months i am dating a guy. we are not in the relationship. its all just for sex. we fit very well and have a good time in bad but i would like to have it more rough. our sex is not romatic at all what i like and even last time it was little bit rough. he spanked me and pulled my hair but i badly want more! do you have any idea how to go further with it without saying it literally?? thanks for any tips.
lollypop

thanks for the answer. i will try some of those. but i think i should try it somehow do it without words. actually we dont talk during sex and never after. we even dont sleep together after all. (and still having super good sex.)
Used Socks Girl

Who doesn't like it rough -- some people just aren't willing to open up and admit it
HelloImVita

Wow
A) I love passionate, Ruff sex.
B) Calliing his name during bed, it's kind of Ciiché to me, I would not do that unless Im about to have an orgasm.
C) Where are the men?? Lol I want to hear more men repsonses to these questions. =]
HelloImVita

agree*
hotfrweak

i liked to get fucked like you would not believe. i think about my ex who i am not with was the most freakiest man i know. what i wouldn't do to fucked the shit out of him now. i want his friends to hear him fucking me, moaning, banging the headboard begging to do it harder.
bad_like_a_barbie

>> O MY G!
I aint never had a feeling like that
sounds sexy .
um , my boyfriend *&+ i have been dating
for nearly three years
and we never did none of that
we have been having sex since a little over our one year anniversity . '
ad i can still count the amount of times we have did it on my fingers
im a horrible g/f right /
yeah i know
but ive been misssing sex period lately .
ugh , i could use some right now !!!
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WOW great sounds great and sounds sexy I really like that.
Briaa

See , Im a very demanding person & love to be treated with respect; But with sex? Yuu qotta be ruff ! Gotta be aggressive & Yuu better give it to me how i want it & wen i want it.. Beinq fucked doqqystyle at the edqe of the bed, pussy juices all runninq down my leq & shit Hittinq the ass, pullinq the hair, chokinq the shit outta me, & talkinq shit!!! I love it wen he say call me big daddy, or comments like yuu feelin it, tell me u love dis dick, tell me u love dis big black juicy dick! Damm i swear i love it not tryna sound nasty but my boy gotta be hittinq it rite
Drey

i agree with you bria. im an aggressive, rough kinda man so i know all dat freaky shit u females like. & honestly i prefer to fuck rough rather den dat slow makin love shit simply because its like i take out all my anger In da pussy. And when i say all my anger i mean damage the pussy til she cant walk. Lol dats juss me baby gurl seem like wed get along real well. plus i love wen she talk all dat shit cus she kno she cant take dis monster.