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My Sucky New Year (Have You Ever Regretted Sex?)

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None of this would have happened if I had listened to Corey and just stayed put. He told me to leave well enough alone, but I was drunk, horny and curiosity got the better of me.

I’ll just blame it on the alcohol.

It was only a few hours into New Year's 2001 and Corey and I had just got back to his crib in Brooklyn from a bangin’ house party. The plan was to crash on his couch and head back to Queens in the morning afternoon, but then I got a text from Jessica.

Jessica was a girl I “met” on BlackPlanet. I had joined the site a few months earlier out of boredom and somehow or other she and I wound up messaging back and forth. She seemed cool enough and we eventually exchanged numbers but never met face to face. All I had to go by was the three-quarters profile pic on her page to know what she looked like.

Jessica lived in Brooklyn and since I’d be running through the borough for New Years, we spoke about the possibility of crossing paths during the night. It wasn’t a guarantee but we were headed to parties that were within close proximity so it was an option. Jessica and I texted sporadically throughout the night but seemed to always just miss each other.

By time Corey and I decided to leave the last party, we were both wasted and managed to catch a cab from the local taxi stand to his crib. As soon as we walked through the door is when Jessica’s text came through.

“RU still in Bed-Stuy,” the message read.

“Nah, I just got 2 my boyz crib,” I wrote back.

“Oh, I was lookin fwd 2 seeing U.”

“Me 2. Where do U live?”

After a few more messages I got Jessica’s address and was asking Corey for the number to the nearest cab company.

"Where the hell you going," Corey asked.

"That chick I was telling you about wants me to come through."

"Who is this chick again?"

"Some girl I met on BP."

"You serious? Man, you need to stay your ass here and leave them online chicks alone. We just got out a cab and you gonna spend more money to go back out?"

"Hey, man, she wants to see me."

"Aiight, man, do you. Be careful and strap up."

A few minutes later I was in a cab and en route to Jessica's crib. Once I got there, I took the three flights of stairs to her apartment. I knocked on the door and as soon as Jessica answered I realized the error of my drunken decision.

Although Jessica's profile pic was only missing one-quarter of her entire frame, it turned out to be a very vital one-quarter. Standing before me was a sizably different woman dressed down in sweat pants, glasses and a scarf on her head. Definitely not the woman I thought I had met online.

Honestly, the idea of bouncin' crossed my mind but that'd be just plain rude. Besides, I had no idea where the nearest train station was and catching a cab at damn near 4 in the morning on New Years would be downright impossible. So I swallowed my pride and entered.

Jessica's place was a modest studio apartment so there wasn't much in terms of a tour. The kitchen was to the right, the bathroom was over there and everything else was just there.

We talked for a few, about what I was too drunk too even recall, but it wasn't long before I started nodding off and Jessica offered me the cold side of her bed.

What happened next, I'll just blame on too much dark liquor and raging hormones. Despite the fact I wasn't physically attracted to Jessica I was still as horny as a toad so I made a move. The next thing I know we were making out.

My hands traced Jessica's body until they went up her shirt and caressed her breasts. Slowly, my hands trickled past her belly and found their way inside her sweat pants and I immediately started finger fuckin’ her. Jessica writhed in pleasure as my nimble fingers worked their magic on her clit.

Jessica returned the favor, letting her hands stroke my liquor-induced boner. We were both hot and bothered and I wanted my horniness satiated—now.

"I want to fuck," I blurted out.

I'm not usually so direct, especially with someone I hardly know, but I was drunk as hell and all my manners went out the window. My alter ego Taco Meat was in full control and he wasn’t one for biting his tongue.

"I can't," Jessica responded. "Not now."

In retrospect, she was 100-percent right. This was our first time meeting each other and not even two hours later I was trying to get in her pants. I was totally out of character but damn that dark liquor will do it to you.

"I want you to suck my dick," I countered, pressing down harder against her clit.

Jessica hesitated for a moment, but eventually conceded to my indecent proposal.

She pulled down my boxers and jeans and took my manhood in her hands. Next, her wide tongue took ownership of my dick, as she licked its circumference with ease. Finally, she took me into her mouth wholly and sucked me hard, fast and deeply.

As much as I love head and wanted nothing more than to cum, I knew I wouldn't. I was so drunk that my dick had gone numb and only the damp corners of a warm pussy or my own hand would make me bust.

"I want to fuck," I moaned.

Jessica responded with more intense sucking and slurping. Her commitment excited me but it was a futile effort. I knew it would never be enough to get me off.

All I wanted at that moment was to bend Jessica over and bury her face in a pillow, while I had my way with her. I was not in the mood for sweet gyrations and tender moments. No, I was horny as hell and just wanted to put a hurting on someone.

I wanted to fuck!

Hard.

Fast.

Deep.

Savagely.

Jessica's never-ending blowjob only infuriated me. I needed more than her tongue. I came here to fuck and she was denying me of my carnal desire.

I literally begged for what I wanted.

"Please, let me fuck you... Come on, I want to fuck... Let me fuck you..."

My pleas fell on deaf ears as Jessica continued to use my cock as a pacifier until I got too frustrated with the affair and pushed her lockjaw off me and promptly passed out—unsatisfied.

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The next afternoon I awoke with a massive hangover. As my eyes began to focus I stared up at a ceiling not my own. I slowly took in my surroundings and saw that I was in a stranger's bed with a woman I wasn't even attracted to laying next to me.

Definitely not how I planned on kicking off my new year.

Jessica awoke shortly thereafter and I found myself consumed with guilt. I was embarrassed by my actions the night before and letting my dick get me in yet another precarious predicament. But hindsight is 20/20 and youth is wasted on the young.

After an awkward morning after conversation, I made my play for a hasty exit. However, I still had no clue of where the train station was so Jessica offered to walk me since she had to go to the store anyway. Rather than change clothes, she stayed in the same sweat pants and headscarf from the night before. Not to sound vain or shallow, but Jessica’s ensemble added further humiliation to my already long walk of shame.

Once we arrived at the corner bodega, Jessica pointed out the path to the train and I was on my way. Two hours later I was back in Queens with my head still hanging low. It was a mix of drunken relapse and shame about the previous night's transgressions.

My only saving grace was that Jessica stuck to her guns and we didn't go all the way. If Taco Meat had his way I would have been a poster boy for ThatsABadLook.com (Coming soon) and made an already awkward moment more complicated.

Despite my constant shit talkin' that night, once I was sober I realized that sealing the deal with Jessica would have been a major mistake. Jessica was a sweet girl and although my actions admittedly came off quite doggish, I planned to chalk the whole thing up to one big indiscretion that got nipped in the bud just in time.

Well, so I had hoped.

About a week later I was just getting home from work when I got a text from Jessica.

“Hey, what’s up?”

“Nuthin, jst gettin in frm wk,” I typed back.

“I changed my mind.”

“About what,” I wrote back.

“I wanna fuck.”

“What? But U said U weren’t ready for all that.”

“Well, I changed my mind. I wanna fuck the shit out of you.”

I paused for a moment to process the words on my phone’s screen before responding. I’m sure I could have chosen better words, but I wrote back, “I don’t think that’s a good idea.”

“I’m not tryna boo U up, I just wanna fuck.”

“Nah, U were right it’s 2 soon. It’s jst not a good idea.”

“UR loss.”

Ouch!

Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk? Would you have slept with them if you were sober? How awkward is that morning after? Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have? If you could do the night over what would you change? Have you ever gotten caught out there by someone you met online but didn’t look like their profile picture? Do you think that it’s dishonest to misrepresent yourself online? Do you think that sites like BlackPlanet are more about hooking up than actual networking? Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days? Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house? Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards? What’s your worst New Year’s night ever?

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  • Intrepid

    Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk? Yes.
    Would you have slept with them if you were sober? No.
    How awkward is that morning after? Pretty awkward if you make it that way.
    Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have? Oh, yea (those college days) ;-(
    If you could do the night over what would you change? All of my actions.
    Have you ever gotten caught out there by someone you met online but didn’t look like their profile picture? OMG, yes.
    Do you think that it’s dishonest to misrepresent yourself online? It's very dishonest to show an old school pic or vaious pics where you look totally different in each one or flat out lie.
    Do you think that sites like BlackPlanet are more about hooking up than actual networking? I think mose people on BP are just trying to hook up, but you have seldom few that are on there to actually find someone whorth while.
    Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days? Actually recently. LOL! I met my man on there.
    Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house? No, whenever you get a booty call you should expect to get some booty. She shouldn't have invited you over to tease you and act innocent. There's really no difference from the first and second 'hang out'. So when she called you back it didn't make her look any better.
    Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards? No, you wouldn't have had the excuse of being drunk.
    What’s your worst New Year’s night ever? I recall one year I almost fell asleep in the club. Now, I try to stay home or go to church. There's too much going on on New Year's Eve.

  • Elle

    Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk?
    - Hooked up as in having sex, nah. Making out at a party, yeah.

    How awkward is that morning after?
    - I never had a "morning after" and I do not think I want to experience one either.

    Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have?
    - Hm, not that I can think of.

    Have you ever gotten caught out there by someone you met online but didn’t look like their profile picture?
    - Once. LoL...omg...hilarious.

    Do you think that it’s dishonest to misrepresent yourself online?
    - Of course it is, but that's what happens when dealing with humans. It's part of our nature to send representatives to make ourselves look better - literally. Sometimes this representative comes in the shape of a 20 year old pic on a website.

    Do you think that sites like BlackPlanet are more about hooking up than actual networking? Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days?
    - Not sure. But rumor has it ...
    I met my ex-fiancé and some wonderful friends in a group so I guess meeting folks on those sites can go either way. Depends on what you look for I assume.

    Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house?
    - You're a man. Doing things that are not kosher is expected when you're a certain age still. So ...

    Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards?
    - A nice guy wouldn't have. Since I think of you as one, I believe you did the right thing.

    What’s your worst New Year’s night ever?
    - Eh, my asshole-drugdealer-fuckeverychickthatcrosseshispath-boyfriend back in the late 90s was somehow gone for NYE. Just flat out disappeared and had the nerve to try to feed me some BS story about him having been locked up that night. Yeah, right :| Dude was with some other chick as far as I am concerned and ruined my damn NYE.

  • Ms.KnowItAll

    Worst New Years night is NOT getting any! lol im sorry but whats the best way to begin a new year!? GETTING LAYED! Thats what made us humans to even have a year to celebrate for!
    When it comes down to it, i think its completely normal to have a sexual encounter that you justttt...might regret! Sex isnt a gauranteed 10 so you just gotta play your cards and hopefully (me being good at what I do) the guy will actually be worth the proposition.
    Now about the alcohol.....c'monnn! Drunk sex? Can i say ENJOYABLE! its just like all rules are thrown out the window its just all about whats going on right there& NOW. I personally LOVE drunk sex. Mostly because if it really isnt all that good..it totally wont seem that way..unless its completely HORRIBLE!. And especially if your horny!
    And if it sucks, you can be a complete asshole about it to the person and just blame it on the gooose (in the words of J. Foxx) The mornign after does tend to be a bit awkward but I usually take the Jamie approach n act like i dont remember and roll out with complete confidence (which makes them feel awkward! ..which is NOT my problem!)
    I feel like those social networking websites are just a waste of time and TOO MANY people mis-represent themselves on there.SMH I dont see the meaning behind it bcuz a photo is just a photo. A person is a person and appearance can always change! Theres waayy to many perpetrators on those things.
    On Jessica...
    Wellll..u werent wrong persaayyy...bcuz i mean i wanted t fuck so thats what you wanted to do! She wasnt down for it so decided to give some good ol Becky..i mean homegirl could of just played The Prude and let you come over with FAILED expectations on all levels. So atleast you got something man. Its good that you didnt take her up on the offer because God knows you werent really attracted to her so it was like a " We are Here, Lets do it Now Situation" not " Lets set a date then fuck Mission" She should have given it up right then and there! hah! Really it was HER LOSS..you put the proposal out there..she rejected. In the end she gets REJECTED. It is what it isss! HAH!

  • http://www.itsjustgoldie.com goldie.

    "Not to sound vain or shallow, but Jessica’s ensemble added further humiliation to my already long walk of shame."'

    Favorite cringe-worthy part.

    I've never been drunk+hooked up with someone I don't know. But I can relate to this story... because I'm wearing HUGE sweats+my hair is wrapped. I usually put on my booty-sweats if I'm having late night company.

    Don't think you're wrong for going over there. There's no mixed signals in "you wanna come over?" Don't think you're wrong for not follow-up-f*cking either. You tried. No dice. I couldn't be mad if I Jessica'd someone (false advertisement, no booty on a booty call) and they didn't want to kick it again.

  • http://www.twitter.com/mstrecie MakeupbyTrecie

    Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk?

    -Yes I have...

    Would you have slept with them if you were sober?

    -Nope, not at all!

    How awkward is that morning after?

    -It was awkward because he felt that our sexual relations bound us together as bf/gf, that was until my text telling him that it should have never happened and that it wouldn't happen again.

    Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have?

    -Yes....

    If you could do the night over what would you change?

    -putting myself in the situation. I am already a sexual female...I love sex...point blank period.

    Have you ever gotten caught out there by someone you met online but didn’t look like their profile picture?

    -I have met people in person at events that I attend or host and a majority of the women are fairly different looking. A lot of women like to shoot from odd angles and heights to appear thinner, or only have a head shot...but eh, to each its own.

    Do you think that it’s dishonest to misrepresent yourself online?

    -To each its own...people are so caught up in images that can be manipulated. That is proven by how many people long and crave for celebrity beauty when in actuality they are just like us. Photoshop is an immortal god that some people refuse to stop believing in.

    Do you think that sites like BlackPlanet are more about hooking up than actual networking?

    -I think all networking sites start out with good intentions, but when u mix pictures with conversations some desires, attractions and crushes are bound to develop.

    Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days?

    -Nope. Men tried, but I wasn't going.

    Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house?

    Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards? What’s your worst New Year’s night ever?

  • http://www.twitter.com/mstrecie MakeupbyTrecie

    EDITED ANSWER:

    If you could do the night over what would you change?

    -putting myself in the situation. I am already a sexual female…I love sex…point blank period. LIQ just heightens the sexual appetite.

  • DellaG

    Don't have a drunk NYE sex story... But there was one time I met this guy that seemed cool until I drank too much Hennessey and Alize(what the hell was I thinking) and invited him over. I passed out while in the middle of receiving oral sex and woke up the next morning to find he left and took my apartment keys with him. He didn't bring them back until that night.
    When I asked him why he did it, I got some lame excuse.
    So have I regretted having sex? Quite a few times
    it's a shame because I've been without sex for four years and counting. Haven't had a partner yet who can completely satisfy me.....

  • Rastaman

    My life experience tells me that if you are the kind of person who has regrets about "hit and run" sex you are probably not cut out for it. Not everyone is, it is usually most enjoyed by thrill seekers. I like a thrill every now and then but sex is one of those things i like to savor, take my time and really get into to fully enjoy it. So I really try to avoid casual encounters myself. Beer goggles and whisky dick has led many men to do things they come to regret. The worst thing i have ever done is excessive PDA.

    It makes for a good story though whenever you find yourself in those compromising situations. The holidays are a ripe time for overindulgencies, good cheer, copious drinks and available partners usual leads some degree of regret or comedy.

    NYEs are usually one of my more sober times of the year. Primarily because it is amateur hour...when the non party people are out in droves and they tend to over indulge and typically do something screwy.

    I am always amazed by the physical lies people tell online. Do they not expect the person to notice when they do see you in person?

    I always feel that if you invest in a lie that obvious, you are either mentally ill, a fool or you consider the other person a fool. None of those things strike me as a positive.

    I remember a lady explaining to me that overweight women may describe themselves as average size online not as a distortion of the fact but because all their friends are overweight and thus in their mind makes them average. Someone else may have another reasoning for that sort of distortion but I don't buy it.

  • Shequita

    First of all Jessica is wrong for the ensemble...hand down!! Aint no way in hell I'm calling a man over NOT looking like I'm one of Voluptuous Secrets top 10 models. Im a big woman and I make it my bidness not to misrepresent myself online. Full pics and all...thats just dishonest to do otherwise or to have pics from 97' knowing alots changed since then lol..... Why do people do that, wouldn't the truth comeout eventually???

    And second of all who the hell calls a man over at booty call hours and doesn't give up the booty??

    Never had a drunken one night stand. But I've had one sex that I deeply regret...haven't we all been there?? ( currently hanging my head in shame)

    BP can be useful for meeting people as long as the two people are as honest as possible about what it is they REALLY want...its some nice people out there. People hardly ever meey organically in 2009 oops 2010

  • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ Tunde

    Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk?

    -yes i have (hangs head in shame).

    Would you have slept with them if you were sober?

    -most definitely not.

    How awkward is that morning after?

    -pretty awkward. a lot of silence and avoidance. lol

    Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have?

    -who hasn't?

  • http://metanotherfrog.com/?cat=15 Sam Sharpe

    Haven't we all had an experience or two (or more?) that in hindsight wasn't a good look. I don't know if I would go so far to say I regret mine, because I'm able to get a good chuckle and some pretty hilarious stories out of them. It's all a learning experience. As long as your practicing safe sex and your well being isn't being compromised I don't think there's much to worry about.

  • Deen

    Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk?

    That's the only way I know...

    Would you have slept with them if you were sober?

    Hell naw!

    How awkward is that morning after?

    I walked 17 blocks at 4AM in a Wisconsin blizzard to avoid that mess.

    Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have?

    Yep. Vodka will do that...

    If you could do the night over what would you change?

    I would have banged the hot Asian chick I was making out with before I blacked out...

    Have you ever gotten caught out there by someone you met online but didn’t look like their profile picture?

    Yes. I wasn't pleased at all...

    Do you think that it’s dishonest to misrepresent yourself online?

    FUCK YEAH!

    Do you think that sites like BlackPlanet are more about hooking up than actual networking?

    What do you think?

    Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days?

    Nope!

    Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house?

    Yep. You didn't even bust one...

    Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards?

    That would have been a worse look. At least you have an excuse for the first error...

    What’s your worst New Year’s night ever?

    That's a longish story.

  • b.better

    I don't really have a lot of regrets but the last person I slept with I really regretted sleeping with them. We met off the random and did the whole texting, emailing thing, and went on a pretty successful date. The next day I invited him over because I had the house to myself. We chilled then next thing I know I'm bent over the couch with my ass in the air. Needless to say I gave into my carnal desires and just fucked him cuz he was sexy. But in all honesty it was the most lamest sex I had ever had. So unemotional, no desire to plrease me, thru all his talk about his aim to please a woman all he wanted was to just bust a nut. It made me feel cheap and slutty and after that it was over. He left my house and we rarely spoke after that, and I am just fine with it. I actually stopped having sex after that. So its been 10 months without sex and I feel awesome!

    I've never really gotten drunk and had sex with anyone, I've made out (kissed) a few people in drunkeness but I don't have any regrets about kissing them because I was drunk and it meant nothing. If I could change anything in my previous situation I would have never invited him over at all. I think once I allowed him in between my legs all respect was out the window. Plus he was very immature but I was so damn horny and he was so damn fine, I completely ignored how immature he was. Once we fucked I realized I couldn't be bothered with someone like him.

    I think those sites like BP, Myspace, and FB is just for booty. I mean IMO how am I honestly gonna get to know you? And how are you going to take me seriously? *reverts back to internet dating convo and stops self*

    Yea you were so wrong for going over her house and by allowing her to give you head. But whats in the past is in the past just keep it moving and don't ever talk to that chick again. LOL

  • da ThRONe

    I dont drink so this doesnt apply to me.

  • Anonymous

    Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk? YES...only when i go out alone...that is why i assemble a "cock block" team. My girls won't let me go out like that cuz they dont wanna hear my whining about it later. =P

    Would you have slept with them if you were sober? NO! they were nice but not that nice.

    How awkward is that morning after?
    pretty akward- i usally get up and say "ummm I gotta go to the gym. i cant miss my group class" Then i Bolt!! but i do go to the gym....so that is not a total lie :p

    Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have? YES...nuff said

    If you could do the night over what would you change? I would not have taken that last drink....that put me over the edge.

    Have you ever gotten caught out there by someone you met online but didn’t look like their profile picture? YES at a club but i was with someone else so i just looked past him like i couldnt see him it was "too dark"

    Do you think that it’s dishonest to misrepresent yourself online? YES!!! I don't lie about what i look like and neither should u!!

    Do you think that sites like BlackPlanet are more about hooking up than actual networking? YES

    Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days? YES i met a few nice guys and some not so nice guys on there.

    Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house? NO

    Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards? NO..u snooze u loose!

    What’s your worst New Year’s night ever? I almost died in a club when the crowd when crazy for the money drop and ppl started falling and cuz i am really short (4'11) and ppl fell on top of me i was semi buried under a shitload of ppl....SCARIEST NYE EVER!!

  • http://www.youngbrothas.com YB

    Has happened to me a few times. Not recently thankfully!

  • http://www.traumaanddrama.blogspot.com Ms. Sylaneous

    HAHAHA... again- great post.

    Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk?
    ~Yes. 2 different relationships. And 1 'shoulda been' relationship. All 3 situations 2+ years, so it wasn't a 'one night stand' kinda fling.

    Would you have slept with them if you were sober?
    ~Yep! LOL and if 1 of the 3 called right now, I'd have to thank my lucky stars that he lives so far away! I'd sooo want to! :-)

    Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have?
    ~Well, going back to the one guy I was referring to previously. I should have because it was a decision we both made. I shouldn't have because it was a decision we never should have decided upon. LOL

    If you could do the night over what would you change?
    ~only his mental status...to change our relationship status first!

    Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days?
    ~ (sigh) I guess I can admit this now... but the 'recent' ex was from BP. Met there in 2003, met face to face a year later...and went relatively well from then until 2009! LOL

    Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house?
    ~ You PROBABLY should have rethought going over drunk. You guys had been speaking, so you obviously entertained the thought of her as a friend. Coulda/Shoulda waited til the sober day to 'hang out' or what not... (shurgs) I dont know...

    Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards?
    ~nope- because you were not interested in her.. only horny. And who cares that she says, 'I don't want to boo u up'. THAT IS either 1 of 2 things: 1- A LIE or 2- pure sign that she does this type of thing wayyy too often (and would you want to bang somebody like that? LOL)

    What’s your worst New Year’s night ever?
    Umm I think New Years in 2007 or 2008. Was TOOOO wasted. I did VERY well at the party, the downward spiral happened as soon as we hit the drive way. I got out the car and literally HIT the drive way. My friend was about to back over me in her car!!! She said she saw the house door still open, was waiting for me to come close it. She got out and walked behind her car to close my door, but tripped over me! I finally got in the house, crawled to the bathroom. Woke up next morning ON the toilet, face in carbage can and toilet broken. NOT= 'wont flush' broken, but water alll over the floor broken! LOL TO THIS DAY None of us can figure out what I did to break the WHOLE toilet! LOL Fun night...

  • bogart4017

    Precisely why i stay at home if i want to get tipsy, pick away the car keys and turn off the phone.

  • DC Man With a Plan

    That was madd funny! Everyone gotta learn things at their own pace and in their own time. The sites you mentioned aren't real deep on networking, but meeting ppl with common interests CAN turn into business opportunities, you just have to be focused on what you're trying to be about. You should have followed your first instincts and left that azz alone.....But you did good by not going back. That's the thing about one night stands and quickies with newbies: they can bring about awkward, unbalanced moments unless everyone KNOWS and agrees what it is. Yo, you live and learn and ol'girl is wiser now too......drunken attempts at sex are usually "not a goodlook.com" coming soon! lmao

  • Avah Royal

    Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk?
    ~Yes.

    Would you have slept with them if you were sober?
    ~No.

    How awkward is that morning after?
    ~OMG, I was awful, bc I had to bring him home. ThatsABadLook.com
    Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have?
    Yes

    If you could do the night over what would you change?
    ~Not drinking, not talking to him, not bringing him home, not letting him blow my back out.

    Have you ever gotten caught out there by someone you met online but didn’t look like their profile picture?
    ~Thankfully no.

    Do you think that it’s dishonest to misrepresent yourself online?
    ~Ya Dayum Skippy!

    Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days?
    ~Met a couple guys from myspace a few years ago. We're still friends...

    Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house?
    ~Blame it on the acohol.

    Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards?
    ~Negative.

    What’s your worst New Year’s night ever?
    Never really had a bad one...just bad Mardi Gras

  • Siante J

    1. Have you ever hooked up with someone while you were drunk?- Nope. What the fuck for? Drunkness ain’t cute on either a man or woman I wanna fuck.

    2. Would you have slept with them if you were sober? All who I’ve fucked and been fucked by have been sober. That’s the only way to do.

    3. How awkward is that morning after?- Not too often. Only because it’ll be the moment before before it’s even an act (mean ain’t shit jumping if that feeling before it comes over).

    4. Have you ever slept with someone you knew you shouldn’t have? – Sure, but I was invited and who was I to turn it down. Sex with a couple is a wonderful thing and they enjoy it just as you do. And I damn sure did.

    5. If you could do the night over what would you change? – More oral, well-kept feet to suck and a prostate massage

    6. Have you ever gotten caught out there by someone you met online but didn’t look like their profile picture? Sure. But we gonna talk before ANYTHING goes further. If you lie, guest what, guess who’s really gonna be out there.

    7. Do you think that it’s dishonest to misrepresent yourself online?- Hell yeah. Makes a brotha not rush to hook up until AFTER seeing live and direct and talking. Then again, that would be too much like right.

    8. Do you think that sites like BlackPlanet are more about hooking up than actual networking? Yeah. But then again, then for some people hooking up is a way of networking.

    9. Did you ever hook up with someone off there back in the days? Sure, but after 3 weeks had elapsed. I may be a brotha who gets it in, but I ain’t stupid for all season.

    10. “ Was I wrong for going to Jessica’s house? Should I have taken her up on her offer afterwards? What’s your worst New Year’s night ever?” Yes and now. Yes where the alcohol takes over, before the alcohol, NOPE.

  • Nate

    Gullty.

    I slept with a woman that I didn't like and not my type, and the morning was filled with regret.

  • badd

    Um , i've never slept with someone while i was drunk , but who has never slept with someone they shouldnt have before , because i know for a fact i have . it was dumb , but now we are good friends , i only did it because i was in love with him and i thought it would make him care about me , i was wrong . it didnt change our status only made things more weird , i was embaressed and it hurt being that it was my first time being with anyone and it was weird , he was talking and i wasnt turned on when we were doing it ,he obviously was . ewwww . well now i want to get close to some one else , not sexually . but im scared because i did the do with fabo .

  • MissJ82

    Forgive me for the super-late comment, but I just got hip to your blog today and call myself catching up, lol! So far, me likey! :-D

    So yeah, I had to chuckle when I saw this title b/c I too had some regrettable sex this past NYE with a guy I met on BP (oh, the irony!)! in undergrad like 9-10 years ago. I was near the end of a 4-year off/on relationship and figured "Hell, my soon-to-be-ex-for-good has probably been sleeping around on me all this time while I've been Miss Goody-2-Shoes... it's time to kick the new year off on a new note!"

    My BP friend (who I'd met in person years ago) and I had always been attracted to one another but the timing was always off, but since he was in town for the holidays and I was in "Fuck 'em girl" mode (cue Martin), I figured the time was now right. You know how it is when you been fantasizing about sex with a particular person for sooooooo long and the opportunity finally presents itself. Long story short, we did it and to quote Randy Jackson, "Dude, it just wasn't great for me" :-O I felt super-bad b/c he thought it was so great, meanwhile I'm over there faking. He's still a friend so it's not like I can just stop talking to him forever b/c of that, but I will NEVER go there again with him, that's for sure! LOL!

    Another case of "When Bad Sex Happens to Good People".....

  • Shenice85

    I've never been too drunk to the point where I didn't know what I was doing, but the one time I did have sex while intoxicated was honestly, the best I've had so far. The morning after was shameful, yet exciting at the same time bcuz it was something I hadn't done b4. I know I wouldn't have done it if I was completely sober. I didn't realize it was 'best so far' until last year. Since then nothing has really compared or came better, so now I'm just waiting, not settling for less, and locking down temptation until the Man for me ignites my fire again.

  • Tejan

    You should have fucked her. It might have been good. LOL.