Does [Breast] Size Matter? (What Real Men Think)

0 Posted by - February 19, 2010 - Relationships, Love & Marriage

Tiffany Pollard as Monroe

MR. CARPENTER
“Completely flat, like she doesn’t need to wear a bra? Nah, I don’t think I want to do that. Anything is possible, I just choose not to at this moment. I’m pretty forgiving when it comes to women’s bodies. We’re human and none of us are perfect, but if she’s a carpenter’s dream (flat as a board) then I’d have to pass. It would be like dating a child. The thought of that makes me a lil sick in my stomach. As for a disproportioned broad—a chick built like a candy apple—I can’t fuck with that either. I need some kind of breast; it helps define femininity to me. I’m no stone cold breast man but I need at least a B cup; something to fill a bra out in some way. Overall, I think it has to do with society’s perception of women and it’s fascination with breasts. They are the fountains of life, so to speak, and we all want to drink from it.”

MR. GPA
“I don’t equate breast size with femininity. General curviness and a sexy walk (legs and hips, and shoulders and neck all count, too), eyes, smile, complexion, personal style—I’d rank these above breast size… My eyes don’t go right to the chest, personally. Hopefully I’ve racked up enough checkmarks in the other categories so if she is flat chested, it’s, “Oh, small up top. Well, that’s cool ’cause A) the body is banging B) the smile is irresistible C) the skin is delicious D) the eyes make me wanna get her alone and see what’s really good. So no I’m not completely turned off on that alone, and yes a banging batti definitely brings her total GPA (gorgeous pt. avg.) up… To see a woman with a great rack AND backside AND all the other components is to see a woman with a line of dudes a block long following her and trying to get her attention with pickup lines!”

MR. DESTINY
“Breast size never really mattered to me, but then again, I’m an ass man. Sometimes it even seems like a fatty means a women is destined to be a part of the itty bitty titty committee. For instance, chicks who run track are generally banging below the waist and lacking up top. But as long as they’ve got a tight wig and grill, they’re good to go. But to answer your question, no, I don’t equate breast size with femininity. That seems like a convention of beauty started by Europeans to champion their women’s greatest asset. You know, John Mayer style…. The first thing that comes to mind when I see a women with a minus A is, what’s she working with back there? I almost expect it to be a treat. If nothing’s there, she’s not even a blip on the radar. A flat chest will be overlooked in favor of a fat ass on any day.”

MR. AWKWARD MOMENT
“I’ve dealt with women of all shapes and sizes. Most of the women I’ve been were in the C’s and below except for a couple of chicks who had D’s and one who had a size F (and they weren’t droopy but firm and perky—ah, memories… LOL).
I do recall one time being with a women who had no breasts whatsoever. She was a petite woman with a very beautiful face and sexy figure who had a nice fluffy for her size. She worked in fashion, so her dress and walk was mean. She had all the qualities any man would want in a woman—and she loved sports! But after a few sexual encounters—although the sex was very good—I couldn’t get past the fact that she was flat chested. It was a little weird when I would gaze down at her while in the act and I would feel as though she wasn’t a fully developed women, despite the fact she was in her 20s. Ultimately, it did effect our relationship and things ended shortly after. I’m not completely against small breasts, but I think I may be slightly bothered if there’s nothing at all.”

MR. BOOBIES ON A BUDGET
“If I see a chick with a flat chest, she absolutely must have a phat ass to even be considered in the running. Even in that case, you’ll always be thinking, ‘Damn, if only she had the titties to match.’ Thinking long term, we ain’t all the way out of this recession yet, and no brother on a budget wants to have the, ‘Maybe I should get implants’ (read: help me pay for them) convo. Mind you, a woman can be very feminine without a booming chest, but breasts are just too much fun to play with.”

MR. HOMIE DON’T PLAY THAT
“A minus cups do subtract from a woman’s femininity a bit because breasts are a part of a woman’s attractiveness. But they can easily be offset like any physical characteristic a woman may have. Gorgeous face with a fat ass and A cups ain’t that bad at all. Flat ass, though, is an absolute no no.”

MR. BLUNT
“If her chest is small/flat, EVERYTHING else better be BANGING. Otherwise I’ll pass. Breasts just kinda separate the girls from the women.”

Do you equate breast size to femininity? Do you view women who are flat chested differently then women that are well endowed? Were any of female readers teased for being flat chested? At what age did you finally grow out? If you never did, do you feel intimidated by women who are bigger up top or are you comfortable with your body? Have you ever contemplated implants? Any top heavy women that wish they were smaller? Why? Fellas, do you view flat chested women differently? Are you able to overlook a flat chest for a big booty/personality? Does breast size matter to you?

Speak your piece…

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  • mizze

    UMMMM. First off, can you please do another post about men!! lol.. Im sorry but this sounds just like the other think tank you had with men…I know we have two things to be judged on (T&A) but I think the next post in this seemingly continuing body-debate HAS to be something about a man’s abs or that damn v-thing that lead to their “manhood”!!! HOTNESS!!! Damn ya’ll got other parts us females JUDGE on too..BELIEVE ME!!

    But I digress..

    I have always had tits so that was never a problem.. I have a pretty nice package behind me, but nothing to brag about at all.. I am a perfect full C, low D and dont want to be any bigger or smaller.. The bigger they are, the lower they are going to sag..sorry but its the truth.. I do envy women with smaller breasts sometimes because they can go bra-less and i would just love to do that sometimes.. I dont think it has anything to do with femininty because I believe Zoe Saldana is GORGEOUS and she has NO breasts, is she less of a woman? NO. Is she less attractive? NO. Is she less successful? Possibly but she is doing very well for herself.

    I think everyone judges everyone else..we women are just so competitive that we say something about any woman we see- but the thing that men dont seem to get is that its not always negative.. I see women with smaller breast and they tend to be thinner as well which is something most women want to be..

    I think that this whole breast vs. ass or what men think about this and that is only further causing women to hate one another as well as themselves..crap about breast implants, ass-injections, booty pads is only getting worse because women lean so heavily on having what men want and if they dont they are going to extreme measures to get. Is it really that deep? I would like to see what these “Think Tank” men look like personally.. NOT THROWING SHADE.. but I know men who say they want a dime piece but they aint worth two pennies..

    But thats just MY opinion…

    • Jimbeam

      Zoe Saldana is gorgeous, but you are wrong she does have breasts. She has very nice breasts, I like smaller size. As a male I don't like 'big breasts' and think that the media have created an environment where women feel they have to have big breasts. I think men don't care about size generally, they just like something. An personally small B cup is my favorite size. But having nothing is a bit disappointing. I currently have a gf who is flaty-chested and really like her personality and am very attracted towards her but feel sometimes that I would like to see the beauty of a pair of breasts again, and that I might have a one night standard just to see them again. This is worrying.

      • bonkylou

        Its sad. And if u ended up with a bigger breasted woman what would u think of her when they began to sag and flatten out? Cheat on her too? It shouldn’t all be about physical. If you were a good man, this thought wouldn’t cross your mind. Hope ur girl figures it out sooner than later …..poor chick

  • http://www.traumaanddrama.blogspot.com Ms. Sylaneous

    Ya know… I don’t know if I’m supposed to comment on this post or not, BUT- I will…LOL If i”m not, then delete my comment…

    Personally, I’m kinda sick of hearing ‘what women want/like, what men want/like’. You know why?!?! BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT WE SAY… we tend to still NOT gravitate towards it! (I say ‘WE’ in an effort to NOT single no particular gender out…Imma lump us all together).

    For example: I’ve heard this from guys, ‘I’m not really down for the weaves, and fake nails, and the fake eyelashes and stuff… give me a natural woman, and that’ll be fine with me’. ALLL of that sounds good, but I have YET to see many guys get all googly eyed over the India Aire’s out here. I’ve heard that and STILL see guys going bananas over Keri Hilson, Beyonce, Nicki Manaj (or however she spells her name). Don’t get me wrong- these women are beautiful to me…drop dead beautiful! BUT ummm even if it’s short hair (Keri Hilson), it’s PROBABLY still a weave… (FYI- not all of us wear weaves to ‘trick’ people… some of us do it as an ‘accessory’… I mean I might want a short ‘do’ with out cutting my hair, so I track it. I might want hair to my shoulder one month, and I can’t sprinkle fertilizer in it to make it grow, so I track it… I dont’ do it because I don’t think what I have is ‘good enough’… it’s just a part of my wardrobe…AND for people like the celebs I named…do you REALLY think they are gonna wear their real hair out and get it damaged with all of the stying and stuff they have to do? Ummm Imma go with ‘probably not’!) And I’m almost sure, that they all wear fake nails and eyelashes…SOOO my question is- why PREACH one thing you ‘want’ but ignore that when you see it on the street and google eye after the ones on tv? POSSIBLY leading us women to think that maybe I DO have to get acrylic nails to get your attention… or get long blonde weave to get your attention and what not… c’mon now fellas… just say you like the fake look…LOL it’s what you slobber over! It’s just PC to say the other stuff….
    AND ya’ll can say what ya’ll want to, but breast size and/or butt size DO matter to you fellas… unless she’s rich and willing to be a ‘suga moma’. LOL…then she can be flat as a board on top and back, and you’ll stick by her as long as the bank is a fatty. Sure Zoe is a pretty girl, BUT if she wasn’t famous, that’s the lable she’d get was ‘cute’ and chances are she’d be looked over on the ‘normal streets’. I think some of ya’ll (NOTICE I SAID SOME) would rather date a Tiffany New York Pollard (cow lookin heffa) cause she got new fake boobs than a cute lil Zoe because she has NO boobs…(and she’s such a petite young lady, she may not have much of a bottom either…*shrugs*). SO sure… say ‘size doesn’t matter’… but what you DO/DATE/SWOON OVER often times tells a different story than what your mouth/comments/fonts are saying…

    Personally for me- I like FOOTBALL big men…. But Imma equal-size opportunity dater… (LOL) I like muscular men… but I mean look at me… I’m ‘aight’ but I”m far from 100% toned, so why am I gonna discriminate against a ‘not so toned’ fella?!!?

    (sigh) I think that will be all for now…
    hehehehehehe!

  • Classic Ruby

    I am a black girl who has a bum I like to call “petite” lol. I have always had a love affair with my breasts, pretty much as soon as I grew out of the horrified pre-teen tomboy stage, but my bum has always haunted me, as I generally find my attractions to be geared toward black men, and specifically black men who are ass men :-s. But that being said, it has never stopped me from feeling like I am uber sexy, definitely the hottest in the room (not in a bitchy, conceited way, because I love being in the presence of beautiful women, and I appreciate beauty in all shapes, sizes and endowments and can admit it to myself and to everyone else around me. My parents raised me with a very healthy level of self confidence, so I always feel like I am the shit. And I have no reason to look at other women and find anything but their personal hotness factors because of my healthy attitude towards myself and my appearance)

    I don’t think that a woman’s femininity has anything to do with her breast size, although I think for many women breast size does play a huge role in their self confidence and self esteem: primarily because social influences and the media generally tell women that if they don’t measure up to some North American ideal that they aren’t good enough. As a result, although I think femininity, sexiness, and general gorgeousness are not attributed to any particular endowment, many of the women you find that have the most healthy of self confidences and self concepts probably aren’t lacking dramatically in any one area, and are definitely making up for any shortcomings in another. Of course, this doesn’t have to be the case, just what I have observed. Women like Aaliyah (my idol *tear*) or Angelina Jolie do not have the fabulous T&A and yet are two of the most gorgeous and sexy women, IMO. So, again IMO, it has so much less to do with what’s on the outside as with whats on the inside.

    While I personally can say I have converted some die hard ass men into breast men, I can also say I don’t think it’s because I am SO spectacular as to change hardened facts into whatever I will them to be lol. I think that while many people have a “type”, the preference probably has less to do with the actual physical attributes and more with the type of woman/man (personality and character wise) they associate with those attributes. Not to say some men aren’t die-hard boob/ass lovers and can’t live without it, but I think for the most part women need to stop dissecting themselves, appreciate and flaunt what they got, and stop worrying about the perceived “flaws”…real men will pick up on how much you love you and want a chance to see what all the fuss is about!! ;-)

  • mizze

    @ Ms Sylaneous

    GIRL!!! I remember saying the SAME thing on another post on here awhile back (maybe it wasnt this site..hummmm..well i dont know)!!!! I tell ALL my friends that same shit.. men will sit there and say they want ass and tits and be walking around with a freaking Paris Hilton..Something aint adding up.. and I heard the same thing from every dude I have EVER talked to- “I like a natural chick” but everytime we would go to the club or restaurant, they trying to holla at the chick with the weave down her back.. Im not saying men are hypocrites or they really dont know what they want, Im just saying im confused!! I dont get it.. Maybe somebody can clear it up for me

  • http://spinsterstravels.wordpress.com Spinster

    Men are hypocrites. That is all.

  • lola289

    shallow hypocrites… lol!

    but we luv ‘em… *rolling eyes*

    p.s. Is that New York in the 2nd pic?

  • shenice85

    I totally agree with Mizze & Ms. Sylaneous. I thought I was the only one thinking that there’s a bit of hypocrisy going on with SOME men & their “preferences”. Some women do the same thing. I think it all boils down to confusion within themselves; that they don’t even know what they really want.

    Although I’ve never been in the itty bitty titty committee (except childhood), it is insightful to see other men’s opinions on the subject.

  • da ThRONe

    There are so many other things about females that screams “I am a woman dammit” besides breast. I think its a female core area more then whats up top.

    As far as me judging a female its more about her being proportionate. Especially when it comes to breast. But like mizze already pointed out. There are some things (1main thing really) that supercede T&A. I really like women’s soft skin for instance.

  • justme

    Wellllllllllllll lets see imma keep it real size does matter on all accounts booty breast size the Big D notice i said big. As for me im a good size C good day D love my girls and I have serve my man a full course meal right of my booty but……… One of family members has those i really don’t know what bra size that could b chest but it did not come rack i brought my bra from ( E-f something like tht). She has no booty but gets mad play and it works for her .Now on the other hand i have a friend who is white and shes about a c and no booty no where and the white boys give her no play wht so ever. I think for white boys they will over look the no but they just not used to all that back there n e way but no boobs to them its a Helll no.And keeping it real i do not like taking pic with my fam with the extra girls because her rack makes my full girls look like less thn a mouthful………… truth hurts!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    On a whole diff set of breast wtf is up with the man breast and i know u know what im talking about the men walking around that look like they need to borrow a bra ………tht is not cute at all and it seems to b becoming a trend or something i see it at the club wal mart mall grocery tht is just not right!!!!!!!!!!! U cant decide if u need to grab hold to them bad boys or hell if he suppose to grab urs ( guess u cld do both if tht works for u)

  • da ThRONe

    LOL@ women calling men hypocrites.

    You guys should be glad we can look past our preference to find a mate. Trust most black men ideal lady looks more like Alicia Keys than Paris Hilton.

  • http://www.traumaanddrama.blogspot.com Ms. Sylaneous

    @ da ThRONe I didn’t call men hypocrites… I may have HINTED at it *wink wink* but I didn’t ‘say’ it! LOL I just think that sometimes the mouths say things the actions don’t match with…that’s all I’m saying..

    And true (about lookin past the preferences)… I’m so not a lil girl (5’7 205 hard to believe, but not the ‘sloppy’ kind ya kn,ow, I was an ‘athlete’ up until last year when I got lazy! LOL) so I’d PREFER a ‘not so lil fella’, BUT the guy who has surfaced, and resurfaced, and resurfaced again in my life who I am ABSOLUTELY crazy about is so super skinny (like 6’2ish MAYBE 175 lbs- although he says more)…LOL *awwww* He’s like a lil earthworm…a long tall human earthworm..LOL but I like it… *shrugs* LOL So we look past our PHYSICAL preferences into our heart’s desires…

  • mizze

    @da Throne

    Yeahhhhhh.. OK..preference and what I see them with are two different things.. MY PREFERENCE is Reggie fuckin Bush but am I walking around with that?? NO!.. lol.. and TRUST, that is the preference most black women (as in being sexy, successful and got a sculptured body) look for in a mate.. I just find it amazing some men (not saying YOU) act like women dont look past OUR preferences to find men…HA.. that is LAUGHABLE.. trust me! I think that EVERYONE needs to be happy EVERYONE ELSE looks past preferences because I think there are more people than not trying to choose up when they need to be happy they get to choose at all..

    And I do think some men are hypocrites and that is coming from the standpoint that men can be overweight, have saggy man-titties, no job, face decent AT BEST but want a Beyonce looking female.. Im sorry that may be MY experiences, but experiences shape perceptions.. NOT saying ALL men are like this.. if someone gets offended maybe they fall in that category of hypocrisy.. and not saying women arent hypocrites as well but this is a post on men so I will respond as such

    *kanye shrug*

  • Elle

    Thought No. 1:
    Maybe THAT is the key to Shannon’s problem: the circle she runs in consists of nothing but white folks. And we all know how white men all over the globe drool over Pam Anderson and the like: stick boney, no butt and huggggge breasts. Of course she is going to get a lot of unwanted attention from them.
    Just saying ….

    Thought No. 2: I have to agree with Mizze. Men are quite hypocritical. Especially how she described mediocre looking guys EXPECTING to date Beyoncé-like women. Come on. Seriously? Whatever happened to dating within one’s league. If you’re not Tyson Beckford or Boris Kodjoe don’t act like you have any right to ridicule or talk down to women who do not look like B.

    As for the tittie topic … *shrugs* … is this a way to trick us into stating our bra size?

  • distinguishedgentlewoman

    I’m a card-carrying member of the IBC (Itty Bitty Committee), and feel that I’m blessed. I used to dance in my younger years, and felt fortunate not to have anything hindering my movement. I don’t feel less feminine because I’m not as well endowed in the breast area as other women. The females on my mother’s side of the family are all pretty HUGE up there. One of my cousins had to have a breast reduction. I’ve always felt lucky that I favored the females in my father’s family—small.

    I’ve been made fun of in front of my face and behind my back. But I have NEVER been bothered by any of it, because I’ve ALWAYS been pretty comfortable in my own skin. I have more important things to think about.

  • BMW2K

    Men aren’t hypocrites, its just that their dick wants something different than their brains.

    I was 34-20-32 when I was 14. How do I know that? I was measured for a prom dress and the A-Hole tailor thought it pertinent to let the whole fricken dress shop know. I am now a 34 DD.

    I don’t give a hoot what any man says. Most try to be PC when asked that type of question, but ALL males initially drool over large breasts – period. What separates the men from the boys is ability to get past the breasts and see the female behind them.

  • rwifey

    re: MR. COMPLETE

    the name mr. complete far from suits you.

    that it!

  • Songboy3

    I think breasts are important in some contexts and irrelevant in others.

    Large breasts can be that thing that makes a man approach a woman but they won’t be the thing that keeps him there. You better have something else going on ‘cuz if not, he’ll always be looking for the next big pair to come along.

    And of course, if you’re a woman with an out-sized personality and just have it going on in so many other ways, you might be sexy as hell to him, before the thought of your bosom really comes into the picture.

    I know a young woman from Harlem, who is a member of the IBTC (figure it out, y’all) but you wouldn’t care because of her presentation. She is definitely one of the sexiest women I’ve had the pleasure of knowing (not intimately, unfortunately-almost but not quite!) and she is an INCREDIBLY feminine creature. When I first met her in a professional capacity (I’m a musician), I never really thought of her in a sexual context. That just wasn’t where my head was. She was attractive but I was elsewhere. But as I got to know her, she seemed to become this amazingly beautiful & sexy woman with whom I was totally enamored with for a while.

    That being said: Breasts are cool, beautiful, sexy, amazing even….

    But they don’t close the deal.

  • No No

    Do you equate breast size to femininity?

    To some degree, we’re woman and it separates us from men.

    Do you view women who are flat chested differently then women that are well endowed?

    Yes, I feel bad for them. I’m sure they would like a litttle something up there.

    Were any of female readers teased for being flat chested? When I was 12… boys are cruel. I’m not even a teen yet and they want to see breast. Men hmph!

    At what age did you finally grow out? 13 or 14. Gradually went from A to small B

    If you never did, do you feel intimidated by women who are bigger up top or are you comfortable with your body?
    I don’t feel intimidated by women who have more. To each their own. Personally, I hate my breast now. 36D and its annoying. Others might like it but not me.

    Have you ever contemplated implants? N/A
    Breast Reduction on the other hand..ALL the time! But its expensive so for now Im in the gym 5 days a week trying to reduce them.

    Any top heavy women that wish they were smaller? ME!!

    Why? I wish I can take fat and tissue from my breast and put them to my butt. I like black men..correction Love them and they love butts, they can be happy with a little ass but they want a fat ass! Shit even I do. Fat asses look better than big tits (no homo) but unfortunately I’m a Dominican chick that didn’t get blessed with the enormous ass some of my cousins got. There IS something down there ( it aint flat..thank god!) but I wish I had a big donk lol Hopefully these squats n other exercises work to give me more back there!!

  • SaveMe

    I dont want to be with any man that is going to look at my breast all day. Come on grow up already. We are all picky and know what we like and dislike in a person. We all want to be happy and if you are not happy with your body then do something about

  • Music man…

    “The smaller a woman’s breasts the better her face has to be.”

    I concur!

  • Shequita

    I think I mighta came out the womb with boobs…I can’t remember not having something there! DD’s I wish they were smaller. Most black men see them as a plus for the total package, most white men can’t stop damn staring at them!! They can be too much sometimes, but I love them. I wouldn’t be proportionate without them. I dont think men are hypocrites any more than women!

    Mr. Carpenter was a mess lol!

  • Da Son

    Big breasts are dope! Hence the multi-million dollar per month breath enhancement business, there are some Plastic Surgeons that only do breast jobs and still afford the Benz, the yacht, the summer home..you feel me?

    I raise my hand -I like BIG BREASTISIS!

    I have noticed the women are tripping, I did not got soft ( pun intended) when the shorties were in search of Mandingo, it is is what is it is. You like a big dick we like big breast ( well I do ) We all know what we like, but how many of us know what we need?

    I like the complete package, brains, beauty, butt and boobs and all of my serious relations the women were rocking like that.

    If a chic is deficient in ANY of those areas she will not make my starting team. Got to make cuts before the season starts!

    She may be a member of the practice squad for a minute, but only a minute. Call me shallow but you will never get what you want if you do not know what you want.

    Side note-

    The reason boogerwolf brotha, who is overweight, with man boobs THINKS he can get a B type is because YOU women place such a premium on loot, having a man if he works on ( getting his mouthpiece, money, status right ) he can!

    I have been broke, jobless, car less and never ever suffered the lack of female companionship I keep it real and told the women what my situation was from jump and it was all good. The truth will set you free and spread legs.

    The trick to getting beautiful women is confidence.The beginning and end.

    If you do not have confidence, a big dick you better have money!!!

  • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ Tunde

    i’m cool with any breast size as long as it fits your frame. if you are 5’1″ and weight 110 pounds there is no way you should have DD’s. really i don’t want them falling to your waist either when you take your bra off. all i really need is a mouthful. *shrug* perky breasts look better to me also.

  • da ThRONe

    1st there is no substitute for a cute face none.

    Second most people are hypocrites reguardless of gender. Its stem from the selfishness that I continue to talk about that plagues our society in so many ways. People expectations of others far exceed their own expectations.

    Any body part is a personal opinion of it importance. I am a bigger fan of a nice stomach and Big DSL’s way before breast.

    And just for the record this still doesnt sqaure us with the “Does a man Penis size matter”. This is just a farther break down of the last the T&A blog. So if your a breast man then size matters if your not then you probably could care less. But this has no impact on actual sex like a sex organ. Come on Ans get this right.

  • N2Deep

    I like most men love eye candy but I hate all the stereotypes that effect people and their self esteem. I don’t think size should matter but hell society has dictated everything for longer than most of us can even remember. BIg and long (fill in the blanks)________usually gets some kind of pass cause its desireable. People look at hair, face and body first. Clothes, shoes, cars, money and status next and then eventually get to the point of beginning to know a persons heart. That is most of the problems why people can’t find anybody.

    I am one that loves me some India Airie and Heater Headley because they are both beautiful and they are expressive. They have nice bodies but to me I’m all in when I can look into your eyes and never get tired. Size is nice but I wish it wasn’t such an issue because it causes a lot of hurt to some people.

  • Shannon

    Well, I will admit I had major problems growing up regarding my breast development. I was such a tomboy; I was into just about every sport known to me and there weren’t any girl teams fo rme to join, so I played with the boys. I didn’t see myself as different so I considered myself one of the guys.

    I was about seven when my P.E. teacher sent a note home with me to give to my mother; the note said, approximately, “Please get a her a bra. She’s shaking too much and distracting my softball games,” and there I was, the only second grader wearing a B cup.

    I was in a D cup by the time I was in fifth grade. Obviously I was more noticeable by then and playing football became more of a problem; I was tackled even more at this point and most of the time I didn’t even have the damn ball, lol!

    I was wearing a 36 DD in seventh grade and by this time most, if not all, the other girls in school shut me out of the social circle. Girls being girls–anyone ever saw Mean Girls?–they spread rumors that I stuffed my bra, wore a water bra or had implants–funny, lol–and would often help boys sneak into the locker room to watch me change for gym.

    By high school, I was into a 36H. Playing football was now completely out of the question and playing basketball was becoming increasingly difficut–sports bras don’t come in such large sizes–as well as running track. When I ended up with a black eye–from hitting myself in the face with my own boobs (how embarassing is that?) during a track meet–my participation in sports ceased. By this time, it was known around school–thanks to a few messy females I had gym class with–that I was all natural and willing to sleep with anyone. Well, that was something I never did, but it didn’t stop the rumors. I simply went on with my business.

    By the time I was in my early twenties, I’d ballooned up to a 36J. By this time, I’d been married–buried him four years later–and had two children; I guess breastfeeding made my problems worse because the outfits I looked great in pre-baby made me look like a Jessica Rabbit double post-baby and I had to pack that stuff up and buy new clothes for my new shape. This was easier said than done; it didn’t matter what I chose, I just really stuck out. It was at this point in my life when the whole problem with men approaching me came into play. I had no way of knowing things would get worse in the future.

    Now at 30, I’m a whopping 36 MM. I consulted a few surgeons about having a reduction, but because of my medical history, they recommended against it. I nearly didn’t survive the anesthetia from a previous surgery that left me in a 7-week coma and shouldn’t take the chance again. So I reworked my wardrobe and started back with the gym and tried to lose some size, but to no avail.

    I believed that at this point in life men had more maturity when it came to women’s bodies and thought nothing of putting on a long blouse–it has to be long for me–and a nice pair of jeans or a knee-length skirt and going to the movies or bowling or out to eat or to the bokstore near my house. Over the past five years, I’ve encountered some men at their best–or worst, depending on how you look at it–on the bullshit spectrum and I was informed it was my fault; change the way I dressed.

    I was always a conservative dresser, favoring activewear over jeans–I wore sweats practically everyday–so I decided to stick to jeans and no skirts. No dice. Crew-neck tops and button oxford to the top. Still got the same reaction and it was still my fault. So at present, I wear scrubs to work and sweats on my down time. My skirts and blouses and dresses still reside in their plastic from the dry cleaners , where they’ve been for the past three to nine months when I stopped wearing them. Even at my graduation, I kept my cap and gown on the whole time.

    The biggest problem I have–no pun intended here–is men who look at me and think I’m hypersexual or don’t take me seriously or treat me like a dumb broad. Even when I go to the gorcery store, the clerks treat me like I’m slow or stupid or something. Because this is something I’ve dealt with for so long, since junior high or so, it’s really wearing on me. In an effort to not be blamed or found at fault, I simply stay home and no longer socialize and I’m okay with that. It’s better than the alternative for me. Sometimes it’s really not the woman’s fault; if I had control over nature, I would have liked to avoid such a fate. Having big breasts is not all it’s cracked up to be.

  • mizze

    @ Da Son

    Lets refrain from putting all women into one category please =).. I completely see your point and agree only partially with it..but not ALL women are after money..Like i said, only SOME men, NOT all men do that because I learned a long time ago that people are not the same. When I first met my man, I thought he was fine, had a car and a job but still living with his moms and going to school..He has since moved up out of that situation but that did not deter me from speaking to him because he wasnt rollin in money, I HAD MY OWN- DIDNT NEED HIS.. Say “women with NO personal ambition in life to make their own money and be an independent women who knows the value of having a good man outside of vain reasons, are after a man’s loot”

    If you didnt have a job and all that and they were still by your side that’s great.. I just always desired a man to be on my level and if he wasnt, then we wasnt.. but hey that’s me

    *kanye shrug*

  • da ThRONe

    I said this in the T&A blog. If I like you then Im going to naturally lean towards your “strengths”. The only time phyical looks matters is if I cant find anything that attracts me to you. Clearly the more things you have going physically the more you’ll catch my eye ,but you dont have to be a 10 in my book for me to treat you like it.

    Once again if I can have sex with you I can date you.

  • DC Man With a Plan

    Yo, Classic Ruby…U startin to seem REAL nice..what U know good? Anyways, I’ma claim this RIGHT now, on behalf of ALL men:
    for all the women who said, hinted at, or think: “Men are quite hypocritical.” ….Especially how mediocre looking guys EXPECTING to date Beyoncé-like women.
    We are hypocritcal, but this is the price women PAY for NOT wanting to pay for dates; for NOT wanting to initiate the dating process…lmao..Yup, it comes back to THAT! We gotta walk across the room to holla at you, open your door, pay for every damn thing, so yeah, WE do want the Beyonce lookin chick, though we may look like Eddie monsta………You want it to be different, do the damn dating process DIFFERENT. Plus, fact is, MOST women don’t look like Beyonce or Keri Hilson anymore than most men are packaged like Reggie Bush. Everybody gonna have to be a lil more realistic at the end of the day to get coupled up. lmbao…..

  • DC Man With a Plan

    To the central question of the day: women in the itty-bitty committee CAN look appealing and sexy. Most magazine and TV models are skinny and flat chested, but they make it “look” sexy and appealing so a woman CAN make it work if she has attitude, confidence and carries herself “like that.” At the same time, seeing her naked and thinkin she’s a teeny bopper CAN also be a lil unnerving (I guess bcuz I have not had this issue). But I think personality, other physical charcteristic’s and strong attraction can over come breat size as an obstacle. Flat chested women have a lot of styles and clothes they can mack in and as long as there is enuff to put a tongue on–I think I could work with a flat liner rather easily….lol
    and I agree, women need to get another topic focused on their preferences and choices about men’s bodies bcuz this one and the one about T&A kinda put men ahead in the count. (It should be noted the blog owner IS a man…so we we as men should expect some preferential treatment…wink-wink)

  • Dave

    you know it’s funny.
    for the last two weeks i have read the at times shallow comments come in about dick size from ladies who did not pull their punches (you shouldnt have to, right? your opinion and choice) with very few comments from men. on a post that seeks answers from men about what we consider feminine, why are there so many women offering opinions on how hypocritical and shallow men are?
    no little dick brothers offered their whoa-is-me sob stories….

    now to the fun part:)

    you’re damn right size plays a part in how feminine a woman is. whether it’s tits or ass if you are not holding it down in one you are at a huge disadvantage. even the greatest ass lover will start to lose interest in a woman with tits like a teenage boy. that’s why so many women black and white get implants (tits and ass) nowadays. i have dated a couple of women below a b-cup and after a while it starts to bother me. i like to be titty-&ucked and small boobs do not cut it. a phat ass is great but after a while many men (not all) will start to recognize that ol girl is lacking a rack. women with larger boobs look better in most clothes. and most small-breasted women are very insecure about there lack of lady lumps.

    there are more than a few things the average woman is insecure about in regards to her body and i suspect not having boobs compounds the problem. i have found that the women i dated with boobs were less insecure about their bodies, which means they are more secure in the sheets, which means i have to do less lying to stroke the fragile and some times underestimated female ego. so even if we are ass men you better believe that at some point a woman’s flat chest is going to become a sticking point for someone involved.

    and beyonce? she is married to jay-z. as nas said: “what you think you getting girls now because of your looks?”

  • mizze

    @ DC Man With A Plan

    Since you used all my examples, I am going to take it as directed at me (as well as others lol).. And the FUNNIEST thing is that I never said hypocrite until my response to Da Throne, I said in my second comment “Im not saying men are hypocrites or they really dont know what they want, Im just saying im confused!! I dont get it..”..That is the funny thing, everyone ELSE said it.. And Like I said AGAIN was that not ALL men are like this, funny since NO man on here is pointing THAT out.. Oh, and another thing I said as WELL, is that WOMEN are hypocrites as well to the Da Throne as well..Oh and I could have SWORN I said that EVERYBODY needs to be happy they dont date preferences soley.. THIS IS COMEDY!! Dont do like people do the bible and take pieces of what they want to focus on and try to sum it all up for what they want to say.. I said in MY experiences and that was the ONLY thing I was basing it off of and since SO many men want to focus on that, DAMN, I guess I was right.

    And its even funnier how almost EACH man blamed the women for the hypocrisy..FUNNY!!! So we are responsible for your wanting a Beyonce type whom most are not worthy of?? This is comedy in here, Why dont men want to treat a woman like a woman- Its the natural process- men are the chasers! Men are the ones who pay on the first date. When has society changed SO MUCH that men look at this as a YOU-CAN-ONLY-LOOK-LIKE-THIS-TO-GET-TREATED-LIKE-THIS.. smh..Im not saying he should pay EVERY date but the first? Step yo game up if you have a problem with this..

    I guess MEN are responsible for the advent of golddiggers.. hummm.. can I be on to something?? Not women Like I said to Da Son ” women with NO personal ambition in life to make their own money and be an independent women who knows the value of having a good man outside of vain reasons, are after a man’s loot”..They say women only after the money, trying to get these NBA players, football phenoms and entertainers but they flaunt a lifestyle that any woman would want.. SO LETS BLAME MEN for living..

    *kanye shrug*- maybe Im just use to a different caliber of men.. *shrug*- not throwing shade

    and Sorry DC, you probably just got the bunt of it all..This was not to attack you as a person =) please dont take it the wrong way

  • http://www.traumaanddrama.blogspot.com Ms. Sylaneous

    I think I just read a comment about this post that was I guess, aimed towards more men to comment on, and a lot of women have commented instead. I say the comments could come from either side. Because it was posted for the guys to SAY IF SIZE MATTERED…and we (so I have seen) are posting to simply say… we don’t always SEE what you guys are SAYING…. I think if you’re a ‘butt’ man, you’d probably pay attention to me, but you’d end up staying around because BELIEVE IT OR NOT…there’s more than just a BUTT to me! And if you were a BOOB man, ummm, you’d probably pay attention to me, and again, you’d end up staying around because GUESS WHAT!!! my boobs are only A PART of me!

    (AND I come to edit my last post….I made a typo… he’s 6’5 3/4 not 6’2 AND I said he weighs about 175 in a sarcastic manner, BUT he SAYS he weighs 190… -sigh- we’ll go with that I guess! LOL)

  • da ThRONe

    DC Man is on point. Ladies want all the good things of dating and none of the bad. If our dating culture is the man pays for everything than he does the choosing. But we are the hypocrites. SMDH! So you end up with Biggie dating Faith. Thats the problem with being the hunted you dont get to choose the hunter.

  • http://www.traumaanddrama.blogspot.com Ms. Sylaneous

    @da ThRONEe I’m not afraid of paying for a date… I’m not afraid of ‘asking a guy out’ either… I just feel like the guy should be the initiator… (shrugs)… Attention is cool, but I don’t know if I really want to be ‘hunted or chased’… You ask me out…YOU pay…we hit it off, who knows how often I’ll pay and what not.

  • lola289

    lol@Elle it IS a way to find out our bra sizes…
    I thought that same way on the T&A post. :)

    Yea, when I was a kid I prayed to God for breasts like Dolly Parton…. she was hot in the ’80’s and I wanted to wear her dresses and get the attention… that said I was a weird kid! lol!
    Fast Forward… Now I am happy I don’t have her bra size…although I have a good size to work it!
    A few of my friends ‘carry’ the burden of G,H, JJJ,PP whatever sizes… They always get the assholes.
    (I understand Shannon!)

  • Irizle

    shallow and very hypocrites!!

    Im not blessed with big boobs but i’m alright with that because I know who I am and what I am about.

    If your not gonna date me because I”m lackin up there, then u are missing out big time.

    Be open never know what you will get! It might be the best ever! =)

  • da ThRONe

    @Ms. Sylaneous

    I do realize that makes you the exception not the rule right?

  • da ThRONe

    *You

  • da ThRONe

    While we are on the subject of breast. I would like to make a few points.

    1st I do not like fake ones. They just look so artificial.

    2nd with any body part IMO. Its more about a nice ______(fill in the blank) then just a big whatever. I dont want big huge sagging breast or a big huge undefined ass.

  • http://www.boxchronicles.blogspot.com Farrah B.

    @DC – LMAO you a funny dude.

    hmmm. I will admit that society CAN play a part on women and their insecurities but that’s only if they LET it. This whole T&A ish is for the birds. 90% of the dudes I have ever dealt with was bc I stepped to them. I wish I WOULD wait for a dude to holla – esp if I see something I am interested in. You mean chicks still WAIT for dudes to holla? WHERETHEYDODAT@?
    But since T&A is the subject, I digress. I have always been a small chested chick, but I’ve always been a runner with an athletic frame. My 34c’s fit my frame and I love em. Yea SOMEtimes I kinda wish they were a tad bit bigger but I have never had any complaints. I have an ass that makes them go wow, and even have a pretty face (or so they tell me bc all this is subjective) but what i know I DEF have is swag. My personality and confidence supercede anything else and I feel that that’s what ultimately attracts ppl. You can be the “baddest bitch” with a personality so disgusting that ppl won’t even recognize the looks anymore. The same goes with dudes…you can look edibly good but for some as soon as they open their mouths…IM DONE.

    Yea dudes say they have a type or would prefer a certain kinda chick but so so do chicks….To only deal with men and females that fit your type is just plain shallow and I’m better off bc I’m better than that.

    Just be you.

  • IBTCPrez

    Most of my life I felt insecure about my size (A or barely B cup). Even seriously considered implants. But as I got comfortable and more confident in my late 20s and saw what starts to happen to big breasts as they get older (and head south) I’m happy with my B cups. And besides the fact that I am also blessed with a “fatty” or a “fluffy” or whatever you guys call it (LOL) it really comes down to being confident in your body and yourself. To me that is the most attractive thing to a man.

    Being feminine is all about embracing your womanhood, not your breast size. Femininity comes in all shapes and sizes, (including women with naturals to the guy who said “long flowy hair”?? get reall)..but I digress…

    But back to the breast thing, if mine got bigger I’d embrace them but would rather people admire my face or my personality than my breasts.

  • DC Man With a Plan

    My Man, DaThrone been on top of his game these days. U gettin some azz again-son? lol…bcuz you been bringing it lately like you a brand new John….lol. I’ma have to use this one though….”Thats the problem with being the hunted you dont get to choose the hunter.” Now that’s the truth 4-sho….

  • DC Man With a Plan

    @ Mizze…There actually were like 4 women that used the “hypocrisy” term, and I was really quoting Elle, but it’s cool, you can call my name, baby….lol…It happens ALL the time! I’m all in for humor, games and fun. I’m not taking your attacks personal. U not gonna find me jumping into traffic or over-dosing for some B/S I read on-line or heard in person for that matter…I’m not that sensitive, sweetness. U know how we do. For every man crying…there’s like 10 women in tears. I’m not that dude, just as you might not be one of those chicks. But the odds are in my favor…..<—–smiling

  • Rastaman

    I have dated woman with large breast but it is not what attracted me initially. The ladies just happened to have them including other factors, physical and personal that attracted me. I grew up in a family of D cups but whenever I have scoped out a lady I am generally looking at the size and shape of her ass and how she moves.

    Men are not hypocrites because we express our physical preferences in the women we desire and then chase or end up with someone different. It just shows that what you desire, what you like and what you choose can vary because thats just how life unfolds. Ask a booty or a breast man if they would forsake having sex because the women weren’t as equipped as we desired and 9 out of 10 times you would get a no. We express these preferences because most of us have the option.

    Because once you lock yourself into only pursuing people with the physical preferences you desire, you significantly limit your opportunities.

    Sexuality is all about attitude, there are women out here who are as flat as a board but they create the illusion that they are a brickhouse. And there are brickhouses who are so uncomfortable with their bodies and their sexuality that we often wonder why everyone keeps running away. You just hope you end up with someone who is your whole package.

    But otherwise these convos are like talking sports and you know how men like to talk sports!!

  • DC Man With a Plan

    So Farrah B…U sayin you holla at dudes? Is that bcuz you’re in a sport that is less traditional for a woman to be interested in, but at the same time, has a good number of fellas doing the same type and style of races? Or…I’m just sayin…..U know like the South African chick..who they had to test bcuz she wasn’t the most….womanly looking woman…U not like that –right? Bcuz you’d definitely have to be aggressive to get a date lookin like Leroy even if your gov’t name is Lena! rofl….

  • mizze

    @ DC

    Well I’m glad..and I love the macho act.. Nice touch..why the need to compare yourself to women? Why the need to, I guess, ‘put down’ woman? There are some other issues there..but I guess..

    This was a interesting post. Though! I wonder what the next will be about..hummm.

  • mizze

    When did it become someone’s opinion was the only opinion? If someone feels a certain way then they do, if you don’t agree o well.. They are like assholes, everyone has one- just different shit comes out

  • http://brooklife.blogspot.com my two skeets

    okay…um I sort of don’t get it but i do.
    breast size equals femininity? nope doesn’t really factor in to me.

    do i like AA or DD? um really i don’t want to separate the parts from the whole. I can appreciate any size on any frame. I’m a man. I oogle.
    aesthetically i probably like b to c cups most but its all about sensitivity of the “girls” as i call em.
    honestly i love women head to toe. good god i can’t stress that enough…

    maybe i missed the point but i kind of take it or leave it breastwise. i love slim women, thick women, busty, itty bitty, backsides to put a cup on or smaller.. wait. no. i’m more backside than bust so i guess i’m not really into this discussion.

    just my two skeets on the matter.

    Questions for the ladies tho.
    How do you like your own cup size and does it matter to you how much attention they get versus you?

    does it really change who steps to you when they are more on display or not?

    b

    • vic

      b, glad to hear you like a lotta different shapes and sizes. variety is what its all abuot huh!

      to answer your question, i do not think it matters how much attention i receive. what kind of attention however, is important. ive been made fun of a lot, even recently as a 19 yr old. guys just need a few drinks and theyll say whatever comes to mind. so this kind of attention is kind of a big deal. im getting implants soon. it bothers me when people think that chicks do it for the attention. i actually dont think i will enjoy that. i just wanna feel normal, as i think most girls who opt for surgery can relate to.

  • SassyNoLA

    @nwso,

    why do my comments appear hours later or the next day? my computer acting funny… or you screening me? dont have all this n.o. come outta me right chea…

  • DC Man With a Plan

    Mizze…you’re funny…kinda cute. So, you think I compared MYSELF to women and was “acting” macho? You seemed to have gone OUT of your way to make me NOT feel attacked or offended, so I went out of my way to show you that the typical man is not easily offended, and in doing so, IMO, the only women who would feel a put down are ones who maybe have some self image problem, bcuz for real, saying women cry more than men isn’t a negative thing in my mind, but maybe yours(?) In my eyes, it is one of the least important factors that helps to differentiate men from women. ANd honestly, men have delayed maturity, stunted growth and medical issues bcuz of the old standard way of keeping everything in. I don’t consider “crying” especially for appropriate reasons a weakness. I guess you’re telling me more about you, than you’re correctly guessing about me, but still it’s no harm no foul.

  • mizze

    @DC

    Okay, I’m not wasting anymore time with babble..sorry..cuz with all the attempting to reverse psychoanalysis, are you attempting to convince? Me or yourself? Wish I could say we had an intelligible debate, but…..

    -And I’m out-

    *chuckle*

  • Mimi in the OC

    I guess I agree with a lot of the women but I am bothered by one thing.
    Why do many men (not all) assume that small breasts women are more likely to have confidence issues, and it was *dave* even suggested they might perform less in bed because of that…WHAT KIND OF BS REASONING IS THAT?
    A woman that lacks confidence lacks confidence overall. Although many feel LESS confident because they are small chested, just as many feel LESS confident because they have no ass, or because their face is not cute, or because they have a big stomach/no waist and the list goes on. Breasts is not a bigger source of lack of confidence than other physical “assets” and certainly not the cause of bad sexual performance (smh).

    The 2nd thing that bothers me is *DC Man with a Plan’s * explanation of why men have bigger expectations as far as women’s looks?
    Hopefully it is a joke *haha* because it is really lame. There are double standards for men, but there are double standards for women as well. You didn’t make em’ we didn’t either, but that’s how things roll for the most part, and that in most cultures. Sorry you were born on the male side of the spectrum, maybe you would rather be a woman?… Didn’t think so lol.

  • http://www.boxchronicles.blogspot.com Farrah B.

    @DC LTM

    If I see you somewhere and i find something intriguing enough about you that I’d like to knw more about then yes..I’m stepping to you. Stepping to you in a sense where I’m gonna be the one to say “hey how you doing” first. HELL NAAW I’m not doin it bc its less traditional to do..I’m doin it bc I feel like it. Dont get it twisted – dudes holla at me and thats cool by me, I’mjust sayin why wait?
    Trust me – I look NOTHING like that chick…LOL

  • Shannon

    @ lola289

    So you’ve seen up front and close just how men act toward women built like me! It’s a headache and a hassle and sometimes you just wonder what the hell happened to good old-fashioned manners sometimes! And it’s enough to make some women practically go into hiding; I know it did for me.

    I know most people believe in equality between the sexes. This is where things can get a little messy, especially if one encounters a very traditional person–such as myself who believes a man should pursue me, not the other way around, and I determine if he is worthy of my time and attention; I know it’s a quaint notion to most, but one that works–and they themselves are comtemporary. In a primitive way, men like to feel needed and if they don’t, they might hang around for the sex, but not much else, at least that’s the case for white men (that’s all I date) and I have yet to be proven wrong on that point., at least by white men. And I know this to be true because I got it straight from the horse’s mouth when I paid for a date once about a few months ago. It just wounded his ego and he told me as much; he wanted to pursue and provide for me and after that, he never called me again. So much for the whole equality thing.

    I mean, I’m happy with who and what I am, cup size included. I can’t let a few assholes make me hate my body because I have to be the one to live with this body, not them. Unfortunately, only assholes step to me on a regular basis and it makes dating difficult if not impossible and it doesn’t matter how much they are on display and since I’m more of a conservative dresser, it’s more about my shape than what I’m actually showing. I miss dressing up sometimes, but when I think of the alternative…I can live without it for the time being. In most cases, when a woman is attacked by a man, the first question asked is, “Well, what was she wearing?” followed by, “Well where was she and what time was it?” followed up with, “Why the hell were you out at X time of night in that area wearing that oufit? You’re just asking for trouble.” That kind of thinking just makes it difficult for women on the whole because the woman is always blamed and the man is excused because, well, look at how she was dressed. Women should dress conservatively so that they don’t tempt men. I understand the logic, but it is a logic that relieves men of the burden of learning to control themselves and that is something that applies to cultures that require women to cover up at all times. The burden has been on women for far too long, IMO.

    What really gets me is the whole if-a-man-has-money-he-can-get-any-woman-he-wants issue. You know, if a man has money, he can always get a woman even if he looks like a dead baboon’s ass, lol. It’s not so much about a man with money as it is about a man who can provide. Women have always sought men with resources because it shows he can provide for her children should it ever come to that. Even in the lowest level of the animal kingdom, the male has to show the female he can provide for her and her young if he is to win the privilege to mate with her. So for the most part it’s not about women only wanting men with money; there are many couples who are living paycheck to paycheck and even worse and still making love work for them.

    I do hope to be able to walk out of my house wearing a nice skirt or dress and not be bum-rushed by assholes. There’s only so much women like me can do to avoid the attention–assuming that it is unwanted; some women do enjoy it; I don’t–and meet quality men.

  • Anonymous

    What about fake Vs. real? Do men mind? I think White men don’t mind fake boobs at all cause they are more likely to be boobs over ass men…small and perky Vs. big and droopy…usually after the age of like 23 over a C cup starts to sag correct? The dude that mentioned the perky F’s how old was the chick? I’m part of the itty bitty, didn’t make me feel less of a woman.

  • N2Deep

    Size is nice,…..Shapes and curves are better……but If I’m attracted to you then I like what you got. Sometimes a woman can stress over her shape and size more than the man she’s with.

    Is it because we might look at a woman in passing that has a nice body/face/T&A?

    I feel that there is always someone out there “Finer or Better Looking” than who your with (man or woman) but if you are together then that’s what it is. I love going to Walmart because it’s like the place all the baddest women you never get to see go and hang out.

    @DaThrone

    You never know what ______ looks like till you get it all unwrapped. Thats both sexes.

    SUUUUUUUUURRRRRRRRRRR…DAMN…..Prise!!!!!! EEEEEWWWWWW J/K but 4Real!

  • Dave

    @Mimi in the OC

    Oh boy.

    First if you are small/flat chested and proud I am happy and proud for you.

    Sweatheart, I am in my early 30s and have been dating for a long time. I have been with gorgeous women who had bodies I thought were perfect bring their body issues into the bedroom. I have had women who’s tits were small express their discomfort being naked because of the itty-bitties. I have met and dated women who’s boobs looked bigger/ass looked fatter because of a push-up bra or tight jeans they rocked with confidence, and once those things are removed and what you are working with is exposed some of those women had confidence issues that translated into bad sex. How do I know? Because in some cases the discomfort was stated. Plus, I have enough very grown beautiful female friends with smaller boobs who have even expressed as much in regards to some of their encounters. I said most small-breasted women are very insecure about there lack of lady lumps. Period. This is my experience and what I get from many but not all of the women i know with b-cups or less….as a result I rather not deal with it.

    You may not like my point but it is valid. Women who have bodies issues tend to bring those issues into bed….and if you are not comfortable with what you are working with (same as a dude with a little dick, right?) it can translate over to the sex.
    I like to use tits during sex. If the woman does not have any and she know I prefer women that do, we may have a problem.

    Besides how would you know? Have you been to bed with a woman? If so please share your experience.

  • sharon

    well… I think the size question is for men not women. Then this is my question…Why do men take cialis if they are comfortable with their size?

  • Shannon

    @ Sharon

    Cialis is in the same category as Levitra and Viagara; it’s not to make men larger, like ExtenZe. It’s use is for treating men with ED. Men who take Cialis simply cannot achieve erection on their own; it’s a very common problem.

    Now, things like Enztye, ExtenZe and certain teas are intended to make the penis larger–this hasn’t been proven by the FDA at present–and I know several men who take these regularly. If size is an issue to women, they told me, they want to make sure they have a chance and usually a man with some size has more of an edge–as long as he isn’t too big–over a smaller man.

  • http://www.traumaanddrama.blogspot.com Ms. Sylaneous

    @Da Throne

    the exception to what? Not being afraid to ask a guy out?
    IF that’s what you were referring to, I don’t know. I think there may be more women around like me than some guys realize. I just kinda want that intial date offer from him… I think that just from me being a TINY bit shy to start though… (seriously though…what the hell do I know… LOL ya’ll -MEN FOLK- confuse the hell outta me!!! WWHYYYY LAWD WWWHHYY!?!?! I am seeking a good ‘HOW TO’ manual on Men… LOL any advice anybody?!?!)

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @SassyNoLA

    Sorry, sis, for some reason a lot of your messages keep getting flagged as spam and I only check the spam folder once a day.

    It might think your email address is not legit, you can always try inputting in another.

    I actually shot you an email yesterday suggesting that but you must not have gotten it.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Ms. Sylaneous

    I think Da ThRONe is also referencing an old post where the majority of women BALKED at the idea of asking a man out.

    Peep it here:

    http://www.nakedwithsockson.com/2009/04/30/should-women-ask-men-out-fear-of-rejection/

    Think that’s what he’s meaning when he says you’re the exception because based on those comments majority of women were anti-first move

  • lola289

    Shannon, I understand.

    Im the same way… I dress conservatively sometimes just to not get attention. I wanted a man to be with me and act as a ‘bodyguard’. Just so I wouldn’t have to worry bout jerks.
    But you know what?
    I had to grow up and realize Im a grown woman. I can’t keep hiding…
    If they can have fun then why can’t I? Screw ‘em!
    I gotta live dammit… and so do you!
    I know ‘Its a man’s world’, but its also not 1950…
    that’s why u should smile :)
    I use to not look men in the eye, but now I kno better.
    Just be strong. If someone comes at you wrong them dismiss them.. politely or impolitely ;)
    And be proud of who you are…. No one else has to be.
    Do you girl…LIVE!

  • Tate820

    I’m gonna make this brief. Us (straight) men will agree with one thing as long as she ain’t born with the same equipment as us and legal (R. Kelly that’s over 18*) it all good. The rest is up to the individual male.

    *Yeah, I know that joke was old, but he still need a reminder.

  • Tate820

    I’m sorry that’s two.

  • Shannon

    @lola289

    I totally feel you on this! I only recently began going back to the hairdresser and getting pedicures again. I’m not back to wearing makeup regularly–I never did, to begin with–but I am trying out some of my old outfits and breaking out all my cute stuff again.

    I still wear sweats–small steps for me!–and dress cute about once a week. I used to do the “bodyguard” thing, too; that is, until the ‘bodyguard’ himself took leave of his senses and I had to dismiss him too (is that a trip or what?) and today I will brave the outside world and venture out to the mall.

    I’m still standing firm on my values, though, and hopefully men will grow up and not be so childish and throw a tantrum when I say no to what they want. I hope I can at least expect a man to be a man and behave like one, even if I can’t expect them to accept my terms and conditions (that’s a different post), and keep their hands to themselves (some do, most don’t). Why do the assholes outnumber the good ones, lol?

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @SassyNoLa

    Might also be what you’re posting. I know before anyone posting a link would get flagged spam but fixed that.

    Seems like your shorter comments go through quicker. Dunno can’t call it.

    You can always shoot me an email if the message gets caught so i could try and log in sooner to free it up.

  • SassyNoLA

    @nwso,

    that’s strange. i’ve been using the same email address since posting here and this has only happened recently. ahh well. au revoir!

  • my pussy is racist (thanks john mayor for that one)

    i have a fake email and my comments get through…

    im bisexual and i love all types of tits….as long as they belong to black women….

  • hellifiknow

    @Shannon:

    I saw you took some heat in the ABW post and I can understand why – people felt like you were harping on the same things in lieu of finding a solution…but HONEY….I so feel you. If you are a 36MM, I completely understand why you are getting your unfair share of unwanted attention. I’m not that big a cup size, but fairly close. (Where you find bras? Do you go custom?) I have to say in your defense that especially as a younger woman, I HATED the catcalling, staring, and various kinds of disrespectful attention I recieved. It was really daunting sometimes to have to deal with the contant harrassment and I’m sorry guys, she is not exaggerating.There needs to be a whole nother post on the blatant disrespect shown to women in the streets. Although I sometimes miss the appreciative glances I used to get more often, I truly do not miss the many nasty comments directed my way. I am constantly appalled by the number of grown ass men who eye-fuck my teenage nieces and who say shit out their mouths even when I’m present. This is part of many, many women’s experiences and is only worse if you have a physical attribute that is very noticeable. I can totally understand why you feel you want to hide. I can also tell you that age will take care of most of it, as this nonsense is directed most of the time that I can see at younger women. I can give brothers the benefit of the doubt on most things, but on the constant sexual harrasment in the streets, nah. I gotta co-sign with Shannon on this one.

  • illbdat

    on this post and the comments (brief pause…) all i can say is WOW!! A couple of blogs about body parts and people go bananas!!! do we need some chaperones in here? lmao

    I mean lets be real, 50 years from now ( for the bulk of us) it wont really matter when age and gravity gets a hold and yanks @ everything!! lol…
    (yes yes I know thats “50” years down the road don’t jump down my throat on it)… therefore…

    I get the gist of what everyone is saying and can see their arguements/opinions as legitimate issues/points…

  • Diamond N Da Ruff

    I enjoyed reading the blog but I must agree with DA Throne T & A will never compare with a man’s sex organ, never!

  • lola289

    OMG@ Shannon…
    I understand you too…
    I always believed I was born in the wrong decade, but at least I can still have some fun!
    Its good your trying to go back into the dating world.. just take your time.
    Hold your head up, and love yourself. Trust me…I know you want to feel respected but most of these creeps don’t even know that they should take there hat off in a building. lol!
    We all go through it, and we all lean how to deal w/ these types of men. I hope you learn from your actions and listen to your heart…even if it hurts.
    Stay Blessed!

  • Tim

    Not too much to say on this one, sounds like most men agree, size doesn’t neccesarily matter. I’m an ass man myself, so that matters to me, but as long as your chest is not as flat as mines, then we are good.

  • Andrialynn

    I luv these topics. Keep them coming.

  • Shannon

    @ hellifiknow

    My whole problem is–the ABW post comments notwithstanding–is I can’t get some people to understand there are some things about myself I can’t change. What I would like is for the men to give me some ideas on what I can do to at least alleviate some of the attention I get; for instance, what would a woman bulit like me have to do for them to approach her in a respectful way? What should I do to let men know I’m not hypersexual or as sexually ready as by body would indicate to them? And how would I be able to tie it all together with my desire to wait?

    As for my bras, yes, you are correct; I have to go to a bra boutique about an hour and a half away to get bras; what they do is they measure you first, then they show you what they have available in your size, you pick what you want and they make it, custom-fit for you, in about an hour. I did get a strapless bra made at a different store, but that was a recipe for disaster, lol! Well, some of them, depending on the material, aren’t strong enough for me and I break them, so they asked me to be a fit model (fit models are the ideal body designers use to create samples) so they could figure out what worked for me. It worked out great for me because most bras in my size are functional and not cute or pretty and I can’t get them in fun colors, only black, beige and white. And they are expensive–about $175 a pop–but they are well-designed.

    I’ve even had my own male friends eyeball my own teenage daughter and needless to say, I had to dismiss their asses before I killed them. I’m hoping she won’t be built like I am because I don’t want her to go through wha I go through all the time with men. I know a lot of women who think I’m luchky, but they have no idea how bad I really have it.

    That was another complaint of mine in the ABW post: men’s disrespectful behavior in the streets toward an attractive, well-built–should I say “stacked”?–woman. I know some women can shrug it off and act like it’s no big deal and it doesn’t get to them, but it’s different for women like me and telling us that it’s our fault that men approach us like that doesn’t really help. Of course, being criticized for not dressing up and staying home instead of socializing doesn’t help either because then I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t.

    I think it would be a great idea for NWSO to start a new topic on the disrespect of women shown by men in the streets; I wonder if he would be open to doing that and if men would be open to sharing their thoughts on it? I know from the ABW post that there are a lot of women who have had experiences similar to mine and in a roundabout way, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one because it means, contrary to popular belief, there isn’t something wrong with the women.

  • da ThRONe

    @Shannon

    “What I would like is for the men to give me some ideas on what I can do to at least alleviate some of the attention I get”

    The answer is nothing. Some men are striaght up disrespectful pigs period.

    Now you can either alter and deprive yourself of the things like to do and places you like to go. Or you can slap on your “Big Gal” underpants and just start ignoring these morons.

    Once upon a time in this great country black people were 2nd rate citizen. And were forced to deal with comments that made your cat calls seem like a church sermon.

    Im not at all trying to justify their sophomoric attempts to get in your pants. Rather just keeping things in prospective. Since you cant improve them improve yourself. And this has been the point that you dont seem to get. Dont be so mentally fragile.

  • Shannon

    @Da Throne

    OMG You really don’t get it, do you?

    You have no idea what women really have to put up with. We are not talking about black history here; we are talking about how disrespecful men are toward women and that has nothing to do with black people being second class citizens, especially since I don’t and never have lived in what could be considered a “black neighborhood” or “black community.”

    You are trying to tell me, “Toughen up, black people have had it worse,” but that is not my issue here and you are well aware of that. I am simply trying to understand what motivates men to respect some women, but not others.

    You are still on the same old “improve yourself” bullshit that is obviously not very helpful. That also tells me you didn’t bother to read any of my posts, but simply drew conclusions and assume I’m just “mentally fragile,” as you put it. You make it seem like ignoring them is so simple; guess what? It’s not. It’s not so easy to ignore men who behave like that in public, especially when the more persistent of them follow you around in the store, the mall, the movie theater, the bowling alley, the restaurant and even at work. It would be different if I could get away from it, but I can’t, unless I stay home. That is what you don’t get. It’s not just a matter of slapping on “Big Gal” underpants and just toughen up. I wish men, epsecially you, could walk a thousand miles in a woman’s shoes just so you can see the kind of bullshit we have to deal with on a regular basis.

    And keep in mind, this isn’t about the suffering of black people. There is always going to be someone who is suffering or has suffered worse. That doesn’t mean my or any other woman’s suffering doesn’t count. I am well aware of what black people have had to deal with in their history and that has nothing to do with my problem. And telling me there is nothing men can do about their behavior, they’re just straight-up disrespectful pigs only excuses the men and puts the burden on women, where it’s always been because men don’t want to be responsible for their actions. They have to have someone to blame and point the finger at.

    You’re right, Da Throne. Women should be the ones to improve themselves, not men, even though they are the ones being disrespectful. Men can’t do better, so I should.

  • da ThRONe

    @Shannon

    I get it just fine. You dont like the negative attention you get. Big fucking deal.

    At no point did I say it was fair. Its not fair. But so what. Are you gonna play the helpless victim all your life? Or are you gonna “Grow a pair” LOL and refuse to let anybody “Steal your sunshine”?

    Why do you continue to devote so much effort into something you cant control?

    LOL @suffering. I wish I was so sheltered that I could consider “Cat Calls” suffering. LMAO. That was rich.

    As long as men keep their hands to themselves thats all that counts. You act like you are in kindergarden. “Oh teacher Bobby said I was a poppie head!” “Now Im gonna cry everyday til I die.” This is 100% about your mental toughness. There are other woman in here who say they hate the cat calling yet none of them are whinning like you are.

    I have seen some of the foolishness first hand. Men in New Orleans are probably the worst in this department. But most women just ignore the bullshit and go on about their business.

    With all due respect. If you are dumb enough to let a complete stranger words get you down you deserve to be there.

    When did I excuse their behavior? But the question is what is there to be done. Its not illegal for them to say what they choose as long a they arent threating you. Are you gonna hire a bodyguard to start beating people up? This isnt about right or wrong because clearly you are right. People should respect you ,but they arent. And according to Y O U nothing you wear is helping.

    So your two options are either let people drive you insane or not. Right now you are choosing to let people drive you insane and this is why your comments are so idiotic to anybody with an ounce of mental toughness.

  • Shannon

    @ Da Throne

    Goodness, just forget it. It’s hard to get someone like you to understand my situation, so don’t even worry about it. I mean, goddamn, you actually think I’m whining here.

    Okay…you’re right Da Throne. I should just suck it up and toughen up and get over it like a good woman is supposed to.

  • lola289

    Thank you… umm manager of NWSO! :D

  • Alkai

    Breast size matters to me if they are larger than a size C.

    For instance, the woman at the top of this article Zoe Saldana has perfect sized breasts (In my opinion) plus she is attractive.

    I tend to find women attractive who have small breasts and somewhat exotic features. Women such as:

    Milla Jovovich
    Zoe Saldana
    Charlize Theron
    Anna Faris
    Leelee Sobieski

    Their facial features and body types are what I find attractive. The type of woman that I most attracted to are Asian, Polynesian, etc. Exotic. Innocence with a hint of danger. Difficult to convey precisely, thus I hope I got close enough.

    Oh well if I didn’t. :)

  • Mimi in the OC

    @Dave

    I just don’t think your experience is universal. It is your own personal theory, thanks for sharing, but no matter how many women and how diverse the pool of women you’ve dated is/was, it is still not enough to generalize your “personal findings” to the entire female gender.
    I am not judging your preference, I just think your theory is … BS and I agree to disagree.

    You think I am not able to state on this matter because I haven’t dated women but that is BS too. I talk with women and although I don’t necessarily get in bed with them, it is easy to see where a girl stands sexually. Has she ever had an orgasm, does she feel comfortable with her body, is she confident about her sexual capabilities, etc. It might not enable me to perform a complete assessment of the behavior in bed, but it gives a reliable overview of what the situation is when it comes to sex.
    I completely agree that many women have issues with their bodies, but like I said before titties is one body part among many others. Small titties or unsatisfying body parts does not equate to bad sex it is the overall confidence. Then I would like to question the age and maturity of chicks you’ve dated, because quite often it is not until a certain age that women get comfortable with their bodies and their sexuality. And at the end of the day, this sexual maturity is related to overall confidence they have acquired in and out of the bedroom. Many, many, females don’t even get close to that before the age of 30, so for you to come generalize based on your limited pool of candidates, that doesn’t flow with me. Sorry.

    Like I said, agree to disagree.

  • textibitionist

    I didn’t read all 84 comments to see if this has been mentioned yet, but I’m curious about the demographic of the group you sampled. As much as we’d love to believe that it doesn’t matter, it truly does.

    In the past few years I’ve started hanging out with more .. ah… “lighter” people – my job has thrown mei nto all sorts of different cultures, namely the white and the middle class. In learning to adjust to them, I’ve been adding more of “them” (I hate how I sound right now) into my universe.

    Among many other differences, what i DID notice was a stark shift in standards of beauty. There are still, of course, decided ass men and boob men in that world, but there is also this almost foreign (to me) standard of beauty where, that really thin model look is coveted, and it EXISTS by the loads, and really small breasts are forgiven if you’ve got a small waistline to match. It doesn’t always have to be balanced out with the big booty (many white men I’ve encountered don’t like big butts… WHAT??) as long as there is a fine stomach to match.

    Did this make sense?

  • DC Cookies

    I have 34 DD’s and I am an African American woman that dates African American men.

    When put on display, I am pretty sure it is somewhat appealing but that is never their main concern. I seem to draw the most attention to my slim waist line and nicely shaped ass.

    I wasnt given a big ol booty but I am perfectly proportioned.

    So, in my case, my my perky tata’s MIGHT make up for me not having the big ol bubble booty that is glamourized by out of control “video vixens”….

    Breast size is more important in the white and “other” community because ass isn’t glamourized.

    Side note- I did get voted “Best Rack” in a predominately white high school…lol

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @textibitionist

    If you must know, all the men where human. LOL

    Nah, in the interest of anonymity I deleted the identities when I placed in the pseudonyms. But from my recollection of the men I reached to and actually responded they were majority of color, there was at least one Caucasian, and at least one married fella.

    not sure if any of that helps you (or matters:)

  • wasabi29

    But in a way, it’s true what textibitionist says. I come predominantly from an Asian community and I’ve never heard any fuss regarding the bootay.

    A small waistline and an ample bosom is the definition of beauty among Asian men. I know men are men, and there’s nothing much that separates you guys except names but I do think there’s a significant link between culture and what is accepted as beautiful in a woman.

  • AGK

    Oh boy! This is my thing, i have to answer all that… And u’ll see why. Lol

    Do you equate breast size to femininity?

    sure do. I just feel like sth is missing if nothing’s up there, like some of the fellas said. I liked the last phrase “Breasts just kinda separate the girls from the women.”

    Do you view women who are flat chested differently then women that are well endowed?

    Not really, but they thing is… Not trying to sound some type of way, but less well endowed women always gave me the mean eye :-S Ever since Junior High, i’ve had some tig ole bitties, so the attention (good and bad) has been with me ever since.

    Were any of female readers teased for being flat chested?

    I was teased for having big breasts, so i can only imagine what it feels like to be teased about being flat chested. Smh

    At what age did you finally grow out?

    I almost had the size i have now (DDs) by the time i got in High School. Started growing in the 1st class of Junior High and only went up since then.

    If you never did, do you feel intimidated by women who are bigger up top or are you comfortable with your body?

    I know i’m not the one to speak, but each woman has specific assets, and stereotypes shouldnt be making any of us feeling weird. So what, that guy doesnt like A cups! The nxt one will. If he focused that much on appearance, he wasnt worth the attention anyways.

    Have you ever contemplated implants?

    Hells no. Lol :P I’ve comtemplated getting them “fixed” after giving birth tho. Cause i’m not sure how they’ll look like by then, even tho i ‘ve never had no complains whatsoever concerning my girls :)

    Any top heavy women that wish they were smaller? Why?

    Only times i wish i was smaller is when i wanna run. That’s ridiculous, trust AND believe that. Lmao
    DDs look great, and are fun in bed, and they’re def a plus when it comes to looks, but sometimes… Especially during summer… OH BOY! Women that have been there can understand.

    Thing is, i’ve heard the craziest things about my breasts, coming from guys. Even ones that i didnt know. It sure is an attention getter. And keeper. Lol
    But as we saw above, not every man is attracted to that. Like all of us are not attracted to a specific characteristic of theirs.
    Women need to learn to work with what they have, and show it off when they’re supposed to.
    That confidence will get him ladies ;)

  • Dave

    @Mimi in the OC

    With all do respect how old are you(seriously)? You are obviously very bright but you are missing the point being defensive. If a woman is not confident in her body it can lead to a bad sexual relationship. Period. You obviously like to argue for no reason but it’s cool I’ll school you, sister.

    My “general” statement was: whether it’s tits or ass if you are not holding it down in one you are at a huge disadvantage. even the greatest ass lover will start to lose interest in a woman with tits like a teenage boy. that’s why so many women black and white get implants (tits and ass) nowadays.

    What is off about that? You focused in on me because in my case I said tit size matters. Oh well. Almost every guy who has posted (not many) has a preference for either a big ass or big tits. It does not mean they would not sex a woman because of it but the fact is this: if we as men and women do not get what we want….big dicks or big asses….we are less likely to stick around or look for it elsewhere. And if the person is uncomfortable with the organ/part in question it can effect sex. Not B.S. My experience and expert opinion and study say it is a known fact.

    Besides you own words what real info do you have to kill my point? Your personal experience perhaps? I read a lot to better myself and all my relationships sexual and otherwise. I do not make statements about anyone unless they are based in fact. Elise Neal, a perfect example of a black woman, stated in an article that 75 percent of BLACK women in entertainment get plastic surgery. There are countless articles written BY WOMEN that state that body issues can effect sex.

    Look it up. In fact, I’ll give you one and you can go from there:

    http://www.thatsfit.ca/2010/02/02/is-negative-body-image-affecting-your-sex-life/

    http://www.medicinenet.com/beauty_and_body_image/article.htm

    I think you were too quick to get defensive with me for what ever reason and its cool. I need no validation from anyone really. You are right, small tits do not lead to bad sex any more than a small penis. But the feelings/bias you have in regards to them can lead to bad sex.

    Here is another one for you:
    http://www.thirdage.com/sex/nine-sex-drive-killers

    I do not sleep with men so I really can not say to a woman that 12 inch dicks feel like 4inch dicks. If you have never been with a woman how do you know what body issues can do to a sexual relationship?

    My dating pool? Educated, ambitious, self-aware, successful, sisters…..some who have found their way to successful book deals, white house fellowships, business ownership, acting careers. ALL of them over the age of 26 since I tend not to date younger women.

    Like you said….agree to disagree.

  • Dave

    @AGK

    Thank you for speaking up and keeping it 100.

    On another note….I’m saying can we go to a movie or something? Lol!

  • http://www.gangstarrgirl.com GangStarr Girl

    @BMW2K OMG. I totally feel you. At 17 I was a 34 DDD — my body was on some str8 up Jessica Rabbit ish and I was a dancer. I once had an announcement made similar to yours when the class was being measured for our costumes. The asshole tailor (a woman, mind you) said “You know, I know a bra shop that would be perfect for you. They carry 34 DDD so you can find something perfect to hold those things down.” WTF! That’s actually another blog on how to deal with our well developed girls. But anyway, I agree with you. Men talk a good game but they all stare and drool when faced with the twins however, what separates boys from the men are the ones who can control their primal impulses.

  • Elle

    Shannon, I do not think you can do anything to deal with the stares, drools, remarks and such. You’ll have to let time take care of it. One day men will drool over the next stacked woman in her 20s or 30s and you will be yesterday’s news.

    At least this is how it was for my mom. As a little girl I had to witness men not only staring at my mom’s breasts but grabbing them :| And hadn’t I been this young I would have fucked them up (excuse my French).
    All my life growing up, my mother and I hoped I wouldn’t inherit the girls. Thank God I didn’t!

  • http://undressingher.com undressingHER

    to me, it doesn’t. It matters in relation to the size of the woman. If she’s very petitie, small to a handfull of breast are expected. However, if her ass is as big as Buffy’s, then I wouldn’t expect A cups. Small breast have never stopped me from having sex with a woman, or even approaching one, however, a lack of butt has.

  • Shannon

    @ Elle

    I’m beginning to realize that. A lot of my issues stem from the fact that I’m not used to men behaving like that; all my life I was accustomed to meeting men who opened doors for me, let me walk ahead of him in crowds, who removed their hats upon entering a building–especially the elevator; a very important Southern custom in Texas–and stood whenever I entered the room, another rule of etiquette from down home.

    Well, growing up as obviously sheltered as I did–I asked my mother about it last night, about why we only lived in white neighborhoods and she told me it was my father’s decision–and only seeing this kind of behavior I observed in the men in my life–father, grandfather, uncles and so on–I expected such decorum in every man. It is the way a man is supposed to behave, or so I thought. It has been the most difficult thing to accept that not all men have manners or self-control and it’s not necessarily my fault. Well, life goes on…

    I have to admit, I was the only girl that took after my mother and she got what I thought was the worst of it, really, now that I look back on it; men would make comments and grab at her when she was younger. It really took a toll on her; over time, like me, she stopped leaving the house and my father saw how it affected her. I was never allowed in the company of nothing but what my father considered to be proper gentlemen and this undertaking he took seriously. My mother’s experience wasn’t clear to me at the time and after talking to her, I clearly understood the reasoning behind every decision they made regarding me. They wanted to protect me from a lot of things, especially that kind of experience. I actually passed my mother in size, which my parents felt would invite a lot of problems later on, especially if I moved from home. They were right, but because my mother never learned how to cope, she had no way of showing me how to do so, so I have to find my own way.

    As time passes, I start to relax more and now that I realize that men aren’t going to be like the men of my childhood and history back home, I can begin to understand that simply put, it’s not necessarily me; I was always told never to do anything that would cause a man to approach me in a disrespectful manner.

    Well, some men are uncouth. I recently took a temporary assignment at a prison, not knowing I had to work in the clinic around them instead of staying in the office like I asked to do. Like hell; I flew out of there and swore I’d NEVER go back. I need more time to adjust to this new element before I can ever take another assignment like that.

  • Elle

    @Shannon

    Chivalry and gentlemanly behaviour may not be dead (yet) but they certainly seem to be suffering what eventually looks like a fatal illness.

    Sad but true.

  • FrequentPhly-er

    Does breast size matter, is kind of a retarded question.

    I love titties, my favs are the soft, juicy, full, two-tone silver dollar perky kind. My least fav are saggy tits whether big are small, raisin or prunes, either way that shit is not a good look.

    I’ve had a girl with phatty and B’s, a girl with DD’s and slim booty and a girl with an ample mix of both.

    Do breast define a woman, even dumber question. The way woman carries herself defines her fem side, other than that there a lot of other ways to gauge that.

    On my arrogant side I would say, what a man really values (on the purely sexual side) is great poom poom and great head, and there’s no science or measurement for that, T & A just needs to be there.

    Personally I think there’s a lot that goes into what each of us considers attractive or what turns us on. To bring it to the size of one or two aspect is backwards almost seems a lil barbraric.

  • Shannon

    @ Elle

    And that is what scares me. My expectations of men differ greatlt from I see in men today and I do have cause for concern because men aren’t what I thought they would be.

    I simply have different values from the rest of society, but that’s not bad…just different. I know in my heart that I could never do what everyone else is doing or adopt the liberal attitude toward sex or the new definitions for dating, relationships or commitment because my values are so important to me.

    I know a lot of women who have reached the end of their rope and are giving up on love or chose abstinence because they gave so much of themselves or were left vulnerable to a man’s whims–and vice versa for some men–but IMO it hurt much more because sex entered the picture. I mean, I’ve been hurt, but parting ways was somewhat easier because there was no sex–it was always the dealbreaker–but pain is pain and no one wants to invite it in.

    But I do wonder, Elle, if a cure can be found before it dies outirght? Or do we stand by and watch it die a slow agonizing death? This news makes me realize that I may never find what I’m looking for and it pains me.

  • J Thizzle

    You should do a follow up about breasts: Natural vs Silicone Which do Men Prefer?

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  • Dee

    hmm…so um for all those guys into breasts at some point aka OLD AGE breasts do get soft, saggy and shit…point is, i just think its stupid and retarded to be judged by those materialistic standards…im a petite girl and i truly believe that good things do come in small packages..so for those guys into breast/ass..i got 4 words…KISS MY SMALL ASS!! lol

  • N2Deep

    @Dee

    It’s not always the size, If them curves are right or you got that sexy ass walk then that goes a long way.

  • N2Deep

    @Dee

    Don’t crush me let me clarify my comment. I am saying a mans preference most of the times is not the only thing they like. If you got your package looking good then you will more than likely get a lot of attention from the same breast/ass men. I love to see all different types of women but my preference is more specific. That won’t stop them from looking at your petite self! The petite women I dealt with are some Fire Chicks so it’s all to the good!!

  • TR

    Hm, To be bluntly, and probably very honest, honest in a way that may embarrass me + make me look maybe bad to others, my view is probably the following:

    On woman in general, or on an average size woman, I do like breasts that are about the size of oranges. An average size woman, to me, is maybe 5′ 5″.
    If she is a woman [who I find cute and has a personality that I like], I probably would be ok with breasts that are the size of my closed hand, or smaller than that.
    [ I am, in my area, an average sized guy. I am 5'10' to 6ft tall, if you want to sit around + calculate how big my hands are].

    Breasts bigger than oranges are all right, but they don’t have to be larger than oranges for me to like someone.

  • http://www.living-with-small-a-cup-breasts.com vivi

    Well, if you are out of the “safety range”, which is probably a C cup, you start to ask silly questions. But that’s normal. We all want to fit in. And fitting in means average. If you don’t care about “fitting in” than you are happy with DD’s or AA’a. And that’s all to it, I think.

    I am an A, and yes, sometimes I don’t feel like I fit in. But I feel much better as I get older. I asked and posted many questions like this and got many great answers from guys that they prefer smaller breasts ( http://www.living-with-small-a-cup-breasts.com/words-from-men-about-boobs.html )

    But does it mean anything? Not really. And that’s OK.

    Oh and we did a poll as well. http://www.living-with-small-a-cup-breasts.com/small-breasts-poll.html
    Silicone breasts ended up being last….

  • A-cup Señorita

    Some guys can be pigs. I am a Mexican-American woman who used to date the guys that would talk bad about my tiny breasts but swore they loved my ass. I dated the ghetto men (some black men who wished they were 50 cent or Lil Wayne) who were disrespectful and constantly cheating on me.
    This they did with the white girls who wished they were black women. These girls had big racks, but lacked ass. When I found out about the cheating, my self-esteem was messed up and I got close to wanting to commit suicide. I felt like who I was didn’t matter, only breasts mattered. After my mother told me, “A real woman is not measured by the size of her butt or the size of her chest,” I then started slapping myself awake, saying in my mind to stop falling for guys who were disrespectful and only were looking for breasts.
    Today, I have a better self-image of myself. I am now with a respectful gentleman who loves me for who I am first, and also likes my body. I love you, my Icelandic boo!!! This itty bitty woman has finally found her prince charming. Marriage set for May 2012. ^_^

  • http://www.dashofreality.wordpress.com Dash

    Wow! Congrats senorita! Best of luck! And keep loving yourself (and your future husband) : )

  • dave

    People think I’m full of shit when I say this but it’s true. I do NOT like fake breasts at all! I can not choose a woman’s breast size, they are what they are. If I had a choice, I do not particularly like huge breasts but rather for lack of better terms, small to medium size breasts with quarter size nipples in diameter and I love long pointy nipples. Hard nipples really turn me on! Especially when they really stick out. I would like to post a question on here. If it’s possible, would someone please tell me how to do that? Thank you

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Dave

    Not sure what you’re asking. You can post a question in your comment at any time. Or do you mean how do you submit a question to be a separate discussion/post?

    if the latter, my contact email is in the tool bar at the top of the page under the contact button

  • Anonymous

    Its because of porn. The end.

  • Janice

    Women are all exhibiitionist who just like to have fun.

  • Sara

    I’ve been flat-chested since puberty — now reaching the age of 25 — and as a result have suffered from psychotic depression and persistent thoughts of suicide. Psychotic depression meaning: beginning in college I began hearing voices in the community shower, voices making fun of me for how disgusting I looked. (Just so you know, it’s very hard to concentrate on reading anything if your mind is being pulled in the direction of several different people having a conversation in your head) I’ve heard voices (varying in degree) for the past 6 years, and though I’ve finally resigned myself to the fact that no man will ever truly want me, and no man will ever, psychologically, be completely loyal, I know with all of my heart that being flat-chested has ruined my psyche, my sex life, and my chances of any general happiness in this lifteime.

    You know what sucks? I’m a great person. I’m a kind person, I try my best to understand others, I provide therapy to individuals with disabilities, and I’ve staked out a career caring for people with behavioral/developmental/psychological problems. But I can never trust a man. At the age of 16, I inadvertently found stumbled upon all of the internet porn that my father likes to jack off looking at, grew up with a brother who is a complete frothing idiot who makes lewd comments about every female passerby with “a good body.”

    You know what else sucks? After confronting my father about using porn — keep in mind that I’ve already bought the book on assisted suicide to plan exactly how I can do it, and also bought a tank of helium gas on its way to my doorstep — he erupted in anger, dragging and pushing me to the floor, and choking me — telling me: I should have put a pillow over your head years ago.

    But I’m a good person. In my eyes, I deserve to be loved, and touched, and made love to.

    And I know that I can never trust anyone to do that.

    I will die alone, listening to the voices that my abused psyche has created to take the place of real voices that another woman — one who doesn’t have to isolate herself because of constant fear and shame — is provided.

    I would rather die alone than live and lie with a man pretending to “love” me and my deformity. I know that no one can ever truly want my body.

    In the past, I’d have recurrent episodes in which I’d scream at the top of my lungs, sob, and beat myself in the head with my fists. (Note that I graduated as the valedictorian of my high school class, and attended an elite private university. Now in graduate school studying how to provide services for other individuals who are the “lepers” of our society) There are no words to describe the absolute hatred I had for my body. I wanted to incinerate myself. To rip all the skin off of my body, pour corrosive acid all over myself, set myself afire, rip all of my limbs off — to destroy my body such that it would be less than nothing.

    Because my body was the reason for my insanity, the voices, my isolation, my hatred, my utter dispair.

    I am a great person, but being “good” in this world doesn’t mean you are provided touch, or want, or love.

    Many of the above comments prove my point.

    My death, if I eventually choose to take my life, is in your bloody hands.

  • Sara

    BTW: everybody who wants to brush off my comment by saying that I’m “crazy” should know that if I were “crazy,” I’d be in an institution.

    My problems are the result of years of psychological abuse at the hands of this fucked-up society, composed of a bunch of sex-mongering, depraved, inhumane individuals who legitimize their horrid transgressions in the name of “freedom of speech.”

    So, to everyone who intends on dismissing my comment, I’d like to cordially forward an advance “Fuck you.”

  • http://www.nwso.net NWSO

    @Sara

    Peace sis,

    First, let me say that I thank you for sharing your story. I know that that took courage and I hope that sharing that helped you to some degree in just getting a chance to vent. If so, I know it’s a temporary “fix” but small steps.

    Second, I doubt/hope that anyone on here would dismiss your comment as “crazy.” You clearly have some issues that you have realized and hopefully are seeking help for. I don’t know about anyone else and don’t care honestly, but I pray/hope that you do find help and a reason to live.

    Out of everything you wrote I think the most important part was this:

    (Note that I graduated as the valedictorian of my high school class, and attended an elite private university. Now in graduate school studying how to provide services for other individuals who are the “lepers” of our society)

    That is amazing, sis! Sounds like you are a great person with a great head on your shoulders. I would like you to focus on the bright spots in your life more than the negative. I know it’s hard at times but clearly you have a few accomplishments worth noting, instead of focusing on the negative and what some wish to point out as flaws.

    F anyone that does not appreciate you for you and is only focused on your body. Do you really want someone that is only interested in what’s in your bra over what’s in your skull? I think not. So consider your breast size a God-given BS detector so you can find a man that is truly interested in YOU and not your body. Now THAT might sound “crazy” to you but I think it’s a positive way to look at it.

    As for your other problems in terms of suicide and hearing voices, I don’t feel qualified to speak on but I pray that you seek professional help to at least have someone equipped to speak to you on this stuff.

    I did however speak on my own thoughts of suicide a few years ago and listed some help lines. Read that here http://nwso.net/2008/12/12/fatal-thoughts-of-suicide/ hopefully that might provide some help, or at least let you know you’re not alone.

    Also, F your pops for even saying what he said to you.

    peace & God bless, sis. I wish you a better tomorrow

  • N2Deep

    I’ve been away a while but I just saw sara’s comments and it bothered me. I really hate the things she is going through in relation to her physical appearance. I hope she is able to find solution other than suicide. I feel that a lot of people stay around negativity because either they feel an obligation to people involved(family, S.O. and friends) or they feel it’s the only way they can get certain things (Money, job).

    I feel that you have to do everything you can to escape the people that bring you hurt so you can make room for some positivity in your life. I believe that women have it hard and it’s not always fair but you have to be able to be an individual and make decisions based on what’s good for you. You know you are a good person so start there and start loving yourself. You focus on that and it will open the door for someone else to love you.

  • Joey apodaca

    i love women wether they have big boobs or not

  • victoria

    great article! enjoyed reading opinions straight from the source. im a 5'10 very flat chested girl. guys have always been obsessed with my ass and i think my face is decent enough, but i'll never feel comfortable in my body. if i was a guy i would not deal with flat chested women. at least the young ones (im 19). There hasn't been a single relationship where my self consciousness has eventually overpowered. such a shame to feel such anxiety over this deficit all the time. even when having sex! im getting breast implants in 3 days. not exactly something i dreamed of as a kid…but i think its something i have to do for myself.

    • NWSO

      I pray your surgery goes well and it truly is for YOU and not any man. Not necessarily an advocate of breast augmentation but if it makes you happy I'll support you (no pun intended).

      be safe sis
      My recent post Would You Still Eat the Cake Party Tonight x QOTD

  • Tejan

    I’m a breast man, but maybe that’s because I wasn’t breastfed enough as a child. I can go for small or tiny breasts but only if she’s petite. Otherwise the bigger the better.

  • dee

    You said it best, the pum,pum is what really matters most, yes i have heard men complain about the pum,pum,i was equally concerned or more so about that.Breast size and Booty size talk all you want,but no man wants a loose or hollow vagina.

  • PinkKitty

    FOr the males who refer to women’s breasts as titties, (seriously?). That word urks me to no end…. A bigger brested woman, yes breasts do matter. The number one plastic surgery is breast enlargement.

    Those who prefer a large behind have always struck me as odd. That is because most black men do not participate in anal sexxx, so why are they obsessed with the part of the body that is meant to expel excerment? You don’t see it until the woman is walking away, therefore any interaction that a man has with a woman’s behind is when her back is turned towards him or when she’s bent over.

    Is this the manner in which some men prefer to interact with women, from a less personal vantage point?

    With breasts, all interactions take place face to face, at some point he’s going to have to look up. LMAO!

  • Tejan

    You don’t have to be into anal to take it from the back or do it doggy style. You can reach the vagina just fine from the rear. I wasn’t into a woman’s rear at all until a previous girlfriend made the habit of bending over in the shower so I could make love to her from behind. After that, I started liking ass. Still refuse to do anal. I’m not sticking my stuff in there.

  • vacinekilpeople

    i love flat boob girls, if you take a good look, most flat boob girl are more beautiful then then the D cup girls, flat boob girls are more silm in body, and their nipple are more sensitive then bigger ones, just rub their nipples and they will go crazy with you.

    I personaly think that anyone bigger than C is ugly, i mean without a bra those D cup girl are very saggy, and most of them are very fat, and those with fake boob are hard like two helmet.

  • Bill

    I don’t look at women for their breast size. I look at the personality, morals, standards, employment isn’t important to me. I am in my 40’s and retired. I like women who are seeking a guy for who he is; not what he has. Breasts can be fun to play with but I never use them as a measure of the woman. I believe that men who guage a woman by her breasts are shallow and would not be in my circle of friends. I’m not out to get notches on my bedpost. I am a little old fashioned and like to treat women in the same manner that I’d like them to treat me and that’s decently. I’ve no time for the shallow empty mindless people who just want sex. Rather than one night stands, I prefer long term relationships so breast size isn’t an issue for me.

  • Ally

    I’ve been an A cup my entire 20 years and was totally oblivious to how men thought of breast, small ones to be exact, this was like a slap in the face. Thanks.

  • guest

    i guess im out as well(A cup). i think its unfair for men to judge a girl based on breast size, its something i cant help!

  • guest

    i guess im out as well(A cup). i think its unfair for men to judge a girl based on breast size, its something i cant help!

  • guest

    i guess im out as well(A cup). i think its unfair for men to judge a girl based on breast size, its something i cant help!

  • Guest

    I find women with smaller boobs a turn on.. big tits sag over time and fake tits… well just means you are willing to mutilate your body because you feel inferior.  Ladies.. you just need to remember this.. if he’s going to accept you she should as you are and you him..  

  • Anna

    CALLING ALL FEMALE READERS

    I am a 20 year old woman and my breasts are probably what have been described here as ‘bee stings’ or ‘mosquito bites’. I am definitely an A -. I stumbled across this sight whilst searching for swimwear for small busted women and I am concerned that young girls worried about their breast development may also find this sight. I do not doubt that if they did, it would also destroy their self-esteem.

    I mean no disrespect to the creator of this site, but I think it is wrong to advertise what is most likely a group of your mates as a ‘think tank’ and therefore an accurate representative sample of the entire male population. The components of this think tank are most likely all the same age, from the same country (almost certainly the same state!) and are common personality types since they are all friends.

    For starters, it seems that while a few (okay, only really Mr Authority and Mr one-in-a-million) have slept with a few women, the rest just have a lot of experience with porn. Anybody who claims to be tolerant of small breasts but can’t go lower than a B cup obviously has a warped perception of what consitutes small. B-cup is actually the average bra size. Now do you see half the women in the world not having relationships, not getting laid and not getting married? No.

    I would like to assure any young female readers who do not have the life or sex experience to realise this themselves, you are not going to be ignored, rejected by or unable to please a man because you can’t fill out an A-cup. I’m only 20 and I’ve already had two loving relationships with decent, smart, attractive men and both of them love/d me very much. My nearly flat chest has not prevented me from having a great, fulfilling sex life. 

    My current boyfriend (who is not some loser watching porn, but captain of the soccer team and one of the top achievers at our premium university) also assured me that the girl mentioned in Mr Awkward-moment’s story would definitely have moved on to someone better than a douchebag like that.

    There is a lot more to you than your chest and the guys on here make up a small minority, who really shouldn’t be demanding perfection in you. Do you really think any of them has a figure like a greek god? No. Exactly.

    Anna x

  • Anna

    CALLING ALL FEMALE READERS

    I am a 20 year old woman and my breasts are probably what have been described here as ‘bee stings’ or ‘mosquito bites’. I am definitely an A -. I stumbled across this sight whilst searching for swimwear for small busted women and I am concerned that young girls worried about their breast development may also find this sight. I do not doubt that if they did, it would also destroy their self-esteem.

    I mean no disrespect to the creator of this site, but I think it is wrong to advertise what is most likely a group of your mates as a ‘think tank’ and therefore an accurate representative sample of the entire male population. The components of this think tank are most likely all the same age, from the same country (almost certainly the same state!) and are common personality types since they are all friends.

    For starters, it seems that while a few (okay, only really Mr Authority and Mr one-in-a-million) have slept with a few women, the rest just have a lot of experience with porn. Anybody who claims to be tolerant of small breasts but can’t go lower than a B cup obviously has a warped perception of what consitutes small. B-cup is actually the average bra size. Now do you see half the women in the world not having relationships, not getting laid and not getting married? No.

    I would like to assure any young female readers who do not have the life or sex experience to realise this themselves, you are not going to be ignored, rejected by or unable to please a man because you can’t fill out an A-cup. I’m only 20 and I’ve already had two loving relationships with decent, smart, attractive men and both of them love/d me very much. My nearly flat chest has not prevented me from having a great, fulfilling sex life. 

    My current boyfriend (who is not some loser watching porn, but captain of the soccer team and one of the top achievers at our premium university) also assured me that the girl mentioned in Mr Awkward-moment’s story would definitely have moved on to someone better than a douchebag like that.

    There is a lot more to you than your chest and the guys on here make up a small minority, who really shouldn’t be demanding perfection in you. Do you really think any of them has a figure like a greek god? No. Exactly.

    Anna x

  • Anna

    CALLING ALL FEMALE READERS

    I am a 20 year old woman and my breasts are probably what have been described here as ‘bee stings’ or ‘mosquito bites’. I am definitely an A -. I stumbled across this sight whilst searching for swimwear for small busted women and I am concerned that young girls worried about their breast development may also find this sight. I do not doubt that if they did, it would also destroy their self-esteem.

    I mean no disrespect to the creator of this site, but I think it is wrong to advertise what is most likely a group of your mates as a ‘think tank’ and therefore an accurate representative sample of the entire male population. The components of this think tank are most likely all the same age, from the same country (almost certainly the same state!) and are common personality types since they are all friends.

    For starters, it seems that while a few (okay, only really Mr Authority and Mr one-in-a-million) have slept with a few women, the rest just have a lot of experience with porn. Anybody who claims to be tolerant of small breasts but can’t go lower than a B cup obviously has a warped perception of what consitutes small. B-cup is actually the average bra size. Now do you see half the women in the world not having relationships, not getting laid and not getting married? No.

    I would like to assure any young female readers who do not have the life or sex experience to realise this themselves, you are not going to be ignored, rejected by or unable to please a man because you can’t fill out an A-cup. I’m only 20 and I’ve already had two loving relationships with decent, smart, attractive men and both of them love/d me very much. My nearly flat chest has not prevented me from having a great, fulfilling sex life. 

    My current boyfriend (who is not some loser watching porn, but captain of the soccer team and one of the top achievers at our premium university) also assured me that the girl mentioned in Mr Awkward-moment’s story would definitely have moved on to someone better than a douchebag like that.

    There is a lot more to you than your chest and the guys on here make up a small minority, who really shouldn’t be demanding perfection in you. Do you really think any of them has a figure like a greek god? No. Exactly.

    Anna x

  • Anna

    CALLING ALL FEMALE READERS

    I am a 20 year old woman and my breasts are probably what have been described here as ‘bee stings’ or ‘mosquito bites’. I am definitely an A -. I stumbled across this sight whilst searching for swimwear for small busted women and I am concerned that young girls worried about their breast development may also find this sight. I do not doubt that if they did, it would also destroy their self-esteem.

    I mean no disrespect to the creator of this site, but I think it is wrong to advertise what is most likely a group of your mates as a ‘think tank’ and therefore an accurate representative sample of the entire male population. The components of this think tank are most likely all the same age, from the same country (almost certainly the same state!) and are common personality types since they are all friends.

    For starters, it seems that while a few (okay, only really Mr Authority and Mr one-in-a-million) have slept with a few women, the rest just have a lot of experience with porn. Anybody who claims to be tolerant of small breasts but can’t go lower than a B cup obviously has a warped perception of what consitutes small. B-cup is actually the average bra size. Now do you see half the women in the world not having relationships, not getting laid and not getting married? No.

    I would like to assure any young female readers who do not have the life or sex experience to realise this themselves, you are not going to be ignored, rejected by or unable to please a man because you can’t fill out an A-cup. I’m only 20 and I’ve already had two loving relationships with decent, smart, attractive men and both of them love/d me very much. My nearly flat chest has not prevented me from having a great, fulfilling sex life. 

    My current boyfriend (who is not some loser watching porn, but captain of the soccer team and one of the top achievers at our premium university) also assured me that the girl mentioned in Mr Awkward-moment’s story would definitely have moved on to someone better than a douchebag like that.

    There is a lot more to you than your chest and the guys on here make up a small minority, who really shouldn’t be demanding perfection in you. Do you really think any of them has a figure like a greek god? No. Exactly.

    Anna x

    • Elle

      Preach ! … I’m on that same boat.

      • Secrette

        I’m definitely part of the itty bitty titty committee and I didn’t really feel offended or self-conscious reading these. It simply reminded me all guys are different and that I need to remember to play up my booty more :)

  • Yaya

    “Do you equate breast size to femininity? Yes to a certain degree I do….its one of those things that separate us from the guys
    Do you view women who are flat chested differently then women that are well endowed? No
    Were any of female readers teased for being flat chested? 
    no I developed very early
    At what age did you finally grow out? 
    A 10 I went from being flat chested to a C cup
    Any top heavy women that wish they were smaller? 
    Sometimes…especially with shopping…when buying shirts I have to shop for the girls….and my bras are so much expensive…but I love my breasts as well 

  • Yaya

    “Do you equate breast size to femininity? Yes to a certain degree I do….its one of those things that separate us from the guys
    Do you view women who are flat chested differently then women that are well endowed? No
    Were any of female readers teased for being flat chested? 
    no I developed very early
    At what age did you finally grow out? 
    A 10 I went from being flat chested to a C cup
    Any top heavy women that wish they were smaller? 
    Sometimes…especially with shopping…when buying shirts I have to shop for the girls….and my bras are so much expensive…but I love my breasts as well 

  • Ruth

    some of you people are demented if you’re in love that’s that. The right body size is just a bonus. You will be responsible for making women who aren’t perfect feel bad (and most aren’t perfect ) so stop expecting perfection.

  • Ruth

    some of you people are demented if you’re in love that’s that. The right body size is just a bonus. You will be responsible for making women who aren’t perfect feel bad (and most aren’t perfect ) so stop expecting perfection.

  • Ruth

    some of you people are demented if you’re in love that’s that. The right body size is just a bonus. You will be responsible for making women who aren’t perfect feel bad (and most aren’t perfect ) so stop expecting perfection.

  • Ruth

    some of you people are demented if you’re in love that’s that. The right body size is just a bonus. You will be responsible for making women who aren’t perfect feel bad (and most aren’t perfect ) so stop expecting perfection.

  • Ruth

    some of you people are demented if you’re in love that’s that. The right body size is just a bonus. You will be responsible for making women who aren’t perfect feel bad (and most aren’t perfect ) so stop expecting perfection.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_GCI2E3QCXRYEGS5WVWLQQJQJUQ Ann

    I’m petite all over but tall-ish (1.65m). I got a small bum that looks flat and small/flat chested. Sometimes breast size matters (even butt size) ’cause no one wants a stick, and always associate a small/flat chest to a boy and get deterred by it. The women that have butts and or boobs always are attractive to men, that’s before getting to know her personality.

  • Kristen

    Honestly, I’m kind of sick of it all. I’m 21 years old, I was a B-Cup but felt I was too heavy at 140 pounds and 5’5″, so I lost 20 pounds, now I’m much skinnier, but have gone down to an A-cup due to the weight loss. I’m a pretty small girl in terms of body fat. It is physically impossible for me to have big breasts and small everything else…except my ass. It’s pretty great by most guy’s standards I suppose. But anyways…

    It amazes me how the ideal woman is supposed to have small legs, arms, and waist but big boobs and a rounded ass….my body can not just magically deposit fat in all the right places, and leave it out of all the right places. If I don’t have much body fat, I just don’t, lol. First guys want us to have less fat on our bodies, then they want us to have more. 

    Guys just like boobs because they don’t have their own, and guess what girls, most guys dicks are small compared to what they “should be”, including the members of  a lot of the guys who only like girls with big breasts. :) So screw it!

  • Kristen

    Honestly, I’m kind of sick of it all. I’m 21 years old, I was a B-Cup but felt I was too heavy at 140 pounds and 5’5″, so I lost 20 pounds, now I’m much skinnier, but have gone down to an A-cup due to the weight loss. I’m a pretty small girl in terms of body fat. It is physically impossible for me to have big breasts and small everything else…except my ass. It’s pretty great by most guy’s standards I suppose. But anyways…

    It amazes me how the ideal woman is supposed to have small legs, arms, and waist but big boobs and a rounded ass….my body can not just magically deposit fat in all the right places, and leave it out of all the right places. If I don’t have much body fat, I just don’t, lol. First guys want us to have less fat on our bodies, then they want us to have more. 

    Guys just like boobs because they don’t have their own, and guess what girls, most guys dicks are small compared to what they “should be”, including the members of  a lot of the guys who only like girls with big breasts. :) So screw it!

  • Kristen

    Honestly, I’m kind of sick of it all. I’m 21 years old, I was a B-Cup but felt I was too heavy at 140 pounds and 5’5″, so I lost 20 pounds, now I’m much skinnier, but have gone down to an A-cup due to the weight loss. I’m a pretty small girl in terms of body fat. It is physically impossible for me to have big breasts and small everything else…except my ass. It’s pretty great by most guy’s standards I suppose. But anyways…

    It amazes me how the ideal woman is supposed to have small legs, arms, and waist but big boobs and a rounded ass….my body can not just magically deposit fat in all the right places, and leave it out of all the right places. If I don’t have much body fat, I just don’t, lol. First guys want us to have less fat on our bodies, then they want us to have more. 

    Guys just like boobs because they don’t have their own, and guess what girls, most guys dicks are small compared to what they “should be”, including the members of  a lot of the guys who only like girls with big breasts. :) So screw it!

  • Prattleing

    To look at I choose C or D, to suck the smaller the better but I’ve never seen one I’d walk away from.

  • Anonymous

    I love any comment that starts with “..but what about the men..”. :P

    Personally while bigguns are awesome, and comfortable to play with and act as pillow backups, i’m generally a small top nice hips/booty dude.

    but a nice rack is so eye catching that it must be good.

  • booblover

    Yes, To me the boob size on my woman matters. Good boobs (C/D cup) give her a womanly look not to mention the immense pleasure it would give me (and her) playing with those boobies and the possibility of titty f***ing, which I absolutely love.
    Having said that, I also find women like Keira Knightley (who barely has any breasts) attractive. I’ve fantasized making love to her but whether I would want a long-term relationship with such a girl is doubtful.

  • Johnny

    Flat chested women can be pretty, but they can never be sexy.  Any man that says otherwise is lying because he is desperate and has been trained to tell women what they want to hear.

    • Tom john

      Wow your a idiot or immature, either way im sure you are lacking personality! Im assuming you have never had sex with that kind of statement, yes lets let this idiot speak for all men, wait should I say boy!

  • Biancachelf

    Im pretty flat, not even quite an A and this is discourageing and justifies my low self esteem. I am lucky to have a nice ass but wish men could find cute small boobs sexy too and not except a woman to rock fake silicone that can kill her to be pretty. Can’t tell ya how many tears I’ve cried over my “bee stings” despite my so called pretty face and phat ass. It obvious that most men agree, flat is not only a negative a, even a full a or small b. I’m obviously doomed, and unless I want to risk sickness or debt, to have two beachballs glued to my chest, I’m not sexy, not a woman.

  • Valkyrie310

    I’m an older white guy. I want a woman with a great personality, sense of humor, adventurous, playful, knows when to be nice and when to be naughty.  If I really like the woman, how she looks means less, but if she is a relative stranger, how she looks and carries herself matters more. I suppose I prefer a woman to have medium sized breasts, BUT it is the nipples that matter more than the overall size of the breasts – perky prominent nipples where the aureola is puffy with suckable nipples sticking oui when aroused are like eating a multi dip ice cream cone. Yum!

    If I loved a woman I would love her regardless of her breast size. In fact if she had breast cancer and lost her breasts I would continue to worship her in all ways possible

  • Kimmie

    Typically tiny women with flat chest appeal to a certain type of man! Women have more bodyfat than men therefore; the lesser the bodyfat the more masculine the woman! Big breasts are a sign of femininity, which is why more men have their chest surgically decrease the size of their chest now than ever before! Women that are so small that they don’t have breasts need to look like super models in the face!

  • Aria7777

    I’m a girl, and I’m pretty weird because I hate big boobs. They just look gross to me. On anyone. I’m a 36D/DD and 5’3″ tall. I have a prety face I guess, i have a very very athletic build (gymnast) and very skinny (I might have anorexia, never diagnosed, but I don’t eat very much), I can see my ribs and my six pack along with all my back bones and shoulder blades and hip bones. So I’m very skinny except for my boobs. I am going to keep dieting until they go away.

     Anyways they are really annoying, my shoulders hurt all the time, I can’t wear push up bras or anything- I have to wear sports bras all the time, It’s hard to find tops and dresses that fit.
     The worst part is the guys though. Guys who are like 3 or 4 years older than me (im 14)  hit on me. I catch guys staring at my boobs occasionally. I’m not even into dating yet, never had a boyfriend and I don’t want one, because I don’t know if he would just like me for my looks.

    Also I look older so people seem to expect more out of me because I seem older. When people guess how old I am, they usually say 16 or 17.

    Idk, I don’t think bigger is more beautiful. I think big boobs look gross and fat…
    just wanted to throw my weird opinion out there :)

    • NWSO

      Peace sis,

      Thanks for chiming in. All I can say is you’re still growing in to yourself in terms of body type, I know it’s hard, but don’t let people’s perception of you push you to the point where you try to change yourself. The part about maybe being anorexic and starving yourself to shrink your chest. Sadly, losing wait doesn’t mean you’ll lose your chest. If that’s case you might make them look even bigger if the rest of your body is smaller. 

      All i can say is it’ll take time for boys/men to grow up and for you to build comfortability and confidence in your body. You’re young and there’s time, but I’m sure you wish time would just go faster. 

      • Anonymous

        I LOVE your answer.  Big, Medium, Small, I love them all sizes and shapes and colors.  Man I just LOVE EM especially those extended nipples that is a turn on. 

        Women need to stop letting me dictate to them about their bodies.  A sexy woman is a self assured woman that is PROUD of her body.  To me that is the turn on.  When you KNOW you are sexy with what you have and you are honest about what your sexiest feature is an you can show it and demonstrate it to your power and not afraid to GUIDE you partner to these places an points that is what would keep him coming back, (I KNOW I WOULD).

        Ladies leave the push up bra’s alone, the padded jeans, plastic surgery, butt injections alone.  Keep it real, and be real with yourself and partner and when you close the door leave the lights on tell that man to look at you and worship you for the beautiful woman that YOU are.

  • Fitriananur

    i’ll bet the guys who think big breast or fatt ass is or are important are not good in bed because they don’t have good personality that can please any woman and get any woman to reach optimum climax.

  • O O

    I have a theory that the pressures of femininity and cultural roles are stronger on large chested women.  People tend to see modest sized women as role models, mothers or even intellectuals.  While I’m advised to fall into sexual roles; yet still feel an absence of love in relationships.   While they are very nice to have, but I’m much more thankful for my less tangible qualities like kindness, intelligence and determination.  As far as the article goes, people will judge you on looks, for bad or good, but it is up to you to develop the less tangible aspects of yourself.

  • Might As Well Be Dead

    Small breasted women are insecure about their size for a very good reason – that the general consensus is saying we are underdeveloped and not complete women. We already know that. There is no need to rub more salt on the wound.

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  • Guest

    All men have diffferent preferences.
    Some men like large breasts, some men (like me) like small breasts and don’t like large breasts,
    Some men don’t care about breast size, perhaps they like butts.
    There’s a segment of the population of men out there who think you are sexy and feminine, whatever body type you have: BBW, skinny, big butt, small butt, long hair, short hair, etc, etc.

    Different strokes for different folks…
    If some men are hitting on you, you are attractive. Period.

  • Reggie

    I love chesticles on a woman.  They don’t have to be huge, they just need to be bigger than mine.

  • Steve

    Different women have different bodily features. I personaly dont like larger breasts, and i think that smaller breast are better(for some reason, i dont know why) and I do like smaller butts, too. Different women are beautiful in many ways, and a lot of the time I see women who hav a smaller figure hav a more beautiful face. And a lot of the time “Flat Chest” is a negative term to women, but it really isn’t. I disagree with all the guys who make negative comments on this website.

  • Anonymous

    Awwww yeah!!!! SIZE MATTERS!!!! SIZE MATTERS!!!! In my best cookie monster voice….

  • Rafkadimago

    men tends to look at the outside MORE than the inside, what i meant is the personality. i hate this fact, damn it!

  • girl

    You got one of them most retarded, biased and sexists blogs I have ever read. I really hope that women don’t take any of this bullshit seriously!

  • Katy Or M

    Mr ‘Authority’, I’m absolutely amazed that there are women in this world who let you anywhere near their breasts, quite frankly. You sound like you’re over compensating for having a tiny penis, so I hope for your sake you’ve got a nice face.

  • Gobster

    Personally, I think small breasts are great. I love the shape of firm breasts and small ones dont seem to sag so much. I know that no-one is perfect but, given the choice, I would go for an A/B cup before a DD cup any day.

  • Truth

    Do any of you fucking idiots — giving your opinions — realize that this entire post was just a troll to get people to click on this site and generate ad revenue? It’s a tits vs ass thread, and you all fell for it. Every single one of the “testimonials” in this “blog” (I’m not even going to call it an article, it’s so full of shit) is fabricated and you are all retarded for responding with your opinions.

    You are all idiots. You’re welcome for giving you a dose of truth.

  • Truth

    This is such a racist, biased, hipster website. I’m glad the site doesn’t update regularly and spread their retardation.

  • :(

    My boyfriend left me and my 32H’s for a 34B with crooked teeth and no arse. So for him, obviously size doesn’t matter. 

    • :/

      more likely he left you because of your personality and/or behaviour rather than your body.

  • TinyTits

    Well, fuck.
    Haha mine are so small you couldn’t even call them bee stings. More like… eh, a plank?
    *flies away*

  • sam

    no it doesnt. will you give your heart to me and only me? will you walk beside me and make a home for us and ours? will you stay beside me when im at my lowest or on top of the world? those are the things that matter.

  • Ocelot

    I love As and Bs but it’s best if there behind isn’t too large. They need a cute face.

  • oldlab74

    i would rather have a women who is flat chested for many reasons . a women who has more than a handfull and wants them bigger needs her head examiened. the smaller the breast the better , it makes it simple for her .

  • J of the Chi

    Any guy who says he won’t deal with no “bee-stings”? Really? Can’t be half as dissatisfying to you as your tiny packages are to us…. seriously. I happen to have D(s) and nothing but accolades, but I think that general health/attractiveness should be more of a factor.

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