Men Lie, Women Lie, But Do They Really Have To?
Adapted from “You Don’t Have To Lie to Kick It,” by Zach Davis
I initially decided to write this after I had heard some troubling headlines in the news. One of my favorite football players was murdered, and another man had boiling water poured on his genitals. Both were done by women they were dealing with and not being straight up.
Could either situation have been avoided or was a crime of passion the sole reason for both?
In my opinion, telling these women the truth could have possibly saved a family and a man's balls a lot of pain. There are mentally unstable people out there and you never know what a motherfucker is capable of in the heat of the moment. Yeah, men play big and bad, but I believe both the above occurrences happened while the brothers were asleep.
You can't stay awake forever, can you?
Being up front and honest from the get-go gives a woman a chance to choose if this is something she wants. I don't care what it is; tell her. That way you can always say, "We talked about this." If you don't want anything serious, tell her and see what she does. Nine times out of 10 she’ll still fuck with you.
In her mind she may think she can change that, but at least it’s out in the open. To be sure she doesn’t confuse your relationship; do not be afraid to remind her about this conversation once a month and reiterate that “this is what it is.”
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
Playing games with women and their feelings is where many men underestimate the fairer species. When a man’s jerked around, all we can usually come up with is kicking someone’s ass. A woman’s revenge, however, is more devious and plotting.
They’ll mess up your car, your house, your marriage, your career, your friendships, and your whole world. All because you kept pillow-talking about how you two are going to be this and do that. There’s even a show on one of the cable channels (I can’t recall which one at the moment) where it’s all about women that reach their breaking point. Turn it on, fellas, and listen to the stories of what can happen to your ass for “playing with this young girl’s heart,” as the fallen King of Pop would say. Life isn’t a game and shouldn’t be played as such; there isn’t a reset button on this shit.
Fellas, from the gate let a woman know what’s what. If she doesn’t like it, the next one will. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Go catch you a new one. Lying just leads to more lying and sooner or later the gig is up. How many people do you know that can get away with it for any decent amount of time?
If a United States President couldn’t keep his shit under wraps, how the hell are you? You’re the same dude that can’t remember to put the toilet seat down, but now you’re trying to live a double life? Wake up, before you don’t. Some women feel if they can’t have you then no one will. Either that, or you need to pay for the games you play.
One way or another.
Have you ever been lied to by someone you were dating? How did you find out? Did they give you a valid reason for their deception or was it a big load of crap? How long did you stay with them afterwards? Would you have more respect for a partner that was straight up with you? Or do you believe that ignorance is bliss? Do you feel that one sex is more likely to lie than the other or is that based more on the individual’s character? Does your mate have the right to destroy your property or physically harm you if they catch you in a devastating lie? Have you ever lied to someone you were dating? Why? Did you ever get caught in the lie? Why do you think so many people lie instead of telling the truth?
Speak your piece…
Today’s post came courtesy of Zach Davis, co-author of Roses and Brass Knuckles: A Man’s Pocket Guide to Winning the Dating and Marriage Game, which is an honest, insightful book presenting 15 basic principles to help men succeed in dating and marriage. For more information or to order your own copy visit, www.rosesnbrassknuckles.com.
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