Do Aggressive Women Get More Dates? (She Asked Him Out)
A lot of women often complain about not being able to find a good man or only being approached by jerks. A while back I suggested that the ladies just flip the script and actually do the asking out. For the most part, female readers balked at the idea because they were just too scared of rejection.
Men are simple, all you have to do is smile to get a man’s attention and he’ll be putty in your hands.
Don’t believe me? Well, I saw it firsthand last night.
The train was exceptionally crowded as I made my way home, but I still managed to snag my usual post against the closed doors. I pulled out my BlackBerry and I immediately began catching up on my NWSO emails for the day. (I told y’all I read them all).
Although I’m often lost in my own digital world, I always keep track of my surroundings—this is New York City after all. As the train got ready to pull into the Atlantic Ave. station I noticed this attractive woman, who appeared to be of Indian descent, trying to get past the woman in front of her.
The train wasn’t even out of the tunnel yet so I wondered why the woman was so pressed to make her way through the crowded car. Instead of heading in the direction of the doors that would actually open, she was headed towards my side of the train.
With a beaming smile, she extended her hand across two other men to boldly offer up her business card to the Asian man directly to my right.
“Call me,” she stated matter-of-factly, before turning around to exit the train.
At first I thought the Asian fella was an old acquaintance she spotted right before her stop, but one of the two bewildered men that had witnessed the exchange, inquired: “Do you know her?”
“No,” responded the Asian gentleman.
“Wow,” said the inquisitive stranger. “That was like something out of a movie.”
I give that woman mad respect. She saw something she wanted and went after it. The ball was now in ol’ boy’s court to call or not. Chances are he will—if he hasn’t already.
Shoot, they might even have a Wet Wednesdays worthy episode in their futures.
See, now was that so hard? Any woman that looks halfway decent could just as easily do the same thing. Not for nothing, the guy wasn’t even that cute, IMHO. It’s not like I’d know what a woman found appealing in another man anyway but the point is, the worst thing that could happen is dude doesn’t call. Even if he doesn’t, the woman could be rest assured that she at least made an effort to meet a man she found attractive.
Based on my eavesdropping, she also scored brownie points from the other men on the train.
“Man, that was so cool,” commented the tall Caucasian gentleman, who saw the whole thing go down. “She just handed you her card and said, ‘Call me.’ That just doesn’t happen every day.”
“Nah, not at all.”
“Are you going to call her?”
“Yeah, I have to.”
Stand clear the closing doors…
Ladies, would you have enough gumption to approach a man on the street? Or would you rather rely on coy eye contact and hope that he approached you? How’s that working out for you and your dating life? Do you feel it’s “unladylike” to approach a man like this woman did? Would you be able to handle the disappointment if the man you gave your number to never called? Fellas, does an aggressive woman turn you on? Would you think she was “easy” or just a woman that knew what she wanted? Do you think dating would be easier if more women were aggressive?
Speak your piece…