Do You Trust Her Around Your Man? (She’s a Man-Eater)

At first I was not quite on the same page with you in regards to being "insecure" just because a female doesnt want her man around another woman..I dont care how "secure" you are, that dont mean your man wont stray- just like it dont matter how fine, big your ass is, or how much you cater to him.. His decision to cheat is just that- HIS DECISION...But i DO agree with "If you don’t trust your man just say that and don’t blame it on the next chick or her undeniable sex appeal"- a lot of women tend to blame their man cheating or having a wandering eye on the next female.. I dont get that.. If the chick is hot, she is hot..how is it HER fault??

I trust my friends around my man because I only have about 5 REAL ones and they have done absolutely nothing to make me think any differently. I dont see how ANY one could be a friend to someone that they dont trust. If you have to worry about your friend and man hooking up, there is something wrong with that scenario. I would believe that this person knows how her man or her friend is, and what boundaries (or lack of) they have in regards to O.P.P...

I dont blame the girlfriend to be honest. I would think the same damn thing!! The bitch is BAD and she has a reputation of being around the time a "marriage is falling apart"..cough.. For her to just now voice concerns when it comes to ANGELINA and not all the other women he has been in movies with, then she is clearly more suspect of her rather than him because we know Depp be pulling groupie pussy left and right..They work long hours together for countless days..but you dont see NBA or NFL players wives talking bout they cant go to away games or what not because they dont trust the groupies.. it just comes with the territory.

Oh, and as far as Angelina goes. She has a reputation for a reason. Because she obviously has no boundaries. Nuff said.

Wow. I would question either my relationship/friendship or my insecurities if I felt I couldn't trust my friends or man.

I can honestly say I'd trust him to be around anyone, whether they were my friend or not. Yes, there are women with motives, but that doesn't mean he's gonna fall prey to them.

Me preventing him from being around any females without me is not gonna stop him from cheating. If he wants to do it, he will regardless of my influence. In fact, that kind of control could have the opposite intended effect, helping push that person to someone else.

Both situations sound like the woman's insecure. I did some artwork once for someone's husband. I dealt entirely with his wife, who I already knew, and NEVER spoke, texted, IM'd, or emailed directly with him. I thought that was quite odd, but knowing her I do believe she has trust issues. I've also seen her accompany him when he's out doing his job. I don't get it. I don't even WANT to be that much a part of my man's life.

Angelina didn't make those men leave their former mates. Those men chose to do so. Why do us women make excuses like this and blame women? Because we don't want to accept that our men stepped out?

If you can't trust your man friends to be alone together then you shouldn't be in a relationship or have friends for that matter. I'm single because I don't trust men to faithful. I have been hurt one too many times. So without trust I'm done. I'm serious when I say if you don't trust your man to be around other females leave him because he more then likely will cheat if he really wants

I trust my girls with my life. They are the bestestest friends anyone could ever ask for and more. I would kill and die for these women and they would do the same for me.

So to stay on topic: I would definitely trust my guy and my girls to be able to be in the same room without me. No issues at all.

However, I am not going to lie, I do not trust women I do not know/haven't met and who are supposedly my guy's female friends. In the past, I trusted his female friends to be just that - friends in a platonic sense. But a bottle of wine, some compromising situation and maybe some conversation later and sex not only hovers over the scenario but actively tends to enter it. Sorry, I am not going to set myself up like that again.
If a man has sisters, a mother and a girlfriend what exactly does he need female friends for. He can get all his "female input" from the aforementioned women. I simply steer clear of men with plenty of female friends. Just like women who have nothing but male friends there is something wrong with a man who calls tons of women his friends. Dude is either gay or a whore.

I meant "contest"

I have friends I trust and acquaintances I do not. I trusted my former husband and had no problems.

The reality is that people are in relationships that are not 100 % perfect, which includes the possibility that their mate might cheat. If that is not a deal breaker for them, then they may decide to stay. So in that case, they may not try to tempt fate.

We all have some form of insecurities in our life. The challenge is how you manage it and attempt to grow and not go crazy in the process.

I dont know now......................My cousin wanted to live with me temporarily and I was married. This girl has been a man eater since 14 we were both born and raised in miami but she is waaaaay more "miami" than I am. Fine as all hell and I'm in lil ole' Athens,GA now where men(most) arent that quick! She can get whatever she wants from men and had other reasons (not financial) for needing to crash at my place. So did she actually think I was letting her live with me and my man?????? Call me insecure all u want, that was not gonna happen. I have a few friends that I might worry about and few I don't and its not based on their looks or his type its based on their personalities. Sometimes its not about trust, its about common sense. Would you take an alcoholic to a bar??

@Elle

“if a man has sisters, a mother and a girlfriend what exactly does he need female friends for”

Damn child. I have only sisters and a mother and many aunts and female cousins and guess whaat I also have many female friends. 90% of them I never had any kind of relationship with....truth be told I actually relate well with women because many who are platonic friends know that I do not cross the line. My current lady even asked me on meeting one of my very attractive female friends how come I did not date her, since she seemed to fit my physical profile and I told her because I know her as a person and it would never have worked.

But back to the topic, I will agree that trust is foundation of any relationship and what I get from this is story and many of the responses is that "women distrust other women a lot more than they distrust their own men."

I think its sad frankly. It says true sisterhood has a long way to go and that many women truly do not respect their men and don't think much of them truly. As a man i would be insulted if my wwoman basically consider me some dog in heat who should never be allowed around other women because they are jezebels and I would hump anything. SMGDM

Reminds me of the former NBA player Doug Christie, whose wife told the NYT that she flies to every game and he is not allowed to be alone in the presence of any other woman he is not related to, not even female reporters. Because she does not trust those women to stay away from her man. As if he ended up messing with another woman it was because the women seduced him. If some of you belive that you should asked that all other women be covered up in Birkhas to ensure they don't entice your man. The fundamentalist muslims must be correct then. Because some of the women on here are in agreement.

I have to say ladies men have really made u all believe that each other is the enemy. Game over.

It amazes me the stupidity some people try to justify. If you have to watch him/her like a hawk why are you with them like Ans stated in the blog. This just defeats the purpose of being in a relationship. Im not going to get in a car with somebody I think is a serial killers. Likewise Im not going date a female who I think cant keep foreign dicks out of her mouth.

I was notorious for bringing my girl around my friends(When I had more than one friend). I wanted her to matter to them like she mattered to me. And It makes it easier to spend time with the fellas and QT with your baby. I have a thing for females who tend to have alot of guy friends. So my girl usually is use to dealing with guys. I will always give any lady I date the benefit of the doubt.

Now with that said I had my past love end up sleeping with one of my friends(For the record we were officially broken up at the time). But once again if somebody has no integrity they will do the wrong thing no matter how hard you try to stop it.

@Elle(hi baby)

Trust if he wants to cheat he will. I dont think you should eliminate a guy based on the gender of his friends. I for one dont have any sisters and me and my mom never have "Real Talk". And my relationship with my bestfriend is some what shallow. I can only get emotional with females for some reason. While I agree that I will give all that to my lady. I dont think having a few lady friends is putting my relationship in danger. I dont buy into the whole "accidentally fucking" theory. Either you vaule what you have and will never jeopardize it or you dont.

AHEM! Call it what you want. You must be a total idiot if you think it's just the "man's" fault and if "he's" gonna cheat "he's" gonna cheat. People (women) loooove saying it's the man's fault. Owe the eff up. As if he's cheating with his hands only. There is another party involved. One of the noted best things women do is hide shit from their spouses and friends (yeah men do it too, at least I can owe up). If you think for once your girls haven't even considered sleeping with your man, even the ones who claim they don't like him and you knew them since you were in grade school, you're a total idiot. TOTAL! Like the group. The story makes sense to me, I don't care how insecure you think your friends are, blah blah blah in one ear out the other. I don't trust a damn body. And if my girl's girl needs work done, my girl is coming with me, even if it's her sister, I don't trust them either. It ain't an issue, it's precaution. I've never cheated in my life, but I've had ex-girl-friend's sisters, mothers, friends and enemies approach me while I was with them. Relatives and friends have "innocently" flirted with my girl-friends. No one is to be trusted. I don't care who you are.
Period.

WOMEN are a trip! The dude is an electrician, what does Monique think he does all day? Electricians work in business and residential locations, day in and day out, so if he's prone to cheat, he's gonna have loads of opportunities to be in the presence of a woman who has NO reason to care whether or not he's married or in a relationship...smdh Her girl friend is not the issue. If a man has ho'ish tendencies, he's gonna do what comes natural. Personally, I, like Rasta, have enuff integrity, honor and self restraint to keep me from pursuing or allowing my lady's "friend" to proposition me.

lol @ Elle, bcuz she said: ......U don't need female friends if you have a mom and a sista....lmao. U killin me. NOW you tryin to tell a man he can't maintain friends with the opposite sex AND date you? C'mon, Shawty! EVERYBODY has at least ONE platonic friend. Every man has run across at least ONE woman he wouldn't "do" and bcuz of that, they make GREAT friends. REAL men don't see everything with legs as desirable or sexy--even with beer goggles on. Maybe you have "control" issues?

I'm Team Angie all day!! Fact of the matter is this these were grown ass men doing whatever they felt as though they wanted to do; regardless of whomever they had to go home to. Let's be honest if Angie was a man she'd be player of the millennium (I mean c'mon she not only bagged Brad Pitt {one of the most beautiful men in the world- it's been scientifically proven**}, but she's got 424579634 African and Asian children and one soon to be insanely hot natural born child with him, something Jen never even got the chance to attempt!!!)

I agree with Throne, people are gonna do whatever they want to do. Not trusting someone and bringing those insecurities to light is a sure way to speed up the dissolution of something that wasn't gonna work in the first place. And more to the point, fucking doesn't just happen on accident. Shredding your tax forms, dropping your phone in the toilet, a pot boiling over, hell even dropping your kid, all happens by accident. Falling and landing in someone's pussy...yea, nah, you knew exactly what you were doing. point blank period!

**http://www.oprah.com/relationships/5-Elements-of-Attractiveness-The-Science-of-Sex-Appeal/3

@Elle: I think the issue moreso is that dude thinks it's ok to be alone with his female friend and share a bottle of wine. Having female friends isn't wrong, it's what kind of friendship they have that says a lot.

@Rastaman: I agree. Where has the love gone? Women can be such haters against each other.

Applause to da Throne. We all have desires and feelings which should only be seen as such til we apply an action to them. That action is what matters.

Some of trust involves blind faith. We never know what can happen. But there's a lot we can see if we just tune in. I don't believe people or relationships drastically change overnight, so in the instances where one cheated, I would bet a lot there were red flags beforehand.

Aaaand... just because you feel mistrust for your partner, does not necessarily mean you cannot trust them. You have to be able to identify those feelings as rational or irrational fears. A lot of times our trust issues get in the way of seeing things clearly.

my bad, she married him!

My belief (for myself as well), is that if he feels uncomfortable telling me about one of his female friends, then it's a red flag.

@Chocolate Drop:
Yes, there is that practice too that we turn a blind eye to.

But... I've had female friends that I've been attracted to. Now, I'd never act out on that because I'm heterosexual. You can be attracted to someone and it be a true, platonic friendship. My emotions or feelings do not dictate me like that. My actions do. If we start judging people by their thoughts before anything ever comes of them, then we're living in a world like in Minority Report.

Well... even an attraction deeper than physical doesn't mean I'm emotionally cheating on my BF or would physically cheat on him with that person.

Example: I am still friends/associates with an ex, someone in our circle of friends. Sometimes I'm reminded of why I dated the ex and that attraction, but know bottom line, I don't want to be with him. Initially, it's just a feeling of attraction.

First off. Hi NWSO fam im a huge fan but never commented, but this topic hits close to home for me. SMH

OK i had a situation where my close friend and my X had "relations" the story is sketchy but non the less somethin went down. I dont blame Ms.Depp for her insecurity around ms. homewrecker Jolie but @ the end of the day as aforementioned its up to ur spouse whether they cheat or not, not you. In my situation i trusted both parties, am I wrong for that? NO. was i naive to think my friend wouldnt do some shady shit? probably... but @ the end of the day, you should trust ur SO, but know that even your close friends have hidden agends. Dont put urself/ them in a situation that could have a bad outcome.

@Authentic Queen

With all do respect. You are foolish if you make a man your "Future husband" without the confidence that he would put both of your so called "Friends" back in their place the moment either one got out of line with him. Thats what this is all about.

I really dont get people who allow other people to get close to them knowing that they cant be trusted at all levels. There is a reason I only have one real friend and that because I know he has my back with anything. You are questioning your friends choices for fucking random dudes. Maybe you should question your own choice for keeping friends you feel you cant trust.

I am fortunate that I have friends that I absolutely trust around my man and I trust my man around them and or another attactive woman. Moniique seems is insecure and Nia is better off without that friendship.

I'm from the school that you can't steal someone that doesn't want to be stolen!

That's all I'm gonna say on that.

As far as friends, if you can't trust a person, I'd consider them an "associate" at best. I have maybe 5 FRIENDS in my whole life, and quite a bit "associates."

@ Karmagini

I used to think the same thing. But put it like this:

You meet a female through work or school, etc. Ya'll have a few things in common and ya'll vibe so you decide to hang out , go to the movies, club, mall, etc. This girl tells you she has a boyfriend/significant other. If during the course of your relationship, whatever the extent, you first hand see that in addition to her significant other, ole girl is sleeping with Ronnie the coworker, that cute fella that hollered at her while ya'll were at say, Applebees, oh yea...and she's still boning her ex boyfriend. Now you don't have to call her a ho to her face..because you know it..and I'm pretty sure she knows it too. Its true you can't tell anyone else how to live their life. But if "said homegirl" were to wind up pregnant and go on Maury for a DNA test, she would have the boyfriend, Ronnie the coworker, sexy from Applebees, and Mr. Ex as possible fathers. And those are just the ones that YOU may know of. Those are ho tendencies and regardless of how harsh it may sound..her friends/acquaintances/associates don't need to tell her that. Her actions speak for itself. If a woman wants to be overly sexual..to each his own..but be single and do what you do. If not...then at least in my book..that's a ho. Or if you are going to be off the chain, be respectful enough to be discreet with what you're doing so ONLY you and the person you're dealing with know what time it is. And if a ho asks me if I think she's ho-ing...I'm blunt and I'm gonna tell her to give her to put her juice box in the fridge and let it chill for a minute. Cuz that's what a real friend should be telling her.

And if hoes don't want their exploits exposed..then they probably shouldnt brag about their personal indiscretions. And they should also choose who they give it up to..because men talk more than women. And alot of the word gets spread around the water cooler or outside on smoke breaks. So its not always an issue of sisters downing other sisters..its about if you know better then you're supposed to do better. That's almost like a crackhead getting busted for prostituting to support their habit, then turning around being mad that someone called them a crack head. Just like a crackhead, hoes (male and female) don't have to always open their mouth (no pun intended) for people to know what the business is because their reputations speak for themselves.

Wow. I would question either my relationship/friendship or my insecurities if I felt I couldn’t trust my friends or man.

I can honestly say I’d trust him to be around anyone, whether they were my friend or not. Yes, there are women with motives, but that doesn’t mean he’s gonna fall prey to them.

Me preventing him from being around any females without me is not gonna stop him from cheating. If he wants to do it, he will regardless of my influence. In fact, that kind of control could have the opposite intended effect, helping push that person to someone else.

Both situations sound like the woman’s insecure. I did some artwork once for someone’s husband. I dealt entirely with his wife, who I already knew, and NEVER spoke, texted, IM’d, or emailed directly with him. I thought that was quite odd, but knowing her I do believe she has trust issues. I’ve also seen her accompany him when he’s out doing his job. I don’t get it. I don’t even WANT to be that much a part of my man’s life.

Angelina didn’t make those men leave their former mates. Those men chose to do so. Why do us women make excuses like this and blame women? Because we don’t want to accept that our men stepped out?

***Exactly! Being around a man all the time so that he's never alone around another woman is not going to stop a man from cheating. in fact it may even ensure that once is able to break free of your vice grip he does do it just to have something different. If you can't trust him that much then you need to be alone until those issues within yourself are worked out. And stop blaming other women. they may dangle the bait but he's gotta jump on the hook**

There's a difference between being insecure and being smart. Limiting temptation doesn't mean you don't trust your partner; it means you recognize all humans can be weak. I see no difference between limiting your friends' one on one contact with your partner and putting away the liquor when a recovering alcoholic comes over. That person may have been clean and sober for 15 years, but that doesn't mean you should put a glass of wine in front of them and hope they don't drink.

It seems to me like the people who turn issues like this into big reflections on trust and security are the ones with trails of failed relationships behind them. Every woman and man I know that's happily married or committed knows that there are just rules of the game that might defy "logic" but are essential to making things work. For some, it's not letting your homegirl chill with your man alone. For others, it's keeping the ass and titties covered up unless they're together.

Stop expecting perfection because neither this world or the people in it are perfect. Realize and accept what the shortcoming are and work around them. Maybe then we'd have less black relationship blogs written by single men and women and more by those who are married and rebuilding the black family.

@The Great

You just compared fidelity to alcoholism? Its not my job to limit my S.O.'s temptations its their job. And I would never be with a female who I didnt feel was fully up for that job. You cant control the actions of others. You can either have faith that the person your with vaules with you have or not. But why wake up everyday thinking that you need to deflect sex starved male/females away from your mate?

@Miss Brina

That is completely different then inviting a "Friend" over. Only to watch her like a hawk and making her follow you around because you have trust issues. Having a person flirt with your S.O. is bad enough ,but doing it in your face just ratchet things up. I'm not violent but I could see myself punching a dude right in his face for some shit like that.

@ The Great - You said it best

It is not about trust. Cheating comes about as a result of opportunity!!!
Limit those opportunities for yourself and your mate.
I love my friends and I trust my friends but, just like Nia, some of my friends are naive about their 'sexy' and their feminine power so I don't create opportunities for them to 'happen to fall into inappropriate behavior with my man.
I put more owness on my friends/woman as man (regardless of trust) will always be a man.

"If another person “Takes” your S.O./Mate buy that person a gift basket because they did you a favor."

This statement pawns every other statement here by a million times. And was just the answer, I was looking for. Thanks.

Shannon,

No offense but your family and friends are grimy. Maybe you should move to a different town. I don't believe normal people would behave the way your relatives have.

Chris Rock said "a man is only as faithful as his options." LoL!!

@da Throne

We're gonna have to agree to disagree on this one because we see this issue different fundamentally. From your posts, you see it as an issue of trust - will s/he or won't s/he cheat on me? Correct me if I'm wrong.

I see this as no more than a boundary for the relationship. Some things you do or don't do simply because it doesn't smell right. There may not be anything inherently "wrong" in the act but the simple appearance of something inappropriate can be enough to start putting chinks in the relationships armor. It's not that I distrust either my man or my friends to do something. It's moreso about just removing that from the equation altogether. There are enough external and internal forces that can pull a relationship apart, why even let this become one of them? Absent an emergency, there's no compelling need for the two to be chilling or spending time together without me. So why force the issue? As a display of trust and confidence? You'll know from daily interactions whether your partner trusts you or not, so I see no need to create extra challenges to prove them right or wrong.

Like I said, we'll have to agree to disagree because every couple has to do what works for them. For me and mine, we've been together for 9 years - committed and exclusive the whole time, none of that break up to make ups nonsense - and this works for us. You and your fiancee have to do what works for you two.

@Sherell

Chris Rock said “a man is only as faithful as his options.” LoL!!

That was funny, but do you truly be believe that? The man is a COMEDIAN; Chris Rock once said there will never be even a black vice president, today look at us LOL

BTW My mother used to say that saying as well, but the fact of the matter is our friends don't define us; at some point in time, we all had a friend or friends with different ideals & values we didn't share.

Yadda yadda yadda ... all this PC crap about trusting 100% because otherwise you're just being an insecure bitch looks good on paper.

Fact of the matter is, relationships and marriages fail everyday, every second really because of infidelity (among other reasons).
If ONLY a handful of scandalous people were cheaters how come almost every single one of us has come across at least one if not more of said people?
Mathematically speaking: chances are we're all going to get cheated on simply because most folks cheat at one or more points in their life.

Ergo: why would I set myself and my relationship up by allowing some sort of fuckery like that? Why does my man need to go to the movies and to dinner with some chick simply because he calls her a friend? Like somebody said, people these days use the friend term horribly losely. Folks you had a crush on but it never came anything from it suddenly turn into friends. The whole term FRIENDS with benefits abuses the friendship concept as I understand it. Exes calling each other friends now. To all that I can only say: bitch please. As soon as sex has, is or will be hovering over the situation you ain't friends with a person.

Humans are mammals. One of our main purposes in life is to procreate. It's an instinct. All the trust in the world cannot deny human instincts. If people are broke, they will steal. If they are hungry, they will do all in their power to eat. If they are horny, they will fuck. Point blank.
The only difference is with some people it takes longer until they show us their ass - those usually consider themselves good men/women which is another term I consider to be complete nonsense. There is no such things as a through and through good man or woman. We all have done or will do others dirty at times.

So I am with The Great, I will limit the temptation. Take it or leave it. I will never again tolerate female friends where yall "hang out" one on one.
I once was foolish enough to trust my ex-fiancé around his so-called female friends only to find out later that he wanted to fuck them - yes THEM, not just one. Blahzay blah don't even try this "oh you put your bet on the wrong guy then" speech. He was the overall good guy on paper up until a point. But things happen in people's lives that make it hard to remain "good" - especially when chicks throw themselves at you, sweettalking you and putting doubt in your head about your relationship. Temptation is a mothaF and it get's the best of us. Ask Adam and Eve.

*waves at Tron* Hi mistah ... yay you typed fiancé!!!

@Anonymous

I moved away from home just for that reason, among others. I know the in's and out's and the ups and downs of dating a deadweight, so I never give them a pass. I'm not so hard-up that I just have to have a man in my life; being alone doesn't bother me because I get along with myself and I enjoy my own company.

Women like my friends and my family are also looking for a good man, but they would rather let another woman find him, then make their move on him instead of getting one on their own. Even my aunt dated a married man for more than ten years (!) and had two of his children and was bitter when he refused to leave his wife for her. Their children suffered dearly being caught in the middle.

I know what you mean about them being grimy; this is why I never introduce anyone I date to them anymore. It's hard when you have a good man and so many other unscrupulous woman are on the make. I wonder if I were to ever marry again if I could even invite them to the wedding; sad to say, I doubt it.

Sounds like we were with the same dude@Spinster

Don't you just love the guys who will break up so they don't "technically" cheat on their girl with the next one they already have lined up?

@Sherell

Wow “if you are capable of going deeper”; Really? Capable?

In all fairness, my question to you in regards to what Chris Rock said was not a challenge to your intelligence; I have a female friend who truly believes this to be true, and I was only asking if you do agree. I also do believe there could be a truth in humor; you see we agree on something LOL

Frankly, when I heard this (a man is only as faithful as his options), I thought it was witty and funny as hell but gave it no credence. This only reaffirms the cliché that men are dogs and can’t control themselves when the opportunity is present.
Now regarding friends with different values and morals – let us just agree to disagree on that. I for one will always have an open arm for individuals with different ideas or ideals; nevertheless, this does not make me a passive individual.

No love lost, LOL

@Elle & Spinster

Perhaps you are playing it safe this time around – fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. I could understand that; to err is human, but believe it or not, we as men could have female friends without crossing the line, so to speak. LOL.

I don’t necessarily burn bridges;(don't shake you head, LOL) I have female friends I’ve known for donkey years who know and understand me much better than my male friends. Of course, I’m not naïve of the big elephant in the room during our dealings; you acknowledge it and set your boundaries if you are a person of integrity. Shit happens beyond our control but how we respond is always in our control. With that said I firmly don’t believe in ‘accidental slip ups”. Our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings create our life or reality.

Case history, there was an ex I was hanging with who blatantly confessed that she still has feelings for me, that severed our ties.
As recently as last month, I attended my boy’s wedding; I’ve an ex who wanted to accompany me to the wedding because she was cool with my boy (through me) as well. Since she was married, I thought it was an inappropriate thing to do, so I said no.

You may have a point though, SMDH @ some dudes, now my integrity is in question LOL

Its definitely an insecure thing when a woman cannot trust her man around other females. If a woman knows she is truly making her man happy and she trust him then she is good cause a man in love and happy can be somewhere and the baddest chick can walk in the room yes he will acknowledge she is pretty sexy whatever but he will not risk what he already has because his woman does it for him. There will always be someone sexier than your mate but its your mate love for you that will stand the test of time....

@QuoteMan

Exactly. Playing it safe this time. Trust doesn't pay off but gets abused in my experience.

@ThRONe

Basically that is exactly what I am saying. I do believe there are good people in the actual sense of the word out there.
But as you said: their number is declining by the second with every deceit, heartbreak, disappointment. So unless I'd consider dating 18 year olds who haven't been burnt and ruined by the dating game, chances are the men I'll meet won't be so darn good anymore since they have experienced their fair share of relationship BS.

Why bother? I don't know. I guess it is more so a question of adjusting to reality. If I expect it to happen and I expect the bestest of men to fuck up at one time or another, it won't catch me so off guard next time and therefore not do as much damage to me.

About Johnny Depp's girlfriend, If I were in her shoes, I would let him do the movie. If by the slightest chance he did cheat on me with Angelina...I would beat his ass & call it a day...GOODBYE!!

Besides I don't believe Angelina will be with Brad Pitt very long anyway. That relatiionship was doomed from the start bcuz of the BS foundation it was built on, or if any at all.

I should be able to trust my friends along with my man. How can they be my friends if I can't trust them?