I’m 23 and haven’t been sexually active in four years—I’m more like the serious relationship kinda girl. My last boyfriend mentioned that my vaginal scent REALLY turned him on.
I didn’t even realize that I had one.
During the course of our two-year relationship, we had vaginal sex and did a lot of foreplay. He even used to finger me a lot before we became sexually active. My ex is the only guy I ever slept with.
But there’s a song that scares me straight. About two or three years ago, rapper Plies released a song called “Water,” where he raps about his hatred of any vaginal smell.
“I need me a b*tch that pucci smell like water/Nice tight wet pucci wit’ no odor/Before you take them panties off I gotta question for ya/All I wanna know if that pucci smell like water.”
Recently, I started dating another guy. If everything goes well, I would like to become sexually active with him several months down the line. The problem is, I’m terrified of how my vagina may smell to him. To make things worse, I’ve never even given or received oral sex. But I would love to start. Frankly, I’m scared of how his penis might smell to me when and if I decide to go down on him, too. But I’m mainly terrified of how I might smell to him!
I’ve never, ever been pregnant, had an abortion, or even an STD. I’ve never had a vaginal infection in my life, not even a yeast infection. I’ve been showering twice a day since I was a little girl, and I’ve never, ever had an odor problem, not even during my period. But I’m terrified that I may have a vaginal scent.
Ever since I heard that song, I’ve become even more obsessive with my hygiene. I’ve had nightmares of Plies chanting to me, “Pucci got a lil’ scent on it then you gotta go!”
Is it normal for women to have a vaginal scent? If so, do men consider that sexy? Have you ever dealt with a woman with a scent? Is it normal for you to smell a woman during oral sex? And how are men supposed to smell?
Please, please answer my question. I’ve been worried about this for YEARS!!! Thank you. By the way, I’ve enjoyed your blog ever since reading about it in Essence.
The first thing I want to say is: You said your ex LOVED the way your vagina smelled, so what exactly is the problem here? LOL. It wasn’t like he said you were rank. In fact, it was the complete opposite, he actually enjoyed your scent and it turned him on. You should’ve been happy with that and focused on all the things he was doing to you because of how much he loved your scent, rather than whether or not you smelled “funny.”
Moving right along…
Now as for your concern about your vagina having a smell, I don’t think that’s really an issue—unless it’s a bad or “fishy” smell. Unless you have a cold or something I imagine you’d be able to tell if you scent was an attraction or a distraction.
Just think about it for a second, everything smells like something, right? You know what an orange smells like; you know what chalk smells like; you know what dirt smells like; you know what rain smells like; and at 23 you’re grown so you should know what B.O. smells like—whether that’s under your arms or between your legs.
For the record, vagina has a smell, a relatively good one, that’s completely and totally natural. It’s all about pheromones and other scents the body gives off that are natural turn-ons for the opposite sex. Yeah, sometimes after a long sweaty day, you might have that “not so fresh feeling” but I figure you’d be able to tell that yourself and do a little wash up before getting your groove on.
But please don’t go overboard with the Bath & Body Works products trying to make yourself smell like kiwi passion fruit down there. Fruits are supposed to smell like fruits not people. Besides, I’ve heard that too much cleaning and douching of your lady parts can actually get rid of the body’s natural defenses against infection etc. But I don’t have a vagina and am not a gynecologist, so I’m not 100-percent on that. I’m sure some of the other female readers can chime in with more first hand accounts in the comments.
Now, the most important thing I have to tell you is this: DO NOT listen to a rapper for sex advice—especially Plies. Are you serious? Pucci never smells like water, it smells like pucci. Point blank. If it has no smell at all there’s definitely a problem.
As a heterosexual male with a healthy sexual appetite I love the smell of pucci, especially if it’s attached to a woman I care about. Ain’t nothing like a good whiff stuck to the top of your lip after going downtown, soothing you to sleep after a nice round of sex. LOL.
But seriously, if your previous mate liked your scent I’m sure the next guy will love it, too. I mean, if you can’t tell what smells good or bad yourself I’ll just have to shake my head at you.
If you’re really that unsure; why don’t you just do the old rub and sniff test. I’m dead serious, stick a finger in and see what it smells like to you and take it from there.
As for your questions: Is it normal for women to have a vaginal scent? Yes and most men do consider that sexy. Have I ever dealt with a woman with a BAD scent? Yeah, I did but it was a one-time thing (meaning we had been intimate plenty of times before) and everyone has a bad day. It was a bit of a turn off but I was young and went for mine.
Now that I’m older and not as “eager” I’m sure I’d suggest a shower together, but the women I’ve dealt with sexually are generally on point with theirs and most women usually run to the bathroom for a pre-game check before doing the do if they’re unsure. Ain’t nothing like a baby wipe or quick washrag right before getting it on.
Is it normal for you to smell a woman during oral sex? Yes, your face is right up in it so even if she smelled like faint roses you’re bound to smell it that close. Now if I could smell her from across the room that’s a completely different story. (Peep my man Sha Stimuli’s “The Smelly Cat Song” video below for that).
How are men supposed to smell? I dunno, like balls, I guess. LOL. I’ve only smelled my own (duh) and they smell like balls. End of story. Well, except when I have sex then they smell like pucci. LOL.
I know you’ve only had one partner but y’all never had sex and the room smelled like sex afterwards? It’s a sign of a job well done when the combination of pucci and balls is in the air.
Ultimately, though you should really be able to know if you smell bad or not. Just go with the flow and move at your own pace. But I’m just a guy so again I figure the female Sock Heads should have more personal expertise on vaginas than I.
Ladies, what advice do you have for this young woman? Can you tell when you have that not so fresh feeling? Would you be embarrassed if a man ever told you were a little fishy? Do you always sneak away to the bathroom to wash up before an episode? Fellas, have you ever come across a woman that didn’t smell right? Did you still get it on with her or did you scram? Would you tell a woman that she didn’t smell right or would you just make an excuse to leave? Have you ever dealt with a woman where you loved how her pucci smelled? What do you think of Sha’s song?
Speak your piece…
SHA STIMULI’S “THE SMELLY CAT SONG”
“How do you tell, a pretty young lady that her coochie smells/(Heyyyy)/
Maybe you play this joint/Maybe she’ll get the point.”