Do You Know What Second Base Is? (Touchy Feely Freaks)

How do you define first, second and third base?

First base is kissing. Second base is boobs. Third is finger-popping/oral sex. And we all know a homerun. The rule of thumb I was told was waist up = 2nd base, waist down = 3rd.

Does it matter if clothes are on or off?

Doesn't matter whether clothes are on or off.

How old were you when you let a guy/gal get to second base?

18

Now that you’ve made some homeruns do the other bases seem like a waste of time? Are you just too old to be worrying about what base you’re on?

No, now it all amounts to foreplay and too too many people overlook it.

What’s your lifetime batting average?

How do we judge this? People we wanted to sleep with, that we did or didn't get a chance to?

Are you turned off by people that are touchy feely too early on?

Only if I'm not feeling you. Or do you mean sexually aggressive rather than affectionate? Sexually aggressive early is no bueno. Affectionate (hand-holding, kissing, etc.) is highly desirable.

What does it take for you to feel comfortable enough for someone to go all the way with you?

A commitment preferably.

Do you like going below the belt a little bit?

Ummm, since I am a new commenter I will plead the 5th here.

What did you think of this week’s video mashup?

Loved it.

1st Kissing
2nd Touching breast
3rd Playing with the pussy
4rd Having sex

First base is the elementary kissing and hugging. Second base is more about feeling each other up; third base is what is traditionally referred to as "heavy petting," and of course home base is intercourse, whether vaginal, anal or oral.

Sex is sex, regardless of the method; don't believe the hype that oral sex isn't real sex. Just because it doesn't result in pregnancy or isn't vaginal doesn't mean it doesn't count. It does, in a very big way.

I am well aware of the extremely liberal attitudes toward sex these days, especially with black people. They tend to be far more liberal and less inhibited and more often than not will justify or defend their definition and need for sex. Well, to each his own, I guess; while I have encountered white men who are less inhibited, most of them by far know that sex is sex is sex and don't differentiate.

For myself, I don't see the point or purpose of engaging in sex without further commitment. I think it distracts from the serious issues most people would rather avoid or turn a blind eye to, but unfortunately it usually leaves one--most likely, the woman--in a frustrating position. I firmly believe if dating couples were to refrain from sex for a month or two, they would see the relationship for what it really is.

I am automatically turned off by men who are touchy-feely, men who expect the world from me but don't reciprocate, men who don't want to commit, men who only talk about sex or put pressure on me to give in, men who lie and tell me a lot of BS to make me give in...you get the idea. I do not allow a man to kiss me, let alone touch me; if he is not willing to get to know me or is only concerned with when he's getting laid, he is not worth my time. It doesn't bother me to be alone or to live sans sex. Contrary to popular belief, sex is not a necessity and one can live without it and be perfectly happy. It's more important to me to be respected, loved and needed than it is to be desired and arousing; I consider myself to be more than just mere entertainment and value myself much more than the men around me care to. I determine my own value; it simply amazes me that a man finds a woman who will have sex with him and several other men before him to be of more value than a woman who has high self-esteem and a lot of self-respect to demand better for herself. It takes more than a big penis and bedroom skill to turn my head. I need more than that and most men are not.

How do you define first, second and third base?

Ok. From what I was told a long time ago is what lola289 said.
First base: kissing
Second base: touching with clothes on
Third base: touching with clothes off
Homerun: you preference of scoring

Does it matter if clothes are on or off?
Oh lawd... the fact I am sitting at the computer thinking about that question is a problem... lol

How old were you when you let a guy/gal get to second base?
I was young enough to not know where he was going, but old enough to have let it go that far
Now that you’ve made some homeruns do the other bases seem like a waste of time?

Well, according to some men, the kissing ordeal is a no go. I am sorry, but I have never been turned on by a guy diving for my neck or breast... you look like a vampire. So, no I don't think the other bases are a waste of time. Unless the guy looked like Johnny Depp or Derek Luke, you must do more than have an erection or wanna suck my blood to get me hot and going.

Are you just too old to be worrying about what base you’re on?

Clearly if you are thinking what base you are on while trying to make magic in the bedroom or wherever the two of you are, then the guy/girl isn't doing a good job.. lol

What’s your lifetime batting average?

Not enough... but, I don't see myself getting close to Babe Ruth's average or anything

Are you turned off by people that are touchy feely too early on?

If this has to do with emotional people, I guess that is kind of a turn off. Usually that means counseling or late nights listening to how sad or pissed off you are. If that means someone that doesn't know the kindergarten rule: keep your hands to yourself, that is a definite yes. Unless I have my beer goggles on. lol

What does it take for you to feel comfortable enough for someone to go all the way with you?

I am going to agree with Shannon and say I have to know the person first before I let him dip his honey comb into my honey. I need to know that he can do more than instant gratification. He must know how to make the kitty kat purr, which takes a lot more than name introductions. Besides, I value myself to care who I wake up to next morning. No disrespect to those who could careless, but that is my moral in life.

Do you like going below the belt a little bit?

Ummm.... most of my experience I enjoyed it (except that one time when...). lol

What did you think of this week’s video mashup?

hilarious... he should have asked when does oral sex come into the game...

Must admit I had but a rudimentary understanding of this baseball analogy to relationship. Probably because I was never socialized in that way of thinking and my whole sexual development was probably atypical.

i think from jump I was attempting to swing for the fences, even before I knew how far they were. Sometimes ignorance saves you from disappointment or frustration. Made watching all those teen angst dating movies somewhat alien like when I watched them as a young man. Never understood "blue balls" or all the related frustration symptoms.

Probably scored before I knew what I was doing but only encouraged me to make all future endeavors homeruns or nothing. Most times than not it was homeruns but then I never dated in the real sense as a teenager.

Premature early success on the bases has led me to develop a take it or leave it approach to sex when I am with a woman. Turns out the less I press the more i am offered. Who knew it?
But then I have always focussed on the other aspects of a woman, personality, mind, humor rather than her body in my seduction/stimulation. I am a bit phobic when it comes to getting physical too early with a new person. Their hygeine may suck and then I may have to physically and pschologically de-louse. heww!!

Funny thing about this baseball analogy of being intimate, in prostitution they sell homeruns and you probably have to pay extra for second or third base and from what I hear, kissing is prohibited. Says a lot about what's valued and what's not depending on who you are!!

Hmmm, it is rare for someone to stop once hitting 3rd base.

Here is my take on what the bases equate to...
1st - Kissing / talking
2nd - Kissing into touching
3rd - intense foreplay - sucking boobs, oral for a male (blow job / hand job)
4th - the overall act (sexual intercourse)

How do you define first, second and third base?
I'm a prude I guess but for me:
1st= kissing
2nd= grabbing boobs
3rd= fingering/dry humping/mutual masturbation
homerun= intercourse/oral sex

Does it matter if clothes are on or off?
It actually doesn't matter. I'm very comfortable naked so I could be naked at any point and the bases aren't changed.

Now that you’ve made some homeruns do the other bases seem like a waste of time? Are you just too old to be worrying about what base you’re on?
All the bases are fun so no, they are not a waste of time. I'm not that worried about what bases I'm on now as long as I don't get to home plate too fast.

Are you turned off by people that are touchy feely too early on? What does it take for you to feel comfortable enough for someone to go all the way with you?
Yes, if a guy is too touchy feely early on it's a definite turn off because that means he has loose dick. LOL I like getting to know guys before becoming physical.

Do you like going below the belt a little bit? What did you think of this week’s video mashup?
I don't love going down on a guy but I will if he does. Fortunately, I'm also good at performing oral sex. The video was hilarious because it showed how clueless everyone is about the bases.

lol@Deen

well at least ur honest!
Trust me alot of ppl think the same way

I’m late but hey here is my piece………

First base is kissing – preferably the neck; passionate enough to leave a hickey, this way I’m guaranteed second base. (Clothes don’t need to come off)

Now, second base is going for the boobs aka knockers; the goal here is to have the nipple come out “saluting”. This way, I can’t be denied third base. (Clothes don’t need to come off, the bra finger snap technique will do)

Third base is reaching below the belt aka stealing base; forget figure popping, I’m talking clit stimulation. In a gentle, circular, consistent motion to have her eagerly reaching for the “bat”. Now, here comes the homerun. (Clothes come off)

Homerun is knocking boots, shagging, banging, boning, or what have you.

Now, if you hit it (pun intended) in the park – you head for the dugout; if you hit it (pun intended) out the park – you get an extra inning.

In the next inning, forget second and third base - first base then straight for the homerun.

@NWSO
See, I find it to be the opposite...straight intercourse is an inside the park home run - it's what we as animals have been programmed to do in order to procreate and ensure the survival of the species...Now, if am man can get me to put my MOUTH on his dingaling...WOW!! He has to be some kinda wonderful since there (IMO at least) isn't any animal NEED to fulfill on my part while giving him oral.

He gets me to "bow down" to him, that's more of a physical and emotional message and commitment, my submission to the US that is my relationship with him. (again, I know this is all on me. Many people would engage in oral sex LONG before intercourse. While I don't engage in intercourse easily, oral sex is an even bigger BFD to me, and something that I do as an expression of my love, faith, and commitment to my partner and our sex life and future together)

@Organized Chaoz
"Does it matter if clothes are on or off? Clothes on =’Making out’, Clothes off=foreplay, so, yes it matters!" - perfectly worded, could never have come up with it myself, but you are SO right on that!

@Potato w/ Jive
I love dry humping, and I put it at second base. It seems so...animalistic and raw, like he doesn't wanna disrespect me by going to far too fast, but yet he just can't hold himself back...priceless! Makes for a VERY exciting night!!