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Do Women Like Cocky Men? (Forbidden Fruit, Pt. 2)

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WORDS BY KAYE MICHELLE OF STROKE

PT. 1

Jackson watched as Kyeina brushed past him and out the door.

He smirked.

“Such a fronter, that one,” he thought, as he turned back towards the rambling woman in front of him. “I, I’m sorry…”

“Danielle,” the woman replied. “It’s Danielle.”

“Danielle,” Jackson smiled. “I’m sorry, love. What were you saying?”

After Jackson offered up his name and asked the standard “what do you do” question, Danielle began rattling on about being an associate account manager for the United States Postal Service, a job that she seemed to hate immensely but had no motivation to change positions or aspire to something else.

Jackson could care less and his mind started drifting to thoughts of Ky and those sexy ass heels. Reaching into his pocket for his phone, he cut Danielle off mid-sentence and excused himself before he got too bored. Cutting through the crowd towards the bathroom, he started a text to Ky:

“Aww, I didn’t’ know you were such a punk. You know you wanna give me a piece of your mind…chicken.”

As he thought of their first and only time together, Jackson felt his blood surge and his body came to life. Shaking off the thought, he decided that the lounge—and the people in it—no longer held any interest to him.

Walking over to the tabled section where his boys were, Jackson wished them all good night and headed off, ignoring all questions about why he was breaking out so early.

As he made his way towards the exit, he was stopped by a friend of Danielle, who’d been secretly eyeing him the entire night. Before she could even say anything, Jackson interjected: “What’s your name?”

She paused, and then spoke.

“Oh, I’m Talaina,” she began, extending her hand.

Jackson took her hand in his. Without letting go, he began to use his finger to stroke the inside of her palm.

“Do you like me?” he smirked.

Talaina was startled. She hadn’t expected him to be this upfront—nor had she realized he’d catch on to her game so quickly. She cleared her throat. “I’m sorry?”

“C’mon now, sweetie, stop playing games with me,” Jackson said, staring directly into her eyes.

His voice rumbling above the speakers, he continued, “You’ve been looking at me since your friend came to talk to me by the bar. What I want to know is why you’re digging me. And don’t tell me it’s because I’m cute, because I already know that. So tell me what is it?”

Talaina’s mouth dropped open. As she regained her composure, she closed her mouth and pulled her hand away from Jackson’s grasp. “Well, aren’t we arrogant?”

Jackson chuckled.

“Am I arrogant because I stepped to you? Or am I arrogant because I called you on your game?”

Talaina was struck speechless by Jackson’s brazen cockiness but part of her was turned on. By time she was able to muster some type of response, he was already halfway to the exit.

Checking his phone, he saw there was a message from Kyeina:

“Giving you a piece of my mind is hazardous to my emotional health, Jackson.”

Jackson chuckled. “Hazardous to your emotional health? All I want to do is make you feel good… Where are you?”

“In a cab. Almost home.”

“Okay, well see you later.”

“K,” she typed back, almost disappointed

Jackson made his way to his car and started driving.

Rough KIss

Ky lay on her bed, fully dressed. The sounds of Maxwell’s new album oozed out the speakers, soothing her out and arousing her just the same. She had yet to figure out what she was going to do, but she knew that at the rate she was going with Jackson, someone was going to get hurt—more than likely it was bound to be her.

She never meant to fall for him like she did. It was supposed to be a one-time thing. Jackson, a self-made man, enticed her not with his looks, but with his mind. His ability to carry a conversation on any subject intrigued her. His way of making you feel at ease to say or do anything made her smile. His honesty, intelligence, and supercilious nature aroused her.

Being with him that first time was like two kids in high school, each of them trying to outdo the other. It started in his X5 with a kiss that spiraled into heavy petting that amplified with each second that went by. The moment was amplified by the fact that anyone could have caught them behind those steamy windows.

Once that threshold had been crossed there was no turning back. Their make out session trickled into her apartment and onto her bed; the same one Vance had made love to her on dozens of times before. But she wasn’t thinking about him or their two-year relationship in that moment.

Jackson kissed her as if he needed her all his life and this messed with her head. Why kiss someone that you weren’t trying to be with? Someone you couldn’t be with? To her, kissing was the most intimate of acts—more intimate than the act itself. Every experience thereafter was sensually delightful and oh so wrong.

Ky’s fantastic flashback was interrupted by the sound of her doorbell chiming. She sat up, alarmed.

“Who the hell is that,” she thought to herself. “No… It couldn’t be.”

Ky rushed to the window, peered outside and spotted Jackson’s X5 out front.

“Oh, no he didn’t.”

The bell rang again.

Ky made her way downstairs and paused in front of the hallway mirror to straighten out her outfit and made sure her hair was okay. She took a deep breath and reached for door handle. On the other side was Jackson, cocksure as ever.

“So… you just come up to people’s houses unannounced now,” she huffed.

Jackson smirked, “I told you I’d see you later and you said okay.”

“Boy, I meant see you later like later in the week not tonight.”

“Well, I’m here now so just let me in already,” he said, walking past her.

Ky closed the door and turned to find Jackson’s eyes studying her. He followed the soles of her shoes past her toffee colored legs—seemingly peering through her skirt—past her silk shirt and then, finally, into her lust-filled eyes.

He stepped closer to her.

Ky shook her head, fully aware that her nipples were hardening from his glance, yet unable to do anything about it.

“Jackson, we can’t do this,” she began. “You know how I feel about Vance… and what about Shair?”

“What about her,” Jackson said, stepping as close as the space between Ky and the door would allow.

He took his finger and slid it gently into the band of her skirt, pulling her even closer to him. He went for her bottom lip, biting it and, watching her eyes go small and tight.

He whispered raggedly on her lip, “Liar.”

Ky couldn’t resist his succulent lips and the ravenous tongue that came with it. He led her upstairs to the bedroom and she was all but ready to give in to her carnal desires when the phone rang, startling them both.

Still, neither of them moved, they just stood there, chests heaving, pulses racing, and his lip still to hers. Sucking on it gently, he whispered against her mouth again, “Let it go to voicemail.”

She shuddered.

Desire coursing through her veins, she glanced over at the caller ID on the nightstand by the bed. She turned back to Jackson and said, almost remorsefully, “It’s Vance.”

Jackson peered into her eyes, and then, suddenly, he let her go. He walked out the room, down the stairs and out the door.

To be concluded

Do you find cocky people strangely sexy? Have you ever had someone talk your ear off at the bar? How did you end the conversation? What would you do if your friend tried to kick it to someone at the club right after you danced with them? Do you allow people to stop by your house unannounced? Have you ever made out in a parked car? Did the idea of people catching you turn you on? Would you answer the phone in the middle of a make out session? Do you like where these Wet Wednesdays story is going? Are you ready for next week’s conclusion?

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  • lola289

    I think everyone finds cockiness sexy every once in a while... its the best!

    But u betta come w/ ur A game if ur comin on strong like that dammit! lmao! ;-)

  • da ThRONe(back home)

    I dont like cocky people I find them annoying. Confidence is great cockyness not so much.

  • Enid Wilson

    Cocky men are not for me. But the yummy guy(s) in your photos are right for me.

    Steamy Darcy

  • sunshyne84

    It ended too soon! She know she wanted it.

  • butterflikisses

    It did end too soon. But, what was the deal with him just walking out like that? Most guys when they want it, they want it and it doesn't matter who's your man and who's their girl. He already knew the situation before he came over so I don't understand why he left like that. But i do find it kinda sexy for a guy to be cocky. I like that aggression because they know exactly what they want and they won't sugar coat shit! I LOVE IT!!!! I feel you @lola...LOL... He best be on top of his game for real!!!!!!

  • capricorn

    ARRGHHH!!! Why did he just leave?

    *and whoever wrote this stop writing about my past life.. lol*

  • Ali

    No.

  • MultipleHeart

    Do you find cocky people strangely sexy? Nope...confidence is great, but cockiness to the point that you can't really appreciate what you have I have no interest in.

    Have you ever had someone talk your ear off at the bar? Yes

    How did you end the conversation? Say I have to go and leave

    What would you do if your friend tried to kick it to someone at the club right after you danced with them? Nothing, everyone is fair game

    Do you allow people to stop by your house unannounced? Depends on the person...some have it like that ;-)

    Have you ever made out in a parked car? Yes

    Did the idea of people catching you turn you on? Not really. I'm not big on voyeurism

    Would you answer the phone in the middle of a make out session? Depends who's calling.

    Do you like where these Wet Wednesdays story is going? Very much so. I want to see what Jackson is going to do. Something tells me Jackson is feeling Ky but his cockiness is getting in his damn way.

    Are you ready for next week’s conclusion? Always, baby, lol

  • Elle

    What Ali said: No.

  • http://blkbond.blogspot.com BlkBond

    This sounds like a bunch of stuff I have done/would do back in college.

    Hilarious, lol. Yeah, going by my own results, they love guys with uber-confidence and bold, brazen actions.

    Bond.

  • RCTuri

    Cocky is easy to deal with. A lot of people don't like it but I deal with men like that with ease.

    There are worse things, like insecurity and being overly emotional.

  • bogart4017

    Cool is better than cocky every day of the week.
    And no---if you didnt call first i dont even get up to answer the doorbell. I worked too hard for my independence and privacy to let somebody just come and go as they please.
    I wouldnt answer the phone in the middle of a makeout session because most of the people that call me are much too long-winded. Thats gonna break the mood.
    I like where this wet wednesday is going and i'm waiting patiently for the conclusion!

  • http://ecstasykmichele.blogspot.com Kaye Michele

    @capricorn: Lol at writing about your past lives!!

  • Just Beautiful

    He left because he has options. Even if he doesn't, he wants her to want him even more. He made the first move, the ball is in her court. I'm willing to bet that he won't initiate the next encounter.

    Cocky men are a huge turn off. Humility will get the drawers much faster. Many confuse confidence with the cocky.

    Oh, NWSO, don't change the story cause I pegged it! Just let it do wat it do.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Just Beautiful

    It's not my story to change, it's written and already complete, just have to wait for next week for it to post.

  • JustMe

    @bogart4017 "And no—if you didnt call first i dont even get up to answer the doorbell. I worked too hard for my independence and privacy to let somebody just come and go as they please"<<----A to the Men!!!

    #thatisall

  • http://www.nadiles.wordpress.com Nadi

    I love confidence in a man. Cockinesss, not so much! There's a difference, gentlemen..

  • AGK

    Some amount of cockiness ia a turn on to me, but too much can be destructive.

    This story was the BOMB, and i need u to give us part two now. Chop chop! Lmao

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @AGK

    This is part 2, so see ya next week. :)

  • Sherell

    No I like a confident man and a caring man. There is a difference. This guy is a jerk. But there will be many women that go for him.

  • superwoman

    I usually love your stories, but couldn't get past him scratching her palm with his finger - GROSS!! i thought only middle aged lecherous african men did that!! good god! that literally made my stomach turn, and i couldn't go any further...

  • MultipleHeart

    @superwoman

    HAHA, I feel you on that. I had a guy do that to me and it got on my nerves so much I pulled away my hand and refused to allow him to hold it.

    I remember hearing in junior high that that was the sign that a guy wanted to have sex with you, lol.

  • http://nwso.net NWSO

    @Superwoman

    LOL hoe a "rub" of the palm turn to a "scratch"??

    @MultipleHeart

    That's what I remember to, except it meant the woman wanted to have sex with you. You know, because I don't hold guys' hands. :P

  • MultipleHeart

    @NWSO,

    Hahaha. Ugh, I wish men would stop doing and be a little more creative...there are so many other ways to get that desired point across.

  • superwoman

    @NWSO - heh heh heh... CLEARLY i had a rush of too many horrid memories of my unsuspecting teenage palm being invaded by that traumatising palm scratch... it's just the worst. and i honestly honestly thought that it was an african thing, ha ha ha! some things really should NOT transcend culture and geographic boundaries - ugh!

  • Organized Chaoz

    @ Superwoman--HILARIOUSNESS!!! I'd almost forgotten about the horrid 'Palm Scratch/Rub' whatever, it was AWFUL!

    @ AGK--'chop, chop' love it.....sounds like something I'd say :)

    Loved this installment, was on the edge of my seat with anticipation for what was coming next. I'm with the rest of ya'll, why did dude leave like that? He was the one pushing up on her ALL NIGHT! But, again, that's a chick attempting to think like a dude (scary)!! I've had guys talk my ear off at the club and what I do to remedy that is play like I can't really hear them then politely leave their presence like I was looking for my friend, works every time. A small bit of cocky I can handle, confident and humble get the panties....overly cocky/uber-assertiveness get you looked at like you have something gross on your face! CAN'T STAND IT! Cant' stand unannounced visitors, either. If you don't have the decency to pick up the phone and call first, then I don't have to be polite and answer the door! Yes I've made out in a parking lot and yes it's hot to think that I may get caught :-) Adventure is awesome! Yes I would mind it if my friend tried to holla at a guy that i had been dancing with, yeah i know that it's a free world but if she's that bold to do it then (a) she wasn't my 'friend' in the first place(first cardinal rule broken) and (b) that would be the last time we went out anywhere together, problem solved! No there will be no answering of the phone during a make out session, ruins the flow of events. Hell yeah, I can't wait til Wednesday! It's rapidly becoming my favorite day of he week!!

  • Coko4eva

    WOW! i lovedd it! although I don’t really like cocky guys, they def are sexy in their own way. I loved how Jackson didn’t really care about the women’s response, his game was on point. Maybe he’s an asshole but he knows what he wants and women LOVE that. yeaa i’ve done the make out session in the whip plenty of times but it loses its umpph after a while… and NO never answer the phone in the middle of anything.. its rude! (unless its ur kid or something) cant wait till next week!

  • Nik

    Cockyness is not only alluring and incredibly sexy, its passionate to the point of dangerous. I love a good looking cocky man, however, a man like that isn’t GOOD for me and there is a huge difference.

    This story did end way too early and I need more!!

  • Shannon

    I don't care for cocky men and no, I've never done any of the aforementioned activities. I think making out in a car...well, my husband and I used to make out in the car, but it never got past the kissing and hugging. PDA was okay with me, as long it was with my husband. I don't do that with the man I'm currently dating.

    As you can probably tell, my husband and I didn't have as much imagination as the commentators on this blog. We never felt any excitement from being caught; voyeurism wasn't our thing. Sex was something we treated as special and private and we kept it that way...just between us.

    Now that I'm a single woman , I have begun dating again and I have a strict rule: After 10 (p.m.), you can't come in. I do not allow any man into my house after that hour because any man looking to come over at that hour doesn't have anything good on his mind; he's not coming over to discuss Thoreau or Newtonian physics at that hour. It's disrespectful, IMO, and I do not allow it.

    I don't go to bars regularly, but as a rule I never pick up, date or go out with anyone I meet in a bar. Believe me, anyone you meet in a bar will not be a good candidate for a life partner/marriage.

    My husband and I have been in the middle of a pretty serious session when the phone rang and yes, he answered it, but it never dampened the mood for us. We simply picked up where we left off; we never did go for those Olympic-style marathon sex sessions; 20 minutes to half an hour was more than enough for us and kept us sated and satisfied for months at a time; it was low frequency for us.

    This might make a good setting or scene for a couple looking to spice things in the relationship, but I don't know; I know my views have been challenged as quaint, old-fashioned and outdated, but these qualities and values are respected in various cultures for a reason; it keeps sex at a golden standard and that is most important to me. It's extremely difficult for me to accept sex as just another recreational activity.

    *No disrespect to those who are perfectly okay with today's standards of sex. Just voicing my opinion.

  • sweet_shani

    There is a thin line between someone being cocky/arrogant or confident. Confidence is definitely attractive but being cocky/arrogant can get you dissed or cursed out.

    If a friend of mine tried getting with someone that I just danced with and I was feeling that person, my friend and I will have a little discussion about boundaries the following day once we were both sober.

    Any one who knows me, knows to never stop by my house unannounced and if they did they know now to never do it again. I see it as disrespect and inconsiderate regardless of who the person is.

    I don't think I know of anyone who HASN'T made out in a parked car. I can't say I do it now but I have done it many times when I was a teenager. The thrill was a huge part of many things I did in parked cars when I was a teen lol

    I would check to see who is calling during my makeout session and depending on who it is -both on the phone and who I'm kissing- determines if the phone gets answered.

    I am enjoying this mini-story! now on to part 3!

  • sweetsassyfox

    too cocky is very annoying

  • Shweta

    wheres the part 3!!!

  • Shweta

    oh and undoubtedly reminds me of a man that I know :)
    and am involved with.

    Strange.

  • http://www.magz725.blogspot.com Maggie

    I find cocky people insanely attractive only in the bed room because I like to be handled 80% of the time.

    *Have you ever had someone talk your ear off at the bar?
    When ever I meet someone who is trying to get to know me at a bar or club I just avoid them. Its almost impolite to try to get to know people when you can barely hear them.
    *How did you end the conversation?
    Depends how bad it is I either act very drunk and walk away or just draw a blank stare till its obvious.
    *What would you do if your friend tried to kick it to someone at the club right after you danced with them?
    Well if I'm going home with this friend then I'll have to remind him why hes going home with me ;)
    *Do you allow people to stop by your house unannounced?
    This use to happen several time in my past two relationships and a few people I've dated it has never been an inconvenience (so far) *Have you ever made out in a parked car?
    Foreplay in the car before heading upstairs is wicked hot!
    *Did the idea of people catching you turn you on?
    Who wouldn't be turned on it makes your blood rush faster increasing the tension.
    *Would you answer the phone in the middle of a make out session?
    Well how hott and heavy is it?
    *Do you like where these Wet Wednesdays story is going? Are you ready for next week’s conclusion?

    Can't wait! (i <3 wet wednesdays lol)

  • http://strokeofprose.com Kaye Michele

    LOL...

    Your past life? LOL...