An interesting side conversation about “types” came up the other day on last week’s Question of the Day (QOTD) post: “When Did Light-Skinned Girls Get Booty?”
It all started with comment by Mizze, who said, “I don’t know what YOUR preference is NWSO, but I feel that some people are attracted to certain types so they notice more about them. IDK, just a little theory.”
Since she asked, I went on to list a brief description of my type: “In a nutshell, it’s dark-skinned, natural hair, booty, lil healthy meat on the bones… This is talking about physical of course. Low maintenance, good energy, sane, loyal, strong-willed, etc, go into the mental requirement list.”
I thought nothing of Mizze’s query, but then my girl Paulette_Bajan_Gal, dropped the following comment/question:
“How many of your ex girlfriends were dark skinned with natural hair?? You seem very corporate so I figured you would go for the permed, high heeled, light skinned beauty hype… I know…off topic…but had to ask.”
Although we haven’t hung out in ages, Paulette actually knows me in the real world so I was surprised by her assessment of me. Me, corporate? Hardly. Permed, high heeled, light skinned beauty hype? Hardly X2.
I may throw on a blazer for a panel like the Modern Day Matchmaker Live event week before last, but aside from that I’m generally dressed down. In fact, all throughout college I prayed for a job where I could make decent money without having to wear a monkey suit every day.
As a writer in the hip-hop world, I hit the proverbial jackpot in that I can collect a decent check while wearing whatever I want. Basically, not a suit. I own two suits and the only reason those are hanging in my closet is because I was the best man in my boy’s wedding a few years back and needed one.
I had been meaning to write about blue collar vs. white collar for some time now, but Paulette’s off-topic comment provided the hook and inspiration I needed. While I don’t consider myself to be the corporate type, I don’t feel like I fit in the blue collar category either. For lack of a better word I’m a bit of a hybrid.
Nine times out of 10, you’ll find me in jeans and sneakers or Timbs, topped with a T-shirt or sweatshirt. On occasion I’ll throw on a button-up or sweater, but the aforementioned is the full extent of my day-to-day wardrobe. But every so often I go in opposite extremes of my closet and get different reactions from women.
There have been times where I’ve put on some dark blue jeans with construction Timbs and a casual top and Yankee fitted. It’s the basic New York uniform but certain ladies seem to love it. I’ll be lost in my own world but catch eyes with a few cuties taking in the blue collar swag.
On the flipside, there are times when I step up the wardrobe a little more. Ironed button-up with a blazer with some hard-bottom shoes or black dress boots and it’s a whole other ball game.
The night of the Modern Day Matchmaker Live event, for instance, I felt a certain amount of female eyes on me, but that may have had more to do with the fact I was speaking on a panel than anything else.
At any rate, over the years I’ve seen the reaction from women change depending on a man’s attire. Blue collar guys in the vein of Idris Elba and Mehcad Brooks, who have a little edge to them, get love from ladies based on pure sex appeal and their ability to fill the role of protectors. White collar guys, like say a Denzel Washington or Barack Obama, get over on swag and how well they look in a suit. Then, you have regular old guys like myself that fall somewhere in the middle.
Or, at least I think so.
Ladies, do white collar guys do it for you? Or, do you prefer a blue collar guy? What’s the difference between the two for you? What do you find attractive about each type? Do you feel that blue collar guys are more “manly?” Can you appreciate a good man in a suit? From what you know of me here do you think I’m more white collar than blue collar? Fellas, do you get more play from the ladies depending on how you’re dressed? Do you consider yourself more white collar or blue collar? Do you like a woman with some edge or more corporate? What’s your type?
Speak your piece…
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