What’s Your Type? (Blue Collar vs. White Collar)

0 Posted by - June 14, 2010 - Relationships, Love & Marriage

An interesting side conversation about “types” came up the other day on last week’s Question of the Day (QOTD) post: “When Did Light-Skinned Girls Get Booty?

It all started with comment by Mizze, who said, “I don’t know what YOUR preference is NWSO, but I feel that some people are attracted to certain types so they notice more about them. IDK, just a little theory.”

Since she asked, I went on to list a brief description of my type: “In a nutshell, it’s dark-skinned, natural hair, booty, lil healthy meat on the bones… This is talking about physical of course. Low maintenance, good energy, sane, loyal, strong-willed, etc, go into the mental requirement list.”

I thought nothing of Mizze’s query, but then my girl Paulette_Bajan_Gal, dropped the following comment/question:

“How many of your ex girlfriends were dark skinned with natural hair?? You seem very corporate so I figured you would go for the permed, high heeled, light skinned beauty hype… I know…off topic…but had to ask.”

Although we haven’t hung out in ages, Paulette actually knows me in the real world so I was surprised by her assessment of me. Me, corporate? Hardly. Permed, high heeled, light skinned beauty hype? Hardly X2.

I may throw on a blazer for a panel like the Modern Day Matchmaker Live event week before last, but aside from that I’m generally dressed down. In fact, all throughout college I prayed for a job where I could make decent money without having to wear a monkey suit every day.

As a writer in the hip-hop world, I hit the proverbial jackpot in that I can collect a decent check while wearing whatever I want. Basically, not a suit. I own two suits and the only reason those are hanging in my closet is because I was the best man in my boy’s wedding a few years back and needed one.

I had been meaning to write about blue collar vs. white collar for some time now, but Paulette’s off-topic comment provided the hook and inspiration I needed. While I don’t consider myself to be the corporate type, I don’t feel like I fit in the blue collar category either. For lack of a better word I’m a bit of a hybrid.

Nine times out of 10, you’ll find me in jeans and sneakers or Timbs, topped with a T-shirt or sweatshirt. On occasion I’ll throw on a button-up or sweater, but the aforementioned is the full extent of my day-to-day wardrobe. But every so often I go in opposite extremes of my closet and get different reactions from women.

There have been times where I’ve put on some dark blue jeans with construction Timbs and a casual top and Yankee fitted. It’s the basic New York uniform but certain ladies seem to love it. I’ll be lost in my own world but catch eyes with a few cuties taking in the blue collar swag.

On the flipside, there are times when I step up the wardrobe a little more. Ironed button-up with a blazer with some hard-bottom shoes or black dress boots and it’s a whole other ball game.

The night of the Modern Day Matchmaker Live event, for instance, I felt a certain amount of female eyes on me, but that may have had more to do with the fact I was speaking on a panel than anything else.

At any rate, over the years I’ve seen the reaction from women change depending on a man’s attire. Blue collar guys in the vein of Idris Elba and Mehcad Brooks, who have a little edge to them, get love from ladies based on pure sex appeal and their ability to fill the role of protectors. White collar guys, like say a Denzel Washington or Barack Obama, get over on swag and how well they look in a suit. Then, you have regular old guys like myself that fall somewhere in the middle.

Or, at least I think so.

Ladies, do white collar guys do it for you? Or, do you prefer a blue collar guy? What’s the difference between the two for you? What do you find attractive about each type? Do you feel that blue collar guys are more “manly?” Can you appreciate a good man in a suit? From what you know of me here do you think I’m more white collar than blue collar? Fellas, do you get more play from the ladies depending on how you’re dressed? Do you consider yourself more white collar or blue collar? Do you like a woman with some edge or more corporate? What’s your type?

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  • Spinster

    In my experience, the white collar men were complete & utter assholes. Therefore, my preference is blue.

    Too bad that none of them like me.

  • Hotmess101

    I prefer the “hybrid” look…someone that can change it up depending on the circumstances.

  • distinguishedgentlewoman

    Too much of anything bores the daylights outta me. That’s why I’m into my hybrids. There’s something so, so sexy about a man who can switch it up and feel and look comfortable rocking both looks. Both Mr. Obama and last night’s Tony winner Denzel can wear the hell out of a suit. (Um.) But when those two go casual in jeans and sneakers or sweats and a baseball cap? Good googamooga! HOT. And 50 in a three-piece-suit? WOW.

    So the hybrids have got my vote.

  • mizze

    SHOUTOUT TO ME!!! LOL..

    Yeah, you were right because I meant absolutely nothing by it (but thanks for sharing anyways =)..)

    But moving on, I think the biggest difference on the outside between the two is clearly MONEY or the perception of white collar having more money or their profession being more socially accepted. I know some guys that are mechanics (blue collar) but OWN their own shops and make a very, VERY nice chunk of change with it. So perception has weight but can easily be misconstrued.

    EVEN with that being said, a white collar man just TURNS ME ON!! I mean for real. I know I am completely, i repeat COMPLETELY, stereotyping but a nice, chocolate brotha walking down wall street in a tapered suit and wing-tips, carrying a briefcase and talking on his Blackberry just SCREAMS provider, educated, respected, powerful, masculine, determined and the list goes ON and ON. OH MY GOD!!!!!!!! I mean, I know some females like the blue collar and there is NOTHING wrong with that whatsoever but when asked which one..clearly that is what comes to mind.

    But its weird because I am not one of those chicks who would rock a “suit”.. I am very into heels, short dresses, skirts, whatever you will find in Vogue.. THe idea of ME being in a power suit going to work makes me want to just SCREAM and run for the hills. Idk why though……..

  • cali_bred

    I prefer white collar. Its just something about women who dress up. When I am white collar I get way more looks from females, but I typically would be white collar to work or out for a night on the town. When I am wearing normal urban clothes rocawear or ecko, I just blend in. White collar is the way to go. It attracts a different level of woman or maybe that is only time I notice it

  • http://liferequiresmorechocolate.com Tiffany

    I love both. There is nothing like a man that can work with his hands and comes home greasy and sweaty (dayum I need a man), but there is something to the white collar man, looking sexy is his suit (not to mention he may have a office I can creep into with just my coat). As long as he is ambitious and has a good head of shoulders, I am good. An intellectual doesn’t have to e sporting a necktie to work. I am thinking you are a blue collar guy, I don’t know why it was the first thought that came to mind.

    Peace, Love and Chocolate
    Tiffany

  • brown

    Blue all day…. I have to agree with one of the responders above…. 50 in a suit…..just got me drooling. Anyway, I prefer a blue collar over a white collar… they are laid back, and some of them know when to dress it up and when to dress it down depending on the situation.

  • da ThRONe

    Im a blue collar person and I like blue collar people by heart. As far as attire from a guy stand point I like them both. There is something about a women in a dress suit that makes me want to get it in. But then again jogging pants or pretty much anything makes me want to get it in.

  • Elle

    Hm, I guess I’m going to be complicated and say “define blue collar/white collar”.

    Traditionally, both terms stand for certain occupations. However, here it seems to be more about attire which may or may not (in case of Ans for example) stem from those occupations.

    My answer would have to go into two directions:
    If we are talking attire, I’m all for the blue collar. Seeing a guy who usually wears Jeans, T-Shirts, Sneaks or Timbs switch it up every blue moon and rock a suit is very sexy. Generally, I loveeeee men in Timbs. They have the same effect on me like High Heels/Stilettos on men. Now “lifestyle-suits” are not my cup of tea simply because I can’t relate to them. While I have a masters in business and am therefore theoretically geared to work in the corporate world I always made sure I was able to wear whatever I pleased at work. I’m not the worker drone type who could deal with wearing pencil skirts and blouses day in, day out. *shivers at the thought*

    Now mindset wise I guess I am more attracted to a white collar guy. I love me some nerds who can rant about the dynamics of the stock market, the latest findings in chemistry and so on. Geeks just do it for me. And in that light, these men sometimes have to wear business attire as “unsexy” as I may find it. But I can always get them out of their suit ;)

    In regards to you, Ans: Hybrid pretty much describes it. You don’t do physical labor = no blue collar. You wear Jeans and Timbs = blue collar.

  • Elle

    Oh yeah PS: 50 in a suit …. ohhhhh yeaaaaaaaah … that GQ shoot he did a few years back … my oh my

  • Spinster

    Didn’t know there was a term for a mix of blue & white. Hybrid….. sounds more like my preference. Still biased towards the blue even in that case.

    Too bad that hybrids don’t like me either.

  • http://twitter.com/bsquared86 BSQUARED86

    I have a weakness for a man in a suit. I have the same affenity for men in henley shirts, oddly enough. Honestly, though, it depends on the guy. I just want his presence to make me feel secure.

  • http://nwso.net/ NWSO

    How you gonna reply to yourself? SMH/LOL

  • MultipleHeart

    Hybrid. I’ve always been drawn to men that are blue collar workers. My dating history is filled with them. But I will stop and stare at a man in a well fitted suit.

    When dating I like the option of my man being able to transition from blue collar clothing to white collar. There is a time and place for everything.

    I’ve learned not to assume much from the way a man dresses. Recently sporting a more GQ look has been in style. Men that used to wear jeans and tees all the time are now pulling out button down shirts, nice casual dress shoes (no Timbs or sneakers) when they go out to the movies.

    Ans, you I think are a hyrid. A time and place type person.

  • Shannon

    I prefer white collar, primarily because these are the types I frequently encounter; I have never dated a blue collar. Very few white men are blue collars where I am and definitely not in my field.

    Blue collar refers to those who work in an industry or field that doesn’t require a formal education, like a college degree, whereas white collar is more along the lines of degreed professionals and the corporate arena. My maternal grandfather was a blue collar and one of the few black men I truly ever deeply respected; he was illiterate–having only gone to the third or fourth, maybe fifth grade–but he was able to put two and two together and start his own business and made a comfortable living, despite having to hire me to read, write and do figures for him.

    My paternal grandfather was a highly educated man who was severely depressed in my early childhood, but recovered to start an accounting firm with my father and uncle. Because of his fondness of drink, the business took several hits before my father and his brother finally pushed him out and made it profitable. My grandfather eventually drank himself to death when I was eleven.

    I will admit my father has had a major influence on the men I date; he always wanted me to have the best, like all fathers want for their daughters, and told me to meet someone who didn’t have to use the strength of his back or the force of his hands to earn a living or his resentment will build up and eventually spill over and he didn’t want me to feel the fallout. Well, that was commonplace back in the 70′s, I guess; men who had to perform physical labor or menial jobs often resented having to do so and took out their frustrations on their wives or girlfriends. I know my aunt was killed by her husband who worked two jobs to make ends meet in a butcher shop and shoved her out of the car on the freeway when she suggested getting a job to help out with the bills. This was just a few months before I was born.

    That doesn’t mean to say I think blue collars aren’t worthy. I just haven’t met one I would be interested in dating. I know one blue collar once told me, “Blue collar men don’t date white collar women. It just aggravates deepset insecurities and men have fragile egos and it just doesn’t work…for most men, anyway,” and since he was an older man, about mid-sixties, I accepted what he told me and even got a chance to see it for myself later on.

    My husband was a white collar, but he did a lot of blue collar work as well; he helped run his brother’s lumberyard while he was in the hospital and helped his sister run their landscaping business while his brother-in-law was out of town dealing with his father’s death and funeral. I thought it was sexy of him and while he wasn’t crazy about it, it was a chance to see things from both sides. Seeing my husband in a suit…all I can say is WOW. He was in his early fifties and he could make a suit look like WOW. A lot of times, he would put on a suit when we went out just to make the evening interesting. And it worked, :) .

    The boyfriend I have now doesn’t wear a suit, but he still is a white collar; his job requires formal education, but the dress code is more relaxed. I do love to see him dress up because it just adds to his appeal. While it’s not physical between us, he is sexy in his suit.

  • channa

    i would say blue, it’s something about a blue collar that turns me all the way on. white collar, i seem some good lookn men; but they seem to be uptight and to reserved for me.

  • MultipleHeart

    The white collar men I have known have been less uptight and less reserved than the blue collar ones…go figure.

  • http://preciousmomentsbytmt.blogspot.com/ TiffNicky

    I’m going to go with the hybrid approach as well. I’m not one that gets caught up in labels, so the whole blue collar/white collar thing is arbitrary to me.

    But for discussion sake, I am attracted to the “pressumed” intellect of the white collar man. There is nothing sexier about a man that can take care of business and is well spoken. I love it. A man in a suit exudes sexy to me, especially when he can actually fill it out. Because all men cannot.

    As far as blue collar men…I love a man that works with his hands. A man that has a passion for what he is doing regardless of whether or not someone else finds it “progressive”.

    I’ve found that there are MANY men that contradict these labels. Men in the board room who are complete idiots as it relates to life, and men working on construction sites that can go toe to toe with some of the most educated men I know.

    It’s probably safer for me to just define the type of man I want. And if he falls in either column, or somewhere in between I’m good.

  • Shequita

    I love a blue collared man! Intelligent and handy, usually more down to earth, usually very hard workers they can appreciate my need to cater lol!!! He doesnt have to know how to change out a motor but damn…. a man that knows how to fix shyt is just a turn on!!! White collared men get things DONE, but I like a mix of both!! I have a hybrid right now..hmm hmm

  • http://undressingher.com undressingHER

    I enjoy the company of a woman who is versatile with her dress code. But honestly, as long as our vibe is good, her confidence is high, and she’s attractive to me…she can pretty much wear whatever she wants because I trust her fashion sense.

  • http://www.itsjustgoldie.com Goldie

    Blue collar.

    I HATE (HATTTTE) work clothes (on me). I like to be able to hop on my skateboard at any given moment+I want a dude that can do that with me. Kick flips are hard in hard bottom shoes.

    When I see a hottie in a suit/button up, I wonder what he looks like in a Benny Gold tee+some Nikes.

    I love street wear and street fashion. Tee+denim for dayz.

  • Sherell

    I do not have a preference. To me it is more a mind set, not what you wear and in cases not even your profession. I prefer a brother that is smart, giving, intelligent, kind, honest, introspective, intense, afrocentric, slightly neurotic in a good way with integrity. And he needs to be exposed to life and people beyond a 25 mile radius. Open minded and global in his thinking. That may preclude guys in both maybe more bluecollar then white, but as others have said it depends. That being said, as much as I love a guy in a suit, I am not really into a guy that always needs to be suited up.

  • dbaby11

    I PREFER A BLUE COLLAR GUY. OF COURSE WE ALL HAVE TO “DRESS IT UP” ON OCCASSION I.E. WEDDINGS, FORMAL PARTIES ETC. BUT FOR THE MOST PART THERE IS NOTHING SEXIER TO ME THAN TO SEE A MAN IN JEANS AND A SHIRT. MY THEORY: IF HE LOOKS FINE DRESSED DOWN THEN IN A SUIT MY MAN IS GONNA BE SIMPLY TASTY!!
    I HAVE DATED A FEW (2 TO BE EXACT) WHITE COLLAR MEN. ONE WAS A LAWYER WHO DUE TO HIS PROFRESSION HAD A KNACK FOR DETAILS THAT SWAYED TOWARD THE OCD SIDE. ALTHOUGH HE WOULD DRESS IN JEANS ON SATURDAYS(YEAH ONLY THEN), THEY WOULD BE SNUG AND PAIRED WITH LOAFERS. IF HE GOT A SPECK ON ANY PART OF HIS ATTIRE WE WOULD GO BACK TO HIS HOUSE SO THAT WE COULD CHANGE.
    BLUE COLLAR MEN JUST APPEAL TO ME.THE SAME SWAG IS CARRIED WETHER WE ARE IN A NICE RESTARAUNT OR AT THE MOVIES.
    I HAVE BEEN READING YOUR BLOG FOR A LITTLE WHILE NOW AND HONESTLY I ASSUMED YOU WERE WHITE COLLAR. I WAS EXTREMELY SURPRISED TO FIND OUT THAT YOU ARE NOT. AND NOW THAT I THINK ABOUT IT I DONT KNOW WHY I ASSUMED YOU WHERE THIS AWESOME GUY HUDLED OVER YOU LAPTOP IN A PAIR OF BROOKS BROTHER’S SLACKS AND A BUTTON DOWN WITH THE SLEEVES ROLLED UP AND PEN AND PAPER IN HAND TO DOODLE NOTES. I KNOW SMH I KNOW!
    YOUT TYPE SURPRISES ME AS WELL. WHERE I LIVE MOST MEN WANT A WHITE COLLAR WOMAN WITH THE WHOLE HEELS AND TIGHT SUIT ETC. ALTHOUGH TO BE HONEST HERE I THINK ITS NOT SEX APPEAL ITS THE MEN ARE LOOKING FOR A SUGAR MOMMA!LOL
    I WORK IN A PRIVATE HOSPITAL IN A COPORATE POSITION AND WHILE I AM NOT ALLOWED TO WEAR MY FAVORITE STRAIGHT LEG JEANS AND HEELS, I HAVE THE ABILITY TO WEAR ANYTHING ELSE. I AM SO NOT WHITE COLLAR.I HATE SUITS AND I HATE PANTYHOSE!!! UGH BUT I AM ABLE TO ROCK MY DREADS AND ECCENTRIC BANGLES AND EARRINGS AND BE COMFORTABLE.
    OK IM DONE RAMBLING BUT YEAH BLUE COLLAR AND IF HE REALLY WANTS TO GET
    ME GOING BASKETBALL SHORTS AND A SWEATY TSHIRT IS IT!!LOL

  • Sherell

    Ans,
    To me you are white collar. When I thinlk of these labels its more a mind set and a profession as opposed to what you wear.

  • Miss Conception

    I would have to agree with you… I have dated both not really paying attention to their profession or the attire. Although I always suggest white collar attire for these men, I didn’t have a preference when it came to their profession when I was attracted. I guess both are appealing, and Ans made up a category for himself which I find very attractive… it is more about his personality. If I get along with him, than we can make magic. “Abra Kadabra”!!!! *Disappears

  • rwifey

    i’m typing this as i’m reading it………..

    great pict of guy!

    ugghhhhh, whenever i see ‘i prefer’ in the same sentence as ‘dark skinned’, i get annoyed, and i’m having trouble moving beyond that part to continue reading the remainder. its just annoying! cmon!

    yes, we have our preferences, but putting it out there, puts so much more out there

  • Spinster

    Because there were too many people who said the same thing (re: hybrids). Might as well reply to everyone in 1 shot.

  • http://sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com/ MadScientist7

    because of what i do on a day-to-day basis i usually dress down (scientific research). t-shirt, jeans, sneakers. that doesn’t mean i like to switch it up from time to time. whenever i do wear a suit, i always get compliments. when i do go out i try not to wear sneakers or t-shirts since i wear them so much. sweaters, cardigans, hard bottoms, soft bottoms is what i usually can be caught in. i get looks from these type of clothes as well. i think i fall somewhere in the middle as well between white and blue collar.

  • bogart4017

    While white collar/pencil skirt/high heels are interesting to conversate with and have lovely carriage they don’t seem the type to swing with blue collar guys. They seem more career-oriented and not so much into making a guy a “happy home”. Generalizing too much you think?

  • miss ehc…

    i think a hybrid is best or better yet a blue collar turned white collar. i think this is the sexist man on earth. he can do it all. j’s and jeans, brooks brothers or whatever. the best thing that any man can do is rock whatever look he is wearing.

  • http://thesimplecomplication.blogspot.com/ DrennaB

    In terms of PROFESSION, it truly doesn’t matter to me what “collar” you are. Work hard, be ambitious and have rough hands, we have no problems. I don’t know, something about those types of hands (if you don’t have rought hands, that’s okay too – just what I like).

    Now, in terms of dress I like the hybrid as many others have said. I’m the type of woman who lives in jeans and sneakers year round (but will throw on a dress in the summer at the drop of a dime) but can flip it and get super fly when I want and/or need to. I like my men the same way. You can dress down (in the “New York outfit”) everyday but PLEASE know how to rock a more dressed up look sometimes too. It’s all about versatility.

    Funny you approached this topic b/c I’m in the process of doing a Blue Collar/White collar post on my blog too but coming from a different angle.

  • http://www.hoodstowoods.com Deka

    Word? Skateboarding? You Snowboard?

  • Ronnie6676

    I cant pick one…I like both and preferably a man who can rock both when the occasion deems it appropriate. I’ve had men tell me all the time how they love when I get dressed for work (corporate office), a nite on the town (full on bcbg) but also the fact that I can rock a wife beater, jeans and a fitted and still be just as sexy. So I love a man who can do the same.

  • http://ihatethewayyoueatcereal.wordpress.com SilentScorpion

    In terms of profession, there is nothing sexier than a man in a suit. I didn’t realize it but a lot of the guys I have dated were sexy monkey suit wearing brothas. But my newest interest is blue collared. And seeing him in a fitted and t-shirt was also quite attractive. Ultimately I think I’m attracted to a man with style and who is not a stranger to an iron. As long as you are clean cut then I’m happy.

  • Luv.Lee

    I have never actually seen my boyfriend dressed in any business attire in person, but I came across a family picture once… and oh my gosh… definitely wasn’t disappointed. I dated a teacher and a business owner/military man before him.. Not opposed to the white collar thing at all, but I have love for my blue collar brothas. I don’t think I really have a preference.

  • R.e.D

    I completely agree with mizze and silent scorpion: There is nothing in this entire world, sexier than a black man in a well tailored suit and polished shoes. It screams educated, succesful, ambitious .. I mean can u imagine the conversations, lol!!! Now he actually doesn’t have to fit any of the aforementioned criteria, but perception is reality until proven otherwise..Unfortunately it usually also signals ‘whore.’ So while I like looking at that type of man and honestly loving one for too many years, I now tend to stay away from them. It’s a ‘look- but- don’t-mess- with’ type of thing. I know that is an enormous generalization, but it is what it is.

    As far as timbs go, I hate them on men for everyday wear. Now, I have a couple pairs of timbs and most men do too, but unless it is winter, they don’t do it for me. I am not saying that a guy needs to wear a suit everyday, that’s over the top, but he has to be able to rise to the occasion.Honestly for me, I would rather the hybrid, but the key to looking good is wearing clothes that fit well. I hate to see baggy clothes on men and if you are short, get your pants professionally hemmed. For a little fee, it goes a long way. I cannot comment too much on blue collars, b/c I have never dated a completely blue collar guy. They are sexy in their own right though..

  • R.e.D

    @ rwifey, i am just curious as to why ‘prefer and dark-skinned’ in the same sentence is bothersome…it is an honest question, not an argumentative one..

  • http://www.itsjustgoldie.com Goldie

    I’ve tried. Being stuck on the board is too much for my clumsy butt. I like to bail if I have to.

  • rwifey

    i know, its totally a preference thing, got it, just rubs me wrong, and upon further thought, even if it were something else i would still feel some kinda way about it

  • mizze

    YES! I do. I mean i completely see your rationale behind it but for me, I believe that it is a generalized statement about a perception. There are plenty of career-oriented women who juggle both roles.

    And I have a hard time “dealing” with perceptions like this because while saying it, you are basically saying it is a “woman’s” job to “make a happy home”. UMMMMMMMM I dont know too many people who allow their women to sit at home and lay up to be ABLE to make a happy home. WHY is it that a woman must work (Full time most of the time) to help make ends meet (when it is traditonally the role of the MAN to be the provider) but she still has to “make a happy home”?????? It takes TWO people to support the home so I believe it takes TWO to make it happy

  • http://www.whetheryoulikeitornot.wordpress.com booboonotthefool

    I guess I don’t care what collar you are. I’m not as concerned with how you dress as I am with the fact you wear the right outfit for the right occasion, and have some conversation to go along with it.

    If we are going to a bar-b-que at the house, I don’t need you suited and booted. IN fact, you are setting yourself to get clowned a little bit, and I’ll probably help. If we are going to an evening event art gallery, I might look at you a little sideways if you come with the timbs and the T-shirt.

    While either look will turn my head, I care more about what’s inside his head.

  • uhmmmmm.

    i’ve always been attracted to blue collar men. they are working in their element and most seem to be physically fit and/or physically active. there are many jobs that do not fit the traditional blue/white collar box–many jobs are more casual-dress oriented. but i am attracted to men who dress casually but can have a style sense enough to wear a suit when need be. i moved from bklyn and live in the south now and noticed that brothers up north have more of a sense of style of dress than southern men.

  • Shavier

    Hi Ans, been reading your blog for some time with no comment. Luvn how you think!

    I gotta say I like a brother who does not mind getting his hands dirty, knows how to fix a flat on my car and give it a tune up!, has a wonderful sense of humor and can hold a meaningful conversation (not just game on how to get with me), can turn around and hang out with a corporate sister like me, go to a corporate function and not feel like he’s a fish out of water and call me bougie because I can be down casual and corporate with no problem.

    So, I’m going to have to go with your new terminology of a “Hybrid collar”. Although i’ve dated some brothers who are blue collar, they are just not comfortable in the white collar world. Why is that? Then some white collar brothers don’t want to get their hands dirty – I swear some of their hands look better than some womens (I’m just sayin!!)

    I’ll take Hybrid for $2000 Alex!!

  • http://nwso.net/ NWSO

    Smh. Hardly. Lol.

    Nope, usually huddled over computer in some basketball shorts and a wifebeater. I’m sure that’s a much better image. Lol.

  • QuoteMan

    I’m a white collar by profession which entails dressing up. However, come the weekends, I throw it down with the best of them – when it comes to jeans and sneakers. So don’t for once, get it twisted when you see me on monday. LOL

    At the end of the day, knowing what occasion calls for which, is just as important as rocking something that don’t take you out of your comfort zone. In truth, we all wanna turn heads and rocking something that’s not comfortable would chip away at one’s swagger.

    I must admit though, at a certain age we should let certain style go. Like dressing up in tims and durag in a 100 degree weather seems ridiculous IMO. Come on now. LOL

  • dbaby11

    giggle. thanks! hold on let me get change that mental pic…. ok got it yes i trust my body in your hands!!!hahha(please close your mouth now!)

  • Jessica J

    Naked I’m starting to feel I’m the only sock head who doesn’t know what you look like. (Folds arms and feels unappreciated).

    HYBRID GO!

  • http://nwso.net/ NWSO

    SMH

    If you’re on the East Coast you shoulda brought your butt to the panel. Anniversary party coming soon next month

  • Jessica J

    Looka here mr.sock man (probably not even matching socks) I am in Texas. College student like myself doesn’t have the time or money to make it to those events being a full time med student like I am. Still……feeling neglected.

  • http://nwso.net/ NWSO

    you could have watched the live feed for free so there :P

  • Jessica J

    i was sleep during the feed darn you. i had class. sigh…..fine. i won’t complain. but I will find out what you look like, one sock or another.

  • SWEETPEA31

    I prefer the hybrid type. From personal experiences, white collar men in the DFW are flat out cocky and conceited. I love a man with a brain and a suit but it is easier to become emotionally involved with a man that is more down to earth and not “full” of himself. As a registered nurse I am in scrubs 75% of the time…unless I am attending meetings….then it is a nice blouse, slacks and a starched lab coat. Even though my “world” includes a lot of interactions with educated or professional individuals, I prefer a man with sweat dripping off of his muscles! Enough 2 make a girl go wild!

  • lola289

    As long as he has a collar or JOB… seriously.
    I just want him to love his job and be happy w/ his life.

    But I did date a janitor once and when he wore his uniform it turned me on! He looked like a model or sumthin… damn… I never thought Id date a guy in that field but he was a great lover! *sigh*

  • Elle

    *droolS*

    Us ladies appreciate the visual.

    Thank you kindly.

  • Elle

    Scientific research?!?!

    Wow, you just scored big on my “sexy radar”.

    ding ding ding

  • Elle

    “Unfortunately it usually also signals ‘whore.’ So while I like looking at that type of man and honestly loving one for too many years, I now tend to stay away from them. It’s a ‘look- but- don’t-mess- with’ type of thing. I know that is an enormous generalization, but it is what it is.”

    A generalization indeed but quite on point. Sadly. For some reason not many women seem to notice it and keep falling into the trap while chasing the dream of the 2.5 kids, labrador retriever and picket fence.

  • Enid Wilson

    I’m inspired by cuties with glasses…blue or white collar…

    Steamy Darcy

  • Spinster

    In agreement with both of you. Run Forrest run. :-|

  • Artivist

    I love the blue collar look, and I love the white collar look. I am slightly partial to the artist look though, probably since I’m an artist. *Kanye shrug*

  • MimiPumpkin

    For me, I really don't care, just as long he has a job (LEGAL job, of course) and is able to financially take care of himself.

  • SoLo

    Give me the “HYBRID” (blue & white collar equally). I want the type of man that can be versatile and blend in everywhere (physically, mentally and spiritually). The “hybrid” does it for me! *Shivering at the idea*