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Can You Stand Depressing People? (The Eeyore Complex)

Posted by NWSO • June 28, 2010 • Printer-friendly

Not sure how many of you grew up watching Winnie the Pooh but there was this one character named Eeyore. He was a perpetually depressed donkey, whose tail kept falling off. Nothing seemed to go right for him—ever.

Life for Eeyore was just one tragedy after another. He called his home “Eeyore’s Gloomy Place” and every episode his house, which was more of a tent, would always collapse. Based on his constant streak of bad luck, Eeyore lived under the assumption that life sucked. Period, end of story and there was nothing he or anyone else could do about it. It was just the way things were.

Sound familiar?

Chances are most of us knows someone who exhibits similar character traits. I have labeled this condition "the Eeyore complex." This is for people who are always down on themselves and life in general. You know, that person who never looks at the bright side of things, puts themselves and others down (usually unintentionally) and just trudges through life with a ho-hum attitude.

Now, it would be totally unfair to call these kind of people “party-poopers” or “bores,” but they can be quite depressing to hang around. Their constant state of solemnness is an automatic mood killer and can bring down the energy levels of even the most affable Tigger.

Tigger was a character that was the complete opposite of Eeyore. He was always happy and excited about the simplest of things, like bouncing on his tail, which was made of springs. But the most wonderful thing about Tigger is that Tiggers are wonderful things.

Now a tailless Eeyore can never be a bouncy Tigger ("There's only one T.I. Double Guh-Er"), but maybe Eeyore can learn something from his striped friend. Life is what you make it. Tigger lives in the moment and grabs life by the proverbial tail. But Eeyores tend to sit back and watch life pass them by. They let the problems of the day weigh them down until slothfulness kicks in. They never smile because they never allow anything positive to happen to them.

A shroud of gloom is their defense mechanism. Expect nothing so when you get nothing it means nothing. But if Eeyore never goes after anything how can he ever get even the smallest piece of something?

Maybe Eeyore's depression isn't caused by life itself but how Eeyore himself chooses to drown in doubt and worry. Yeah, life is far from a bed of roses, but there’s a thing called free will that allows us to adapt, change and control our own destiny.

There's a little bit of Eeyore in all of us, it's just a matter of how much Tigger we balance that out with. I for one can attest to periods of depression or bouts of self-doubt, but I always find a way to bounce back.

I recharge.

I look forward to tomorrow being a better today.

And if not, then the next tomorrow will be the brighter day.

There's no better joy than overcoming a huge obstacle. Sure there'll be another one on the horizon but each accomplishment makes you stronger and prepares you to tackle the next hurdle. But if you quit, you'll never finish the race that is life.

See, it makes no point to sit idly by while your friends move on to the next level, leaving you behind to complain about how hard it is to move forward. Yes, life is hard, but that's why we have friends.

Every time Eeyore lost his tail, his home was destroyed or God rained on his personal parade, Tigger, Pooh, Rabbit, Piglet, Kanga, Roo, Owl, Gopher or Christopher Robin was always there to lend a helping hand, words of wisdom or something as simple as a hug. All Eeyore had to do was ask, but most times he didn't even have to do that.

What Eeyore, and anyone like him, needs to remember is that having your tail fall off is not the end of the world, because true friends are always up for a good game of pin the tail on the donkey.

T-T-F-N [Ta-Ta For Now]

Do you know someone that has the Eeyore complex? Does their constant state of depression put a strain on your friendship? What do you do to try and console someone that always looks at the negative side of things first? Do you think this is a sign of a deeper issue? Do you believe in bad luck? Or that people who put out negative energy tend to get that in return? How often do you look at the positive instead of the negative? What message did you take away from this Eeyore analogy?

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Tagged as: analogy, Christopher Robin, depression, piglet, rabbit, Tigger, Winnie the Pooh

cali_Bred

Hell no I don't know anyone too happy or sad. I can't stand ppl like that especially folks who are depressed. I just got a job and I am super juiced ppl walkin in the store are "whoa is me" shut that shit up. Oh and not let me get on the ppl whjo is just on some super high, but back to the questions, I do not know anyone who is always depressed, personally I don't think I could be around someone like that due to the fact that isn't my attitude. It may be the person is having a bad day or had a bad week/month whatever.
karmagini

OMG yes, sometimes I think people like this are drawn to me. I'm a very sensitive person & sensitive to others' energy, so it can be challenging to be around such people.

The coworker that sits across the aisle from me moans, groans, & sighs EVERY DAY. I kid you not. Every day, every few minutes. I avoid talking to her because she is quite negative. I have friends & relatives that are also negative, and I've limited my time around them quite a bit, not just to be unaffected by their energy... but also because I find we have less in common. It's like our paths grow apart because of our outlook on life.

I believe in the law of attraction, so what you are attracts the same energy. Also in that your perception is your reality. So to these people, their world is very much a negative place in their eyes. OTOH, my world is great & I feel blessed for everything.

Meditation helps me separate myself from the funky feelings I feel from time to time. Reflecting on gratitude also helps ground me and bring me back to a better energy. Sometimes too I try not to label things as positive or negative, and just let them be as they are, and I am not identified by them. Without a label, we lessen our attachment to those emotions.
distinguishedgentlewoman

Ah, man. You just insulted the best character on that show. Eeyore is the coolest cat on the block. On the other hand, that pompous know-it-all Winnie the Pooh gets on my bloody nerves. But I digress.

I get where you're coming from. Being around someone like that can be nerve racking. But being around someone who is always smiling and happy can be annoying, too. There's something very wrong with both extremes. I can be a bit of an Eeyore sometimes when life isn't going my way. But put the right record on, or a plate of spicy buffalo chicken wings in front of me and presto chango
http://acford.blogspot.com A.C. Ford

My ex-roommate was JUST like this. She wouldn't know a good day, good luck, or a blessing if it screamed a Spike Lee inspired "WAKE UP!" right in her face. I find that the Eeyore complex is often coupled with the "Nothing is My Fault" syndrome. This syndrome causes the afflicted to blame everyone else for everything bad in their lives. Let me tell you, this chick was AFFLICTED. I had to move out before I came down with WANNAWHOOPAHOE.
distinguishedgentlewoman

Hahahaha. You said nothing but the truth.
It’s Me!!!

a good song and buffalo wings always does it for me too!!! it really is like PRESTO CHANGO! lol
It’s Me!!!

i know a person like this...try to invite her out somewhere and it always an excuse! "huuuuuuuhhhh idk if i can go, everything is just wrong" "hhhhuuuuuuhhhh its tooooo far" and on top of that she can be the mood kill when she does come out or she's always talkin about some thing off the wall "what if something happens to us all!" No one wants to hear that when their tryin to have a good time!!! (this just happened this weekend so i guess im still a little touchy about it) but i digress lol!
lola289

I have friends like that now...*sigh* "The Eeyore complex" is the truth!
But I 'try' to help ppl so I guess Im like Pooh (Oh Bother!)
I really need to be more like Tigger and bounce my butt away from the gloom!

But I think my problem is I can be so optimistic that I just wanna help folks to see the glass 1/2 full like I do...
lola289

let me repharse that:
"But I think my problem is I can be so optimistic that I just wanna help folks to see the glass 1/2 full like I do…"

Im not that 'happy', but I am content with my life and I just try to help...ok Im done goodnight! lol
Ms. Nina

I have a friend that can turn a good evening into the night from hell because someone said something to her six months ago that hurt her feelings and she saw a man on the street who reminded her of that person. We are still friends, but we do not invite her out often because the evening often ends with her crying on the floor, full blown sobs, over a man that doesn't even belong to her, or she can't handle being the single person in the room if there is one couple amongst a group of friends.
I hate people who feel like being self loathing just because they now have an audience... I prefer depressed self loathers to stay by their selves...
I'm not saying people aren't allowed to have bad days, but the perpetual bad day crier has no place in my life...
Elle

I'm going to have to co-sign this. Fuck Winnie the Pooh!

Happy-happy-joy-joy-folks get on my last damn nerve. And I am already somewhat shortfused on a bad day. So please keep your "glass half full" remarks to your damn self. There isn't something good to be found in everything. That's BS we're being fed to pacify our hurting souls. Just like they tell poor people that money can't buy happiness - puhlease! I digress.

I have my down days and quite frankly see nothing wrong with it. Life just sucks sometimes and everything seems to go horribly wrong all at the same time. Nobody can tell me that they shrug everything that happens to them off like it was nothing. Personally, I never understood this fasciniation with constant happiness. Being happy only feels good when you have experienced your fair share of days from hell.

Granted, I do not bitch and moan about my bad days to my friends because I a) just want to be left the eff alone anyways and b) don't want to ruin their mood. Maybe that's the difference. *shrugs*
MultipleHeart

I agree with Elle and distinguishedgentlewoman.

I especially love "Happy-happy-joy-joy-folks get on my last damn nerve. And I am already somewhat shortfused on a bad day. So please keep your “glass half full” remarks to your damn self. There isn’t something good to be found in everything. That’s BS we’re being fed to pacify our hurting souls. Just like they tell poor people that money can’t buy happiness – puhlease! I digress."

Do you know someone that has the Eeyore complex? - Yes, at times myself, my friends, co workers

Does their constant state of depression put a strain on your friendship? No, because I understand where they are coming from

What do you do to try and console someone that always looks at the negative side of things first? I listen and show compassion, maybe give a bit of advice. Sometimes the old adage that misery loves company is true

Do you think this is a sign of a deeper issue? It really depends on what is bringing that person down and how long it will continue despite changes in their lives.

Do you believe in bad luck? I believe in bad things happening so we are able to really appreciate the good.

Or that people who put out negative energy tend to get that in return? I have issues with that way of thinking. I'm the type that doesn't like to be blindsided and 9 times out of 10 if I'm going along life thinking the best I somehow ended up getting the worst. So I try not to think about shit I can't control

How often do you look at the positive instead of the negative? I balance things out and do a bit of both.

What message did you take away from this Eeyore analogy? That depressed people need to keep their problems to themselves because no on wants a constant Debbie Downer.

Sidenote I had a debate with a friend that said happiness is mental and I said happiness is relative. I'm sorry I can think all the damn happy thoughts I want, but at the end of the day if I dislike my job and I'm lonely, and always broke that will affect my happiness.

The next post should be ways to achieve happiness when it seems all is telling you not to be.
Sherell

I run from folk like that! I just can not take it, it is too much. I generally avoid negative people. Yes life is tough but most folks walking around like that are generally upset about little shit! They think their lille problems are big, NOT!!!! You have to put things in perspective. I am generally up beat because I know life can really be HARD!!!! And so I am thankful when it is not.
Shannon

I don't believe in karma and energy and all that stuff. Life is what it is and it makes absolutely no sense to only look at the positive and play down the negative. I don't believe if you put out negative energy you get it back and I don't walk around all sunny and smiles either. Unless you're going through life on a morphine drip, there are going to be times when you are sad and depressed as well as happy.

I think Eeyore has the right idea. Sure, life isn't a bowl of cherries and things happen, but at least he acknowledges the bad things. I would feel the same way if my tail fell off or my house collapsed every single day. If all that's happening in your life are just negative things, what the hell are you going to be happy about? Let's say for instance you got up one morning and it was like any other day, except when you went to work you found a pink slip on your desk and no longer have a job due to cutbacks. You apply for unemployment and look for another one, but there just aren't any jobs out there. Your benefits and savings dry up. You lose your house, your car, everything you've worked for and have to either live on the street or with someone until you recover. While you're unemployed, broke and homeless, you find out that you're sick and need treatment and since you are uninsured, no doctor will treat you, so you slowly waste away until a trip to the emergency room gives you a breathing space. You think my sister had something to be happy about when she went through all this? My mother and I helped her get an apartment, paid her bills and helped with the baby, but she was just down and out and depressed and I understood that. Nothing good was happening in her life and please, never mind that her sister and mother helped her get a place to live and paid the bills or that she was able to get some treatment for her illness; that meant very little. And I understood that, even if no one else did.

I think walking around happy and turning a blind eye to the bad things that happen in everyday life is nothing more than an illusion. I think that is the stupidest thing in the world to focus only on the positive and downplay the negative, like that's going to make life better. Hell, if only good things happened and there were no bad things, how would you know it? Good things don't happen all the time; there will be a few bad things and I think it's perfectly normal to acknowledge that for as long as it's necessary. I also don't believe that one should rush or be rushed through depressed feelings or cheered up; it's normal and healthy to feel emotions of any kind; people are more fearful of bad feelings, so they find it necessary not to play them up or avoid them as much as necessary.

It drives me nuts to see people rushing to take antidepressants at the first sign of sadness. My goodness, let the feeling run its course. It doesn't last forever; that makes as much sense as taking something for happiness or rushing through feelings of happiness. Everyone has their own way of dealing with the negative in their lives and there is no right or wrong way of dealing with it nor is there any good or bad way of dealing with it either. If I am feeling down and out, I will continue to feel that way until I think the mood is going to pass and no, I don't rush it. I think downplaying negative things is akin to burying anger; eventually it will rear its ugly head, not to mention when you bury negative feelings without expressing them, it causes health problems.

People tell me all the time I'm pessimistic. I don't think I'm pessimistic, just realistic. That doesn't mean every time I fly, I think the plane will crash or every time I drive there will be a wreck or every exam I take I will fail or something like that. I simply acknowledge reality, the possibility that it can happen, not that it will, and that makes me realistic. Bad things happen, just like good things and both are just normal occurrences in life and it makes sense to acknowledge that. It drives me nuts to see people running through hell in gasoline drawers and their life is falling apart and they want to walk around and act like everything is peachy keen and great. Bullshit. Give me a break. You're fooling yourself if you think a cheery disposition makes a bad situation better. Go ahead, experience the bad feelings, let them run their course and then when things get better, acknowledge that as well.
Aki

I have to agree with Multiple heart.

I have several discussion with friends concerning this issue in the past and recently.
For several years I was minding my own business and being a good friend. When life got though on me friends were there for me but I have to say...people will only be there for you up to a certain point.

So I learned to rely on myself why?
Because it got to the point where when I talked about my struggles and frustrations I am not positive enough and when I did not want to talk about my problems because I didn't expect to be understood and I kept calm and quiet (because I am usually full and energy, good spirit and humour) then I am not oppened enough and they will eventually complain (behind my back usually) about the bad energy and pollution forgetting that while I was dealing with issues relating to death and violence, I was still able to confort them whith their "mummy wants money from me" issues...Laughable.

But problems are relatives what we need to learn is to bounce back after a reasonanable amount of time and believe it a better tomorrow and I think that even people that do not seem like they do have it deep in their heart, they may sometimes be overwhelmed with frustratino and tiredness.

I was a bit tired myself of the whole "you should look at the bright side of things". I actually think it is nonsense because how can you ignore how you feel? Emotions are a natural response to events and they are all here to teach us something. Not only the positive ones. It is from looking deeply at a difficult situation and understanding it that I learn why I happened and I try to find the solution for the same issue not to arise again.

People believe that others people can control them? Control their emotions and behaviour? I say it does not have to be this way.

When I am up and a friend is depressed comes to me with her/his issues, I make a point to give her advice, help and confort her buy using my assets which are upbeat attitude, humour and another point of vue. Depressed friends don't depressed me when I am not depressed. I will only be depressed if depression is already a part of me that I try to ignore or hide from it.

I will return the question. Do you have at least one friend that is not affected by your change of moods and attitude, that remain equal to himself/herself? I am fortunate to have one and as far as I am concerned that is where we should all be headed.
http://liferequiresmorechocolate.com Tiffany

I have a high school friend that is always moaning and groaning about life, being single and not having the things he wants. It's a daily thing on his facebook page. I hid his comments so I don't have to be depressed in the mornings after reading them. I do believe that the energy that you put out is directly related to what you get back. Crappy attitudes get crappy. No energy gets nothing.

Peace, Love and Chocolate
Tiffany
MultipleHeart

Shannon, I like your thinking of allowing our feelings to run its course. It is OK to feel down...just like it can't rain all the time you can't be happy all the time.

I hope your sister is doing better.
Aki

I have to agree with you. Energy you put out impacts what you get back. However why should you be affected by someone else energy? I really do not believe in the whole emotions are contagious thing. Or more precisely I believe that they are only if they find an echo with you.

You can encourage your friend toward making an actual effort to control what they put out as energy in a way to improve they circumstances...

Question is are we complaining about the state of being of your friend who you would like to see improving or your own comfort?

I have a problem with asking people to fake an happy attitude, fake laughs and smiles just comes out as phony and are more sad than actual honest sadness.
bogart4017

Please. I have co-workers live this. All they do is complain about the job day after day. And of course they never miss a days work. If you hate the job so much why don't you just quit? You been here for 40 years fer chrissake retire!!
Shequita

LOL yall would hate me!!! *Passing out bright yellow sunflowers to all the sock heads* I almost always look on the bright side of life (now that song will be in my head all day)...Im not annoyingly perky, but I am quite the positive person. MY DAD is the person who has the Eeyore complex, yes he was dealt a shitty hand of cards BUT DAMN, alot of us were, but we manage to move passed it and walk with a limp. We dont sit in a corner and cry about how much it hurts!!

I try my best to stay away from people that are constantly negative...ITS like there is absolutely nothing you can say, nothing you can do to get them to heal and move on!!! That depresses me just typing about it, your content complaining for the rest of your life????????????????????????? I THINK MISERABLE PEOPLE FIND COMFORT IN MISERY, THEIR AFRAID TO BE HAPPY BECAUSE THEIR AFRAID OF CHANGE!!!
older & wiser

How come only women have responded? I am curious to know if men go through this type of mental gymnastics? Please post!
sunnshyne

OMG soo soo true.. I have a friend who has the Eeyore complex and her biggest problem is that she does't take responsibility for any of her actions and in turn keeps making the same mistakes over and over again and then is like why does bad stuff keep happening to me...it is crazy. I feel bad for her but at the same time how long can you keep blaming the world for you ish!!!!
sunnshyne

As person who is normally upbeat and positive (I do have my moments when I am down) I notice that because I always look on the bright side of things I have a tendency to bounce back quicker. Get a can do attitude quicker and work to figure out resolutions to my problems and situations and while something are out of your control like losing a job or getting sick, by having a positive attitude nine time out of ten will help you get the strenth courage and wisdom you need to make it out. In any situation you have look at both side of the coin...but depending on which side you focus on is what makes the difference.
The Duchess

LMAO @ mental gymnastics!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Constantly depressed ppl are a NO GO for me!
The Duchess

LMAO!! Draining ppl are the WORST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just want to tell them to STFU!!
QuoteMan

Ans, I don't see my comment
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http://livingflyonadime.com Living Fly on a Dime

I recently had to "break up" with a friend like that. I would be in a good mood, see him/talk to him and then I'm feeling all Eeyore-like as well. No bueno. Negativity is contagious.
MultipleHeart

So my thinking of happiness being relative is true if people can be in the company of someone negative and feel that negativity themselves. If happiness was all mental wouldn't people be able to be around the negativity and say "f**k it, I'm staying happy"?

Just asking.
EmotionalFunk

I agree al the way! Yes, I've known and known a few of those and yep their super sadness is always coupled with no self responsability. I swear there is more to life than be sad and bitter.
EmotionalFunk

I've got a new friend who I've got to dump quickly and smoothy. I wish we didn't have friends is common. She suffers from the Eeyore, poor me complex. I start the day funny cool and darn all the sudden black cloud every where.

I don't care what anyone says most of us know that negativity is contagious eventually.
Shannon

I appreciate that. She's been so down, but like rainy days yield to the sun, this will soon pass.
Shannon

I feel you on that. I get that a lot, especially from my family, about not looking on the bright side of things and this was at a time when I'd lost an uncle, a nephew, both grandparents, my father and my husband in the space of five or six months, the latter I lost within a month of each other. I needed to talk about it, but I wasn't being positive enough and when I kept my feelings to myself, I was shutting everyone out. I couldn't win for losing. SMH
Reason

The bottom line is that we are all at one point in time one of the characters from Winnie the Pooh, and each character reflects different sides of our personality. Are we not ever changing and forever evolving? Who believes that they behave like Tigger 24/7? Do you really believe you do? And who is the fool who thinks that they are Eeyore all the time? And why is being like Eeyore considered being negative? I think it's more important that we embrace all emotions and all personality types and not dismiss anyone for being who they are. Those that say they dislike being around negative people are the Biggest hypocrites because that statement is Negative. Is it not? And at the center of that statement is the same hatred that have contributed to some of the worst acts of racism and genocide in the world. OK Let's kill all the negative people or at least exile them to some foreign land. That would separate us the “Positive Elite”, from those horrible “Negative” people! Wouldn't it better serve the Eeyores of the world if you would just simply invite them over for some buffalo chicken and listen to some great music?

I’m just saying…
EmotionalFunk

@ Reason
Whoa, calling us hypocrites, lol. Those are some serious insults and allegations you’re throwing out there and you’re assuming about a whole bunch of people here. I have to disagree with you Reason. Just because one doesn't want to hang around negative personalities doesn't me you can correlate that to mean that we also want to annihilate people and lead to acts of genocide no more than I could think that about the others on here who can’t stand being around happy, happy, people all the time. You see that why some of can’t hang out with Eeyore’s, lol.
Artivist

The perpetually morose just push people away. Everyone is entitled to be down once in a while, but when nothing makes you happy, something is wrong-- with you. We all can get down and we're entitled to wallow a bit when hit with the heavy shit that life sometimes throws. I don't expect you to do cartwheels if you've been diagnosed with cancer and your house blew up, however, studies show that if you can pull yourself together you will come through it faster and better. Tigger has a better shot of beating cancer than Eeyore. On a side note: I loved Winnie the Pooh, still sing the theme song from time to time.
Janelle

This blog came right on time today. I really needed to read this. I was having an Eeyore moment. Thanks
karmagini

I recently deleted several friends because of their constant negative statuses. Judgement, complaining & paranoia. I feel much better for having done so.
karmagini

You can try but sometimes it just easier to walk away. For me, breaking up with friends like this is also about us not having enough in common anymore. I believe people should help build each other up, and if that's not done & the person tries to bring you down with them (even subconsciously), what's the point of staying friends?

Happiness isn't all mental, it manifests itself physically also, just as negativity does.
karmagini

As an optimist/idealist, I don't ignore my negative moments. You can be aware of such and still maintain a positive outlook. I believe there's a yin & yang to everything, so even in tragedy, there's some positivity.

The mind, body & soul are connected, so I adopt this approach especially when I'm down. While I'm aware of my negative thoughts, I know that that energy is not the best for me physically or spiritually. I may heal it by crying it out, exercising, meditating, venting, etc. So it's not about being this happy-happy-joy-joy person all the time, but instead of making the best of my life/health.
rwifey

i gotta amen with all of those who needed this one today, i did too *screamin*.. i'm still down,but i'm hoping for tomorrow.

thanks NWSO
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you do realize that the delete button only works on FaceBook, right? LOL
Miss Conception

I have been preaching this for years. Thank you so much for understanding me even though you don't know me . I also don't believe in Karma, but I do believe in energy. Since I have to study it, it does exist not only in the natural world. The first law of thermodynamics will help demonstrate my philosophy: Energy can neither be created nor destroyed. It can only be passed from one party to the next. Basically, when one person is in a bad mood, everyone else can feel their negative energy and become down as well. Instead of looking at the glass as half empty or half full, why not see that you have half of it gone, and need to get rid of the other half. Be sure to recognize the good in life and embrace the bad. Ignoring negative energy will hurt you in the long run, trust me I did it for years and now experience those feeling I tried to conceal. I too hope that your sister will be able to bounce back.
QuoteMan

OK cool, let’s try another medium.

Most folks weren’t born with silver spoon in hand so we all have a story to tell. I get a kick out of folks who think they’re the only ones who had had bad times and want the entire world to feel sorry for them. I for one chose not to dwell on mine. Life as we know it has it’s valleys and peaks; I don’t get over-excited during the good times and neither do I hang my head low during the bad times. I live by the mantra – it’s never that serious.

I just can’t stand people who are constantly depressed like the shit is going out of style; always complaining about anything and everything no one gives two shits about. Don’t get me wrong, I’d share a thought for a someone going through hard times but if you dwell on bad times for months on end, I’m keeping you at bay.

Folks who say life sucks – I say no it doesn’t, you just suck.

Life is short; time and energy is valuable commodity and mine is not to be wasted. You could miss me with any negative vibe you got. If you don’t have anything great to say, say nothing.

With all due respect to the saying life is hard, I disagree. Over the years, I’ve come to the realization that life is not hard when you pay attention. If we are honest with ourselves, for the most part we know where our problems emanate from. Therefore, we could fix those. Sure, there’re other stuff that happens beyond our control – true indeed, however, how we deal with it is always in our control - always would be.

Why should I sweat shit I’ve no control over, like sickness and death – you grieve and you move on. It is what it is. You think you got it bad? Please, think again. When you watch the discovery/history channel and you see folks from the 3rd world who are destitute and on the brink of despair and they still afford to maintain a smile – I say WTF do I have to complain about.
Miss Conception

I'd have to agree. that is exactly why the laws of thermodynamics and energy are related to humans as well as nature. True happiness doesn't exist, just like true energy is created. Happiness I feel comes from energy or positive aspects affecting your mood, while depression is the same except negative aspects.
Miss Conception

I am a realist. I embrace the good and prepare for the worst. I wear my emotions on my sleeve, and don't apologize for it either. Just because I am depressed doesn't mean everyone in the world has to deal with it, but I am not going to hide my emotions just because you want to be around positive people all the time. I hate to say this, but I refuse to live in the Twilight Zone and surround myself around positive people because I didn't live a Twilight life and certainly had way too many pain and suffering to stay positive. I can see the pros and cons in all situations, and make sure that the cons are accessible to handle.
Miss Conception

So... is it safe to say that you are indifferent?
http://nwso.net/ NWSO

You straight now QuoteMan? Was this what you typed before or a different comment altogether? Any issues this time around?
QuoteMan

Nah, a different comment. The initial one probably got lost in space.LOL

I'm straight though, my initial comment was from a new phone so the issue might have been from my end.
http://nwso.net/ NWSO

Cool, I also adjusted something on the back end so that may or may nt have helped/fixed.
QuoteMan

indifferent? You call it what want you. LOL
QuoteMan

alright, good looking
Miss Conception

I call it like I see it.
QuoteMan

I guess you and me both b/c i call it how it is.
Miss Conception

I find nothing wrong with feeling indifferent. Everyone has a different coping mechanism; however,I guess I am trying to understand what it is like to not express any emotions?
QuoteMan

I never said not to express any emotion - I just don't dwell on it b/c I've a lot of living to do.

Nothing is that serious IMO - nothing is
karmagini

It doesn't? I'm gonna have to go back to drafting that trap door then.
lola289

YESSS! Im not the only one that remembers the theme song! thanku!
lola289

Im a realist also Miss Conception...and everyone has their days,months,whateva...
But to say you steer away from negative ppl is ummm ridiculous...
I mean seriously ppl have flaws and no one is perfect.
Stay real!
Reason

My comments were directed to those who wanted to disassociate themselves form "negative" people altogether. Though I’m sure that those folks would never kill masses of people or segregate them, my point was to illustrate how a certain type of thinking perpetuates certain ideas and how eventually those ideas can be very harmful to others if acted upon.
Elle

EXACTLY!!!!

I always had a problem understanding why people are rushing feelings. Why is it wrong to feel bad for as long as I personally need to feel bad to get over it? Our soul needs sadness just as much as it needs happiness. There is a place and time for both states. Everything in the universe is balanced - so are our moods.

In the grand scheme of things, getting dumped by my fiancé last summer wasn't the end of the world - of course. But at that very moment in time it was. It was the end of a future I never was able to see unfold as I had hoped and expected. And losing a future you thought you had is one of the suckiest feelings.
So yes, I was depressed and miserable for about 6 months. That's how long it took me to start seeing the good things in my life, that's how long it took to figure out my next step, that's how long it took to gain perspective on what happened & what I could learn from it.

I am beyond thankful for my friends' & family's patience with me. Like I said earlier, it is not my style to bitch and moan to others about my situation, I internalize. But realizing that people are concerned about you and being offered a helping hand without having to ask for it truly helped me to hang in there.

I would never expect anyone to see the glass half full if it indeed is empty like in the example of Shannon's sister.

See Shannon - we're seeing eye to eye once again
Elle

Don't we just love love love the pep talks?
The Duchess

That last sentence is the TRUTH!!!
Vita

I be deperessed and I fund myself annoying lol
I cant stand depression. When pple are depressed it stops them from loving their life and the positive outlooks. Like im overcoming depression because of a recent quote i read, and it stated how life is how you think it. keep playing yourself and beating your self up your going to continue to feel your victim. BUT!!! if you think of it as dang my life is goood i have good pple in it etc... then your going to focus on why its good lol POP BANG!!!
InadusMagadocious

i guess most of you do not work in behavioral health settings....
depressed people often suffer from it because they not only have the chemical imbalances, but have not quite figured out the formula of thought-feeling-behavior mechanics... and please... all those people who say they'd drop a eeyore-type friend with the quickness, or cant stand depressed people... its probably the best thing you can do for them roll the hell on cuz you aint helpin.... because believe me... if you got the guts and tenacity... you'd stick around when you have a ho hum ho drum friend/lover/family member... with the proper tools they can and do get better...
Miss Conception

your absolutely right. Those who can't stick around shouldn't because they wouldn't know how to handle depression, since they never had that emotional imbalance before. I don't believe that anyone here has never been depressed before. However, I also believe from reading these comments that most people have to surround themselves around ppl who are mary sunshine because the lack of producing his/her own motive for happiness. Which is why I can't be around that. I am not going to fake the funk. The majority of my friends aren't afraid to admit when he/she is happy or sad, and the friends who try to be happy all the time I don't hang out with often because they try to make me feel like I have to be something I am not. Most people say that I look like I am a happy person, but I couldn't really say that. I just wear my emotions on my sleeve. I love life, good and bad, and learned to not feel that negativity isn't necessary, because it is.
thecynicmyth

Indeed, miss conception.
thecynicmyth

I know it might not be morally right, but I would just never voluntarily place myself around someone who could only provide me with constant negativity. Sure, shit happens, I can accept that there are going to be days that you're going to want to whine, and, if you're really my friend, I'll be there to listen to all the bitching and even, maybe, throw some comments in here an there
BUT, and I don't know where to draw the line at, but if it happens with any kind of predictability, or if I begin to EXPECT it, get outta here. I'm already actively trying to look on the bright side an those people just cast shadows.
W

Understand your point. With me i suffer from depression. Have tried different ways of dealing w/it. The best conbo right now for me is meds and therapy. Is it working for me right now? Yes. This combo has made me stablized(sp?) for awhile now and I feel better. I didnt want to be on meds for a long time...but i finally admitted something wasnt working and tried.

I totally agree everyone has their own way of dealing with negative.

But i know the sunshine is there.
http://bewleysgraftonstreet.com Ezekiel Texada

Sorry for the huge review, but I'm really loving the new Zune, and hope this, as well as the excellent reviews some other people have written, will help you decide if it's the right choice for you.
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Sorry for the huge review, but I'm really loving the new Zune, and hope this, as well as the excellent reviews some other people have written, will help you decide if it's the right choice for you.
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The Zune concentrates on being a Portable Media Player. Not a web browser. Not a game machine. Maybe in the future it'll do even better in those areas, but for now it's a fantastic way to organize and listen to your music and videos, and is without peer in that regard. The iPod's strengths are its web browsing and apps. If those sound more compelling, perhaps it is your best choice.
http://johnwseybold.com Brandon Perrigan

The new Zune browser is surprisingly good, but not as good as the iPod's. It works well, but isn't as fast as Safari, and has a clunkier interface. If you occasionally plan on using the web browser that's not an issue, but if you're planning to browse the web alot from your PMP then the iPod's larger screen and better browser may be important.
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Apple now has Rhapsody as an app, which is a great start, but it is currently hampered by the inability to store locally on your iPod, and has a dismal 64kbps bit rate. If this changes, then it will somewhat negate this advantage for the Zune, but the 10 songs per month will still be a big plus in Zune Pass' favor.
Jame Mccoid

I'll gear this review to 2 types of people: current Zune owners who are considering an upgrade, and people trying to decide between a Zune and an iPod. (There are other players worth considering out there, like the Sony Walkman X, but I hope this gives you enough info to make an informed decision of the Zune vs players other than the iPod line as well.)
http://motelejjeju.com Garret Retterath

If you're still on the fence: grab your favorite earphones, head down to a Best Buy and ask to plug them into a Zune then an iPod and see which one sounds better to you, and which interface makes you smile more. Then you'll know which is right for you.
http://www.mafiaforex.com Glendora Vansteenbur

The Zune concentrates on being a Portable Media Player. Not a web browser. Not a game machine. Maybe in the future it'll do even better in those areas, but for now it's a fantastic way to organize and listen to your music and videos, and is without peer in that regard. The iPod's strengths are its web browsing and apps. If those sound more compelling, perhaps it is your best choice.
http://dailytrendnews.com Phil Punihaole

If you're still on the fence: grab your favorite earphones, head down to a Best Buy and ask to plug them into a Zune then an iPod and see which one sounds better to you, and which interface makes you smile more. Then you'll know which is right for you.
kfish

Likely they can't afford to quit and are too old to get hired anywhere else. It may be they are unhappy because they are being treated badly at work by people who are trying to force them into retirement.
kfish

Depression, of course is an illness and likely an inherited one. While you don't have to hang out with depressed people, blaming them and admonishing them to get a hold of themselves and get positive is like telling a paralyzed person to just start walking (but likely you don't hang out much with paralyzed people, since they might be annoyingly inert.
Khalid (SincereHeart)

Materialism and ego has once again lead moral truths to deceits. This is freed from organized religion rather than from egos. Then what caused this topic a (sad) tragic ending worse than depression? Sins (arrogance and vanity) against humility and compassion. Respect for moral truth and virtue is better (brighter) than for material goods and egos. Materialism is satan's most deceitful theory.