What Do You Want to Know? (FormSpring x Party Flicks)

Hey, y’all. I mentioned earlier in the week that I jumped the shark and joined FormSpring. Basically, it’s a site where people can ask you anything. I’m still figuring it out but so far I’ve gotten a handful of good questions, which I decided to share today.

Consider it a condensed version of my usual reader advice. Check out the Q&A below and then if you feel like it CLICK HERE to ask me anything you want.

Also, I finally got back all the pictures from last week’s anniversary party so check out the good times thanx to Stephanie O’Conner and Fernando Yard’s great eye for photography. Y’all know I ain’t one for posting my face all over the Internet so I guess I’m in a good mood. Apologies, looks like the gallery plug-in I used to post the party flicks has a viewing limit, which I've surpassed. So I'll work on getting a new gallery to repost the flicks at a later date.

Enjoy!

What's the kindest thing someone has ever done for you?

Living in NYC that's a tough one. Uhm, I guess anyone that's given me the chance to be in their life. Because truthfully, not everyone gets that honor or deserves it.

When was the last time you gave flowers?

Uhm, a few years ago, as an over-exaggerated apology for a woman I had offended. I was in the doghouse & was trying to get out. But I sent them anonymously. Figured the intrigue would pique her interest & soften her heart. lol

What are some reasons for people to not be interested in a relationship?

Fear of commitment or possibly you just aren't the one for them. Everyone has their own reasons for wanting to be in or out of a relationship. It really depends on the individual and usually stems from childhood relationships (family etc) and how that shaped the individual's view on what relationships mean.

Really tough to answer that one in one succinct nut graph, but hope that provided some insight. Feel free to shoot a follow-up

One more question: Does love at first sight exist?

In theory, yes, but the true test of whether or not it truly is love and not just infatuation/lust/chemistry will be revealed over time.

The idea sounds nice in movies and books, but the reality of sight equaling a soul mate is slim, but not impossible. Sometimes you are just drawn to certain people from right away, so my romantic side will say yes it exists but my rational side is leery.

What advice do you have for a woman who most men are attracted to but overall find physically unattractive? Meaning they want the body, brains and buddy -- but not the face.

Advice in terms of... If she's got the body, the brains (which I assume includes the personality) and the buddy (which I'm not sure if you mean the friendship quality or the De La Soul kinda "buddy") then what's the problem? As for without a great body or face, the trump card is personality. Personally, I've seen/met plenty of people that weren't the greatest lookers above the neck but if they were generally good fun people that can usually compensate for what they lack in looks.

Think about it: Someone that's gorgeous can make themselves ugly by being conceited, mean-spirited or just plain ol' dumb. SO the reverse is easily possible for someone with more personality than looks.

Still unsure of what specific "advice" you're looking for but I'll say as with anything be yourself. Hopefully, you (or whoever has this "problem") are someone with a great personality to make looks irrelevant. This does of course has to be someone that's not so vain as to let looks be the end all be all for choosing a mate. A mature person can overlook the outside for what's inside—even if it takes a while.

But if "most men" are attracted to this woman, then that's half the battle. She just has to make sure that the guys are genuine and are not just looking to hit it cause he body is sick, cause a big booty or nice rack can always catch a man's eye, but if there's nothing beyond that it won't necessarily keep him. Not for long at least.

Yes, I meant "buddy" as a double entendre. The great personality and the "good-good". I'm glad to see this response from a man, but why don't most men feel this way. My experience is they go in and then can't commit. I thought it had to be bc of my looks.

Again, I'd say it's about maturity. If someone isn't man/mature enough to go beyond looks then they aren't ready for a relationship with that individual. Plain and simple. You can't make someone mature when you want them to or commit if they don't want to. We all get "there" when we get there. Fact of life that it's not always at the same time.

And based on your last line, it could be looks but there are times it might even be personality. A guy could be attracted to a woman physically but she may bore/annoy him to death personality wise. If he's a horndog that won't stop him from tryna hit. Sad but true.

I always say, men's moment of clarity comes AFTER the nut, a woman's moment of clarity is before. Meaning once sex is out the way a guy can look at a situation clearer and decide what's not working for him, and a woman can usually be wise in her decisions before sex but afterwards her emotions take over now she's not thinking clearly.

Once a guy said I was so perfect that if I was beautiful I'd probably be a bitch. Another said he really cared, but wasn't attracted anymore those messed me up badly. I guess I'm insecure now. Damn. Oh, what did you mean "based on your last line"?

Guess that goes into the belief that most "hot" girls are stuck up, or get big heads because all their life they were told how beautiful they are etc. So some guys may be shocked when they meet a hot girl that's actually cool or has a sense of humor. Lol

Disclaimer, not my thoughts per say but what I've heard. Lol

About "last line" I don't see thread here and too tired to look back for it. LOL. So that'll just have to be one of the untold facts.

Now, it’s your turn, how would you answer any of the above questions? Do you appreciate flowers as a gift? Do you think that most people assume “beautiful” people are stuck-up? What do you think of this FormSpring-based post?

Speak your piece…

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