Why is it that men can’t just tell a woman that he’s not looking to date a woman? We exchange text messages; he’s hot on my tail; says he can’t wait to see me; says he can’t wait to make love to me again… But… Weeks pass and nothing, but he’s online constantly. Maybe I should just get the message that he simply likes toying with my emotions. I’m getting mixed signals. Do I just assume he’s not interested? Maybe this is where “actions speak louder than words. Why can’t either a man or woman just let a person know they’re not interested instead of misleading people with false hopes? I need some feedback on this.
Now ain’t that the question of the millennium. Plain and simple; he’s just not that into you. That’s the most clear and succinct answer to the scenario you laid out. However, you asked me, WHY?
While there are a multitude of reasons for why someone (male or female) is flaky and sends mixed signals, but I have a few possible answers for you based on my own personal experiences. Would you like to hear them? Of course you do; so here goes:
1) There’s Someone Else More Important Than You
Hate to put it so bluntly, but the only thing that keeps a man away from a woman he’s already sexed is even better sex elsewhere. That, or the sex was wack, but since most women don’t believe they can actually be wack in the sack (CLICK HERE), we’ll just say there’s someone else. If you’re dealing with a guy that’s dating other people or is afraid of confrontation, he won’t just come out and say, “Hey, I’m seeing someone else and I’m actually feeling them more.” It’s not the easiest thing to hear or say, so if he’s a punk then being flaky seems like a better option. You should get the picture eventually.
2) Maybe You Are Wack in the Sack
I know it’s a tough pill to swallow but sometimes we aren’t as good in the sack as we all think we are. Hey, even I have a dad night every once in a while. **Gasp** Not sure how my times you and dude have been intimate, but perhaps you were wack and he’s interested in giving you another shot (that’s when he’s flirty) but then remembers the experience and opts for a more reliable bed partner for the night instead (that’s when he’s flaky). I’m sure you’re wondering: Why someone would pursue someone that’s wack in the sack? Simple, a man likes options ’cause even wack pucci is better than no pucci. So when all else fails you could serve as a backup to good pucci. But, I’m sure you are a nice young lady with a wonderful pucci, I’m just providing a possible theory in reference to all those OTHER women with wack pucci. LOL.
3) His Wife/Girlfriend Didn’t Approve of Your Relationship
Don’t you hate when that happens? You’re really feeling someone and enjoying hanging out at random hours then you find out they’re wife/GF would rather they spent all that quality time with them instead of you? The nerve of some people. LOL. Seriously, though, there are dudes in “committed” (and I use that word loosely) relationships that try to see if they still got “it” and find themselves in too deep with someone else. Either they come to their senses and disappear or their significant other finds out and makes them come to their senses and disappear.
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