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Disrespectful Roommate (Is It OK to Walk Around Naked?)

Posted by NWSO • September 28, 2010 • Printer-friendly

It's no secret that I don't like dating people with roommates. If you read my hilarious post "2 Guys, 1 Couch" (CLICK HERE) then you'll know part of my reason why. Well, here’s just more fuel to the fire.

I was watching one of those judge shows the other day and there was a case where two former roommates/friends were suing each other. I forget what the legal matter was but apparently the Defendant slept with the Plaintiff's boyfriend and was now dating him. The Plaintiff found out when she came home one day and found them cuddled up on the couch like nothing was wrong. She had long suspected something was up because her boyfriend would be at the house when she wasn't there but wanted to believe her so-called "friend" wouldn’t do her like that.

Clearly she was wrong.

As the case went on, the Plaintiff explained how the Defendant would always walk around the house in her booty shorts (CLICK HERE to cop your NWSO boy shorts). It wasn't a problem when it was just the two of them home, but she felt it was disrespectful to do it in front of her boyfriend, who would visit often. Especially since she had a tendency to be all up in his face and always seemed to need to go to the bathroom or kitchen a lot more whenever he was over.

The Defendant's defense: "It was my house and I can wear what I want."

True indeed. I'm known for walking around in my boxers in the privacy of my own home, but whenever company's over I make myself more presentable. It’s only right.

Now, I never had a roommate but I'd assume he/she would extend the same courtesy if I had company over. I'd be damned if my muscle bound roomie would be walking around shirtless in Speedos in front of my girl. Actually, even if there wasn't a lady over I'd have a serious problem with that spectacle and one of us would have to move.

Ultimately, it all comes down to respect of your roommate's personal space and that of their guests. If you know your roommate has a tendency for stealing people’s boyfriends and likes to prance around in her panties or even in the nude, then you shouldn't be surprised when she does just that when your man is over.

Is it disrespectful? Yes.

Should a roommate show more tact? Most definitely.

But if your nudist roommate pays rent and you knowingly bring your partner around; who’s more at fault? The bigger issue is clearly whether or not you trust your roomie and your partner around them. If the answer is no to both scenarios then don't even set yourself up for the drama. You not only need a new roommate (or to live on your own), but you’d also need a new boyfriend/girlfriend.

By the way, the judge ruled in the Defendant's favor so she walked away Scott free with her roomie's man on her arm. I guess the Plaintiff was just guilty of being dumb and blind.

Case closed.

Do you think it's disrespectful for a roommate to walk around half-naked in front of your BF/GF? How would you approach him/her about the issue? What house rules should be a given when you have a roommate? If you had a roommate known for sleeping around would you trust him/her around your partner alone? Are you basically asking to get cheated on if you do? Do you walk around half-naked in the privacy of your own home? Do you feel you have to adjust what you wear when your roommate has company? Or do you believe that paying rent gives you the right to wear what you want?

Speak your piece...

Tagged as: booty shorts, court TV, defendant, disrespectful, naked, plaintiff, roommate

http://thecandyshoppe.wordpress.com Ronnie6676

Exactly why I have never had a roommate...not even in college...
http://thecandyshoppe.wordpress.com Ronnie6676

oh and can you please, pretty please with sugar on top see if the good folks at the nwso store can get some yellow ringer tees in stock...
sunshyne84

That's one of those things you have to discuss when you get ready to live with someone. I don't have a problem with them being comfortable and walking around in their underwear since it is their home too, but I think when there is company over, especially a significant other you should cover all that up. Seems like common sense to me, but we have to remember that not all people think alike and whenever there is a concern then we have to express it. We can't just expect people to read our minds, which it seems like this chick did. Now for them to start sleeping together is a whole nother issue and makes me think she may have done it on purpose. IDK, but the point is set rules and boundaries and get all your expectations out beforehand or as soon as possible.
http://blackplanet.com Mimi

Everything should be done descent and in order. There should be respect shown when your roommate has guests or not. When you are both not entertaining there should be respect of each others space. When it comes to clothing the only time clothes are not in question is in the bedroom or bathroom!!! Case closed!!! That is the way it should be so there is no room left for excuses or mistakes!!! When madness starts to happen it usually stays around for a while!!!
QuoteMan

Nah I don’t do roommates. Plus, when I get out of the shower I like to “freestyle” for a while. LOL. I also don’t wanna deal with anyone’s mess and bullshit so much so that after college I stayed with mom dukes for a good minute before moving out - when I knew I was good and ready to be on my own. Nothing kills me more than a dirty and messy person.
Alexis Goodrich

Just don't leave your bf & roomie home alone :-/
JC

One of the reasons why I'd rather live in a shoe box and save money than have a roommate.
I like to do what I like to do when I want to do it. I am respectful of others and their space. Everyone isn't, I don't need nor want the drama of having a situation like this.

Do you think it’s disrespectful for a roommate to walk around half-naked in front of your BF/GF?- There was a time when I thought about getting a roomie and this is one of the things I discussed with my friend. House rule would have been- If company is over- female, male, goat...put on some respectable you can leave your house if it is on fire outfit.

How would you approach him/her about the issue?- Hopefully it wouldn't be an issue if it was made a house rule.

What house rules should be a given when you have a roommate?- Above rule and others that outline respect.

If you had a roommate known for sleeping around would you trust him/her around your partner alone?- Yes, cause hopefully I would trust my partner not to do some stupid shit.

Are you basically asking to get cheated on if you do?- No, people will do what people want to do. I can't control grown folks.

Do you walk around half-naked in the privacy of your own home?- Half naked...no, fully naked YES, lol. I do both, depends on the mood. One of the joys of living alone.

Do you feel you have to adjust what you wear when your roommate has company?- If I had a roommate I would do it out of respect.

Or do you believe that paying rent gives you the right to wear what you want?- It is about respect, and courtesy.

What pisses me off is that people even make this an issue? WTF...someone has to tell you that even though you share a space you still have to respectful of that other person's space.

Sidenote...I need to go pick up some stuff at the NWSO store
Mz. Ashley

I can't do the roomie thing at all. I cannot stand to clean up after someone who is grown, for one. This is a pretty messed up situation though, but i am sure it happens all the time. I wouldn't live with someone I thought was a hooch, nor would I date someone who I had to worry about if they was going to cheat on me or not. If I did live with someone and she was prancing around in booty shorts while my boo was there, we would have a problem. That chick knew what she was doing, and I be damned if im just going to sit there twiddling my thumbs hoping she will put some clothes on....I'd tell that chick str8 up....PUT SOME DAMN CLOTHES ON!
Rastaman

I have lived in 2 room-mate situations and the one thing I can say is that old refrain "you don't know me til you live with me..."

Neither of my expereinces ever degenerated to the skank level relayed in the court case but I do understand how these things can happen. A roommate relationship like any other relationship is based on mutual respect and understanding. Like anything else in life they will disintegrate when people stop doing their part. Parading around half dressed in the presence of guest, no matter what their status is never cool. We all understand teh proper way to comport ourselves in public versus the private.

In both my situations we moved in with pre-established house rules about guest, cleaning and overall comporting. The first person a woman, who I considered a friend and knew for 4 years, knew her family and friends turned out to be an inconsiderate pig. All the rules we had agreed on were flushed within the first 6 months. Living with her became a hellish exitence until I flipped on her in the presence of her man and she came to realize that I was not the one. I was out of there rather quickly and thus ended our roommate relationship and our friendship.

My next roommate was a college friend, a dude who turned out be the best roommate anyone could ever ask for. He was low key, clean, responsible and we got along great. We still great friends today and we haven't been roommates for nearly a decade. Plus he stuck with all the rules we had established prior to moving in. Other than his love of AC and ladies making unholy noises, everything was wonderful.

The key to a great roomate relationship is separate bathrooms!!

Limits any potential conflicts to like 10 percent of what they could be....
da ThRONe

1st there is no such thing as stealing a persons mate. If they are a willing participant then they werent yours to begin with.

Second for a respect stand point I can understand covering up. But these are the kind of things you should discuss before rooming with someone(provide you get to choose your roommate ofcourse). I have always subscribe to the train of thought that if someone is going to cheat they will and if they wont they wont. So from that standpoint I wouldnt worry about my half-naked roomie. On the I dont want my guest or my roomies guest to have to feel uncomfrontable because somebody is showing plenty of skin.
http://spchrist.blogspot.com spchrist3

You should have a policy with said roommate when someone has company over everyone should be fully clothed while walking around in the common areas. In the privacy of your room...you can be but naked all you want but if you are coming into a common area....put on a robe or some clothing.
Spinster

No roommates since my last 2 years in college. This right here is one of the reasons why.
http://nwso.net NWSO

I'll hold you to it and new policy is I need visual proof of purchased items being worn while holding receipt lol
Preachthecomedian

I had that same damn problem my junior year. I just so happened to be roomates with some swoled up brother. And this buttwipe had the nerve to ALWAYS need to take a shower when I had a female over. And couldn't take his clothes with him in the shower . NO ! He got to do the muscleman thing where he answers each question by flexing his biceps...NO more roomates...I had 10 in college...in 4.5 years TEN.....
Never again
Elle

I'd never want to live with any of my friends - not so much because I am worried they'd steal my guy but more so of not being able to live with their quirkiness 24/7/365.

Currently I am living with roommates for the first time in my life and at 32 that is annoying. To say the least. But they are all practically strangers and most of them are guys anyways. So boo-steals are no issues. Except for the 2 guys I share the floor with I barely see any of them. Thank God.
One of my "floor mates" usually walks around in his boxers only. But he is German as well, we all are, so it isn't as issue as we're pretty much used to this amount of exposure. Oh yeah, and that one American dude who seems to love being shirtless. Not that I mind *cough*. More eye candy my way please!
Jessica Jacob

I for one one am a panties only sleeper so when I used to have a rooomate and her bf would sleep over, I would have to make sure I didn't toss and turn and move the covers while I was sleep lest my roomie's bf wakes up and see my breasts, etc out. Whenever we were awake though I did make sure to keep the attire presentable, because I feel it's all about respect.

Sidenote: I wouldn't mind a nice chocolate, at least 175 pound guy being my roommate though. And he could walk around in his socks and boxers all dayyyyyyyy. Sigh....only in my dreams.
http://nwso.net/ NWSO

Wait, why are your roommate and her bf in your room or close enough to see your bare top should your sheet go up? What is this a studio with bunk beds? Lol.
Womanofyr

I'm guessing folks should have those rules set from the start. A roommate should cover up. But with the tv case, it sounds like the guy was going there without the girlfriend. His just wanted that girl (probably had fantasies) and she was ever available.
Yao

IF YOU LOOK GOOD THEN HEY WHY NOT. IF YOUR ROOMATE WARNS YOU THEN RESPECT THEM AND COVER UP. I WAS IN A SITUATION WHERE MY ROOMMATE WHO HAPPENS TO BE A GIRL ALWAYS WANTED TO WALK AROUND THE HOUSE IN HER BRA. SHIT WAS NOT CUTE CUZ SHE'S FAT AND OUTTA SHAPE, I DIDN'T LIKE IT AT ALL. ANOTHER CASE WHERE I ALWAYS WALK AROUND THE HOUSE WITH NO SHIRT. I'M BUILT, SEXY AND COCKY SO I WALK AROUND ALL THE TIME TOPLESS, THE THREE GIRLS I LIVE WITH LIKE IT AND DIDN'T COMPLAIN AT ALL
Webb

In my freshman year of college, I roomed with my now ex-best friend. We knew each other for years and she never did anything to make me feel ill of her. The freshman dorm was tiny - a small open room with two closets, two desks, two beds and a dresser with a mirror that seperated us. I had a boyfriend and he would come visit me from time to time. me and him were chillin on my bed watching the tv and she leaves out to take her shower (community bathroooms ...ew) & I assumed she took her clothing with her too but when she came back in the room, all she had on was a towel. She proceeded to kick her foot up on her bed and lotion herself and then tried to change while holding on to this tiny towel. I flipped shit and I havent seen her since that year. *shrug* No.Love.Lost.