Can a White Girl Use the N-Word? (Racist Rant or Rational)

I'm a white woman and I find her very offensive. She's an idiot. It seems like someone older and even more ignorant has ranted like that to her and she thought she would be take what they said and make a video.....sad.

I'm at work and we don't have streaming video capabilities, so I haven't seen the video. But from you what you described, I would just say she's probably just some ignorant, naive child. Just about as much as our own kids using the N word. It doesn't mean anything to them. I've seen white kids and black kids use them with each other. I remember once in target I heard this two girls talking, one saying to the other "let me tell you what that N***a did, girl...He was supposed to come by and yada....yada....." and then response that N****a did what???.... yada yada" sounding all hood... and I turn around, not to my surprise 2, clearly, 'hood' chicks, but to my surprise one white, one Mexican. I was floored.

The use of the word today by other races has been adapted because of the cross culture phenomenon of Hip-hip. Black youth today don't see it as a threat by any other race. Sure we've adapted the word and like we do anything, instead of letting it keep us down, we uplifted ourselves by using it as a term of endearment. And because of this, it lost it's original meaning. We'd have to go back in time or at least remind our kids of their history and the origin of the word before they understand it's not something that should be used so frequently, if not at all, and definitely not by any other race.

Are you surprised by this girl’s video rant?
I probably shouldn't have been, but I was very surprised by it. It's too effin sad.

How do you feel when you hear people that are not of color use the N-word so freely?
When I was shown this yesterday that was the first thing I said. "Why the hell is this girl so comfortable using the n word?" But I know in my heart why...it's quite obvious that the word and these ideas have surrounded her or she wouldn't be so blase with it...and posting it on the net thinking that just saying "...but I'm not racist" would wipe away all of the racist things she just said.

Who do you blame for this girl’s view of Black people?
Not sure what good blame is going to do, like yesterday's discussion, but her surroundings and parents would have to be at the top of my list.

Would you consider her racist or extremely naïve?
Both! They aren't mutually exclusive. Sure, she gets a lil leeway because she's obviously a child and is obviously spouting other people's words. But this is racism if ever there were racism.

What should her parents do about this?
*editing hateful thoughts* Take a good hard look at themselves and ask themselves if they've done a good job raising a good human being. Take a look at how ugly racism is when it's reflected back at them through their daughter. Take away her effin computer and have a good long talk about consequences of our actions. Take a long vacation outside of the US for two reasons. 1)You're daughter is due for a beat down and 2) she needs to see other cultures obviously. Then seek counseling; to work through the stereotypical brainwashing and to deal with this instant viral fame and all the hate that is coming her way.

What would you do if your kid posted a racist video online?
All the above and a whoopin that they'd never forget. No more computer for a loooong time. I'm not trying to hear I need it for school either. Here's your library card and a typewriter. #dealwithit

How much influence do you think the media has on how people perceive other races?
If they have no interaction with other races - A LOT! If they regularly interact with other races, very little.

Are there any stereotypes that you’ve picked up from the media?
Surely, those are mostly unconscious though right? None that I can list.

How do you feel after watching this video?
Sad. Very, very sad. And angry. And sad.

WoW, it seems to me that movies tend to depict us in this manner. Film seems to exploit stereotypes that don't make up our majority. Black comedic film makers need to steer away from this. This girl clearly has not made friends with real people of color. Are there some that act like she has described? I'm sure but I doubt they live by her. "Colored people" we are being misrepresented. We need to make that our biggest concern rather than defending who has the right to use the word n*gga. We need to be like look, the real issue here is that we as a people feel disrespected for being treated as 3rd class citizens. I had my hair braided on the weekend and a white man who thought he meant well shared with me that it was time for me to grow up if I wanted to ever be taken seriously and to go to school. I have my masters degree and audit goverment contracts. My thoughts were, was he being a racist? But I could tell he clearly was not. He has just become accustomed to seeing us in a 3rd class manner. He assumed that I was not educated because of the way I looked instead of asking me what I do. We need to speak out about the real issues that effect our community instead of letting white america dictate what we should fight for. They have had us stuck on fighting for the n-word for so long that we've forgotten that we need to be fighting for our rightful place in society, academic settings, and key jobs.

Am I suprised by the girl's video rant? No I'm sure you can a find plenty of those on youtube. Sometimes I read the comments on documentaries I watch on Youtube an there are a LOT of stupid people using internet. Ignorants are in heaven on internet. It gives them a place where they can rant with relative anonymity and usually no repercussions.

Use of the N**** word: I would say that I think even the black people using it is disturbing. You have a word that was used for decades to insult and degrade us and now it's fine, it's supposed to be okay if "another black use it" or "a white friend use it" or "a non-black who grew up in a black neighboughood"...bla bla bla....if needed just invent a new word. This one is not okay...that goes without saying from a white person it's an ABSOLUTE NO NO

She is both naive and stupid and racist. I think it would be difficult for any child to have these kinds of opinions if her parents were not bigots. So I think they are probably part of the problem. What should they do? If they disapprove? Register her in a shcool in a black neighborhood LoL

Well it's rather difficult to imagine that my child would be a racist. Racism comes from ignorance and lack of contact with other communities. I would allow none of those in my house (to the best of my abilities obviously). As a parent it's my duty to inform, educate my children on my cultures as well as others.

As for posting the video online? I would have him/her do an apologizing video-response explaining how he/she understand that previous comments where stupid and ingnorant and hurtful and post it as well.

I think medias have a great influence on how people perceive the world, other races, politics, relationships.....EVERYTHING! I picked a lot of stereotypes from the media but I try to exercice awareness and not to make them mine. I see them in every show, TV series, movies, flash news..

Funny, last week I realised that the only black woman character in a new show (Nikita I think) is loud, aggressive and promiscious if some are watching these kind of subtil inuendos, plus maury and other silly shows all day, everyday do you really think they won't be influenced?

As for the media, actually they can even influence the way you see your own melanin-group! If your only source of information is TV most black people in the US are drug dealers, violent and promiscious. Most african are hungry,waring and dying, most muslim are terrorist and/or wife beaters..... Are these images accurate? LoooL Isn't that crazy?

It's becoming more and more of a problem as people read less and less so they are counting on CNN, ABC, FOX and NBC not to mention BET LooooL to give them accurate informations on everything..well good luck...

How do I feel? Indifferent, annoyed? Being stupid is such a popular hobby...SMH

I'm loving the serial killers list LoooL

Didn't Chris Rock make a joke similar to this?

I blame her for her ignorance because she could do something about that. She can get to know some black people.

Correction.

Even the black folks who use the n word, know it's a racist term.

I actually clicked on the link and really I would have to agree with this point that you made: We would not even have this convo if she was black.
We live in a politically correct/PC society and so we think she is racist, but is she? Like someone stated earlier, Chris Rock did an entire commentary on niggers vs black people and he hit the nail right on the head.

The 'problem' with most of us here at NWSO is that we are educated and like to act as though ALL black folks are calm, rational, classy people. NWSO, I need you to go to the hood ( or just anywhere really)one day, literally, and let me know if you don't meet chicks like this. Sometimes I feel as though you are just plain unrealistic. There ARE black ppl-many of them- that are like this. Just like your point about infidelity. Even though you don't cheat, at least half of boys do (don't know them, but it is just a matter of stats).

Let's not front, we ALL know ghetto black ppl, just like this girl described. We just choose to distance ourselves from them. Now, I don't consider myself better than anyone, but honestly, I cannot tolerate ghetto people. I am not talking about people that live in the hood or poor people- b/c I grew up quite poor- but just vulgar, loud, classless folks.

And lastly, these ppl in no way should only be limited to us as a race, but it just happens that we are talking specifically about us.

Question who really cares. Like there aren't a ton of ignorant black people that believe stereotypes about white people. She is entitled to her opinions and some black people are niggas. Once again we get too bent out shape over silly stuff.

Im on my phone and so I haven't seen the video, but I don't need to. People will do and/or say dumb things. I hate the fact people want to sensor people. Let her talk that shit smart people know better.

OK Sir, just wanted to be clear that there are ppl like this.
And no one can blame you for trying to stay away from such foolishness..

On an observation note: You realize that your writing has changed? Not the style, just the content. You rarely talk about your life or tell 'stories' anymore- (your father, your past experiences etc.) Perhaps, it's just not our business-it kinda never was, so it is ok not to talk about it. Either way you write, I like to read this blog, but it is just something I've noticed and decided to comment on.

LOL at your preferences, I literally laughed out loud and couldn't stop! It sounds like a joke a comedienne would say! SMH while still LOL!

He may not have thought it was racist, but I thought it was racist as hell. I don't make excuses for people like that. I don't care what he's "accustomed to seeing." He made an assumption based on a derogatory stereotype -- an almost textbook definition of prejudice.

IDK EVEN THO IT IS IGNORANT , SHE MAKES SOME VALID POINTS DONT TRIP CUZ I AM BLACK BUT I DO AGREE THE WAY WE ACT AS A PPL (YES I KNW NOT ALL OF US) DISRESPECTS OUR ANCESTORS AND PROTRAYS THE IMAGE OTHERS HAVE OF US . I DONT CARE WAT U SAY U KNW U KNW PPL WHO ACT LIKE THEW GIRL SHE ACTED OUT . SHE MAY NOT HAVE ALL THE LINGO RITE BUT SHE CLOSE TO BEING ON POINT. AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST WAT U MAD ABOUT WHEN SHE SAQY NIGGER DO WE NOT CALL EACH OTHER THAT ALL THE TIME HUH. WHO GAVE OUT VIP PASSES TO SAY THE WORD NIGGER I AINT HEAR ABOUT IT! IF U DONT WANT THEM TO CALL US THAT THEN STOP CALLING OURSELVES THAT ! RESPECT UR SELF SO OTHERS WILL KNOW HOW TO RESPECT U LOVE U SO OTHERS WILL KNW HOW TO LOVE U

So it is excuseable to be ignorant then so long as you speak your mind?

OK, that's understandable. I wasn't complaining, just taking note. I guess I will have to wait on the book. Hope writing is going well.

Strange enough though, I would think personal stories take LESS time to craft b/c it just flows, rather then actively sitting to writing a piece about a big issue. Anyway, I get what you are saying.

Interview is over....for now.....

Too bad we feel this way about our people. I wonder this is another sign of the family emotional comforts being broken down. How we gonna repair the black family, hmmm?

You know what, I'm going to give the men a little credit on trying to dampen the n word. If that word had it's full power (slavery, rape, hangings, penis trophies, etc.), one would have to kill everyone who said it, or be broken. So it is practical to dampen that word. On the other hand, I still refuse the word, it intimidates me, disrespectful, and I won't put up with it. That is all.

I have seen several white girls post videos on youtube mocking black girls...A lot of these white girls nowadays are out of control! They are waaaay more crazy than any black girl i have ever seen. There are videos all over the internet of white girls using the "N" word, they mock black girls, they always ranting, they are engaging in all sorts of criminal activity, and their new thing is that they are now running around beating up black girls all the time. These bitches are becoming more and more dangerous to our society every day!
http://www.castefootball.us/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=11666&title=white-girl-fights-off-2-black-girls-and-1-spanish

I agree and could not help to notice that Denzel got an oscar for playing a criminal but not for his Malcom X role.
As for Halle Berry, she got one for playing the promiscious wife of a black man in jail.
Anyway I stopped watching the Oscars ...such a silly ceremony.
It's all so cute. Really! Are medias fooling anyone anymore?

Hello folks,

Just sharing with you an article that I found quite interesting regarding the use of the N word. Enjoy.

A Double Standard Worth Keeping: Race and the Differential Power of the “N-Word”

As soon as Oklahoma University’s baseball coach Larry Cochell was fired recently, for using the n-word during off-camera conversations with two ESPN reporters, I knew instinctively what some were likely to say. Though I am far from psychic, it hardly required clairvoyant ability to see what was coming.

Sure enough, the foreseeable dialogue found its way into my local paper, in the form of an editorial by one of Nashville’s most respected sports writers, Joe Biddle. His remarks would mirror several others to be heard on sports radio in the past few days, and appear, from my experience at least, to represent the views of large numbers of whites in America.

As Biddle put it, while Cochell’s choice of words to describe one of his players (ostensibly in a light-hearted manner), was clearly unacceptable and deserving of censure, it was no more offensive than the casual use of the same term by blacks themselves, on the playground or from a stage, as with the comedy of Chris Rock or Richard Pryor (the latter of which has actually stopped using the n-word for more than two decades, unbeknownst, apparently, to Biddle).

In fact, the difference between Rock and Pryor in this regard largely mirrors the divide that exists throughout black America. About half of African Americans, when polled, say the word or it’s derivative (the one that ends with “a” instead of “er”) should never be used, and the other half argues that it can be used among blacks in certain contexts, as an endearment, or a subtle but unhateful dis, or as a way to “reclaim” the term and arguably strip it of its power to injure.

But whether or not some in the black community continue to use the term, there is no reason why whites should audibilize it, ever. That Biddle (and probably most whites) would call this a double standard is irrelevant. Fact is, history has been a double standard too, and it is this history that explains why the n-word is so much more offensive when coming from a white mouth than the mouth of an African American. That most whites don’t know much about the history of racism hardly pardons us: it has been a willed ignorance, after all, and as such can hardly be used as an excuse for the phony claims of equivalence forwarded by Biddle, or any number of white high school students I discuss the subject with each year.

Simply put, the historic use of the n-word in the white community is not one of mixed meaning. It is not a history in which we called our black friends or colleagues such a term, as if it meant little more than “hey there dude, let’s go grab a burger and fries at the Mickey D’s.” In the mouths and hearts of whites, that word has only been used in the context of contempt, of presumed white superiority, of anti-black bigotry.

As such, for any white person to use it today is to force the black person hearing it to immediately wonder what’s behind the comment, what the speaker’s intent really is, in a way they don’t have to sweat as readily when spoken by another black person. History creates a natural and internalized warning bell for any black person hearing a white person use the word, which, if triggered enough can create psychological scars far deeper than most whites could ever fully comprehend.

But to understand the fundamental difference between the white and black use of the word, beyond its historical legacy, consider a similar example.

I am from the South, and frankly, have never much appreciated the word “redneck,” which is so often used against white Southerners, largely because I know it as a slur against working class whites, especially rural folks, whose labor in the sun would cause their necks to become “red.” Though I admit to having used it before, often in fact, I have resolved not to do so in the future because of its derogatory implications, and because, frankly, many in my family, going back generations, would qualify for the designation.

But having said that, I must also note that when Jeff Foxworthy tells twenty minutes of redneck jokes (as in, his “You might be a redneck if…” routine), I have a hard time taking offense. I don’t find the bit particularly funny, as it’s not my comedic cup of tea. But I don’t get pissed. And why? Simple: Jeff Foxworthy is in the family, so to speak. He too is a white Southerner; someone who could be viewed as a redneck; and as such, I can pretty safely assume he isn’t hating on his people or himself. Self-deprecating humor, while it can sometimes straddle the line with self-hatred, generally has a different feel than when someone outside the fold tells the same jokes.

In other words, if Jerry Seinfeld starts telling redneck jokes, we’re gonna have a problem.

It’s the same thing with Jewish jokes. I’m Jewish, as is my father’s father’s side of our family. For generations, Jewish comics have made a living telling jokes about our community. In fact, as a kid, I remember coming across several books of Jewish jokes in my dad’s old room, all of them written by other Jews. And while I didn’t think them very funny (after all, there’s nothing amusing about playing upon stereotypes with such quips as, “Why do Jews have long noses? Because air is free.”), nonetheless, I could assume this humor was emanating from a less toxic place than had it been published in a Klan pamphlet or church bulletin.

It’s sort of like the old playground wisdom that I can talk about my momma, but you had damn well better not do the same. Double standard? Sure. But so what?

That many whites won’t be able to understand this simple point is testimony to nothing so much as our own sense of entitlement. In other words, we are not used to anyone telling us that we can’t do something, or shouldn’t, and as such take great offense when our own freedom, including the freedom to offend, is constrained.

What else can explain the white hysteria over so-called political correctness, which, after all, was really never anything but the desire for folks not to be racist pricks, and to inculcate a norm of civility and respect for persons different from oneself?

I can think of no other reason than the desire to maintain a certain form of white privilege: the privilege of saying whatever we want, whenever we want, and feeling as though our right to lecture others on their behavior should logically take precedence over controlling our own.

In other words, the same privilege that (as the flipside to racism itself), has historically given the n-word its power to injure in the first place. As with all racism, it is power and position that gives a racial slur its ability to injure. This is why slurs against whites like cracker or honky seem more juvenile than truly offensive. And this is why the n-word, spoken by whites, is so fundamentally less acceptable than the same term spoken by blacks, however potentially problematic the latter may be.

Source: http://www.timwise.org/2005/05/a-double-standard-worth-keeping-race-and-the-differential-power-of-the-n-word/

THIS IS NOTHING BUT THEIR FALLBACK POSITION : if the black folks complain one way and i complain the other let's just divide this shit. i think they are secretly working together to kill me, but they say white people are secretly working to do that to them. but, they don't wanna divide this shit.

instead they wanna make more people that look like the terrorists, so the terrorists can move around in america freely.

these black people all work together across all kinds of boundaries and complain way too much and cover for black people doing fucked up shit to not want to divide this shit.