4 Reasons Cheaters Get Caught (Did You See It Coming?)

If this piece is for shits and giggles, then I'll leave it at that. The truth is, when it comes to cheating, you could have a master plan but you could never be too safe.

I still don't understand why we all put so much emphasis on sexual infidelity (cheating). I am more offended by what the behavior represents a violation of trust, betrayal, lying and disloyalty. I am offended whenever an intimate does anything that is a violation of trust, betrayal, lying and disloyalty and sex is only one of many other things that rise to that level for me.
I also think we renege on sexual exclusivity if one partner unilaterally decides to stop meeting the intimate needs of the other person. Because monogamy is not only about exclusivity it is about fulfilling. You are committing to reasonably meet your partner’s physical desires when you ask for monogamy; it is a 2 part deal.
I do know this is a little beyond the point of the piece but we would not have to develop rules about cheating or have it as such a “hot button” issue if people communicated their needs better. But I know enough that with some people that is just wishful thinking, after all there are often much deeper issues at play then many of us would rather not deal with and so it’s much easier to focus on the symptoms than the causes.

I mean, it's going to hurt and all but over time, you feel better. Have fun, that's key. Don't wallow, find something new to do better yet, someone new to do (hehe "how you doin")

Trufe is... It's all fun and games until sumbody get hurt. Nobody likes to be cheated on, yet it happens to sumbody every second. Whatever, ya'll--- keep laughin. Until the jokes on you.

People, if you are going to cheat, please, please, please, if you are not going to at least protect yourself, at least protect your spouse!

I guess it falls into the category where you don't accept it, but you kinda start to expect it. Cheating is never right but so many people get caught, and you wonder if it was worth it. So with the thoughtof sparing someones feelings, I guess he's saying,keep it in the dark!

Cheating may be a cover for the short comings. Some say, they cheat because they want to see if they still got it. Or maybe they want to have fun, and be a kid without responsibilities/obligations. I think cheating is a cover.

But what if the man fix his sort comings, instead of cheating. Makes sense.

? Yes renege, because when you request sexual exclusivity of another you are stating that you will be committing to meet all their reasonable sexual needs. If you stop making a good faith effort to meet those needs then you have breached that agreement and lost all your right to exclusivity.
Instead of constructing a list of ways to cheat better, we need to put together a list of ways to maintain our relationships better. Because it is obvious that most of us think we know but practice is proof that we are often lacking. Some of us seem to be lost on a basic fact that relationships are about giving in order to get!!

I kinda agree with you. They should not deny each other. The only thing is.. Things aren't perfect every day. The minute, things are imperfect the other can't just step out on them. That doesn't account for the fact that relationships will have ups and downs. Stepping out compounds the marriage problems. People gots to have a little patients if they in love.

Anyway, I can't imagine most women or men holding out on the one they love, for a very long time. Unless, they have M.S. or something.

I would think cheating is harder than fixing the problem or leaving because of all the deception that goes with it. I mean, you have to tell one lie to start and then you have to tell two lies to cover the first and it goes up exponentially...until you're caught. I used to question this guy I dated years ago and he used to get defensive and I told him, "If I can't ask you any questions, you can get the hell out of my house, so answer up." He would give me an answer and then a week later I would ask him the same question again and see if the answer was the same.

Then came the 4th of July barbecue. My cousin was recording it because a family member was terminally ill and wanted us to capture it and we (my then BF and I) didn't know it was recording and I asked him some questions and he answered them and then I asked him the same questions again and I told him the answers were different than what he told me and he started yelling, "I didn't sleep with that woman! Please, believe me!" and a few days later my cousin sent me a copy of the video and when he was confronted, boy, was he pissed. He left and never spoke to me again. A few months later, I heard he'd been shot by one of his women when she came home and caught him on the living room floor with not one but two women. SMH

There's too much out there to be bed-hopping like that; cheating is the reason my mother's life has been shortened so drastically. I know a lot of people think I'm being selfish and all not wanting to have sex outside of marriage--and believe me, I know marriage doesn't protect you from shit like that--but not everyone cares about or even bothers with condoms or try to have safe sex; it's always, "The condom takes away all the feeling," or "It ruins the moment," or "it's not natural," or something.

You have no way of knowing how cheating will affect a relationship; it's more than just a breach of vows, a violation of trust. The consequences may very well cost someone their lives, whether through an STD or scorned lover. I know some people enjoy the thrill, but my thing is if you are playing with a torch, you can only blame yourself when you end up scorched. It's not worth it. If you're not happy, leave. IMO anyone who knowingly takes up with a married, engaged or otherwise committed person doesn't have a good self-image and has serious self-esteem issues. Whoever said 10% of something is better than nothing was not referring to a significant other. Hold out for something much better;if they do it with you, eventually they will do it to you.

Wow! This just happened to me two weeks ago. I caught my bf cheating. Technology definitely made it easier for me to catch him. He didn't come home from work, so I tracked his phone using gps and was lead directly to his girl's house. Of course he lied about where he was. But before I caught him I had the feeling because of his facebook. Anyway, cheating is too messy (the act & the aftermath).