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What Do You Love/Hate About Your Body?

Posted by NWSO • January 4, 2011 • Printer-friendly

As I was waiting for the ambulance to pick me up on New Years Eve I noticed something when I looked in the mirror. Wait, what?!?!?! Oh, yeah, I rang 2011 in the ER with a 104.5 fever, but that was last year, so let’s move on. Now where was I? Oh, yeah…

I had just taken off my sweat-soaked T-shirt and was switching into a wifebeater when I caught my reflection in the mirror. I had spent the past three days under the covers, popping pills and sleeping until the cold chills kicked in or nature called and I had to hit the bathroom. Needless to say my incubator state led to a lot of perspiration, not much eating and as a result I guess I loss some water weight because as I looked in the mirror I noticed my stomach looked flatter than usual.

It’s not that I have a beer belly or anything like that but my stomach isn’t my favorite body part. I’ve always been a slim dude but if I were to consider any part of me “fat” it would be my midsection. It’s the hardest part of the body to work out—because who really likes doing sit-ups and crunches—so it’s oftentimes the first place we see go when we get out of shape.

In addition to getting learning how to swim off my bucket list, part of why I took swim classes for over two years was to keep my budding gut in check. That’s also part of the reason why I’m now taking kickboxing. I doubt I’ll ever get cock diesel but if my stomach can stay relatively flat from my efforts I’m good.

So, if my stomach is the part of my body I hate the most, there has to be something that I love. It’s funny, but it took me a heck of a lot longer to figure out what I love most about my body—but I’m sure I’m not alone in that indecision. We live in a society where we’re always critiquing ourselves and it seems easier for people to hate than it is for them to love.

Finally, I came to a decision and I actually came up with two things that I love about what I see when I look in the mirror. The first would be my lips. They were soup coolers in elementary but the ladies seem to like what they see now and a select few love how they feel against theirs. The second body part would be my shoulders. Despite my slim frame I have pretty broad shoulders. In fact, people tend to think I’m a bigger guy then I actually am because the way shirts fall on my frame. My brother and I are pretty much twins, just separated by a decade and a few inches, and he reminds me of how I could have filled out had I hit the gym instead of the books.

Still, no matter what I love or hate about my body I’m stuck with it for life until I accept it or do something to change that. Some take the easy way out and opt for shortcuts like plastic surgery in an attempt to fall in love with the skin they’re in, which usually doesn’t happen because the real scars they carry are much deeper. There are others who just wallow in self-doubt and self-hatred and don’t wind up doing anything to make any sort of positive moves towards change. Then, there are those that actually act and put in the work to “fix” what can be changed. Finally, there are those who could care either way and find happiness in their flaws, loving what they see in the mirror and overlook what they could possibly hate.

What do you hate most about your body? Why do you consider that your biggest physical flaw? Is it a feature that you could work at to make more pleasing to your eye? Or, is it something that you’re stuck with? Would you ever consider plastic surgery? Are people too quick to go under the knife these days instead of actually accepting themselves or putting in the work in the gym to do things naturally? What do you love most about your body? Why do you consider that your best physical feature? Do you think people are quicker to self-hate than they are to self-love?

Speak your piece…

Tagged as: body image, hate, love, self-hate

keisha brown

happy new year to you too!

hate: the midsection too. it. just. wont. go. away. (but im working on it!). i'd love to have First Lady arms.

love: my skin: i am blessed with great skin, that i get complimented on on a regular basis.
my lips. the reason why lip gloss exists and why i love kissing.
my toes: so symmetrical!

love/hate relationship: the breasticles. lets call them a gift and a curse.
Empress21

Poor thing! Hopefully it was just a case of the flu that got the best of you or dehydration from working too hard and forgetting to take care of yourself. I hope you are feeling better. To answer your questions I mostly dislike the way my body changed after having my daughter. I lost my thickness AND a good portion of my booty as well as have smaller breasts than I did before I had her. I wouldn't call myself skinny but I miss the extreme contrast I used to have between small waist and biG bottom (thanks to 14 years of softball and conditioning/working out). What I am happy with is the fact that it only took me 6 weeks after having my daughter to lose the 65 or so pounds I gained. But since that was more than 4 years ago now I probably shouldn't still claim that as a feat. I like the fact that I have thighs that touch (thighs that don't touch in the middle look a bit odd to me). I also like my lips and the shape of my eyes. I suppose if I really wanted the thickness back the way it was I could just go to the gym...hmmmm...
http://nwso.net/ NWSO

Chesticles you say? I'm sure me and the other guys can help you make a clear decision. Since I've shared a picture we'll wait for your picture. Agreed, fellas? **yeah, NWSO**

LOL
http://www.brandeeyounger.com Brandee

Aww! That photo makes me so sad Glad you're better!
http://ljmaggie.wordpress.com LJ Maggie

I don't like my stomach like most people. I have lost 15 lbs this past year which I am proud of but still have a bit to go.

I have very strong legs and a tight butt. I have been told I have beautiful eyes too.

Like Keisha- I have a love/hate relationship with the breasticles. They are indeed a blessing and a curse.
Older & Wiser

Love my legs and smile. I'm working on my mid section like you, ).
Giventhebest

1. I love my skin tone- I'm brown with this yellow undertone that gives me a glow.
2. I love the beauty mark beside my lip
3. I love my eyes - kinda take on the color of a root beer candy
4. I love my legs

I don't hate anything, because i'm just glad i've got it lol but I could always make room for improvement.
JC

Happy New Year!!!

I love my lips. They are full and pouty and just beg to nibbled on.
I love my hands because they are long and slender.
I love my collarbone, I know weird. But I recently lost some weight and I like when I can see the outline of the bone. I think it is sexy.

Hate??? Hmmm, I don't really hate any part...my hips annoy me because I have a slight case of scoliosis and one hip is slightly higher than the other. Noticeable more when I am naked.
My breast also annoy me because...women are not symmetrical I know...but surgery would really help me out (and I have thought about it, would have had it if I had the money) Especially as I lose weight the difference bothers me.
Preachthecomedian

Yes agreed...chesticle weds
Preachthecomedian

Well I'm overweight so the gut would be what I want/am working on
it's not really a hate though
now I got hazel eyes and let's just say they have made conversations with women very easy...
I also got the soup coller lips which always get complimented for some reason lol
I'll be real as a man I love my manhood...I can say it really does fit me..which ever way u wanna take that
http://www.imperfectenjoyment.com Dewan Gibson

I have skinny hands. It didn't bother me much until an ex cheated on me. She had mentioned his "big hands" in passing before she fucked him. I should have choked her with my skinny hands. And beat him with a bat. But I didn't, so I still hate my hands.
just j

I love my golden complexion. I love my full lips. I love my thighs even though they are huge. And I love my feet. I dislike my nose because its very african american. Lol.
Cherie

I hate my stomach...like really hate it!! Call me crazy but I even considered having a surgical procedure to suck some of that fat out....and before I get attacked I would not become obessesed with plastic surgery!. In general...I'm happy with me, with Cherie I have great breasts, nice bum lol but I just H.A.T.E my stomach! I workout, I run, I'm fit but the stomach just refuses to go....so ermmm, yep, I hate it.
Vanessa

I cannot stand my stomach. Uggh. If I could flatten that up, everything else would be good to go. I'm working on it, but it's holding on for dear life!! Scram Tummy Scram!!
Kitty1026

Although, I'm a few pounds (lol) overweight, it's not my midsection that I hate. It's this flat ass I have! I'm a Southern Belle who grew up on collard greens and cornbread, and I've seen way too many white girls with bigger asses. #whyLord

As for what I love most... definitely my smile. I have perfectly straight, pearly whites and get complimented on them everyday. That $2,500 and two years of no Sugar Daddies was definitely worth it in the end.

I also love my hair. I went natural almost 3 years ago, and it was a shocker for everyone when I cut off that signature long, straight ponytail. Everyone loves my hair too (except for my mom who continually perpetuates the white man's standards of beauty). I've also noticed that I get a lot more compliments from men about my hair since going natural. The first day I returned to work after my big chop, my boss kept trying to touch it... he was obessesed. I had to tell that negro to get his hands up out my head! LOL.

Last, but definitely not least, I love my big, sexy Tina Turner/Beyonce legs... I get'em from my mama! LOL
Nikki

Hate: my midsection..could always be flatter and tighter.
Love: I'm learning to love my legs...former cheerleader so their super thick and strong. My eyes and lips. I love my boobs too....lol! They can get in the way sometimes but overall they're my buddies. Lol.
http://www.nwso.net NWSO

LMAO. Needed that laugh, homie.
Anike Love

My not so favorite things:
-My nose: Get my wide nose from the African pops but it's definitely something I have grown into, thank God! Used to just stare at it like, OMGGGG. Still do sometimes, but then, I move on!
-My itty bitties: Sometimes, I love them because they fit perfectly in the mouth of lover (cuz seriously, how much can you really put in there?!), and other times, dresses and bathing suits just don't fit quite right. Like the lady at the bridal shop who said I'm a 2 at the top and a 6 at the bottom. Damn you woman!! lol

My favorite things:
-My smile: It's radiant, vivacious, and everlasting. It brings all the boys to the yard. Milkshake.
-My naptural hair: Call it vanity, but being the buoy of kinky coils among the sea of perms and straight weaves can make one vain.
-My boyish, cut figure: Not a lot of curves, but plenty of cut from years of track and basketball. I eat what I want and don't gain a lick.

I have considered plastic surgery more so like "I wonder how I would look if..." But then I remember that any disdain I have for my body isn't because it isn't beautiful, but because society is telling me otherwise. So I give society the finger!

One thing I've learned is that despite our little quirks or hang-ups we have over our bodies, there's always someone in this world who will like/love you for them. Of course, in order to accept their love, you've got to first like/love yourself!
keisha brown

LOL. You are both fools.
But for the record..Im following NWSO on twitter...find me and you may see something in the avi. Evil laugh...LOL.
keisha brown

Im sorry that she cheated on you..but this comment made me LAUGH OUT LOUD.
http://twitter.com/slimjackson Slim Jackson

Oddly enough, my post for today is on my one resolution to embrace everything about myself in 2011. I dislike my much of my lower half. I'll just say that buying jeans is often a challenging process that requires tailoring. I like my hands and feet. I take care of them. I also like having broad shoulders. People think I'm more brolick than I actually am.lol.

Nonetheless, here's the post I wrote. Only dropping the link because it's relevant.

http://www.threewaystotakeit.com/embracing-me-in-2011/
Lady_d_uval

First off, Happy New Year all! Second, how do u get a 104.5 fever on New Year's eve?!?! Where you able to enjoy any of the holiday?! Glad your ok, though!

Bad teeth is hereditary! Granted, I've seen much worse, they're not as nice as I would like them to be! Having braces(and head gear) from age 8-13 was not fun! So it's weird, to me, when I get complimented on having a beautiful smile! Go figure!

Also, I concur with everyone else on the mid-section. It was never a problem until I stopped working out( which I plan on changing for the new year)! My measurements being: 36-31-44, it's easy to tell what is liked and disliked! Lol I would also add: my eyes, nothing extraordinary to me, but I get compliments on them often; my lips, and my chocolate skin( it took me awhile to appreciate it, especially growing up in the South).

Plastic surgery? It's so not that serious! I'm not perfect, but I'd rather have what God gave me!!! People are so quick to change instead of just accepting themselves!
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

Nice what's ur twitter name
evil laugh
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

Damn bruh

that's all I got to say about that
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

Thick thighs make up for nasatall
thick thighs keep the thing thing bakin
like a oven
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

Itty bitties can be sexy
very sexy

however only women can use that how much can u really fit in your mouth line.
No man with a little thing can come naked to bed and say to a woman " more than a mouthful is a waste"... Or " how much can u really fit inside u anyway "....

Lol
RCTuri

"love/hate relationship: the breasticles."

Took the words out of my mouth!
Anike Love

haha, TRUEEEE...but it's not all about the length! I mean, engaging the choking reflex is no fun. And the vaginal canal is what, 4-6 inches at most?! But if he's using those lines, he betta be WORKIN' IT OUT! lol
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

Well you have a fan right here

two thumbs up
Anike Love

Pass me a little from your top and bottom so my mama can stop trying to lay her hands on breasts and booty like God is going to bestow them on me! lol. Mama...it's too late!
AlwaystheLady

I wouldn't say that I "hate" anything about my body, but I dislike my "drop" booty...lol! I have what is considered a hourglass figure but I wish my butt would sit a little higher (like my moms)....I love my left shoulder! Honestly!
Lady_d_uval

LOL!!! If only it was that easy! And if that was the case, they would be sold to the highest bidder on eBay!!!
G Normanii

That's an interesting question. Dudes don't really get this kinda attention.

I'm a big dude. Always have been. Always will be, so my midsection isn't an issue. I'm pretty happy with who I am and how I look. I like my legs because my wife likes my legs. I have problems with my legs because it makes buying clothes annoying. Pants that fit me perfectly in the waist usually won't fit my legs without being tight.

In addition to being big, I lift weights. I squat just over 650 lbs so I "legitimately" have big legs. However, my "overall roundness" is still too small for most big & tall places, but too big for average sizes. If I want pants that fit my thighs I end up having to buy clothes that are too large in the waist.
Danielle

I like everything but my mid section. It's not flabby fat but it's not flat either. I would also say my breast because they make thing look kind of trashy instead of classy because of how much is there. I love my smile, legs, back, and eyes.
http://liferequiresmorechocolate.com Tiffany

I hate that dayum pooch. Yes I have birthed 3 children, but I don't want it. I hate because I see it everyday and my mother reminds me how fat I am. With patience, diet and exercise I can make it smaller but I am doubtful it will disappear. I have since learned to suck it in. For a flat stomach I would pay happily. While I do think people take advantage of surgery, I think certain things are ok. I love my smile. Everyone always talks about it. My friend calls me million watt, because he says it lights up a room. I think it's quicker to have self-hate because of the fact we have others in our ear that might pinpoint a flaw and then we become obsessed with it.

Peace, Love and Chocolate
Tiffany
Cherie

I know how you feel!!!
keisha brown

show me yours and i'll show you mine!
keisha brown

LOL @ Lady_d_uval...
SO true!!
Aina

Happy New Year Folks!

NWSO! I hope you're feeling better

What do you hate most about your body? Well it's not perfect lol. No really I don't hate it but the difference between what I want and what I have is a disappointment of some sort

Why do you consider that your biggest physical flaw? Midsection
I've got a few extra pound and my belly is not by far big but I'd like a 2 pack or something

Is it a feature that you could work at to make more pleasing to your eye? Or, is it something that you’re stuck with? I am going to the gym, dacing a couple of times a week and watching (certainly not obsessively) my diet. Still it's never going to be "perfect" and I may have kids one day anyway.... so, in any case I may not love it but I need to accept it and maybe like it?

Would you ever consider plastic surgery? No not now anyway but I am rather young..Never say never

Are people too quick to go under the knife these days instead of actually accepting themselves or putting in the work in the gym to do things naturally? Oh yeah. As for doing things naturally (I assume we're talking about getting slimmer?) It's true but not everybody can be skinny, as long as you are fit and in good health it's about personnal acceptance and learning not to be too concerned with "today western society"'s definition of physical beauty. We all are a package deal

What do you love most about your body? My skin is very soft and my coca-cola shape thick and defined.

Why do you consider that your best physical feature? My shape..Maybe

Do you think people are quicker to self-hate than they are to self-love? Yes and it's sad because lack of self-acceptance can only lead to lack of acceptance towards others.
AD

AlwaystheLady...girl we need to exchange bootys becaue mines is to high! I bet your right shoulder is like "what am I....chop liver" LOL
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

I would most def do surgery..to me weight is one of the few things left people still feel that they can have an opinion on....as shows the BMI chart has Michael Jordan and brad Pitt as obese ..lol..humans have two goals genetically
reproduce life: SEX
sustain life: eat
everything else is bs
some people are just genetically made to carry weight, some deal with depression, some are on weight gaining meds
u CANNOT judge based off looks
hell I got a dra appt today to discuss a possible gastric bypass
everyone deserves a second chance ...it ain't easy for everyone u know
flykiss

love: my lips, eyes, nose, feet, hair (locks)

hate: my midsection, as well but i'm working on it. and for those who hate sit-up and crunches (as you mentioned)...hip hop abs (which is what i'm doing to work on it) is all about getting a tight midsection without getting down on the floor and doing sit-ups/crunches.
jaclynsd

What do you hate most about your body? I can stand to be thicker, too skinny.

Why do you consider that your biggest physical flaw? Because I’m a latina and Latinas are curvy. I have curves but I wish I could be that nice thick looking chick lol

Is it a feature that you could work at to make more pleasing to your eye? Or, is it something that you’re stuck with? I take care of myself and workout 5 times a week. Weight is hard to maintain…well muscles. So it’s a balancing act.

Would you ever consider plastic surgery? Plastic surgery wont help my problem. Just a good diet, exercise, and commitment.

Are people too quick to go under the knife these days instead of actually accepting themselves or putting in the work in the gym to do things naturally? I think so, some people get lipo and end up looking the same after a year. Why? Because that has to be a life changing commitment. You cant have fat taken out and then eat like a pig. Its not going to work and you wasted all that money.

What do you love most about your body? Arm, chest, collar bone, sometimes my butt and stomach.

Why do you consider that your best physical feature? Cause i work d*mn hard to maintain them in proper form.

Do you think people are quicker to self-hate than they are to self-love? Yeah, I mean its human. We’re always thinking how can we make it better instead of appreciating the good qualities/features we already have. I mean some of the girls I see at the gym have a ridiculous bodies and I’ll compliment them and first thing out their mouth is not thank you but “oh I hate this” or I hate that. Sad.
Mimi

LMAO This post is hilarious, so are the responses.

Before I get to my Love/Hate I couldn't help but notice... So many people hating their noses...
Please LOVE your NOSE. I understand media is filled with this "ideal perfect Caucasian nose" and most of us have come to accept it as a beauty standard/must. But Please Stop, there is nothing wrong with your nose, love your nose and your nostrils as big as they come! There are so many beautiful Black women with big noses, there is beauty in the big nose, at least I believe so, I see it... Am I the only one...? Keep in mind that once upon a time a big booty was ugly... Now it's cool to have... Yet it's so difficult to defend the big nose because so many famous Black women get nose jobs (Rihanna, Kelly Rowland and Beyonce, Lil Kim to name a few... Should I mention the late MJ?)... It pains me, it pains me, it pains me. The most ridiculous part is that famous White women also undergo surgery, ususally to make it smaller as well (Kim. K, Megan Fox just to name a few). Okay I'm getting off topic...

I have a Love/Hate relationship with my hips/thighs/butt. When I gain weight they are disproportionately affected... Yet I always get a lot of compliments on my thickness.
Then I wouldn't say I hate, but I am only mildly satisfied with the size of my breasts. Even more frustrated because it wasn't passed along in genes, as a matter of fact they do have big boobs on both sides of the family... But I digress...
I have thought about plastic surgery but I won't do it for several reasons:
- I think it's a bad financial investment, especially at this stage in my life. Once you do the operation you should have a "lift" every 10 year or so- and trust me you don't wanna wait more than 10 yrs to have that "lift", the boobs don't look so good anymore. So do I wanna spend a couple of grands every 10 yrs for my boobs? No. Hell no. I am 25, this would mean surgery at 35, 45, 55, 65... I don't want it that bad. Who knows what will be my prorities at the latter times in my life?
- I asked myself the question: If I am X% happy with my life now, how much happier would I be after undergoing breast enhancement? The answer for me is about +7%... and that increased happinness would only last about 10 yrs (maybe)... SMH
- Last but not least, there are so many potential complications from surgery itself, potential complications stemming from the foreign material we put in the body either silicone or saline implants (Read this: http://www.euronews.net/2010/03/.../faulty-french-breast-implants-banned/)... This is a risk you have to take every 10 yrs... Maybe I am just paranoid, but for me that's not worth it.

People are probably too quick nowadays to go under the knife instead of actually accepting themselves or putting in the work in the gym to do things naturally. That's because we all want everything now "consumerism", everything is a click away. The root of the problem IMHO is that people actually believe plastic surgery is going to "fix" everything in their lives... SMH

I love my stomach (unlike most apparently), it is flat and (almost) effortlessly in 6 pack mode... As a matter of fact my BFF calls me "6Pack" lol. I think it's genetic, my 53 yr-old mom has a 6-pack when she moderately works out, my 57-yr-old dad has a flat stomach and never had a beer-gut; typically when I gain weight I gain it in my lower-body, stomach-waist tend to remain constant.

I definitely think people are quicker to self-hate than they are to self-love, especially women who have this often times subconscious pressure to look like in magazines. Many of my friends will be commenting about my slim stomach, they never seem to see the less enviable things about my body, never, even when they clearly do have enviable features of their own... It all comes down to self-confidence.
http://thecandyshoppe.wordpress.com Ronnie6676

Glad you are feeling better....

I love every inch of my body and I hate every inch of my body...I'm a Gemini so it just depends on what day you catch me
Mimi

Noticed the link wasn't working:
http://www.euronews.net/2010/03/31/faulty-french-breast-implants-banned/
Rastaman

A line that I use that often gets lots of laugh is whenever I am asked what type of cosmetic surgery I would get, I say calf implants. I have skinny legs but the truth is they don't bother me as much as they seem to bother some other people. I always say I am like a thoroughbred, built for speed not for power.

The primary reason why I stopped agonizing over my physical flaws is because so many people express their admiration for my physique. Tall, lean, broad shoulders and I move well what more can a man ask. It is too bad that the media in this country has reduced men to feeling as insecure about their bodies as women have always been socialized to feel. You all know it is part of a strategy to make us want to buy more sht to hopefully make us look better or feel we look better. Plus stop comparing your damn selves to folks on TV and in magazines. They are paid to look that good and if they are not they spend a lot to make them appear so anyway. Plus stop watching the porn; it is distorting our perspective on how our bodies should look naked. Porn actors are like cartoon figures, caricatured.

I do admit that I am probably a little vain and yeah I workout frequently but the vanity is probably more a result of the exercise than vice-versa. I had a serious injury to my lower back over 15 years ago and coupled with bad knees inherited from playing sports on hard surfaces, I was directed my doctors to make certain to maintain a good weight and build muscle strength in my core to reduce the strain on my back and knees. Physical activity is a part of my lifestyle today, so I am always doing something.

As a result I have been told I look pretty good for a man my age. I don't have a six pack, nor am I diesel, I am well toned and I make sure I emphasize my positives and camouflage my flaws, because we all have them. I will start being really concerned about my appearance when I start scaring small children and pets. Because those are the real test of whether you need to radically change your appearance.

Ans, sorry to hear you ended up in the ER...I had that flu at Thanksgiving, took me like a month to get back to normal. Probably picked it up from one of those inconsiderate folks on the damn subway!!
Dave

Make that four thumbs.
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

The lord has blessed you in the breasticle region... May your bosom inspire and never droop too low
tit tit
hooray
RCTuri

Not crazy about my chest. I like my parts. I just don't like ripples or dimples.

I've given birth to twins and my stomach will never be the same but it actually looks decent, so I will not complain.

I'm especially happy about my skin (complexion, tone and texture), my bone structure, my hair, hips, legs, nails and mama cakes. I am also satisfied with my measurements.
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

Welllll
it is
comedianpreach
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

I speak for most real brothers on this stomach issue for women

AHEM
As long as your stomach doesn't look like balled up homework you sexy to us
Older & Wiser

LOL, thanks for this insight! I don't sweat mine that much.
Rastaman

Cut/flat stomachs are a combination of genetics and especially low carb diets. So don't agonize that much, especially if you are reasonably fit and healthy. Everyone's body has a fat reserve, for some of us that happens to be our stomach area; check most of the folks with the flat stomachs and they will complain about the fat in their thighs, hips, butts and all types of different places.

Flat/cutsStomachs stand out because in our culture it has become the epitome of fitness when it is not necessarily true. There are many world class athletes who don't have six pack abs and they are at the top of physical excellence.
Chanel

I have a big ass and I HATE IT. I know most women wouldn't mind, but I do. I've been working out for years too ... it won't go away! I like (LOVE!) the rest of me, but the booty has got to GO. There. I said it.
http://www.naughtyinkpress.com MelodiR

My man loves every inch of me, because I love every inch of me.... Whatever my vice may be, we share goals and work on them together.

But seriously--me, personally as a mother, my midsection expands faster than anything else on my body but I am always a work in progress...

Happy with my whole self > 90% of the time but I am always learning how to take better care of myself and family.
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

Why dost thou speaketh such blasphemy against one of the most sacred gifts God gave man?
Thine big ass is a blessing. There are many a woman that would walk thru hell with gasoline drawls for such a ass as yours.
http://www.naughtyinkpress.com MelodiR

LMAO! I'm a little deficient according to male standards.
Corey

I feel you on the clothes thing playa. I'm 5'8 and wear a 48 in suits so you already know that bad boy is chopped and screwed by the time I can put it on and look decent!!
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

I'll keep 100 with the ladies
as long as your vagina and mouth function..we as men can work around most physical negatives

just sayin
Corey

How dare you wish away such a wondorus blessing! Women would kill for some actual booty meat(men too just in a different way)and you have it. You should look at it every day in the mirror as you massage it with coco butter and....ok...i'm losing myself here...
Corey

I've always loved the fact that I have straight white teeth(never had a cavity), smooth skin(no pimples or razor bumps here), and great hair(Paulomalo ain't got ish on me!). After playing football for 13 years I can honestly say that I have the feet of a slave. I don't really care for them but hey, what you gonna do? While I'm not all sliced and ripped anymore I'm still solid with a nice little beer reserve so I'm straight on everything else.
Corey

Wait, I lied. I wish I was a little bit taller! Lol
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

I nominate myself as the blessed booty massager..,so lay that ass in my hands

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http://hisandhersinks.wordpress.com Ashleigh

Thank God for this post! I was beginning to think it was impossible for black people to admit criticism of our bodies considering we're supposed to maintain resilience at all times. Its like you get the side eye esp. as a black woman if you admit that you have body flaws and are told "that's white people ish".

To answer I would have to say I have a love/hate relationship with my narrow, curveless, ass or lack thereof. LOVE b/c I think it's me, I can't reject my own flesh, and it makes me unique considering every other brown skin chick is walking around looking like she has Earth in her pants. I love me! #noshots but just b/c Im Black doesnt mean that a big ass is my standard of beauty or that it makes me less beautiful to not have one.

I HATE IT (to the point where Ive consider fat transfer surgery on a bad week) b/c it's like I have a 3rd eye cuz Im a Black girl with no ass and it makes me self conscious at times constantly observing that Im that kind of different and that MY OWN PEOPLE reject it and me essentially. Most importantly, EVERYTHING HAS TO BE TAILORED which again reinforces my uniquity but sends to a pity party at times. Thank you so much for this outlet. I feel exonerated to be able to admit this flaw/trait of myself. So grateful for this..really and truly!
AD

"balled up homework" Really...LOL at the thought while going to the bathroom to check my stomach!! Only you Preachthecomedian!!
Corey

We should be diplomatic here and split it. Since I am right handed I respectfully request the left cheek sir.
QuoteMan

Well, for the past 5yrs, I’ve been joggin 12 miles on the weekends & hittin the gym 4-5 days a week. So on the strength of this workout routine, what’s there not to like about my body. I can’t rightly say I love one part of my body more than the other. I love every cut I possess, BUT I must admit - I hate my chest hairs. Much to my chagrin, I have to keep using these hair removals to keep this “work of art smooth”. LOL. Yeah I know it’s kinda gay but that’s how much I love mine ………………….

Back in the day, I used to be mad skinny, and then one summer, after a tough breakup - all that changed. Thank you girl!!!!……………. Lol

Now, folks who are trying to lose their belly fat, sit-ups & crunches alone is not going to get the job done. You gotta get your cardio on…………… start doing some jogging, too. Each time I hit the park, all I see is white women #noshots – sisters gotta get in there too (and stay there Lol).

I love to jog – the adrenaline and the challenge, for one.
jodibanks

I absolutely hate being 5'3 with 34 D breasts, 40in hips and........ These damn love handles. Yea well 6 pack genetics dont run on my either sides of my family so hey what can you do. But im determined to be on the cover of any health/fitness magazine one day so I work out, constantly.

But I LOVE my hazel eyes and matching skin complexion and strong legs.
RC Turi

Haaaa @ balled up homework!

I've actually seen women with worse stomachs than mine still wearing a two piece. I could very much get away with it, but I refuse.

I can wear a monokini though and that's good enough for me!
ronnie

I hate that my thigh touch and my skinny ankles. . I love my coke bottle shape, soft skin, full lips
Li-Li

I HATE my butt. Too big and brings me too much unwarranted attention. I'm trying to come to terms with it, but hmmmnnn....
G Normanii

Exactly! I'm 5'8" and I'm picking up a suit from the tailor today and dropping off some pants. It gets tiring not being able to shop off the rack for stuff.
justme

My ass...........WHY, cause I don't have one (yes, I am black)!!! LMAO
ms.virgo

lets see i can't stand my stomach i've been skinny my whole life with the exception of my little gut it only goesb away if i lose too much weight :/ also i dont like my ass or the lack of it lol
most favorable partb of my body is my legs at 5'7 mosy of my height is in my leg log beautiful legs and i have great skin and nice lips
http://nwso.net/ NWSO

That's what the flu will do to ya, especially when you're wearing layers trying to sweat it out. Was in and out of bed for three days, before that snowed in from blizzard with no train service. So all in all it was a restful vacation but didn't get to do any of what I had planned. But I'm alive.
R.e.D

That fever was pretty high, seriously high actually but I'm glad you are better.
I like this topic, we get a chance to open up about our flaws.Hate is a strong word and I don't think I hate any part of my body, so I will say:
Dislikes: I have NO calves. Previously, I've even thought about calf implants-like johnny on entourage, but not seriously, I guess. In fact, I used to not wear skirts or dresses b/c of this. But now, I really just try to embrace my body, so I wear skirts and dresses now. I'm short-this has only been pointed out to me since I moved to the U.S. so perhaps 2-3 more inches. But really, I'm comfortable as is. I just don't know why ppl have to go on about how short I am.

Likes- My breasts are just right. They are still perky at 30, and rather symmetrical.
I have a flat stomach, I guess it's good genes, b/c I don't work it out.
My feet have to be my fav part, strangely enough.
I'm very petite and at one point I wouldn't have minded gaining some weight, but again, I've learned to embrace me.
So at the end of the day, I've learned to try and change the aspects that I can and embrace the ones that I can do nothing about.

Happy New Year Sockheads and NWSO, I wish you all the best in 2011!!!
sexxybrown

Hope you're better Ans. HNY as well.
So...what do I love about my body? My booty. Its pretty cute. Not too big. Not too small. Just enuf jiggle and just enuf cuff. Love the length of my legs. Im 5'9" and a half so most of my height is legs. Love my lips and my thighs. Love the shape of my breasts and the darkness of the ariolas. Love my La-la. Love the way she looks and feels after giving her a baldie or a mohawk. Oh and I love my shoulders. What do I dislike? My small ankles. My feet. My tummy. My arms. But Im learning to embrace thesw things slowly.
http://preachthetruthteller.blogspot.com/ Preachthecomedian

Your la la?
You just gained +20 cool points
sexxybrown

Lol. I find it easier to say then all of those other names. Plus it flows nicely off the tongue. Easy to use too. "La-la wants to see you. "
Zuribibi

I dislike the area around my navel. This area got stretched during pregnancy. My stomach is flat, but I do not like the loose skin in that area.

I love the rest of my body. It has matured beautifully.
http://spinsterscompass.wordpress.com Spinster

I am SO following your ass.
http://spinsterscompass.wordpress.com Spinster

DISLIKE/HATE:

legs
stomach
hands
chest
backside

LIKE/LOVE:

hair
feet
arms
shoulders
backside
brockelle

i really love my thighs...ima big gal but i work out so i have these thick firm thighs that guys gawk over. i wouldn't say I HATE but I'm not totally pleased with my arms...a little jiggly but w this Shake Weight regimen i'm doing i see that changing soon. what i understand as i've lost a little weight over the years is that everything might shrink here and there but my thighs will always stay. I'm young..18 and i used to look at myself in the mirror naked when i was 13 everyday. At first I kinda struggled with my body image, i don't have a flat stomach, i'm wide in the hips and so forth but i've always embraced my imperfections so even with this slight jiggle on my arms I LOVE ALL OF ME as cliche as that may sound.
Jenyffer

What do I HATE most about my body? my lower stomach-the pooch
AND I'VE NEVER HAD KIDS SO I CAN'T BLAME IT ON THAT. LOL
Could I work on it? Yes and I do. I've never had a flat stomach but I try to keep it down by avoiding bread & carbs and trying to do cruches/situps (which i hate) lol
Am I stuck with it? I think I am because it has never gone away and I've tried almost everything. I just try to keep it down. Right now, i can honestly admit that it's not looking good because I gained holiday pounds so am working dilegently on getting rid of it and trimming everything down all together.
Would I consider plastic surgery? well, i will be honest, if I could afford it...heck yeah. I would get lipo and a tummy tuck
Are people quick to go under the knife? The honest to God truth is yes and if I had the funds I would be quick on it too.lol
What do I LOVE most about my body? My butt and my curves
My butt has always been my favorite part and then my curves. My hips are about 10 inches more than my waist so I'm basically just bottom heavy. I don't mind having big hips,thick thighs, smaller waist, it's just this dang pooch. lol
Are people quicker to self-hate then self-love? honestly yes, people do self-hate. in soceity we look a magazines with skinny models and magazines, music videos,etc. that point out when celebrity gains 10 pounds and make it seem like they just blew up like an airballon. it's crazy. Even rap songs talking about how they want a girl who's "36-24-36", and saying she's thick. i'm sorry but that's a curvy skinny broad. lol That ain't thick!
It's hard to keep a positive self-image sometimes so all you can do is like you said, be happy with what you got or try to change it. I went to an High School in central WI where I was the "big girl" and I wasn't even that big but all my White classmates were skinny White girls and I lost a bunch of weight and went down to a size 9, mind you I am 5 ft 3, but anyhow, none of the White guys would even look at me because I had too much butt or was too fat. I eventually ended up developing self-image problems and even got sick and thats when i realized that as long as I am healthy and am OK with how I look, thats all that matters. I still struggle from time to time with self image issues but am a long way mentally from where I was in high school.
Rachel

I hate my stomach. After having twins, its easy to understand. I went from wearing crop tops to only wearing loose fitting tops. I'm so self conscious about my belly that I haven't had sex since I was pregnant. And I know the guys who have tried to go there with me would have been sourly disappointed after seeing my tragic body. I've been talking to a guy for 4mos now and just now feel comfortable enough to allow his hands to graze my waist when kissing. BTW my twins turn 2yrs old soon.
AGDM

Hate: (more like dislike)
I'd say my wrists. But they are proportionate to my arms/physique which is tall and slender.

Midsection, while my midsection is toned... sometimes its flatter and sometimes its not and thats like week to week... super annoying but I think I'm close to the famed six pack with the right diet and continuous exercise... for a couple months.

Love:
Face
Lips
Eyes
Facial Hair
Chest
Arms
Midsection on good days
Height (6'2")
Weight (220lbs)
complexion (black is beautiful)
Manhood
http://lovealwayssunny.com Sunny Dee

I was just talking about this with my trainer today! I hate my stomach but it's funny because I always have. I hated it when it was rock hard during my track days, flat as a board during my early 20's and now soft and slightly pokey in my 30's. It's as if my stomach has never been good enough and never will be good enough and I just perseverate on that to make it true, no matter what my stomach looks like. The part I love? My arms. My arms are gorgeous, lean, cut and sexy.