Can a Woman Be Happy Without a Man in Her Life?

I think almost any woman is capable of being happy for certain period of time. But the time will indeed come when they want someone of there own. No more sharing or being the "other" chick. The lie eventually gets old, but for many it's too late.

Every woman in my family is single, but one, and they all reminisce on the past joys of being single. They never mention how they feel now

I have been single for quite sometime as well, and yes, my singleness, like many others, is often attributed to some negative reason. Since I'm a widow, people assume I'm still grieving. I can tell people are skeptical when I tell them I'm alone but not lonely.

I have learned not to equate every emotional shift with unhappiness. My moments of loneliness, confusion, discontentment don't dismantle all of the progress I've made to live happily. Living happily is the ability to weigh the good and the bad in your life and try as you might, the good list is always longer AND at every opportunity, to find a way to be of service to someone else because you can and want to. Right now, I'm living happily alone.

Women can be single and happy as long as her life is fulfilling to her. I have to say I enjoy being single right now because I am learning a new language, taking a dance class and enjoying ways to meet new people without the goal of dating.

As for long term: humans are not created to be alone so eventually we all want someone we can share our lives with but that doesn't mean she will be sad and depressed about it she can still be happy with her life.

I've been single for almost five years and its by choice. If it's meant for me to be in a relationship then God will continue to keep my eyes open and it will eventually happen for me. Until then I am more than fine with being single. Yes I have my moments but I will not give any man the satisfaction of sleeping with me. Down the line I would love a relationship but I have accepted the fact I'm single and I'm still smiling :- D. Yes my Mother drives me nuts (grandkids, marriage in that order lol) But I don't allow her words to influence my decision because I know all she wants is the best for me. My mother married young and she didn't really get to enjoy her life until we were older (hence she had five kids). So hey I look at it like this when he comes along and compliments me but not complete me then I will know. ENJOY LIFE YOU ONLY GET ONE!!

yessssssssssssssssssss ITA!!!!

AMEN...but I have found how man treats his mom, doesn't necessarily dictates how he treats other women.

Being single has being my natural state for so long that whenever I have been in past relationships I had to make a conscious effort to curb my unattached instincts. I take comfort in having been alone but never lonely. I envy people who are more at home in relationships than being alone because I can count on one hand the number of people I have ever known with whom prolonged exposure was not trying after some extended period. But I know this about myself and I don’t sweat it.
As regards Nisha’s post, I hate to be a downer “…but methinks thou protest too much.” Relationships advice is an industry in this society, it all started with advice columns, then daily talk shows and now everyone is an expert at giving advice on the web or in books. Plus you need no qualifications to dispense this advice. One cannot sell a product without a market; the most lucrative market for relationship advice is single women. Ask NWSO. He can tell you how many single women show up at the conferences and discussions in which he is involved. Single men, not so much and most of us who are there are just there fishing anyway.
So the push to be in a relationship while it may not be a primary concern of every single woman, they are the main driver of that social component. So enjoy being single it is a lot of fun, I should know I have done it the majority of my adult life to date and I could tell you stories. But understand there is a biological imperative that drives women to want to be in a relationship that same imperative does not impact men as much. So if and when yours kicks in don’t make that poor dude feel like he is robbing you of precious time because you want to jump on the express and he is comfortable with the local.
Seen it, experienced it and so I know of what I speak. It may not be you but some other young single lady who is feeling piled on by the media, friends or family about her single status will be on a near maniacal crusade to change her status before she gets too old in the near future and she will no doubt have some regret at not being more concerned or focused earlier on when the pickings appeared more bountiful. As an older single man, sans children, not only my sexuality is questioned but also my fertility. Never sweated it because it took me a little longer than most to get to a place where relationships where not so unappealing.
So ladies stop being reactive, every media trend does not have to apply to you. If you think it is getting too much just stop reading, stop listening or stop discussing. It won’t hurt as much as you think.

Ladies,

Let's keep it real here. We all know that the original plan was for us to complement (not compliment) the man. This alone speaks volumes to what our Creator thinks of us. We are already complete and wonderful as is. A lady just needs to know this about herself. I personally believe that this whole emphasis on the greatness of singledom is a crock. Our sheer nature is towards desire of a great man. He may come in various forms, but nonetheless we are prone to being coupled. As far as being single, it is important that we gain self-appreciation and acceptance in order to enjoy either side of this equation. So many of us have fulfilling lives whether or not we're alone or coupled, but getting honest with oneself is most healthy. Women were created for the purpose of helping a man (help-mate). It saddens me when we get all self-righteous and tote the infamous saying of waiting on God to send us Mr. Right. The attitude of a lady should simply be that as she goes through this life she gains the understanding of her purpose, embraces it and makes it fabulous for her. A great man can only appreciate and honor this type of woman. We attract that which is within us.

I’ve been single for a while and I’ve also dated a lot. I really do enjoy it and like the writer I even loved the downs of it…the weeding out if you will of bad suitors. Although I’ve dated a lot I haven’t been in a lot of relationships. But I was in a long term relationship and like all relationships when it was good it was great, but when it was bad it was pretty horrible. So much so I preferred sitting in traffic then getting home. In a way I’ve had the luxury of experiencing both sides of the coin. Do I preferred being single over a long term relationship? I’ll say this I’d prefer to be in a happy long term relationship w/the right person when and if I find him. Right now I’m very happy being single, I have a child and I run my home. It would take a very very special man to be able to enter my home and especially my daughter’s life. I not only love our life but my life in general, and the home I not only created for my kid but myself. We’re stable, happy and have a beautiful bond. In other words to change all that now, for someone new is not really a priority. Again, for the right (and REALLY special) person I would, but till then I am content in the life and friendships I’ve created.

I think people see that I’m happy because only a few have asked why I’m single. The sad reality is the ones that have asked have been the people in either bad relationships/marriages, or the single people who are bitter about being single. Its like they both cant believe someone could be content in their life being single. For the ones in a bad relationship its like I’m not confirming that being in a bad relationship is better than singlehood. A lot of just boils down to insecurity and unhappiness, of course something I wish they keep to themselves.

I’m hoping the mentality changes towards singlehood and especially toward single women. To be honest I hope it changes not just w/women but w/a lot of men. I’ve had dates ask me “so you seem great why are you still single?” I just shook my head, smiled and said “for probably the same reason you are because I chose to or just haven’t found the right person” That’s always follows and “oh” and then some sort of approval smile. *rolling eyes* Like it couldn’t be possible that a women just like a man could choose to be single.

Come on, really!

So, are you implying that "getting a man" would be an accomplishment? That's pitiful.

It's not how the man treats his mother, its how he relates to his father.

I ain't eeeem finish reading it yet, but this quote, here:
"“It’s as if you’re somehow less of a woman for not having a man by your side. Well, let me go on the record by saying I am more of a woman for not standing by a man who is not worth my tears and added years. I’m worth more for saying I will stand alone until I’m in the company of a man who compliments me because no man could ever complete me. I am worth more than loving a man more than I love myself.”

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LOL at "The up part about being single is only half my bed gets messed up when I sleep”....I just recently realized that I only have to straighten one side of bed in the mornings...I mean I knew it was it was happening...but one morning it just hit me like a ton of bricks.

I don't understand why you feel it is pitiful. Why do you think such an accomplishment is pitiful?

Getting to know somebody and ultimately committing to him takes work and patience. If I ever do meet a man who is worth being in a meaningful relationship and we can learn from each other and grow together, why is such an accomplishment pitiful?

Should getting a man not be considered an accomplishment? Why? What should it be called then?

I think that's true in part. Cuz in some respects, if a dude treats his moms with the utmost respect, yes, it wouldn't necessarily mean he would treat other women the same. But in many respects,if he treats his moms like shit, other women wouldn't be any different.

Whatitdo Quoteman, Ive always heard from women that if a man treats his mom with respect and care then he will do the same to his woman. I work daily with inner city kids who adore their mothers and find the notion simply aint true. A guy can treat his mom great and treat a woman with with the same, but still NOT know how to nourish her or the relationship...and not to mention leave her in an instant.

Ive noticed that guys whose fathers have never been around have a glitch in their dating navigational system. Can only go so far, or fall in love way too easily. They stumble at a certain point between intimacy (not sex) and devotion- based on fear.

So I get where she's comin from when she said that, but in most cases men with great relationships with their dads (given the father is worth a fuk) are a better gauges.

Staying in a relationship is not easy. So when you hit that 20 year anniversary, yeah that's an accomplishment.

Yes, women can be single and happy!! without a doubt. I was for a while, I dated and dated until I met my current partner. I was in noooo rush to enter into a relationship...I took my time and made sure I selected someone who wanted the same as me, was ready for a committed relatiionship, and someone who knew how to communicate was also vital for me!! However, I don't agree with many of the points made in the post. I stayed single because I would never dream of standing by a man who ain't shit!! a women is stuck on stupid if she decides to stay with an abuser, a cheater or a man who has told her he aint looking for nada! I'd rather be single and content, then coupled up and miserable. I've been there, done that and I walked!! My hapiness and my state of mind will always come first. There's a small group of women who need to get some self respect, a man can not make you happy, you need to be able to make yourself happy. And I don't believe the majority of people are stuck on titles...some are but a lot of us are not!
When I was single...I was cool with it! I didn't care what people thought. But there is no way in hell I'd just be any old person..just so I say I have a man. It's sad but I do know women like this...but not me!! crazy as it sounds..my positive attitude and my high self esteem enabled me to me my Prince. So ladies...I'd say be as single as long as you want to me, and you will meet Mr Right when the time is right. Well, that's my take....in the meantime just get on with life and ignore the negative remarks about singledom.

I didn't write, nor do I feel that getting a man will complete me. A man will never complete me. If I want a man and get him and keep him, then I consider that to be an accomplishment just like anything else I want.

I am single and I've been that way for most of my life. I'm only 20 so I'm definitely not looking for a serious relationship. I totally agree with Nisha though...why should women feel like they have to have a man to be happy? Many of my friends are either always in relationships (with a bunch of problems) or they obsess about being in a relationship when they're single. I love being single, especially since it seems like none of these guys (especially in my age group) are worth my time anyway. Don't get me wrong...I would love to have a nice long-lasting relationship with someone, since I have yet to have one of those, but it definitely is not my main priority. One of my friends always question why guys act the way they do, why do they all lie, cheat,etc? She gets depressed when a relationship doesn't work out and she constantly let the "horrors of being single" take over her thoughts. I try to explain to her that we're still young so you shouldn't let guys get you down and let being single upset you. She says she understands but I don't think she does.
Like I said, I love being single. I'm in school, focusing on my career, and thinking about ways to better myself. There's too much on my plate to be feeling sorry for myself because I am not in a relationship (especially at 20!) I don't know why so many women stress over it. I know that when my time to fall in love comes it will be cool, but until then I'm going to continue grinding and having fun.

Being single ! Easy to say may be easy to live as well !! but perhaps the lady seems to be full of anger for men and hates her past life or experiences of her or her friends due to which her perceptions have become such .... pre conceived notions have let her speak ill about relationship with men and i strongly disagree when some lady tells me that LOVE HURTS ! WEll let me remind you all , its not the love that hurts , its the person who is incapable to imparting love who hurts . Decision is upon you . Chose the right one ... WHen u were so happy with the wrong one , just think how happy wud u be with the right one !! Anyways LOVE And FEAR are the only two basic emotions of human mind and all other emotions arise from these two . Chose the 1st one and happiness shall follow . IF you had a bad experience with a man , it doesnt mean all men are the same and it is sad to generalize individuality which is a myth and we are all humans and parts of the same coin . IF there is bad , there must be good as well . There are only 3 ways which are the causes of all negativity in life :- 1) lack of self worth . 2) lack of trust 3) ABANDONMENT ........ WHOEVER WROTE THE ABOVE POST AND WHOEVER AGREES WITH THIS WRITER , is stuck sadly between lack of trust and abandonment ( loneliness, being single) ........ MOVE ON. I WUD ADVISE U , u all wud be happy , contact me rockyeraj@gmail.com for any doubts on this subject further and please stop assuming and generalising for god's sake ! STOP IT.

A better question, is can a Good Single Black Man be happy without a good woman in his life.
Hey as a Black Man, I feel as if I get the shaft from women in general.
My friends, they are the complete opposite of what I see women describe in Dr Phil and Oprah. Yet they get more attention from women, and sleep around. They tell me things like "its ok to sleep around, that way you wont ever get hurt by a woman."
But hey some reason, women love guys like this, that sleep around and cause drama.
On the other side, I feel, that as a Black Man, I am hammered down by stereotypes. Ever try dating a Indian Woman as a Black Guy? haha,,,,,
I feel, as is being a BLACK Man, I have to jump over extra hurdles set up by women. This is both by Black and Non Black Women.  I feel like I have to prove that I am not a pants sagging, baggy pants wearing, bafoon. Do White Men, or other non Black men have to go through this check sheet?  Also another thing. I get turned off by women that have unprotected sex. So I secretly through that question in there. I notice many women now days are not wearing protection. I have this thing I call "STD-PHOBIA" and the thought of a women have multiple sex partners and not using protection, just screams "YUCK" and "THIS WOMEN HAS NO SELF RESPECT" Also these women usually are Aggressive, or slutty like, once the secrets come to the surface. Many men also do this Unprotected sex thing, so its not really a gender issue, more of a Generation culture issue.
I was always a man that was ready for a relationship. and a deep serious commitment. Guess you can say, I was maturing out of the "FUN" age faster than my peers. it has always been hard to find Good Women.

To me, I never understood how a woman can not have a man. My friend, sad to say, is a "nasty girl", and she also complains about men, and how much she hates men. I learned some things about her, which turned me off big time. One day, she made a move on me, and I turned down, because I didnt want to be in a relationship with somebody like her that sleeps around. but even she, can get Men in and out. Thats when I realize the truth. MEN & WOMEN are DIFFERENT. There is nothing equal about us.
Maybe what a Single Women wants, is different from what a Single Man wants. because a Women can always get a new man. My friend above, all she has to do is post a Picture of her big breast online on her profile picture, and the floods come storming in. As a Man, that wont help. I am not a woman, so I dont understand how Women in this situation feels. I can only theorize on how a women would feel in this situation based on how I as a man would feel in this situation. But once again. Men and Women are not the same (despite the Feminist movement want to picture us as equals)  so the way a man thinks in this situation, is far different from how a woman thinks in the same situation.

In my opinion, this issue stretch into another thread on NWSO.net, about Men losing respect for women. The issue here is that men are looking at women's life issues from a man point of view. Many men, after constant brainwashing from the post Feminist movement, believe men and women think similarly on things. But again,,,, read above. Men and Women are not equal. And never were meant to be. What may be illogical to a man, may be the logical thing to do from a woman's point of view.

Example: women who date a Douchebag dead beat over a nice guy, and then vents to the world about how the douchebag was such a big douchebag dead beat, to Dr Phil and Oprah, etc. A man, would look at this any question if this woman's brain is capable of logic. But from a Woman's point of view, this is simply a primitive behavioral action, that is hardwired into her DNA.  

I like this . I have been single for 3 years now and i like it although at times is lonely but i would still make the same decision I made 3 years ago of living ma boyfriend with whom  we have a child with.