Is Flirting Okay When You’re in a Relationship?

I believe that flirting is wrong and disrespectful to your partner/spouse and to your relationship. Flirting serves as a nonverbal (or verbal) method to indicate to a person that you are interested in them. But most importanly, flirting elicits imagintations in the minds of people. So if I am in a relationship, why would I flirt with another man and stir up in his mind impure thoughts that would have him thinking about sleeping with me. I like all of the posts before mine which state that we need to flirt with our partners/spouses.
 
I do not think that it is wrong to think someone else is attractive, but leave it at that!!!  If I tell a man that I love his tie, or he smells good, that is not flirting. But if I make it my business to ELUDE him or EXCITE him that is a problem. On the same hand, if a man tells me he likes my hair or heels or dress, then I receive that compliment grateful but I should not be seeking his approval or my man's. Flirting is a match that is used to cause a fire. Just make sure you are using your matches to ignite a fire with the one you are connected to.
 
Make sure you flirt and please your partner/spouse; therefore, if by chance someone flirts with them, it becomes null and void!!

I believe that flirting is wrong and disrespectful to your partner/spouse and to your relationship. Flirting serves as a nonverbal (or verbal) method to indicate to a person that you are interested in them. But most importanly, flirting elicits imagintations in the minds of people. So if I am in a relationship, why would I flirt with another man and stir up in his mind impure thoughts that would have him thinking about sleeping with me. I like all of the posts before mine which state that we need to flirt with our partners/spouses.
 
I do not think that it is wrong to think someone else is attractive, but leave it at that!!!  If I tell a man that I love his tie, or he smells good, that is not flirting. But if I make it my business to ELUDE him or EXCITE him that is a problem. On the same hand, if a man tells me he likes my hair or heels or dress, then I receive that compliment grateful but I should not be seeking his approval or my man's. Flirting is a match that is used to cause a fire. Just make sure you are using your matches to ignite a fire with the one you are connected to.
 
Make sure you flirt and please your partner/spouse; therefore, if by chance someone flirts with them, it becomes null and void!!

I don't think there's a such thing as 'harmless' flirting, but with that said, I do think it's necessary for people for most of the reasons you wrote above. People like to feel appreciated and want a compliment from more than their mate when they look in the mirror and feel fresh. Because, fact is, after a minute, you take your partner's compliments for granted as if s/he is supposed to compliment you or worst yet, your partner stops giving you them, so flirting while in a relationship is a two-headed monster that gives you that 'I still got it' fleeting feeling but can open the door for trouble...

i think a healthy amount of flirting is ok....nothing to over the top...but sometimes we forget that we are indeed human and that yes temptations exist but its up to you to know when to not fall over the cliff....so yes u can flirt but no trying to get numbers or make dates and shit

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Not being a natural flirt it would be easy for me to just say no to flirting; how it is disrespectful and disgraceful and all that jazz but then I would just be another one of these folks trying to dictate how I think other people should behave.   We have to try to judge this stuff on an individual basis, meaning there are a lot of people for whom flirting or what others perceive as flirting is normal behavior or even cultural.   People whose whole face light up when they smile, folks with light eyes that may appear to sparkle when they look at you, and some folks who may be culturally or personally inclined to be excessively touchy when they are engaged in a greeting or a conversation.   I have heard a lot of people describe those traits as someone being flirtatious when I have experience with men and women who are naturally that way socially.   I recall a co-worker bringing her 20 y-o female cousin into the office and the cousin was from out West and she greeted every one with a hug.   That is not very common on the east coast and most of the men froze when that occurred... I have Latin friends who greet strangers and associates that way and many American men have queried as to whether they were flirting. 
I encourage folks to get to know their partners, observe how they conduct themselves normally before attempting to lay down arbitrary rules as to how you think they should conduct themselves.  Relationships rarely work when we attempt to alter another person’s behavior to fit what we desire.   If there is something they do that makes you uncomfortable communicate that but understand they may not be aware that they are doing it and it may not be motivated by some ulterior motive as you may suspect.  Too many men and women go into relationships with emotional baggage left over from prior experiences and then get triggered by something that occurs with the current person.  Too many times it is not related.  
No one should tolerate their partner displaying any disregard for them or their relationship but I often see overreaction as some invisible line of conduct is violated innocently without prior discussion or awareness. 

 “Flirting makes people feel good”
If you’re insecure and if you’re in a relationship and still need confirmation that you “still got it” then yeah I’m sure it does. Flirting is fun for single people where the flirting may or may not lead to something, but let’s be real flirting when you’re in a relationship is just asking for trouble. Let’s say you’re not meaning it in a bad way you don’t know where the other person is at, you have no idea what they’re thinking. They could be single and think “yes this is an opener to something” or the other person can be married and they may think “yes an out/outlet for the troubles in my marriage”. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that meaningless sexual flirting is meaningless…maybe meaningless to you, but you don’t control others and what they might think about it. Why open yourself up to that?
“then be confident in what you bring to the table at home and your ability to keep a man/woman satisfied—mentally, physically and spiritually”
I think it’s funny how people put someone else’s fidelity on how strong their ability is to satisfy them. Being faithful to someone has nothing to do with being satisfied or lack thereof. How many people we know who have everything they want in their mate and still cheat. Why? Because they can and have, it’s in their nature. The ability to be faithful is not always about being dissatisfied but the reality is that being faithful or straight up to with your partner is all about one’s own character and the morals and values they hold dear. Don’t fool yourself about that. If a person has low character no matter how good you are to them they’re going to cheat. And don’t lie to yourself that when you flirt and cross a few lines that it’s meaningless to other people.

Naaaaaw, if you got a girl you need to flirt with her. My rule of thumb if I can't do it in front of my girl, I don't do it. I expect the same out of her. If you want to flirt your ass off, stay single and mingle. It is called a committed relationship for a reason.

I think flirting is almost natural. I habitually catch myself jumping from a business interaction with a women to getting flirtatious. But then again, I'm single & ready to mingle. So I just do it and let it be what it is. I'll just see how she responds if I try to go further beyond random flirting. If she's down, cool. If not, well it was just  harmless flirting anyway. 

But when you are committed, I do think the flirting has to be minimal and you can't act on the person responding positively to your flirting ( no giving out the number). relax, you can be playful but not disrespectful to the person you are committed to.

I think flirting is almost natural. I habitually catch myself jumping from a business interaction with a women to getting flirtatious. But then again, I'm single & ready to mingle. So I just do it and let it be what it is. I'll just see how she responds if I try to go further beyond random flirting. If she's down, cool. If not, well it was just  harmless flirting anyway. 

But when you are committed, I do think the flirting has to be minimal and you can't act on the person responding positively to your flirting ( no giving out the number). relax, you can be playful but not disrespectful to the person you are committed to.