I received a couple possible questions for the show, including the following:
Dear NWSO, how do you keep the spice in your relationship? I’ve been with the same person for six years and we’ve been married for almost two. I think the joke that once you get married the sex stops is true, because I don’t feel sexy anymore. How do you keep the spice in your relationship?
Since that was such a good question I decided to tackle that one here with my own personal tips for keeping things spicy in a relationship. I won’t necessarily call them “rules,” and for the most they should be common sense tips, but here are a few things that have worked for me.
DON’T FORGET TO TOUCH EACH OTHER
I’m not talking about sex (although that would be nice, too) but simply touching your partner on a regular basis can be a simple way of keeping things hot. Even if holding hands in public isn’t your thing, you can express a lot of affection through simple skin contact. Place your hand on your partner’s leg when you’re out to dinner or at the movies; give each other massages after a long day at work; don’t just kiss each other hello and goodbye but random moments in between; and don’t be afraid to playfully slap his/her butt when they walk by. Physical contact just solidifies and reinforces the emotional.
DON’T LET YOURSELF GO
After years of being together it’s only natural to get comfortable but that shouldn’t come at the expense of your sex appeal. If you’ve had the same hairstyle or wardrobe for several years that can make things stagnant, so don’t be afraid to switch things up every once in a while by making your partner feel like they’re dating a new person at least outwardly. As we get older our metabolism slows down and staying as tight as we were in high school isn’t always easy so staying fit is vital in not only looking sexy but feeling sexy as well. Staying physically active gives you confidence and endurance that can help keep you sexually active and attractive. And I’m not just talking to the ladies, all of the above goes for the guys as well.
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