Do You Know How to Stay in Your Lane?

0 Posted by - February 22, 2013 - Video

[dc]I[/dc] came across this hilarious video on Facebook last night that I had to share. It’s by a brother named “Zeus” who breaks down one of the biggest problems with dating: people not staying in their lane. If you’re not an official couple and haven’t had clear discussions about being exclusive, then you shouldn’t make assumptions—no matter how much time you spend together or how great the sex is. The fact of the matter is, a relationship can not develop if it only exists in the mind of one person. Both people have to be on the same page for anything substantial is to develop.

What Zeus does to break down the rules of engagement for the uninformed out there is compare dating to a car insurance plan with different packages. If your boo thang doesn’t let you spend the night or doesn’t appreciate you just “dropping by” the crib unannounced, then maybe you don’t have the boyfriend/girlfriend package and need an upgrade. That is if you don’t get denied due to a high “ho-fax” score.

You just have to see the spoof for yourself, so just fast forward to about 0:54 if you’re impatient and watch the magic happen. Then, let me know your thoughts.

Do you think a big problem with dating is that some people don’t know how to stay in their lane? Have you ever thought you were in an exclusive relationship but your boo thang had a different idea? Would things work out better if people were just honest and upfront from the start? What’s your ideal “package” for when you start dating someone? Could you date anyone that’s smashed one of your homies? Do you allow people to drop by your home unannounced? What did you think of the spoof?

Speak your piece…

  • StoryofaWoman

    I have seen this already and I thought it was absolutely hilarious! I do agree that people, especially women, tend to not “stay in their lane” as their emotions get more involved. The problem is, in the skit, is that the “policy” is not thoroughly explained and agreed to in the beginning.
    It has been my experience in dating that men tend to be ambiguous about what it is that they are looking for; they will say that they are looking for something more than a friend initially, and then say they are not ready for a relationship when you try to get closer to them. Or, they will say in the beginning that they are only looking for friends, but then they will do things or ask for things as if they were in a relationship, like sex on the regular, spending the night, meeting my child, asking me for big favors (this is the “having the milk without buying the cow” principle). It makes it hard for me to find a viable partner when are not being honest from the start.
    I know that men and women both may not truly know what they want or just choose not to be honest about it. In the end, I think a discussion needs to be had, similar to a business meeting, to outline what it is that each person wants and expects, see if everything matches up, and then decide to go on from there (or not). If things are initially something casual and one party is wanting something more from the other party, there needs to be another meeting to renegotiate the contract, or possible end it. Either way, people need to communicate or there will be more of the “not staying in your lane” issue.

  • jaclynsd (now in L.A.)

    That was FUNNY as hell! Do they make one for guys? Because some men seem to think none of this applies to them.

    The big problem is not the staying in your lane is people not speaking up. No one can just come over to my apartment because until its official we’re a couple…you dont need to know where I live. You may have an idea, but the apartment number is unknown to you…sometimes even the street.

    If you have issues, let people know or better yet learn how to take a hint. I dont assume, I ask questions. I think too many women (and men) put themselves into situations they could avoid if they had respect for themselves and/or learned to speak up the situation would be better. Instead, you have a woman who just shows up to a guys apartment assuming that’s ok. Its not ok for some friends to just show up, why would it be ok for someone I’m dating to just show up.

    Honesty is always best. People assume too much and play too many games and wonder why dating is so f*cked up.