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Single Ladies Are Single Because They Party Where the Men Aren’t

[dc]F[/dc]irst and foremost, I want to thank to all who came out to last week’s #GraeSocks event, Ties & Tini’s. It was a great turn out with the ladies looking right and the fellas looking sharp as well in the bow ties, which made for an all-around classy affair. Extra special thanks to former Apprentice star Kwame Jackson, who held a special trunk show highlighting straight and bow ties from his Krimson By Kwame neckwear line during the event. They were selling like the proverbial hotcakes, but that’s not what inspired me to write today…

Early on in the night I noticed a trend, several attractive ladies who were single (I’ll assume) and ready to mingle were in the venue bright and early; some were solo and some were with their right hand wing woman. Meanwhile, the only guys around were myself, #GraeSocks team members, Kwame Jackson, #TeamKrimson, the jazz band and a few bartenders. But we all had to be there. Outside of us, the male attendees to the event at that point in the evening were sorely missing; a point that was made clear to me as I mingled with a few of the female partygoers.

“We need some men up in here.”

“I’m tired of only seeing women when I go out.”

While networking can happen between the same sex just as easily with the opposite, if your interest when going out is to also seek possible suitors then those are both valid concerns. Honestly, I was concerned as well.

I know so many dope women—all in different ways and for different reasons—and sadly most of them are single. That’s not to say that being single is a disease or that a woman is defined by having a man, but no one wants to be alone and a dope woman deserves an equally dope partner to balance out her individual greatness.

No offense to my homies but nine times out of ten I can’t co-sign half of the guys I know for various reasons: Still playing the field, not mature enough, in a relationship, or just not the right fit personality wise for the woman in question. That doesn’t mean that dope (and available) men don’t exist, they’re just not always in our immediate circles, just like dope (and available) women aren’t either. Still, I believe that there’s someone for everyone; it’s just a matter of meeting all your exes before finding “the one.”

Back to the party…

[dc]E[/dc]ventually the fellas did show up in droves and balance was brought to the room. The bow tie requirement also helped in making the fellas look presentable because guys are known to dress it down a little too much when they go out and that tends to lower the bar on the ladies’ expectations of them. But a bigger problem that I see often in social settings is people tend to clique off. I witnessed several pairs of guys huddled together in their own world while there were groups of attractive women left unattended just a few feet away. Overall, from what I saw, the social interaction between people who didn’t know each other was minimal (we’ll work on that for next time).

I did however make an effort to connect new dots. Early on in the night I mingled and introduced friends who came alone to new people, some I had just met myself. I even alley-ooped a connection when one of my boys commented on a sister that was walking by. I knew the girl she was with so I stopped her to spark conversation and introduced him to them both in the process before excusing myself. What happens after that is out of my hands, but since I’m banned from the field for life (married man here) I might as well lateral the ball when I can.

Under normal circumstances, though, I wouldn’t be so social but it was all part of me helping people meet each other. Of course I couldn’t do it all night long and for every single person but it was better than nothing, right?

I understand that making connections in the real world is nerve-racking but it’s not impossible. I’m tired of people complaining that they don’t meet anybody new when they spend the whole night on their smartphone. I’m sorry, if you’re tweeting all night long about how dope a party is I won’t believe you because if it really was that dope you wouldn’t have time to be on Twitter and you’d be enjoying yourself in real-time not your time line.

If you follow me @NakedWithSocks you’ll know there are times when I go black on Twitter, which probably means I’m enjoying life or involved in something more interesting than 140 characters or less. A lot of y’all should try it as well. To quote Ferris Beuller, “Life moves pretty fast, if you don’t stop and look around once in a while you could miss it.” And “it” could be your next great love or the person that could introduce you to that next great leap in your career.

I always used to tell my little sister when she was younger not to walk around with her head down because the world was up here at eye level, so hold your head up and look the world in the eyes. I pass that message on to y’all: Don’t complain about not meeting people if you aren’t even putting yourself in the position to meet people.

[dc]T[/dc]here’s this young lady I met at the Single Black Male mixer last summer. She rolled to the event by herself and didn’t know anyone there. She happened to grab a seat by me and some folks I knew and when my friend ran to the bathroom I happened to strike up a conversation with the young lady. Found out she was an aspiring entrepreneur and writer, so I gave her my card and told her to feel free to reach out for advice. Since then I’ve been digitally mentoring her and she continues to come out to my events solo. I totally respect that about her and always make a concerted effort to introduce her to people that she should probably know. Funny, though, last week she said I could start introducing her to eligible bachelors next. LOL

Whether I do or I don’t she’s already in prime position to meet someone—personal or professional—just because she comes out. She doesn’t rely on the crutch of needing her friends to go to an event that may be attended by people she needs to meet. Only in her early 20s, she’s already ahead of the curve. Let me be clear though I don’t subscribe to the belief that most people will find love in the club. Generally that’s not the setting to spark a healthy relationship. However, there’s an exception to every rule and there’s nothing wrong with being social at an event to make first contact. Because regardless of where you meet someone the real work to build a relationship—platonic or romantic—happens after you leave.

I’m out.

Speak your piece…

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Is Religion the Ultimate Deal Breaker? Relationship with God > Relationships

[dc]A[/dc]lthough not thought of often, religion plays a vital role in compatibility when it comes to choosing a lifetime partner. Who you believe in spiritually can mean the difference between a happily ever after and constant holy wars in the home. Shenelle Wallace, founder of SoDivineMagazine.com—a Christian-based online magazine for young adults who are in tune with their spirituality—shares her journey as a woman dating in the big city while Christian. We discuss everything from the church-girls-are-freaks stereotype and how having faith is helpful to finding a soul mate to never having divorce as an option and the difference between a devout Christian and a doubt Christian, which begs the question: Is religion the ultimate deal breaker?

Also, we discuss whether or not parents allowing their kids to have sex in the house will help lower teen pregnancy rates, why men don’t go shopping with women, and tackle a Dear NWSO letter about a woman who feels betrayed by her friend who started dating less than a month after her fiance passed away.

TUNE IN: Every Tuesday night at 10pm EST on PNCRadio.fm for the Naked Radio Show. If you miss the live broadcast you can always subscribe to the podcasts, which can be found at NakedRadioShow.Podomatic.com, iTunes, or here on Naked With Socks On the morning after. Also, be sure to follow the show’s official Twitter account @NakedRadioShow and “like” the Naked Radio Show fan page to keep abreast of what we’re doing, send suggestions for topics and questions. Most of y’all should already be following me @NakedWithSocks, but should also add my co-host Amy Andrieux @MissAimstar and her company @_theStarkLife as well. If you have a question you want answered live on the show hit us on the Twitter or shoot me an email at NWSO@NWSO.net.

[dc]UPDATE: PRIVATE EVENT[/dc]

We are almost at capacity so if you have not RSVP’d please do so ASAP and you will receive conformation of your name being placed on the list. Also, Apprentice star Kwame Jackson will be hosting a special trunk show for his Krimson By Kwame neckwear line at tomorrow’s #GraeSocks networking event, which is a collaboration between NWSO and Grae Enterprises. The Grae Socks after work events will take place every other month in NYC. The first of the year will be tomorrow Thursday, February 2 and is dubbed Ties & Tini’s, featuring a live jazz band at the top of the hour. The event takes place at Parlor, which is located at 286 Spring St.

Doors will open at 6pm and the event will go until about 9:30 or until the last person leaves the bar, which will feature two separate bars serving martinis for the ladies and cognac cocktails for the gents martini. This is a private event so RSVP is required to get on the guest list so if interested in attending please email Info@GraeEnterprises.com. NOTE: Plus ones will not be honored so everyone must RSVP for himself or herself. This is a networking event so come ready to mingle for both business and pleasure. Also, bow ties are required for gents, so come dressed to impress and meet some like-minded individuals.

19 Inspiring Messages About Marriage & Lasting Love

[dc]T[/dc]he morning after: That’s the first chance a just-married couple gets to kick back and relax. After months of planning, preparing and paying for the Big Day, everything boils down to those waking moments the morning after you say, “I do.” All the guests have vacated the building and all that’s left is you and your freshly-christened spouse on the first day of your forever.

For the Mrs. and I, that day was bliss. We awoke to the reality that the past several months were not a dream and we were in fact husband and wife. It felt great, but what felt even better was when we perused through our stack of cards, guest book and signed picture frame from our post-wedding toast.

After breakfast we lay in bed and read through the handwritten notes from our family and friends. The messages ranged from humorous and romantic to inspirational and surprising. All in all, it was a perfect start to the rest of our lives. On our two-week anniversary, the Mrs. and I went back through our wedding day mementos and compiled a few memorable highlights to remind us (and hopefully you) what love and marriage is all about.

CLICK HERE to continue reading over at TheLoversRocque.com [PS Follow us on Twitter @TheLoversRocque and “like” us on Facebook.]

Let us know if you were able to take anything away from the messages we received that you can apply to your own relationship. Which message resonated with you most? What would you like to see or hear from us on The Lovers Rocque?

Speak your piece…

TUNE IN TONIGHT And every Tuesday night at 10pm EST on PNCRadio.fm for the Naked Radio Show. Tonight’s topic is religion and dating, and how one influences the other and our chances at finding true love. We’ll also tackle a Dear NWSO letter about a woman who lost her fiancé and less than a month later was already back on the dating scene. #Scandalous If you miss the live broadcast you can always subscribe to the podcasts, which can be found at NakedRadioShow.Podomatic.com, iTunes, or here on Naked With Socks On. Also, be sure to follow the show’s official Twitter account @NakedRadioShow and “like” the Naked Radio Show fan page to keep abreast of what we’re doing, send suggestions for topics and questions. Most of y’all should already be following me @NakedWithSocks, but should also add my co-host Amy Andrieux @MissAimstar and her company @_theStarkLife as well. If you have a question you want answered live on the show hit us on the Twitter or shoot me an email at NWSO@NWSO.net.

[dc]UPDATE: PRIVATE EVENT[/dc]

Apprenticestar Kwame Jackson will be hosting a special trunk show for his Krimson By Kwame neckwear line at this week’s #GraeSocks networking event, which is a collaboration between NWSO and Grae Enterprises. The Grae Socks after work events will take place every other month in NYC. The first of the year will be this Thursday, February 2 and is dubbed Ties & Tini’s, featuring a live jazz band at the top of the hour. The event takes place at Parlor, which is located at 286 Spring St.

Doors will open at 6pm and the event will go until about 9:30 or until the last person leaves the bar, which will feature two separate bars serving martinis for the ladies and cognac cocktails for the gents martini. This is a private event so RSVP is required to get on the guest list so if interested in attending please email Info@GraeEnterprises.com. NOTE: Plus ones will not be honored so everyone must RSVP for himself or herself. This is a networking event so come ready to mingle for both business and pleasure. Also, bow ties are required for gents, so come dressed to impress and meet some like-minded individuals.

How Tyler Perry’s Success Inspired Me to Quit #KnowTheLedge

[dc]W[/dc]hile I might not be the biggest fan of Tyler Perry’s work, I definitely respect what he’s been able to accomplish. In a few short years, he’s gone from an unknown playwright who likes to dress in drag to a world renown director/producer who likes to dress in drag that’s worth $350 million. Last week Perry released a video clip called “How to be Successful” that went viral on Facebook and other social media platforms.

In the clip Perry explains how his faith in God got him to this point in his career. While there are several points in Perry’s 4-minute monologue, there was one in particular that struck a chord with me:

“There are so many people who go in so many directions—this week they’re doing this and next week they’re doing that, and this week they’re doing that and next week they’re doing real estate… Those kinds of people are all over the place and I usually try to get them to focus, focus on one thing and put all of their energy into watering one area. If you spread the water among many, many seeds you don’t have as much water for one seed so focus on one thing. Make it your priority and stick with it no matter what… Don’t stop, narrow your focus to one idea and make it work, that will give birth to all the others.”

If you haven’t noticed I’ve had a lot on my plate the past few months and recently added on more. In addition to juggling my 9-to-5 with Naked With Socks On, I launched the Naked Radio Show late last year; the first in my series of bimonthly #GraeSocks networking event kicks off this Thursday [Feb. 2, 2012]; my wife and I just started another blog TheLoversRocque.com, oh, yeah, and I got married two weeks ago. There are also upcoming speaking engagements, going after my life coaching certification, starting and completing my book, and enjoying life in general.

Don’t get me wrong, I count all of the above as blessings and I wholeheartedly understand that I have a choice in adding and subtracting any of those things from my schedule. It’s just in listening to Perry’s philosophy on success I began to wonder if I was going about it all wrong. I’ve spent the past three-plus years growing the Naked With Socks On brand and I believe I’ve done a respectable job in the process, but I’m wondering if I’m spending too much time watering several seeds instead of focusing on watering one?

When I started Naked With Socks On, the goal was to build an audience as a foundation for my books but in focusing on the blog (and now all the other projects) the book(s) consistently get pushed to the backburner. Furthermore, it’s been pretty quiet around these parts lately. DaThRONe and Shay from LA got married, and regulars like Rastaman, R.E.D., Shannon, Elle, and Preach the Comedian Truth Teller have been MIA. Sure, there are other faithful readers that continue to chime in on the discussions and are equally appreciated, but it’s been quiet in the comments section nonetheless.

I’m not sure if that’s a result of the site hack back in October that shut down Naked With Socks On for three weeks causing people to (temporarily) move on, folks getting busy in their own lives or just a reflection of the overall content. Whatever the case, I’ve always been my worst critic so I’ve been self-evaluating myself and feel like I could always do better. It’s when we don’t strive for more that we become complacent and stale—two words I never look to have associated to anything my name is attached to.

So what I plan to do is follow Perry’s advice and use my water wisely. Rather than tossing up a subpar post to fill some self-imposed quota, I’ll focus my energies on creating something worthwhile. That could be a lively discussion on Naked Radio Show, time with my wife, a post for The Lovers Rocque, writing a chapter for my book or taking an extra day (or three) to create a stronger post for Naked With Socks On. Even in this fast-paced age of content and information, quality should always trump quantity.

So don’t be confused or concerned by the ominous title of this post, Tyler Perry hasn’t inspired me to quit. Rather he’s made me reevaluate my path to success. Naked With Socks On is the root of my brand, but my branches have continually spread out to other mediums that still represent the same goal: sparking discussion. Whether it’s here, The Lovers Rocque, The Naked Radio Show, a #GraeSocks networking event, or my books, I’m constantly working on the brand’s exposure. It’s just not fair to you and myself to do them all at once. I’ll let my creativity be my guide, as it should, and create in whatever way inspires me at the moment. Hopefully, you’ll continue to support me in all my endeavors and keep an eye and ear out for whatever it is I present any even given day for you to consume.

In the immortal words of the original God MC Rakim, “Don’t say goodbye, I don’t plan to die.” #KnowTheLedge

What message did you get out of Perry’s monologue? Do you respect Perry’s success more than his work? Are you excited about the evolution of the Naked With Socks On brand or miss the good old days? Honestly, do you feel like I’ve been spreading myself too thin and the content has suffered as a result or you haven’t really noticed a difference? What do you want or miss from Naked With Socks On? Your feedback will help make the brand better.

Speak your piece… Please!

TUNE IN TOMORROW NIGHT: And every Tuesday night at 10pm EST on PNCRadio.fm for the Naked Radio Show. Tomorrow’s topic is religion and dating, and how one influences the other and our chances at finding true love. We’ll also tackle a Dear NWSO letter about a woman who lost her fiancé and less than a month later was already back on the dating scene. #Scandalous If you miss the live broadcast you can always subscribe to the podcasts, which can be found at NakedRadioShow.Podomatic.com, iTunes, or here on Naked With Socks On. Also, be sure to follow the show’s official Twitter account @NakedRadioShow and “like” the Naked Radio Show fan page to keep abreast of what we’re doing, send suggestions for topics and questions. Most of y’all should already be following me @NakedWithSocks, but should also add my co-host Amy Andrieux @MissAimstar and her company @_theStarkLife as well. If you have a question you want answered live on the show hit us on the Twitter or shoot me an email at NWSO@NWSO.net.

UPDATE: PRIVATE EVENT

Apprentice star Kwame Jackson will be hosting a special trunk show for his Krimson By Kwame neckwear line at this week’s #GraeSocks networking event, which is a collaboration between NWSO and Grae Enterprises. The Grae Socks after work events will take place every other month in NYC. The first of the year will be this Thursday, February 2 and is dubbed Ties & Tini’s at Parlor, which is located at 286 Spring St. Doors will open at 6pm and the event will go until about 9:30 or until the last person leaves the bar, which will feature martini specials for the ladies and cognac cocktails for the gents. This is a private event so RSVP is required to get on the guest list so if interested in attending please email Info@GraeEnterprises.com. NOTE: Plus ones will not be honored so everyone must RSVP for himself or herself. This is a networking event so come ready to mingle for both business and pleasure. Also, bow ties are required for gents, so come dressed to impress and meet some like-minded individuals.