Tag Archive for ‘stds’
Why I Almost Wore a Condom on My Wedding Night
Safe sex. That’s all that’s ever been drilled in my head over the years—and rightfully so. Growing up in the era of HIV/AIDS (and a host of other STDs/STIs), staying protected was always at the forefront of my thoughts. Wrap it up. Stay strapped. [...]
Is Your Love Life Over If You Get Herpes at 19?
It’s me again, I wrote you around spring about being “sexually active and 19.” Well, having sex with multiple partners has finally caught up to me, because now I was just told I have herpes. I’m only 19 and I just feel dirty, stupid and tainted. I have contacted past partners and they handled the [...]
OMG I Slept With Over 4 Million People (Sex Calculator)
Over the weekend I came across an article on F-Listed entitled “How Many ‘Indirect’ Sexual Partners Have You Had?” I thought it was going to be a similar post to one I did a while back on whether or not the number of people you’ve slept with should be private, but I was mistaken. British-based [...]
Do You Trust the Withdrawal Method? (Pros & Cons)
A couple weeks ago Rachel K. Jones of the Guttmacher Institute caused a bit of controversy with an article published in the June 2009 issue of Contraception called “Better Than Nothing or Savvy Risk-Reduction Practice? The Importance of Withdrawal.” According to her research, Jones found that withdrawal or “pulling out” was just as effective as [...]
Hi, I Have Herpes (Can We Have Sex…Again?)
Some of you know and some of you don’t, but I wrote a story for the June 2009 issue of Essence (Jennifer Hudson cover, pg. 82) called “Gambling With Herpes.” It was for their popular “What’s On His Mind” column, where I interviewed an anonymous man (we’ll call him Mr. H) who’s had the herpes [...]
My Life’s Worth $1.08 a Nut (Plus Tax)
I have a confession to make: I hate buying condoms. Really, I do. Maybe it’s the fact that when I first started buying Jimmy Hats (ha, remember when we used to call them that?), the whole process was just embarrassing. Even though I was just trying to protect myself from STDs/STIs and getting someone pregnant, [...]
Do You Use Condoms in a Committed Relationship?
Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t see how sex without a condom can even be an option. Unfortunately, I grew up (and continue to grow) in an era where HIV/AIDS and other STD/STI are gruesome realities. As far as I’m concerned, wearing a rubber is just part of the process. No glove, no love [...]
Doctors Say Oral Sex Can Kill (I Demand a Recount)
Last week I posted an article that spoke on the potential health benefits for women to perform oral sex called “Can Head Save Your Life.” In response to this wonderfully inspiring post, fellow bloggers April from AroundHarlem.com and Selly from The Fountain Flow sent me separate counter articles speaking on the potential dangers of fellatio. [...]
